| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Nobody: 2:23pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
franchasng:
As a married man, if you must cheat on your wife, don't ever date any girl for more than 2 weeks.
In fact, don't see any girl more than twice. Keeping a permanent mistress as a married man is a recipe for disaster.
If you can't be a playboy that do one two and off they go, then don't cheat on your wife as a married man  ewooo see advise, you haven't jam sha and what if she refused to let you go? remember you are not the only decider. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Amtrak: 2:24pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? Hmmm... I see. I recommend you scramble the network. Begin to fvck several other girls so that you can unhook yourself. This way, you head go clear fast, fast. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by AntiMen: 2:25pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
So... I'm no39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? My friend, abeg your emotions are very valid, you're human and you have blood running through your veins, yes you have a wife and family and all that, I say continue your sexcapades with her but don't get caught.... See ehn, I usually tell my husband the same thing I just told you, I give him the go ahead to cheat on me if hooked, but he should as much as possible to protect himself and not let me know of his sexual dealings...... |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by cyberthug(m): 2:26pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Nothing do you, don't cheat just take a second wife |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Izprince(m): 2:27pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Your wife must hear this... |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Nobody: 2:29pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
MrBrownJay1:
can someone summarize pls.... Na married man him be and hin wife and children dey abroad, him dey spend most of him time for work and house,random babe like him pic and him sef like her pick ,the obanje kon decide follow am na him him self Kon follow back, like play like play na so him control her reach crib Kon fvck craze,now the toto water don enter him eye and hin no fit reason well,na why him post am here wether some men don experience the same thing and him wan know how him fit lowkey still dey collect without getting caught. 4 Likes |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by bepositive11: 2:29pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
There are a lot of factors at play here. First of all, how come you're apart from your wife? Doesn't she understand that men often crave sex? How did you cope before you met this fair girl? My argument is since your wife doesn't seem to care about your sexual urge, I wonder if she would be bothered about you sleeping with other women. Some wives just don't care, especially the ones who don't really love their husbands If your wife wouldn't care, I don't see anything bad with you continuing the relationship with the fair girl as long as you're prepared to deal with the possible consequences - for example, her getting pregnant If not, try to be closer to your wife, cut off contact with the fair girl, and teach your wife how to have sex like the fair girl Prevention is better than cure. Next time, practice self control before things progress further SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by ajailer(m): 2:31pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
sonofElElyon:
What he needs to do is to genuinely repent and go to Christ for deliverance.. one more time could lead to irreversible consequences Well it’s his cross to carry as dem no dey need tell grown man some things. Na im family go suffer most for his wrong choices if he is not careful. Ladies these days no dey play o. Dem n the spirit of lust Na 5 & 6. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by AbarisFather(m): 2:32pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Fictitious |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by TheWolfen(m): 2:32pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Nah kayamata dey work wonder for ur eyes. U better be careful. Damn I thought you would know better not to let your guild down at your age. You already got a family man. Bringing emotions into ithis will cloud your judgement. . . those kinda girls knows their targets and they go for it. Save your marriage. You messed up already SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Fuego1: 2:33pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Nobody: 2:33pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Guy I dey stay nearby and I'm a gamer also, wetin dey do you na boredom, tell me the games you play so that we can be buddies, perhaps we fit find a way around your side chic,you fit suggest to her let's have a 3way,that way you can still satisfy your urges and have an alibi |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by BePrepared: 2:37pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Blackbelly:
After posting broad daylight porn under the camouflage of seeking advice, now ask yourself, do you truly need help?
I seriously doubt! Don't mind the idiot He should give more details 1 Like |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Penguin2: 2:39pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
Bro, I know. I honestly want to let her go, but at this point, I know I've fallen for her. She ticks everything I want in a woman. It's serious self restraint and the thoughts of my family that have kept me from committing beyond what I've already done. The solution to your problem is simple, you are the one complicating it in your head. I’m sure by now she doesn’t know you are married. So, you are going to start the solution process by inviting her over, sit her down and tell her you are married. Let her know you love your wife and children so much that you do not intend hurting them. That you are beginning to like her beyond your own good and you felt it’s time to let her understand that nothing will ever come out of the romance; nothing at all. That if she was coming close to you hoping that you both build something that would last, that it’s time she started withdrawing her emotions or leave entirely if she doesn’t wanna be your forkmate. If she accepts to be your forkmate, just keep her as that and learn never to release inside her. NEVER! Always use condom or withdraw when you are about to cum. Because if by any mistake pregnancy gets into the equation, you shall have complicated your life than you would ever imagine. So don’t. As a departing word, don’t be feeling bad as if you have done anything wrong. Nobody is hurt. Just make sure to make the girl understand her place in your life or walk away. Shalom my dear. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by drnoel: 2:40pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself.. Telling the wife is not what he should do. Out of the question. Just slowly pull out from the lady, won't be easy and it will hurt her but pull out you must as you can't offer her anything. Makes more sense to move on or expose your family to BS |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by sniper77(m): 2:41pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
[quote author=SugarPapi post=110662122]Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.
