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Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Nobody: 7:43pm On Aug 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
How can Jesus Christ save Him when OP has yet to express that he is weary of the world and his heavy load - Matthew 11 vs 28 -30? undecided

Why do you folks like to prescribe Jesus Christ for that wey no concern Jesus Christ? undecided

You have started the bible quotes and arguments
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Cchuks27(m): 7:43pm On Aug 28, 2022
I know who you are
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Edoziesmart(m): 7:43pm On Aug 28, 2022
VeeVeeMyLuv:

It's 3.6m
Lol grin have you not seen people dragging Ghana- must-go bag filled with cash to bet football matches on weekends?
If you dey stay for Enugu, seeing people carrying carrying "Ghana must go" bag money to betoja is a norm in betoja shop that is in gariki and holy ghost.

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Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 7:46pm On Aug 28, 2022
Melap:
You have started the bible quotes and arguments
Started? undecided
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by EvangelistChuks(m): 7:55pm On Aug 28, 2022
One of the offices in The Christ is breaking of bondages,no matter how old,depth, width, height or strength. He saved to the utmost those that come to Him .Embrace Him today,now and He will truly set you FREE
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by jimmynauty: 7:57pm On Aug 28, 2022
Newold auote me to share solution

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Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Connected1: 7:57pm On Aug 28, 2022
Antimarraige:
lmao I didn't lose, I bet on both team not to score in first half, check it well ..

And yes I get sense, I'm changing my car tomorrow
Okay.

It's still risky and not about wisdom.

Sports Betting is like Forex and Crypto Trading, the major winners are the Bookies/Brokers.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by newold: 8:03pm On Aug 28, 2022
jimmynauty:
Newold auote me to share solution


A. Here
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Connected1: 8:04pm On Aug 28, 2022
LalastiklaIa:

He didn't lose he was just lucky
Yeah, I now see it.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by all4gabus(m): 8:05pm On Aug 28, 2022
Talk to the Architect of your destiny, Only fasting and praying to God can change you. Telling everyone will not stop you, the first step is praying and fasting for renewal. Then change your friends and make your family the focal point of your life. Be a monster to your challenge, fight it in heart, like having hatred for it badly. May God help you.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Nobody: 8:06pm On Aug 28, 2022
Connected1:

Okay.

It's still risky and not about wisdom.

Sports Betting is like Forex and Crypto Trading, the major winners are the Bookies/Brokers.
but I make at least 10 milli monthly for the past 3 months I started
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Connected1: 8:08pm On Aug 28, 2022
Antimarraige:
but I make at least 10 milli monthly for the past 3 months I started
You are on a winning streak, it happens to all punters just know when to take a break when you start losing or you might just lose it all.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by cfree14(m): 8:10pm On Aug 28, 2022
Antimarraige:
not both team, I staked on both team not to score in first half, I would have lost if both team scored in the first half
Yeah, was an error from me. I didn't see the 1 Half at first
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 8:11pm On Aug 28, 2022
EvangelistChuks:
One of the offices in The Christ is breaking of bondages,no matter how old,depth, width, height or strength. He saved to the utmost those that come to Him .Embrace Him today,now and He will truly set you FREE
Jesus Christ said He came to call those who are tired(of the world) and heavy laden - Matthew 11 vs 28 - 30. Did OP express any of these concerns to you? Why are you offering the OP Jesus Christ, when what He needs is instead a treatment for addiction abeg? undecided
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Gt321(m): 8:22pm On Aug 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
First thing first, if you haven't already informed your wife and family about your problem, I suggest you do so immediately as they are the only ones who can provide you with the necessary support you may need to help you quit from this point on. Your wife needs to realize what it is that is going on with you.... it is her right as your partner in marriage to know these things. Hopefully, from there you both can work towards a solution together as a couple. undecided

Second, addiction is most likely the problem here and it is a mental illness that requires treatment. Consider seriously seeking help from a professional mental health therapist or a psychiatrist as soon as possible. With the help of family members, you can beat addiction or at least take the reigns back from it in order to manage your life better. undecided

