Yusufisraelj:


Hmmm, if I may ask, what does this level of benevolence bequeath on what the lady will add to the relationship?

So much exposition on what the guy should do, by all means who really loves gives, [b]but again I ask, what's the role of this kind of lady on the said guys life?[/[

Yusufisraelj:
Lols, pls do reply, I have a response if uyi replies

UyaiIncomparabl:


To enjoy, maidiya. Nothing else

Shalommy:
Trash from a stupid idiot. Broke guys will always lament, see faults in everything while Rich guys are looking for ladies to spend on. So boy, go and hustle hard. Chaii

Yusufisraelj:


Lols, pls do reply, I have a response if uyi replies.

TMTR:
Don't say you weren't warned

For starters, nothing you do for them ever satisfies them as they believe another can do better, they majorly grew up in a deprived and less previliged homes so are easily moved by material things (except few of them) which makes it easy for another guy to lay them

Most of them see relationship and marriage as poverty alleviation program so they are with you for what they can get not because they care about you.

They are very manipulative, deceptive, crass etc, as a promising young man who wants to make something meaningful out his life, please avoid this sort of ladies cause they are financially draining..

In essence, avoid broke ladies , I am not saying that she must be rich but at least she must be able to handle her own bills without depending on a man or offing her pant

A word they say is enough for the wise

I read through Nairaland and I noticed that more than 90% of relationship woes experienced by guys are as a result of dating ' I never Chop Girls'

Avoid them like a plague that they are!!!!

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am not a hungry girl, but my dear boys, you will send transport money, hairdo money and upkeep money. I am self-sufficient, but if you are mine, I don't even need to ask you, you should have the sense to take them as your burden.

Isn't that the burden of masculinity again? To provide for the female as long as his ego is constantly shined and she continues to revel in her femininity?

This is 2022, I don't even argue about these kinda stale and repetitive topics because outside of here, I can't relate.

Women, follow and date men who have a sense of responsibility. Date men who are intuitive and assertive about your needs and if you're lucky, your vanities inclusive. Men, who before you ask, have done it. Men who you don't need to ask for things before they get them done. Men who are thoughtful and sensitive to your worries. Men who are premium and assume the provider role without complaints. Men who care and prioritise your welfare, for when you are on a man's priority list, you are gold and will be cherished. Date a man who is kind, generous and has a high opinion of women.

Does he have a low opinion of women? Abort mission. Does he think he is doing you a favour by being with you? Abort mission. Listen babies, you aren't materialistic, they are outchea funding baby girls to Santorini and Maldives for summer vacations. If you doubt me, come to Ebeano and Blenco stores on the Island on weekends and see these men shop for "em girls raking into thousands while you as the resident wifey keep wasting her prayers on 'em disloyal boys. No baby, don't do that. Let his mama do that.

Be selfish, strategic and intentional about your associations with men. Stay wicked and never settle. The street is military. Nuff said.

Pinkpill 101.

You are not a hungry girl but you still want men to send you transport, hairdo and upkeep money and you call yourself self sufficient, L L , you just painted a picture of a ' hungry girl ' and why should I take up your burden, oh I know because I am hitting it but I ain't the only one enjoying it, you do too, infact Collins the next door neighbor hits it for free so why should I be the one paying for it, oh you know what why don't you just make it official and sign up on baddoo, instamessage, naijacodedruns etc or better still go start standing at popular joints so we know it's now official

Oh I see what you did there , trying to gaslight and play on egos but know that don't work self aware men

And of course offline simps are the majority and will always be for a long time to come, I hate that but that's the harsh reality, I even created a thread to buttress that fact so you will always meet 'foolish' men who thinks the only way to get a girl is through money and I can see your partner in crime below shouting 'Cheers' talk about "birds of same feather" there couldn't be any better example

So rejoice my dear, simps are clearly the majority but not for long because they are wising up each passing day with your over demanding altitude

Trip to Maldives, Dubai, Paris etc , shopping are only reserved for my relatives infact the only females that chops my money is my mother and female siblings and a female friend who supported me when I had nothing (I can't appreciate her enough) not some entitled leech who feels so entitled to my money like I owe her just cause she got a fish smelly pusyy, no way

So enjoy your simps while it lasts but know for sure that one day dem go wise up

So dear men, just cause you are dating her dosent mean you take up her burden and start funding her like you are her father, trust me ,it always ends with tears cause girls will so use you like tissue and dump you when they are done, so wise up my niggas

MissLAP:


I wonder what men are turning into these days. You people want women to take over your duties ba?

And what are women's duty if I may ask

Yusufisraelj:
1. Guys at that level don't only want enjoyment especially if they seek to build a life of meaning, correspondingly you'll find made men who just want to spoil young ladies for sex in return also at this level. The question I ask rhetorically is does such ladies plan to get married or build a life of meaning and do they understand the implications of careless living?

2. What happens to building with the responsible guy? For me sincerely what works is the place of strategic contributions to the visions of the said lady and guy respectively, I think relationships built on primordial principles like life goals, beliefs and values do well in my estimation, I personally won't mind spending the world on this kind of lady. Again I ask are ladies afraid of building with a guy and upgrading thier lifestyle as thier income goes up?