All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.
Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.
E be like say Kanyamata don catch you.I dey joke o.
This happened cos you have been away from your wife and kids for a long time and you seldom hang out with your friends.
Social media has the good,the bad and the ugly side of events to get you attracted. If you had been a player before marriage you would have ended the affair with the girl a long time ago.
The major mistake you made was to allow her visit you at your residence.
Abstinence from sex for a long time made you feel she gave you the best sexual pleasure you have ever experienced.
No advice can make you stop seeing her.It is a mindset thing.
Whenever you are ready to stop the affair it will end. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by SlickRob(m): 2:42pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
From your postulations it shows that you are still able to know where things stand. As a way out:
Firstly limit your contact with her both on and offline.Tell her your schedule of work has changed and you are kinda busy. Introduce work related travel as a reason for your non availability.So also begin to talk of your love and affection for your family anytime you are together
Secondly,bringing her to your house should stop henceforth as the inconvenience of booking and using hotels will gradually kill your affections for her.
Thirdly,she is not as good and innocent as she has made you to believe.Every inch of your relationship was carefully orchestrated by her and loving you is the last thing on her mind.She is a very skilled and urbane hustler.
Fourthly, her affection for you is premised on your ability to provide her considerable comforts.Stop being her ATM and see how fast she will show the other side of her.
Lastly, cutting off cannot be drastic but a carefully orchestrated withdrawal of attention and resources you bestow on her.
Stand your ground and tell yourself that this is a fling and nothing else.
The relationship will die a natural death as she does not have the experience to make you stay committed to her except its by your own making.
Good luck! 2 Likes |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by 9tailskid: 2:42pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
[quote author=SugarPapi post=110662107]
Why do i feel your wife knows about this?
I might be wrong but it’s wrong what you’re doing.
Why I said his wife knows is that she might be getting serviced over there in Ireland and sets up her husband so she doesn’t feel too guilty about it.
It’s just a theory |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by jaxxy(m): 2:43pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
Bro, I know. I honestly want to let her go, but at this point, I know I've fallen for her. She ticks everything I want in a woman. It's serious self restraint and the thoughts of my family that have kept me from committing beyond what I've already done. Many men engage in infidelity like u bt it’s the stupid and naive ones that get destroyed. Hope she hasn’t given u Smtn yet. U will soon know Hwfr. One little gal in Unilag has scattered ur senses?? I PITY YOU!!!! 1 Like |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Godmademan(m): 2:47pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi
Assuming your story is real and for others in similar predicament, switch of the accessory brain and turn on the main brain before it's too late.
I'll leave you with two nice movies that should serve as a template to how miserable life can turn out for you if you continue to toe this path. Your wife should here the truth from you too. 2 Likes 
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| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by doverulez(m): 2:49pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Hi OP. Its the Love Guru again (though sapa wan finish himself not me, maybe i go turn sapa guru soon ) Op, i like you so much, infact i am falling for you right now. What!!! who go see where dem dey chop rice say na where people dey cry him wan go to? See, on code (bro code) enjoy yasef to the fullest cos you never know when you could land this kind p***sy ever again. For Gods sake man, you have been promoted and you don also reach cloud 9(ahh! jah bless AG-baby). I fit bet you here that no nigga here don reach the clouds wey u don dey and them few ones is so wishing that they were you, bro. Ok, lets be serious now. I think these things happened to you so fast cos you have been lonely and Hot for a while and your day to day routine is basically the same(BORING!!!). So the mind always plays these fast games/tricks with our heads, especially when we secretly crave something entirely different from our straight-up detailed lives. Calm down, the frenzy will pass sooner when you've had enough of that juicy juicy yum yum, but just play ur game tight so swt hrt(respekt) in faraway merlin land wont get the vibe and then don't get miss independent pregnant too. have fun but make sure you both know that its temporary. Play like Aubameyang but keep a clean sheet.(if u know what i mean  ) How can i tell you to stop such enjoyment. even me wish say i dey your shoe (shhhh! no be me talk am oh!) but have fun. I cant be broke and be a village people too. So Jeun lo paadi mi. Itz the Love guru. Sign out.... |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Pharaoh4rin(m): 2:50pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.
