What shall it profit a man to gain d whole world but losses his soul? Do you love Jesus, if Yes - why wallow in sin? Jesus loves u!

@ Poster

A girlfriend is for friendship only, and a friend in need is a friend indeed as the saying goes.

On point Freeman.

i don't think relationship is for benefits, u venture into a relationship cus you love someone, and if u really
love the person u wont even know what u are spending.

It depends on the type of girl u ar befriending. If she's a gold digger and only interested in sexx for material exchange,u wl definitely be on d loosing side. U wasted ur money,ur energy and she's gonna dump u weneva d money stops flowing. She wl also cheat on u and u wl be making luv wt her wt protection wtout enjoying d whole pleasure in sexx.
If ur ready for marriage just get a life partner and settle down bt if u cn control urself,go for a real runs girls and spend less.

Benefits. . .
if you have a Calabar girl. . .the benefits are great. . .
in the kitchen (cooking),bedroom and even in public(manners). . .
My personal view. . . mine's from Calabar. . .and I'm happy i have her. . .
Thinking about getting hitched. . .she's classic wife-material. . .

@ Freeman

Like Babe said, what kind of girls have you been rolling with? From your post it seems like you've been rolling with some babes who are still in the university because the traits you've described are typical of young undegraduate females.

Most working class women hardly (mind you I use the word hardly)exhibit the traits you mentioned especially the part about flashing, not returning calls and demanding for recharge cards. They are by and large capable of handling their own buisness and you do not have to carry their burdens, they are well equipped to do so through decently paying jobs and small buisnesses. Speaking from personal experience and encounters with other women.

Some women may be guilty of your point in number 3, but that's because they sincerely desire to honor their Creator through obedience, to please Him and not man.

OP your so called girlfriend is using you as her maga.If a girl is bothering you for money all the time then she"s not really your girlfriend but a hustler living with you and feeding fat from you.Wise up my friend and dont allow yourself being used by a girl.Guys who spend a lot of money on women are referred to as mugus by such girls.I know this girl who collects money and recharge cards from different men and she refers to them as mumus when they are not around.

madoba:

@ Freeman

Like Babe said, what kind of girls have you been rolling with? From your post it seems like you've been rolling with some babes who are still in the university because the traits you've described are typical of young undegraduate females.

Most working class women hardly (mind you I use the word hardly)exhibit the traits you mentioned especially the part about flashing, not returning calls and demanding for recharge cards. They are by and large capable of handling their own buisness and you do not have to carry their burdens, they are well equipped to do so through decently paying jobs and small buisnesses. Speaking from personal experience and encounters with other women.

Some women may be guilty of your point in number 3, but that's because they sincerely desire to honor their Creator through obedience, to please Him and not man.

Its not only undergraduates who date men for money.There are number of working class ladies who chase after men with money and you can take the female bank staffs in nigeria as an example.What can you say about working class nigerian ladies who still go to abuja and sleep with politicans for money.It seems sex for money is much an ingrained thing in nigeria.

1. You call the girl everyday, she does not call you back, highest she flashes you, then if you dont call you are not caring.

Even when you buy her airtime "she will still flash you with the airtime".

emmatok:

Even when you buy her airtime "she will still flash you with the airtime".

dat one dey vexxxxxxxxxxxxxxx me!!!

Its good know 2 know what u want as a guy , and if what u want is not fast-coming, just pause alittle and finall take a walk if it appears u not going 2 get what u r looking 4. Instead of spending. My 2 kobo

Its good know 2 know what u want as a guy , and if what u want is not fast-coming, just pause alittle and finall take a walk if it appears u not going 2 get what u r looking 4. Instead of spending. My 2 kobo

Dis wan na true talk

StarBoard:

Benefits. . .
if you have a Calabar girl. . .the benefits are great. . .
in the kitchen (cooking),bedroom and even in public(manners). . .
My personal view. . . mine's from Calabar. . .and I'm happy i have her. . .
Thinking about getting hitched. . .she's classic wife-material. . .

Yeah I know a thing or two about Calabar (Efik) babes. They're mostly lovely. . .very clean (personal hygiene), hospitable, well-behaved, graceful. The only downside is that they seem to have a permanent itch in their perpetually damp lower regions. But then. . . .