Third, look into finding a local clinic or any mental health facility with a good track record that offers Ibogaine therapy for addiction, and try to get yourself the treatment as soon as you can afford it . https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-17666589


This is absolutely poor for him, informing his family will further escalate issue. Remember your best friend could be your enemy. Don't inform any of ur family pls. Just privately visit a good MFM pastor and they will give u a candid solution. I got over my addiction through them. It cost nothing bro.. pls do or dm later
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 8:40pm On Aug 28, 2022
Gt321:
This is absolutely poor for him, informing his family will further escalate issue. Remember your best friend could be your enemy. Don't inform any of ur family pls. Just privately visit a good MFM pastor and they will give u a candid solution. I got over my addiction through them. It cost nothing bro.. pls do or dm later
What was your addiction problem and how did your MFM pastor save you from it? undecided

You didn't tell your family members because you consider them potential enemies. You think so low of your family members that you keep such things that impact you from them. Makes me wonder about your family dynamics. undecided
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by AMI3(m): 8:49pm On Aug 28, 2022
newold:
I decided to create a new account to make these post.

To make the long story short.

I never realised what i was getting myself into until i started googling and then discovered what i had gotten myself into. This has rendered me hopeless, almost useless, and broke.

Since 2020 until now, i have only laboured in vain. i became unable to take proper care and provide for my family not because i don't get paid from work (i do have a work which i do) though the pay does not come every time. Greed, wanting more i would say has lead me to these part that is about to break and destroy me completely.

I have a very loving and hardworking wife, who has saved me countless number of times. i have broken her hearts by these singular addiction. i have tried several ways to stop. but once money gets into my hand the first thing that comes to my mind is to feed my addiction.

Most times i cry alone in the house and wished i could turn back the hand of time. I have felt depressed, lost weights, and my confidence, and the suicidal thoughts as deep down i know i should be better, i should do better for my wife and child.

i lost everything to these monster, my car, my peace, my respects, even some friends.

since 2020 now, i have no savings, infact i empty my account in less than 24 hours because of my greed.

on several occasions i have used the money meant for purchasing another car since after i sold the other one. i spent the money to feed these my monster.

even when i WIN i lose it all back. just 3 months ago. i had lost almost #2m. these happen within 2 days.

I am slowly dyeing inside. when i look at my child and my wife and what my actions have put them through. and for the fact that i keep going back. i then feel there might be something else wrong with me.


I have followed some forums for help but i keep going back. please and please if you know how or what to say to me that will help my situation please do.


PLEASE FOR ANYONE WHO WILL BE READING THESE.

ALWAYS SAY NO TO GAMBLING.

IF YOU HAVE NEVER GAMBLED BEFORE. BPLEASE IS BETTER YOU DON'T TRY SO AS NOT TO EXPERIENCE WHAT MILLIONS ALL OVER THE WORLD ARE GOING THROUGH, INCLUDING ME






Haha you make me laugh. Do u go to church? If u go to church u read ur Bible always u can over come it.

The problem here is that I want to have more. U have not playing the way I did. I have stake my brother's car because of gambling., What I done because of gambling u have not one quarter.

How did I stop gambling it just a mystery.
After I must have cause much havoc. One day I said to myself I am not going to gamble again

I went to church. Sad down inside the church pray for God to give me strength I was there from morning till noon. My wife taught I have gone to play. When I came back home I burnt everything related gambling I uninstalled the apps.

It was like a new spirit that feels my heart. I started going out to play draft , football or Scrabble. Those three games me busy till date I am a change person.

Though I do pray with my family every morning and night what I never use to do.

You can come out of it your case simple u never slept in police cell before. I don't want to keep on may u will cry for me.
I tell u ur case is simple very very

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Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by FarmTech(m): 8:53pm On Aug 28, 2022
You need Christ. Find a good fellowship like Efac in Anglican church. They can help you.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:04pm On Aug 28, 2022
AMI3:
Haha you make me laugh. Do u go to church? If u go to church u read ur Bible always u can over come it. The problem here is that I want to have more. U have not playing the way I did. I have stake my brother's car because of gambling., What I done because of gambling u have not one quarter. How did I stop gambling it just a mystery. After I must have cause much havoc. One day I said to myself I am not going to gamble again I went to church. Sad down inside the church pray for God to give me strength I was there from morning till noon. My wife taught I have gone to play. When I came back home I burnt everything related gambling I uninstalled the apps.