If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now. You should know that a person like that dude is not logical. This is a decision you find hard to take and all he/she could say is cut her off. Mtcheeeww |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by victoradey(m): 2:50pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
I'm not going to write long epistle because you know what you can do to be free from this messy life but the pleasure you derive from this sexual escapade and her filling a vacuum in your life won't let you do the right thing to let her go. But I will advice you sir to burn the bridges with her, get more closer to your wife, communicate more with your wife and whenever there is a urge in you to communicate with the girl in question just divert the attention and what you are driving to do to your wife. In short, stop being care about her, stop communicating with her not to talk of discussing private matters, stop showing her love in any way and focus your attention on your wife. I believe you will be free by this. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Pharaoh4rin(m): 2:53pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
Irony is, this is a real story, my story and my current predicament. I could not help describe in detail the origin of the conundrum because that's what I do for a living. I write.
If you're circumspect enough and we relate well here, I may invite you over one weekend and you will see things yourself. You don't need to prove your damnself to no one. Nlders assumes that every befitting write-up is a fake story. That's where we found ourselves. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by just4fun(m): 2:54pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? Guy, I can understand your plight. Truth is that you exposed yourself to this temptation by staying alone while your family are miles away. My advice? Genuinely tell yourself that you want to end this, I mean first convince yourself that this sweet thing you are enjoying most end for the love of your family. Secondly, since you said the gal is respectful and etc, talk to her maturely about your decision to end d rship. After this, delete, I MEAN DELETE NOT BLOCK, her contact completely from all storable source. The first few weeks may be difficult to coup but trust me, if you past those first few weeks, then months, then be assured that have overcome that. Not forgetting, if possible bring your family closer or else, temptation like this will surely come back. Honestly I don't know how long man can stay without touching or having sexual urge. Even bible say FLEE !!!! i.e RUN !! Don't stay to fight sexual temptation., Japaaa !!! |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by don10ky(m): 2:54pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -
I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.
I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.
December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.
When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.
This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.
We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.
Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.
She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.
Well, hello next morning!
Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.
We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.
It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.
She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!
She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.
By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!
Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.
Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...
I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!
It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.
I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.
We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?
Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.
Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl? It's well with you |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by miladelly: 2:56pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Hmmmmm, pls & pls, you just have to let that girl go. Don't be in the situation where my ex is now with I & the kids, please I beg you. Am not going to condemn you, I understand how SATAN sweetly will use women as Carrots & dangle to a man's face. This exact situation you are was why I broke up with my ex husband about 10 years ago. I was shuttling back & forth abroad because the kids reside abroad, eventually I stayed back so I could get my Citizenship. In summary, how can your poor wife & kids be in a country where the weather is Extremely cold, Rain splash on & on, and she busy running the house as a man on your behalf...��� Come one, don't be silly, otherwise, you have a lot to loose on the long run. You need to see how I repackaged my life & how well my 3 children are doing, by the way I am mummy Boys.. my first is 21 and me 45. Their dad bites his fingers, every day & regrets his actions regardless, I forgave him & moved on but the situation he is currently having no woman or children to relate to is SAD.... Have you received your Irish Citizenship, since you mentioned she is in Ireland. If you haven't, then you are not smart...because thats what you should be focused on. And if you have your Irish Citizenship, have you thought of buying a house in Ireland or better still invest over their. I understand if you are like some who don't like to live abroad, nevertheless, your wife doesn't deserve to be cheated on for her to be playing both roles ain't easy. I didn’t want to comment, but my spirit discerned me maybe my comment will help you. Moreover, you are 39 years, you better reverse your brain back, otherwise old age won't be easy especially when the kids would be in support of their mum. Come and ask me more.... Listen well, don't fight with this girl, communicate with her sensibly & tell her ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. you are not ready to father a child outside & you are not ready to sin against your own mother whose prayers thus has bought you this far. If not for mother's prayers most of you men will not be alive with some of the wahala you use your hands to look for. As a mother of boys, I gist with my kids one on one or collectively and tell them, when one girl friend is introduced to me, then no one should come forward again, they reply, why will I have to bring another girlfriend to you maama. I strictly turn my face to them, because if you bring another GF, trust me, I will tell her one has been here before & moreover me your maama will not be stupid knowing you want to be changing babes anyhow. I then say, don't dare cheat on your wives o, otherwise I will disown you.... This boys have seen how their dad lived his life, its such a blessing to see that they know by God's grace they shouldn't tread the paths their dad went. Finally, again, nitori awon omo, nitori adura iya & ti iyawo gbagbe omo obirin yen � � � I plead with you as a brother. Thank you. SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.
