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Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 6:21pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Spousal abuse, either physically or verbally should not be tolerated. Some women know exactly what will get under his skin and will say it anyway just to see what happens. Constant verbal abuse by one spouse affects the sense of self worth of the other. Let's be honest, patience can really be stretched and the ego injured but there is no excuse for physical abuse. Men and women caught in abusive relationships (verbal or physical) should seek a resolution or a way out depending on the severity. In true mafian fashion, my dad told my sister's husband that the day he beats her, he will fly over there, break his legs and take his daughter. A woman should never publicly humiliate her husband though. A man can take a slap from his wife in private and forgive but it is much harder to forgive a public humiliation. What that woman did is also inexcusable. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 6:29pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
tbaba1234:.It will rings into his ears whenever they have misunderstanding |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kayword(m): 6:36pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
I can't imagine a scenario that warrants beating one's wife. True, women are known to nag, but the ability to restrain oneself 4rm physically harming her when she's at her worst element tells on the man's character. As per the issue of beating in the hadith. My own understanding is that it could not even called beating, since 'beating' literally means inflicting bodily pain. It is a symbolic gesture of telling a woman she has really offended you. A woman sensitive enough would be able to recognize she has crossed a limit in that case. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by PHEMIEY(m): 6:46pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
izz dat a man ladies/wives might be a good Nagger(permit d word) but it now take a real man to correct and ressureect d good aspect of their marriage life. physical or otherwise, beating is not d best ANTIDOTE to a FAILING marriage. May ALLAH(swt) grant us d best and crest of spouses. amin |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 6:51pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Pelummy: it's not an insult , just a jokeNo wahala |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kayword(m): 6:52pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
deols: ha ha ha, aunty deols! Just curious o, wat wil u / can u do IF that happens?? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 7:14pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
True. Verbal abuse should never be allowed either. Both can bite deep. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 7:16pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
kayword: It is better imagined. Even my parents would not..What on earth would make someone i open my eyes marry to beat me. Olohun ma je ka pade oloriburuku o. amin. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 7:16pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
busar: it's insulting........ arghhh.sorry o. Didnt mean to insult you. I will not joke with you again. bye |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 7:33pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Pelummy: deols hurt u? sowie dont mind him How are you btw |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 8:06pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away. Man has to get to work on time or there will be serious repercussions which could lead to his dismissal. Husband has tried for wife to reason with him but she won't. What do you think the husband should do in such a situation? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 8:29pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
deols:i know. Thanx. May Allah gv us the best of spouce. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 8:36pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
tbaba1234: Spousal abuse, either physically or verbally should not be tolerated. Some women know exactly what will get under his skin and will say it anyway just to see what happens. Constant verbal abuse by one spouse affects the sense of self worth of the other.Offcouse any kind of abuse should nt be tolerated. But many women are gud at that and its not every man can stand that (dare a man hmm..) |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 8:51pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
deols:I agree these couples should neva hv gotten married. Funny enough these are supposed to be matured couples because the man is someone in his mid 30's and the wife looks like 23-5yr old. And this marriage is not more than 2yr, you see they are supposed to be in honeymoon because its in it early stage. As Uncle Tbb mensioned in his previous post they shnd'nt hav gotten tired of each other. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 9:02pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
busar: Beating won't even stop her from nagging/misbehaving in the house.there are several ways to punish a wife /women besides beating/flogging, it will even worsen the situation at hand. The best I will suggest is for the man to keep calm when she's boiling. but when she comes back to her sense he can talk some sense into her dry brain.Hahaha...sorry! But that 'hit' should never stop you from separating couples oh! Cause some men can commit murder. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 9:06pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
maclatunji: Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away.I know Deols and Sissie have answer to this. Where are they? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 9:06pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
^You mean murder? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 9:15pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Danmas: The question is open to everyone including you. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Pelummy(f): 9:27pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
deols:am good sis and u |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 9:27pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
maclatunji: Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away. He might push her out of the way but what if she holds on to his ironed office clothes. He now has to change clothes. Gets to work late, gets a query. May Allah grant us the best spouse. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 9:28pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
deols: |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Pelummy(f): 9:31pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
maclatunji: Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away.hmmmm, the husby should just take it easy with the wife and try to tease her , and if that doesn't work both should stay indoor then |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 9:35pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
maclatunji: Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away.Start begging her.. ...Just got to do the needful.A little hit will do But if the husband was the type that don't beat his wife,that little would made her come to her senses in sha Allah. 1 Like |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 11:05pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
maclatunji: ^You mean murder?yes, thanx. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Danmas: 11:11pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
tbaba1234:agree, a simple push can do. Ameen. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 1:02am On Jan 03, 2014 |
I raised this question because I wanted to see if the majority of posters here are living in "Lalaland". I agree many men are monsters and treat their wives in the most despicable of ways. However, the important thing to note is that not all men are like that. Hence, it is not realistic to say that every man that gets physical with his wife is a deranged animal. Some men are abused to the point of retaliation. Yes, I said abused. In the example I gave, locking the door and not allowing her husband get to work on time is unlawful detention. Pushing the phone out of his hand thereby smashing it is borderline assault. I am not here to justify violence against anybody. However, I advice women not to push the limits in their relationship with their husbands because they might come out worse off and not have sympathy from family, friends, neighbours, the law and God himself. God is not with transgressors and will not be unjust to his creatures. This topic reminds me of why I say I want to marry a lady- even in anger, she will maintain her decency. Like tbaba said, may Allah grant us the best spouses. (Ameen) 1 Like |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 8:50am On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: Start begging her.. ...Just got to do the needful.A little hit will do Is it now normal to classify men into a. those who beat their wives b.those who don't beat their wives argh!! when I thought we made progress Some people will even get married with the thought that they would beat their wife if she misbehaves. Words like 'misbehave' and 'punishment' is frequent in their vocabulary. What is my own? I can only be bothered about the greater good of the society. Children who watch their father beat their mother can never be normal. I only pity those Children. I can't be bothered about the He-whatever who is planning to hit or beat his misbehaving wife. I can bother much less about the female(drum) who thinks being beaten is normal. The question to ask is, so the man got annoyed and decides to beat her. Would it be ok that she beats him when she gets annoyed as well? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 9:21am On Jan 03, 2014 |
deols:Not what you are thinking sister. That should be the last resort. Just a soft push/hit in o, not the one you are used to |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 9:24am On Jan 03, 2014 |
@deols,did you read mac's post at all |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 9:48am On Jan 03, 2014 |
SMH so stopping a man from going out and breaking his phone is now enough reason to get beaten!!!!! How dare she, she should be beaten to the extent she would have to be treated in the hospital next time ko ni dan wo. Where do this people come from, better people living in dream land than indirect domestic violence supporters. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 9:58am On Jan 03, 2014 |
Sissie: SMH so stopping a man from going out and breaking his phone is now enough reason to get beaten!!!!!you are missing something here |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 10:06am On Jan 03, 2014 |
@deols we live in a violent society. People abusing each other. Some men who are not yet married think its oK to beat their wives as a corrective measure. Some women think so too. If its ok t physically abuse a woman when angry, then its ok for a woman to nag/shout at him too, and emotionally abuse him when she's angry. |
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