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Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 3:57pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
Sissie: Weddings are something else these days. They are like carnivals. Very interesting to attend. I make sure I attend everyone I am invited to when available. Being the bride is something else |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 4:00pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
Sissie: Mathematically speaking, 1.5 is not halfway of 2. So you kinda missed it. 1.5 is halfway of 3. I will class myself as the guy in moment "3". 3. Women Future Moment: "He is complex beyond our understanding and we missed many of his points in our quest to prove our strength and worth which he already understands and appreciates." It's been fun, I have to go now. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 4:01pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: hahhhahahah I won't ever do such a thing. I am too proud for such silly behaviour. If the matter don reach the level that a grown up man does not know when to stay at home and when not anymore, I'll just free myself. what nonsense. I won't police anybody when I have a life of my own to live. i dont think marriage is about locking onto each other. I am sure I'd be having things to run and wouldn't be locking myself with a man in the house. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 4:02pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
Sissie: Not ladylike also to lock him in. Ladies are known to be meek and gentle. Am not excusing physical abuse from any party but "locking him in" is also an abuse. We can all just yap and talk. Seriously, it is not easy keeping calm and stuff. But never hit your spouse and the ladies should also never lock him in . There are better ways of managing your differences. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 4:04pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: That is the point all along. There is no excuse for either behaviour. If the man can beat her if she wrongs him, it must mean that she can also inflict injury when he hurts her. How can such a marriage make sense? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 4:14pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
deols: Good.........I hope you recipocate the gesture and invite us. I am itching to meet that tall, dark lucky guy . May God make it a reality soon. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 4:21pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
maclatunji: Your not that smart at all. Where did I state that 1.5 is halfway of 2 that you had to mention 3. I said 1.5 is BETWEEN 1 and 2, not the half of 2 or 1. If I have to explain what that means, it means your IQ is far below. Beyond our understanding? Prove strength and worth to who you!!!!! Bwahahaha, your just hilarious, oh my. Prove strength Bwahahaha. 1 Like |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by golpen(m): 4:24pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
maclatunji: Ok, wife stands at door and blocks husband from going to work? Husband tries to call her "people", wife pounces on his phone and throws it away. Drag or beat her (if it gets to that) out of the way to save her and the rest of the family from piercing hunger, then come back home to correct her and beg her, giving her the reason why you have no other option. Seriously, women can be that frustrating and I seen some number of incidents when you may feel like spanking the wife for the husband. But at times husbands may just be left with only one option. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 4:24pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: Like deols said, that's the point. There's no excuse for either behaviour. True. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 4:26pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
deols: Yep like carnivals so colourful. Yes. Being a bride is another different experience. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 4:33pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
maclatunji: Okay i get it. But the bad guy does not really fit you. Getting you too much frenemies and also its like you are over acting it. You dont wanna see a mob of ladies carrying stick and chasing you for "advocating" they get beaten for locking their husbands in. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 4:35pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
Can a married women leave her husband's to her her parent's house due to I'll treatment from the husband without his permission? Note:let give responce without sentiment please. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 4:38pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 4:39pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: Can a married women leave her husband's to her her parent's house due to I'll treatment from the husband without his permission? Would you ask for permission to go free or escape from someone who's inflicting pains on you ? Sorry am using naija method of answering questions. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: Can a married women leave her husband's to her her parent's house due to I'll treatment from the husband without his permission? This is a fiqh issue and beyond our scope. Ordinarily, she needs to seek permission but this is a special scenario of abuse. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 4:48pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
tbaba1234: I thought as much. Because the husband at that point has lost the position of head of the house and protector of his family. His rights over her is limited and i don't think the normal routine CAN be applicable here. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 4:56pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: I think so too |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 4:56pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
tbaba1234:This is exactly what I know of. I was discussing with a muslimah(married) one day and she made mention of brothers hiding their true character from the sister.But she would get to know his true character afterward. I think/know that she(the sister) is experiencing the same thing. Question: how can you know the true character of someone without courtship before marriage? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 4:56pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: hahaha |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 4:57pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
golpen: Only In Nigeria. drag or beat her like she is a cow ** Y am I still posting on this ehn |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 5:00pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig:His right over her ain't unlimited before. But I think he still have the same rights he had before. But if the lady is tired of the marriage,she can simply tell him to release(divorce) her . |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 5:02pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
I think the most important elements of a successful marriage are as follows: I. Humility- Many people find it so hard to say sorry. They can not bring themselves to do it. There are many times, you will have to swallow your pride on account of your spouse. Ii. Forgiveness- One of the hardest thing to do is letting go. Couples keep bringing up what happened years ago when they argue. Reopening old wounds is not healthy. Iii. Openness: This is harder for men because women are naturally more open plus a man feels vulnerable if he is too open. It is ok to be vulnerable if you marry a good woman. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 5:06pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: This is exactly what I know of. The pre-marital period should be used to find out as much as you can. Even before making a formal proposal, find out as much as you can. It can not be perfect but know enough. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 5:41pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
tbaba1234: I think the most important elements of a successful marriage are as follows: That third part is wht am scared of mostly. I am ready to be as open and friendly as possibe. I want to be vulnerable, to be able to say sorry and accept that i make mistakes but MOST adies have that warped mindset of taking advantage of such a person. They have been built up to see the man as someone who's "strong", domineering, makes no mistakes and even if he does its her fault and they tend to take men who do otherwise as less of a man turning such "rare and scarce" men into the ferocious type who barks orders from the top of the house. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 5:41pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
double post |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by onegig(m): 5:47pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: His right over her ain't unlimited before. But I think he still have the same rights he had before. Wht about if she doesnt want to seek divorce? What of she wants a change in him? Is it not someone who comes out unscathed that would seek divorce? Might not be physical ill treatment it might be emotional abuse or lack of care? Be realistic, Which man would accent to his wife returning to her parents because of maltreatment? If she asks and he declines her request but the ill treatment continues. What happens? |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 5:55pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
Sissie: And you did not figure-out that I deliberately ignored your error because a moment either exist or it doesn't. It is either 0 or 1. There is nothing like a half-moment, same reason I created a 3rd moment. Old girl, you are too one-directional...still trying to prove something. #Typical |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 5:56pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: I don't know of MOST ladies. But I do know that one thing That I appreciate in a partner is openness. I know a very good person whose decline to be 'vulnerable' is the problem. I can't live with someone who would not share everything with me. You might just be surprised that MAny women appreciate that trait. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 6:04pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: I fear ladies may brag their way into trouble. How many young single ladies boasted that their marriage would be perfect, only for them to find the opposite after tying the knot? No be we men? Promise heaven and earth before marriage and then transform after the wedding. By the way, this is a forum not a personal blog? If you don't want your ideas contested and/or challenged, please don't post and be a reader. 1 Like |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 6:07pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig:She can go to sharia council for the divorce if he declined. But if she didn't want to divorce him,she can then invite the third party if it persist. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 6:12pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
busar: She can go to sharia council for the divorce if he declined. But if she didn't want to divorce him,she can then invite the third party if it persist. What if he grounds her? Even a governor did that to his wife. And if she is suffering and could die from his beating, she should leave. What is that list of what you must protect? 1. Religion 2. lives 3. cant remember. Her life is more sacred than the marriage institution. |
Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Sissie(f): 6:16pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
onegig: I do agree some women tend to take advantage of such men, men do too. It depends on the type of person you meet, if you want someone who appreciates openness, their are people who do. You just need to find one. May Allah (SWT) grant us the best spouse. |
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