My Uncle employed my father to be a gateman of his private School due to the fact that my father was employed. Me and my brother are students of the school and sometimes were mocked by friends and school. Do you think my Uncle was right in doing this?

Does your father have any other work experience?

Hmmmm. Life no easy.

Is there a better place you feel your father could fit in but was deprived a chance?

Besides gateman is an occupation. Ignore the mockers and naysayers.

abdulhakim3:
My Uncle employed my father to be a gateman of his private School due to the fact that my father was employed. Me and my brother are students of the school and sometimes were mocked by friends and school. Do you think my Uncle was right in doing this?

Well, I am sure it is uncomfortable situation but in as much as he is less concerned about áríwó ójà and just focused on his job then no problem. It is a job. He's not stealing. Forget about those people making fun. Fun doesn't stick forever. Gateman job puts food on the table.

I can't blame your uncle. He probably employed him based on his level of education. Although your father could have asked for another way of help, maybe money for business.

There's no shame in legal work. I just hope he pays him well enough to cater for the family.

E get as e be sha

Can't your uncle find any job for him other than that?

MufasaLion:
I can't blame your uncle. He probably employed him based on his level of education. Although your father could have asked for another way of help, maybe money for business.

There's no shame in legal work. I just hope he pays him well enough to cater for the family.

This life no balance at all.



His uncle deserves to be appreciated for giving his father the gateman job rather than giving him money which wouldn't have go for the exact reason the money was given to him.

At least, his father won't spend his salary on worthless things.

Your father agreed to do it, what's your own there?

It's a lesson you should learn from and not feel bad about so you don't end up working for your siblings like your dad.

Study hard and get good grades that will land you better opportunities in future.

It is well.

Let the situation and the free education be the motivation for you and your brother to better your lives

Urheadmaster:



This life no balance at all.



His uncle deserves to be appreciated for giving his father the gateman job rather than giving him money which wouldn't have go for the exact reason the money was given to him.

At least, his father wouldn't spend his salary on worthless things.

Exactly, he's actually got no issues with the job but just unhappy because his mates bully and insult him in class.

Romanoff:
Does your father have any other work experience?

I don't think so

tommy589:
Let the situation and the free education be the motivation for you and your brother to better your lives

Sure but my Uncle wants my brother and I to come teach at the school.

Blessedmercy8:
Your father agreed to do it, what's your own there?

It's a lesson you should learn from and not feel bad about so you don't end up working for your siblings like your dad.

Study hard and get good grades that will land you better opportunities in future.

It is well.

There's nothing shameful in working for your sibling. It only depends on what the job is.

abdulhakim3:
My Uncle employed my father to be a gateman of his private School due to the fact that my father was employed. Me and my brother are students of the school and sometimes were mocked by friends and school. Do you think my Uncle was right in doing this?

Your father took the job so why blame your uncle?

If your father does not have qualifications for any other available work at the school, there is nothing wrong with him taking the job he is qualified for.

Does your father have a qualification to work in an office? Besides he may have pressured your uncle for employment instead of being idle. Don't blame your uncle for being his brother's keeper.

Kobojunkie:
Your father took the job so why blame your uncle?

If your father does not have qualifications for any other available work at the school, there is nothing wrong with him taking the job he is qualified for.

But don't you think it might affect the kids psychologically.

And my father initially rejected the job, stating his kids were in the school but my Uncle said it is family school.

abdulhakim3:



I don't think so

That's probably the only work your uncle thinks your dad can do.

abdulhakim3:
But don't you think it might affect the kids psychologically.

And my father initially rejected the job, stating his kids were in the school but my Uncle said it is family school.

The one whose acts affect you psychologically is your father. He is responsible for why he is not qualified for better position, is he not?

Family school? What does that mean? I suggest you ask your dad to tell you the real reason why he is working that job.

