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Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 11:17am On Sep 16, 2011 |
zim_dollar: Okay, noted. However, if I decided to love every Meg, Trish and Sally (No offence intended if you bear these names) I meet, I would be nothing but a slut. So, I am guided by my religion and principles. There will be no problem if you accept that. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by zimdollar(m): 11:45am On Sep 16, 2011 |
macla, i'm not saying bed a (i can't say that word, kids watching). involve them in those practices and principles, if you overstood me. otherwise you're saying your religion is the only way to go and i can tell you thats not what it teaches you to do. dont throw stones. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Lagosboy: 11:49am On Sep 16, 2011 |
bhusayor: Parents, May God bless them, sometimes are responsible for their childrens misguidance in life. Sister if you find someone suitable and u genuinly want to get married , your dads reaction is the least of the probem as i see it. As long as there is a will , there is a way. You could speak to your dad about it and most importantly pray about it. Your dad is a human controlled by the most high. Ask the most high who controls your dads heart to soften your dads heart , in order to accept your wish in life, so as to prevent you from doing acts that might diplease your lord, the most high. With faith and belief your mission will be accompished and you would look back and say ,"it was not that complicated was it?" Alhamdulilah your tounge would proclaim! |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by hayorbaami: 11:55am On Sep 16, 2011 |
@bhusayor! U can neva tell. Probably your father is expecting you to bring a suitor home. Why don't you try it first instead of jumping into conclusions. It is good for a lady to marry early to avoid fornication. Why don't you give it a try. I rily admire u. I av an elder brother if you don't mind. Why don't you send me your e-mail so we can talk better.tanks |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 11:59am On Sep 16, 2011 |
hayorbaami: You obviously don't like her that much. Please, I need your help. I have sent a message on messenger. Thank you. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by blapo(m): 12:19pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Salam all, I've been following the thread from the start though i could not read post after post. all i can say is thumbs up to you people. (jazakunlah khairan) whats marriage counselling like in Islam? Assuming one eventually meets with someone he/she is ready to marry, don't u think there should still be a form of marriage counselling. i've heard a lot of revelation during this kind of program from xtian friends. masalam |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 12:25pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
blapo: Unfortunately these services are scarce for Muslim youths in Nigeria. The best you can do is read relevant books. There is this great one that I always pack as a gift to some newly-weds. I have forgotten the name embarrassingly though. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by blapo(m): 12:29pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
^^^^^^ i think i will need those books badly now, please try if u cud get the names. jazakunllah khaeran |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 12:52pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
I am truly sorry that I am not in a position to remember the name now. However, I am sure some other people will know them or other good books. You might not believe this, but this thread helps me relax in an otherwise busy state that I am in currently. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 1:23pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
ALHAMDULILLAH! I have remembered the name: It is "Closer than a garment" It has part 1,2 & 3. The books are fantastic. There is another one from Iran. That one you should not wait for me to remember because it would take me awholata trouble and spare time is very scarce for me. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 1:36pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
bhusayor: 1,000 samu, cant run away from God. bhusayor: Gods time is always the best for everyone hayorbaami: Dont even try it |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by blapo(m): 1:38pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
@maclatunji, thanks bro jazakunlahh khaeran, will look out for it. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 2:01pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
amodu: niceeeeeee Iliveon: goood! |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 2:11pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
bhusayor: now following you!! |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by jaybee3(m): 2:23pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
^^ me? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 2:41pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Lagosboy: You are so so right! But i tell u there are other factors, beyond our parents. I thnk my own dad wldnt mind but my mum wld av her fears nd eventually my wish would prevail. But again,many oda factors come in plus wat u hear of the experiences of pple wu av done ds is not encouraging nd is y many pple wait until after graduation. I belong to dat group too. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 2:44pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
jay bee: really?? ok! now |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 2:53pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
zim_dollar: u c someone as ugly and den marry them because?? u pity them that they might not av anyone to marry??. .that wld b d most unreasonable reason to marry. those u see as ugly are good looking to others and may have qualities others value over beauty. So, ur point is actually no point. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 3:04pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
blapo: I wish we can have counselings too. Muslim organisations should look into this. we need to learn more from experienced people. maclatunji: I know these books too. they are very good. But, I think each of the parts has a different title. and I think Al banna is the author |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by jaybee3(m): 3:09pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
where u @ deols? location |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by hayorbaami: 3:17pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
@blapo, dere re some organisation dat does marriage counselling. E.g nasfat. Also if you want to make use of university of ibadan mosque, you ve to partake in marriage counselling. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 3:32pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
hayorbaami: really never knew UI does that. jay bee: away from home . . y u wanna know |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by jaybee3(m): 3:38pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Just asking |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 3:51pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
ok |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by hayorbaami: 3:51pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
@deols! My sister did her Nikkah at U.I mosque. She and her husband did some counselling some months before the Nikkah. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by mkyusuf: 4:03pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
hmmmm still following this thread & i dont want to miss out of all these intelligent muslimas in the house. from (deols) that started this topic and all the Posters This process is a long one let this muslimah's post there Attributes so we can at lest visualise how they look. (Deols) shld take the lead, let us know her attributes since she has a long list of the qualities she wants in a man. there shld be a way of meeting and introducing interested brothers and sisters. ma salam |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 6:38pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Ok! think we can move on wv our discussion. am hopping Lagosboy nd Zayhal wld talk more about courtship and what they think of my opinion on it. Now, i really want to know to what extent Muslim guys take certain things. I have never seen a Nigerian(let alone Muslim one) open d car door for a lady(other than me). U know what, ladies feel respected by this. In the whole of my life, only three guys av done ds for me. One is my brother(car door), a family friend who lived in d Uk and a christian boy who was into me (note, i ddnt date him). Now guys, would you do this(1) for your lady (2)even after marriage . |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tpia5: 8:30pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
opening the car door is actually a western concept. nothing wrong with it however, but not opening one shouldnt really be used as a measure of someone's character, imo. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 8:44pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
i agree wv u its western. nd not a judge of xter. but would you do it?? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 10:36pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
deola, when i used to date back then, i treat my women with respect |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by debokaz(m): 12:22am On Sep 17, 2011 |
Hmmm,let me see.She has to be good-looking without weave-ons,muslimah,intelligent,confident and humble. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 9:11am On Sep 17, 2011 |
About car door opening- It depends on my mood and context too. Do not put too much importance on it though. Confirmed players have mastered the art of flattering to deceive. My own approach is that you must see me for who I am (good and bad). No time to play games. People who are not close to me may think all sorts of things about me. It is those that I care enough about and are close to me that will get the true concept of me. So even for a lady I am interested in, I may not do things just for the sole reason for her to get to like me for who I am not. I may open the car door today and not open it tomorrow- that is just me. |
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