It was like a new spirit that feels my heart. I started going out to play draft , football or Scrabble. Those three games me busy till date I am a change person. Though I do pray with my family every morning and night what I never use to do.
You can come out of it your case simple u never slept in police cell before. I don't want to keep on may u will cry for me.
I tell u ur case is simple very very
Stop lying to the OP!undecided

Not everyone who gambles is an addict, and you, from your own post, were not an addict but someone who eventually realized and decided against gambling like most of us do.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Gt321(m): 9:32pm On Aug 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
What was your addiction problem and how did your MFM pastor save you from it? undecided

You didn't tell your family members because you consider them potential enemies. You think so low of your family members that you keep such things that impact you from them. Makes me wonder about your family dynamics. undecided

Look, this is a private addiction that does not need talking to too many people or even ur immediate family. He's not into arm robbery or troubling the society. He has a heart to heart addiction that needs a superior guardian counsel. This are from my personal experience sir.

The pastor simply ask me if I have a structure in spirituality. And the answer was NO.

He further break it down and advise I should have a spiritual structure

Specific day of the week to observe fasting

Specific hour of the night to pray.

He chose every Monday 6am-6pm for fasting.

Every Saturday 6am- 3pm for fasting.

Then 1am everyday for 30 minutes prayers

The fasting and prayers should be more channel to every negative spirit that is wrestling with the positive spirit to die and perish.

Baba am a living testimony
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:42pm On Aug 28, 2022
Gt321:
1. Look, this is a private addiction that does not need talking to too many people or even ur immediate family. He's not into arm robbery or troubling the society. He has a heart to heart addiction that needs a superior guardian counsel. This are from my personal experience sir.

2. The pastor simply ask me if I have a structure in spirituality. And the answer was NO. He further break it down and advise I should have a spiritual structure Specific day of the week to observe fasting . Then 1am everyday for 30 minutes prayers. The fasting and prayers should be more channel to every negative spirit that is wrestling with the positive spirit to die and perish. Baba am a living testimony
1. A private addiction? undecided

2. What in the world is a structure in spirituality? undecided

As for the statement in bold regarding your fasting and prayer ritual, your explanation sounds a lot like what a Babalawo spiritualist would say regarding spirits - negative and positive, how come? undecided
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Gt321(m): 10:17pm On Aug 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. A private addiction? undecided

2. What in the world is a structure in spirituality? undecided

As for the statement in bold regarding your fasting and prayer ritual, your explanation sounds a lot like what a Babalawo spiritualist would say regarding spirits - negative and positive, how come? undecided

You see why i ask him not to discuss it with his people. Especially people like you.

Your knowledge about this topic is poor Just walk pas cos u won't understand.

Thanks.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 10:18pm On Aug 28, 2022
Gt321:
1. You see why i ask him not to discuss it with his people. Especially people like you.
Your knowledge about this topic is poor Just walk pas cos u won't understand..
My knowledge is poor? grin

ROFLMAO!
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Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Mindlog: 10:43pm On Aug 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Mindlog, are you aware of any mental health clinics in Nigeria that offer the Ibogaine treatment for addiction? I did an internet search and readily found several in South Africa, but have yet to find a link to any in Nigeria. And was wondering if there is any other way to find them in Nigeria. undecided

I personally do not know of any though there may be rehab facilities utilizing it and not putting it out there, reason the difficulty in getting any to pop up during search.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by trumpcoat(m): 10:57pm On Aug 28, 2022
Sorry bro
I have a lasting solution for you, just add me WhatsApp and you will be glad you
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by kaywhy09(m): 11:00pm On Aug 28, 2022
Get the book, the secret of millionaire mind by T Herv Eker.