Let's ask to guys!

tom28:

Its not only undergraduates who date men for money.There are number of working class ladies who chase after men with money and you can take the female bank staffs in nigeria as an example.What can you say about working class nigerian ladies who still go to abuja and sleep with politicans for money.It seems sex for money is much an ingrained thing in nigeria.

I am not disputing your claims but I honestly(and I mean honestly) haven't come across a working class woman who flashes, fails to return missed calls, requests for recharge cards, and practically pushes her burdens on to a guy. And mind you I did say I was speaking from personal experience and encounters with most women that work.

I can confidently speak for myself, my flatmate whom we share a flat together, two of my sisters and a few female friends I have who do not do the things Freeman complained of. Call me naive but I tend to believe a lot of women who work and earn a living are not in the habit of flashing, demanding recharge cards etc etc

The issue here is about the attitude put up in the course of a relationship as mentioned by original poster. Some women may date a man for his money but they would do it so well and nicely without the annoying habits of flashing, demanding airtime, blackberry etc. So much so that the man himself would start rolling out the money without being harassed.

proO1:

Yeah I know a thing or two about Calabar (Efik) babes. They're mostly lovely. . .very clean (personal hygiene), hospitable, well-behaved, graceful. The only downside is that they seem to have a permanent itch in their perpetually damp lower regions. But then. . . .

And those are the type of girls i go for nothing better than having a nympho for a wife or girlfriend.Frigid women are a big bore.

@op,
step up your game man,
or better still go to a nunnery, you would get good gals there , cheers ,

LOL, you need to see this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpaAzk6llAQ

LOL

I need me a calabar chick now

I have been having a  girlfriend for 4 yrs now and she is still with me, we have had both good time,hard time and great time,she try help me mode my future, I do not know if we will lucky but we always have our good and bad days,I have never live a life without a girlfriend for the past 10 yrs, I learn a lot when I was father Christmas to my ex girlfriend and all I ever got in return was abuses and insult, I had a bad 3 yrs wasted years with her but with those responsibility i did,I still remolded my future to my taste but now it is up to me what and where my future lies and not in the hand of any woman,if you become my girl today,I will chose to spend or not and if you chose to go away,I don't care because I have love peddlers as replace,Life is short, you can only spend when you have it and if you don't have it,don't steal, that is the code of life

Four most important animals in a girls life. 1. A mink to wear. 2. A jaguar to drive. 3. A tiger in her bed. 4. A jackass to pay for everything. Either way the guy is the loser. Four most important animals in a girls life. 1. A mink to wear. 2. A jaguar to drive. 3. A tiger in her bed. 4. A jackass to pay for everything. Either way the guy is the loser.

I like that in a woman; That's She has a good job and sexy body, Wants to get
married or go into a serious relationship so we could leave for
Borno right after now and be
married in about 4 or 5 hours.
But wait a minute, If only she will
support the both of us on her income? Coz 4 Naija girls, I really
want to be a stay at home husband, you know,
keep an eye on the TV and enjoy being with her on my StairMaster and then she pay for my services ok. what
do u think coz i think i'm fairly normal

Na wa o

i dey laff ooo

Just ask yourself, "why do I want to date this girl?" Possible answers could be,

1 I want to date her because I want sex- well your benefit is s!!!ex.

2 I want to date her cuz am lonely and I need somebody- Your benefit is companionship.

3 I luv her so much- Your benefit is love

Etc etc. in most cases, guys date girls because of all the above.

proO1:

Yeah I know a thing or two about Calabar (Efik) babes. They're mostly lovely. . .very clean (personal hygiene), hospitable, well-behaved, graceful. The only downside is that they seem to have a permanent itch in their perpetually damp lower regions. But then. . . .

YEAH, CALABAR AND AKWA-IBOM BABES ARE D BEST CARING AND LOVING BABES I RECOMMEND FOR 9JA GUYZ

In nigerian, if you don't fit in this two criteria as a ***Fine boy*** or ***Cash dude***, girls will always take you for granted & you'll end up saying what do we guys gain from a relationship.

As a matter of fact, i think fine boy sells better than cash dude cos girls don't mind secretly dating wealthy guy/men to get their stash to take care of their fine guys if they truly love him.

ladies are necessary evil

@POSTER,

You just made a GOOD point. Love your sincerity! "Women are necessary evil" You know

lets clarify some things here, are you talking about female friend or girlfriend .
because some people are just mixing both together