@begonia

Shalommy:
Trash from a stupid idiot. Broke guys will always lament, see faults in everything while Rich guys are looking for ladies to spend on. So boy, go and hustle hard. Chaii

Persephone1:
I wonder why you direct such question to her when it should be directed to your partner who you are closely in dealings with. When a lady states her wants, desires and specs in a man, i see a lot of guys rushing to ask same questions you posed to Uyi and it leaves me wondering why anyone would ask a stranger what he or she would offer in a relationship that is not happening with you. Shouldn't that be between her and whoever her spec is?

Acknowledging the fact that such question is a form of attack on a lady and you trying to bully her into silence, i would still ask what is the general demands from a woman in a relationship other than companionship, feminity and beauty. These and any other specs depending on whom shes involved with. Has this changed? Do men now want ladies to provide and build blocks now? Am i missing anything ?

Asking a lady what she has to offer in a relationship is not only a strange question, it is bereft of common sense as well.
Let whoever sees her worthy to date be the one to ask and solve that equation.

If Uyi starts to type what she's doing that makes her man enjoy her , would it tick the boxes for you? Are you her man? Would you accept her efforts as enough?. Or would you use that as a standard for every woman?.It doesn't really just make any sense. This is 21st century some questions ought to have gone extinct on this forum.

Yusufisraelj:
Back and forth interactions like this helps to put perspectives...

Raalsalghul:
Most will still end up with broke girls.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am not a hungry girl, but my dear boys, you will send transport money, hairdo money and upkeep money. I am self-sufficient, but if you are mine, I don't even need to ask you, you should have the sense to take them as your burden.

Isn't that the burden of masculinity again? To provide for the female as long as his ego is constantly shined and she continues to revel in her femininity?

This is 2022, I don't even argue about these kinda stale and repetitive topics because outside of here, I can't relate.

Women, follow and date men who have a sense of responsibility. Date men who are intuitive and assertive about your needs and if you're lucky, your vanities inclusive. Men, who before you ask, have done it. Men who you don't need to ask for things before they get them done. Men who are thoughtful and sensitive to your worries. Men who are premium and assume the provider role without complaints. Men who care and prioritise your welfare, for when you are on a man's priority list, you are gold and will be cherished. Date a man who is kind, generous and has a high opinion of women.

Does he have a low opinion of women? Abort mission. Does he think he is doing you a favour by being with you? Abort mission. Listen babies, you aren't materialistic, they are outchea funding baby girls to Santorini and Maldives for summer vacations. If you doubt me, come to Ebeano and Blenco stores on the Island on weekends and see these men shop for "em girls raking into thousands while you as the resident wifey keep wasting her prayers on 'em disloyal boys. No baby, don't do that. Let his mama do that.

Be selfish, strategic and intentional about your associations with men. Stay wicked and never settle. The street is military. Nuff said.

Pinkpill 101.

prophetfire:
I pity people who come to nairaland to seek advice. Especially relationship advice.

begoniaa:


Those are the only two categories of men in such states?

But in any way(s), it is the prerogative of any woman in such a place then to determine and set the .... of how she wants to be treated and what she wants in return. Only thing for me there, ESPECIALLY as a feminist, is mutual spoiling and enjoyment and all the attending realities and such .

As my sis, the Greek god's wife, Persephone, noted up above, the dynamics of a relationship and the personalities of the partners involved will always take precedence. So don't ask me if I'll necessarily be at the same financial status as "that man" to *equally* spoil him; tanz.



Ho-hum. This is a lot I would have loved to get into, but to 8 lawa, laaro kutukutu Ojo Aje (no be say I really get anything to do except waiting for a potential and incoming results-inspired breakfast); I just said I should quickly address you ni and be done...

All those stuff you mentioned - goals, visions, etc., are not primordial by any chance, by the way. The primordial reasons for dating are protection, provision, beauty, fertility, ati bee bee lo.

So your idea of "building" is dependent on your own values, in a nutshell. We can preach and proselytize from now 'till tomorrow, men many and women will still fall into the purview and requirements of a 'standard relationship.'

Just really find someone who is like you, and do you, so long as it doesn't border on oppression/abuse or the violation of human dignity and right.

Good morning.

Yusufisraelj:
All this una feminist rhetorics, hmmm, me I just see am to be say the lady neva find who understand her and give her practical genuine love bayi.

begoniaa:


Soooo, ta lo wa raye?

(Yes, I am a culprit, but still ).



Thank you for speaking truth to power.

prophetfire:
. And what would the man be benefitting from you? Are you just preaching selfishness? Because that's all I read here. A human that sees her fellow human as just a means to an end.
I pity people who come to nairaland to seek advice. Especially relationship advice.

begoniaa:


As before, so it is now: that one na your business.

Have a great day

TMTR:


Your assumptions of me really amuses me , I am literally LMAO out here, a job , can't remember the last time I had something like nor a girlfriend but the money I make can buy you and yours and I won't even feel like I spent any money

Now go play with your fellow lowlife

Zonefree:

Nairaland produces the highest number of broke girls. Instagram still dey learn work.

There are more broke girls here than on Facebook. Siofra, candidlady, Jennyclay, Iyaebe and magnoliaa know what I'm saying.

Shalommy:
Wow! Sorry broke ass. Go and get a job,make more money and get a girlfriend. And don't bother to thank me

UyaiIncomparabl:


Call it whatever you like.

MissLAP:


I wonder what men are turning into these days. You people want women to take over your duties ba?

Qatar2022:
All this name you mentioned is one person, fooling her jobless self here