Study it like your life depends on it.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 11:25pm On Aug 28, 2022
Mindlog:
I personally do not know of any though there may be rehab facilities utilizing it and not putting it out there, reason the difficulty in getting any to pop up during search.
It is currently not offered here in the U.S. But I have read several reports of patients going all the way to Mexico for treatment from here. However, the plant is also known to be native to areas in west Africa, so my expectation is Nigeria ought to be on the map as far as treatment, given the many nods it has been getting over the last couple of years. undecided
https://www.nairaland.com/7301952/inside-ibogaine-1-most-promising
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by princewarri1985: 2:53am On Aug 29, 2022
Your problem big well well, and you need to knee down make 500 pastors lay hand for your head.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by kpomo: 3:20am On Aug 29, 2022
[quote author=newold post=116115475]I decided to create a new account to make these post.

To make the long story short.

I never realised what i was getting myself into until i started googling and then discovered what i had gotten myself into. This has rendered me hopeless, almost useless, and broke.

Since 2020 until now, i have only laboured in vain. i became unable to take proper care and provide for my family not because i don't get paid from work (i do have a work which i do) though the pay does not come every time. Greed, wanting more i would say has lead me to these part that is about to break and destroy me completely.

I have a very loving and hardworking wife, who has saved me countless number of times. i have broken her hearts by these singular addiction. i have tried several ways to stop. but once money gets into my hand the first thing that comes to my mind is to feed my addiction.

Most times i cry alone in the house and wished i could turn back the hand of time. I have felt depressed, lost weights, and my confidence, and the suicidal thoughts as deep down i know i should be better, i should do better for my wife and child.

i lost everything to these monster, my car, my peace, my respects, even some friends.

since 2020 now, i have no savings, infact i empty my account in less than 24 hours because of my greed.

on several occasions i have used the money meant for purchasing another car since after i sold the other one. i spent the money to feed these my monster.

even when i WIN i lose it all back. just 3 months ago. i had lost almost #2m. these happen within 2 days.

I am slowly dyeing inside. when i look at my child and my wife and what my actions have put them through. and for the fact that i keep going back. i then feel there might be something else wrong with me.


I have followed some forums for help but i keep going back. please and please if you know how or what to say to me that will help my situation please do.


PLEASE FOR ANYONE WHO WILL BE READING THESE.

ALWAYS SAY NO TO GAMBLING.

IF YOU HAVE NEVER GAMBLED BEFORE. BPLEASE IS BETTER YOU DON'T TRY SO AS NOT TO EXPERIENCE WHAT MILLIONS ALL OVER THE WORLD ARE GOING THROUGH, INCLUDING ME



I know exactly how you feel. I have been working in the casino industry for 33 years now here and across the boarder (Lome, Cotonou and recently Niamey). I understand the spirit behind this addiction and i would tell you the gospel truth, I've never gambled before and will never do. I have seen people loose everything they own and even run into debt. 3 Months ago, a well known patron of our casino commit suicide cos of debt. Tell your family or friends let them help you
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by uthompson2001: 4:08am On Aug 29, 2022
Jesus Christ can save you.
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by rickyjoe(m): 7:48am On Aug 29, 2022
Realizing you have a problem is the first step, knowing the cause and solution is the second.
1.First thing first be intentional about the desire change you crave for
2. Know that what you are battling with is more spiritual than habit or emotional
3. Seek God in prayer and fasting to break the addiction and give your life to Christ
4. Talk to your wife about it and let her know your decision for change
5. Get an accountability partner, someone you have respect for
6. Lastly and very important, BREAK AWAY FROM CIRCLE OF GAMBLING FRIENDS BECAUSE THEY WILL ALWAYS WANT TO LURE YOU BACK AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS WHO ARE BELIEVERS.
Psalm 1.
This was how I was able to break free from the same addiction.

God bless you
Re: Please Help Save My Marriage by showafrica(m): 8:53am On Aug 29, 2022
Joshcoli:
I thought it was forex

Chai....

Forex no hard... Bring money I go teach you how to trade no loss strategy. You go just set trap, any day e catch something you go chop, the worst that can happen is you can go days without profit but your capital will be intact

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