At least, he helped him provide for his family. Besides, if your father wasn't the gateman of your school, wouldn't it have been someone else's dad? There's dignity in labor and if anyone tries insulting you, tell them that the job their father does to pay their school fees, your father is also doing his job to pay your school fees. There's nothing to be intimidated about.

I would also advise you focus on your studies, make good grades, and select your friends and then, the bullying will stop. In my days, I use to carry firewood despite living in Festac (if you get what it means) back in the days. I tell my few friends, if you can't help me carry part of my firewood, we have no business walking together.

Kobojunkie:
The one whose acts affect you psychologically is your father. He is responsible for why he is not qualified for better position, is he not?

Family school? What does that mean? I suggest you ask your dad to tell you the real reason why he is working that job.

Does the father owe him that explanation if the job is providing the basics they need to survive as a family? He is the ungrateful and entitled one here who thinks it is right for other fathers to be gatemen and not his.

GboyegaD:
1. Does the father owe him that explanation if the job is providing the basics they need to survive as a family? 2. He is the ungrateful and entitled one here who thinks it is right for other fathers to be gatemen and not his.

1. He claims he is psychologically impacted by what he sees happening so it is good he take his concerns to his old man, the one who is best able to help me better process the situation.

2. My guess is OP is simply young and trying to better understand what is happening in his world. Not that he is being ungrateful or any of that sort of thing. He did mention other kids talk about his dad being a gateman at the school so I think his worries are legit and need to be addressed..

Don't listen to those people mocking you and your brother. Ignore them.

Kobojunkie:
1. He claims he is psychologically impacted by what he sees happening so it is good he take his concerns to his old man, the one who is best able to help me better process the situation.

2. My guess is OP is simply young and trying to better understand what is happening in his world. Not that he is being ungrateful or any of that sort of thing. He did mention other kids talk about his dad being a gateman at the school so I think his worries are legit and need to be addressed..

His worries are legit no doubt and I was thinking the father would have explained why this route to them but, I might be wrong.

GboyegaD:
His worries are legit no doubt and I was thinking the father would have explained why this route to them but, I might be wrong.

Most African parents, sadly, do not explain a lot of things to their offspring leaving the kids to stew in what amounts to emotional confusion.

Kobojunkie:
Most African parents, sadly, do not explain a lot of things to their offspring leaving the kids to stew in what amounts to emotional confusion.

Guess I was lucky as a kid then.

abdulhakim3:



Sure but my Uncle wants my brother and I to come teach at the school.

I think he has an old grudge against your dad and it's payback time. Well,he is not God

tommy589:


I think he has an old grudge against your dad and it's payback time. Well,he is not God

No, I don't think he does, if OP's father had better qualifications I guess he would have employed him as a teacher instead.

OP should focus on why he is there, make good grades and leave.

abdulhakim3:
My Uncle employed my father to be a gateman of his private School due to the fact that my father was employed. Me and my brother are students of the school and sometimes were mocked by friends and school. Do you think my Uncle was right in doing this?

It depends. Is your father a graduate? If yes, is he still fit to teach? If no, may be that was one of the reasons he was given such a job.

As for what other students think ignore them. What matters is that he has a job through which he can fend for his family and take care of your school fees. Some people have uncles but they are not willing to help.

Also, if you are not comfortable with the job your Dad is doing, let it inspire you positively to study and work harder so you could have a better future compared to him. Ciao�

Wahala everywhere

You dad has been looking for work, your Uncle gave him a honest job as gate-man. If your dad has a better offer he should take it and leave the job. I don’t see any problem here.

Your Uncle even tried by providing a means of livelihood for your dad, how many family members dey reach out to render any kind of help to their other family members nowadays

faithfull18:

No, I don't think he does, if OP's father had better qualifications I guess he would employed him as a teacher instead.

OP should focus on why he is there, make good grades and leave.

How much are private school teachers earning except the top league ones. Op said his uncle wish is for them to become teachers in the school. And you think his uncle harbours no ill feelings

The uncle is kind by providing employment and free education. But it becomes something else when strings get attached to an helpful gesture