All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.
Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.
Help me! 2 Likes |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by doverulez(m): 2:56pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
NA SO E EAZY REACH ABI? victoradey:
I'm not going to write long epistle because you know what you can do to be free from this messy life but the pleasure you derive from this sexual escapade and her filling a vacuum in your life won't let you do the right thing to let her go. But I will advice you sir to burn the bridges with her, get more closer to your wife, communicate more with your wife and whenever there is a urge in you to communicate with the girl in question just divert the attention and what you are driving to do to your wife. In short, stop being care about her, stop communicating with her not to talk of discussing private matters, stop showing her love in any way and focus your attention on your wife. I believe you will be free by this. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by rickleye: 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Apologies this may be long ….
Dude,
From someone with similar experiences. Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit and have had an extramarital affair. There is no going back without serious sacrifices.
People cheat on their spouses even when in the same city notwithstanding you separated with ocean and time difference.
I have a friend who sent his wife to give birth in Germany, due to immigration he’s still in 9ja and guess what he has a baby mama with the baby same age (4) as his kids in Germany. They are still together because he confessed. She’s even met the step-child ( video conferencing) .
She made him promise not to bring any woman to their bed. “ Go screw the maid she said but not on my bed” He’s quitting his job and relocating …..
Back 2 You…
1. As long as you are separated by that distance, you will do it again. It’s easy, you have no accountability partner, no one to ask where you’re going , you have no responsibility- taking kids to football practice or separating quarrels between your kids. You’ve got time , money and space in your hands.
2. Sacrifices - Make you peace with God but you have to tell your wife. If you don’t tell her you will do it again. - It’s sweet , she young and does things the wife won’t do ! And even says “ thank you Sir , will I see you again sir . You will even try and rationalize the situation ( the money she is getting is helping her pay for school, so it’s quid pro quo!
3. If you can’t afford to tell her, You have to quit your job and move back abroad, if you don’t , you’ll do it again. And it may escalate - one becomes a party becomes Lasu girl etc .
Todays isnt about me and so I ain’t gonna share .
You’ll regret the affair(s), go to church , repent and stay firm for a while but then temptation will come again and you’ll fall because you haven’t dealt with the root of the problem ( loneliness, we are not built like women , to go long without intimacy)
I don’t care if you are a pastor or know the bible. The devil knows the bible also !!
All those Catholic " Fathers" have my respects but it’s from such that we have all these child abuses cases all across the globe and sexual immorality.
Peter the apostle had a wife. Moses had 2 wives. Paul and Jesus didn’t. What am I saying ? it’s unnatural for you to be separated with your lawful wedded wife unless you are “fasting sex” for a while but then quickly come together so you are not tempted.
I could tell you stories of men - expatriates who come and work in this country who pick up our girls have sex and give the girls good money. It’s not a Nigerian thing , it’s a human thing.
Those that keep out of this sin have a strong regiment and are likely have a busy schedule after work so no time for “ hocus pocus “
Don’t wait till someone sees your vehicle somewhere and calls up the wife.
Take control of the narrative and inform the wife and die at her mercy. You don’t love the side chick and it wasn’t the devil . I failed you , I miss you and thought I could compensate the lack of intimacy with the fling. I am sorry.
Affairs don’t start like wildfires. It starts with a seed that grows when nurtured. 2 Likes |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by Drefaithful(m): 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
The problem is that " body no be wood " if your wife were to be around you might not fall victim. her absence breeds vacuum which needs to be filled by someone else.
if you let her go, you will still look for someone else to fill the vacuum, that is the bitter truth, because you are not used to the system of having extra marital affairs before.
suggestion
1. live with your wife
or
2. try to be discipline yourself, i.e, desist from having affairs. This is very difficult, it takes grace of God, is like a lion that have tasted blood in the wild, it would be difficult to domisticate. |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by coolmarvy: 2:57pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
My advice is to join your wife. If you truly love her, confess to her. If you don't confess and she finds out one way or the other, the offence will be "Weightier". 1 Like |
| Re: I'm In A Fix... HELP ME! by elantraceey(f): 2:58pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Tell her you're married. I don't see where you mentioned that in your post. But Omo, why would anyone want to live this kind of life away from their family? Is it societal pressure or what? With the same money you send them, they can live a comfortable life here and the children can move to further their education when they're grown up. |
