olabrinks:
Absolutely. It is a criminal offence to lay your hands on someone.

bukatyne:


Interesting.

You also think women who do same thing (e.g. Amber Heard) should be ruined same way?

OloyeVIII:

You and sniper eh! Make arsenal no go make you use am o

abbey621:


Do you know that women cheat too? Do you understand that women become lazy and financially inept as well over the years? Is it wrong for a husband to expect home cooked meals, clean home and clothes while married? Would this be considered turning her into a maid even tho washing machine and dryer is installed and the husband only eats one meal at home per day?

I believe when it comes to fairness in marriages, most of you women don't want fairness/equality, what most of you want is equity and preferential treatment. Look at U.K and U.S laws surrounding divorces, even when the woman is the reason for the divorce she still walks away happier in terms of financial compensation.

It's a tale of two worlds, in 9ja divorce laws are too laxed while abroad it is too strict. Many men are suffering because they chose love over logic. You can love someone yet have the logic to understand that he/she may hurt you. The inability to prepare for the worst possible scenario is what gets most men depressed and dejected after divorce.

sisisioge:


My brother, if you are married to a woman that works as much as you do, contribute economically to the household as you do, then it is too much for you to also expect at bolded from her because she's your wife. If you have the machine, endeavour to load it as much as she does. If you have kids, take care of them as much as she does. Take care of the cleaning as much as she does.....etc. this way, you are equally responsible for the success of your marriage and home. One party burnout wont be a thing.

By the way, are you aware of how much surrogates earn now? Your wife does that for free while even still working to support the household.

Cleaners dont even charge you the minimum wage abroad, they charge at least twice the minimum wage per hour to cleanup. Madam does it for free.

Cooks/chefs. Let's not start imagining how much their time cost.

Nannies....

Imagine men expecting all these from their wives despite her working just like they are plus additional king treatment. It's just unfair, that's what causes majority of the fights in abroad marriages. While in Nigeria, a lot of women stomach it because they mostly have access to cheap maids or support from families but once abroad, it's just them and it doesn't take so long to snap. If you want peace, do not overburden your spouse!

Unless you have a full time housewife, it's quite unfair for you to expect your abroad wife to keep up the "good woman" vibe of naija.


Meanwhile, yes there are some really irrational/irresponsible women who would do anything to be rid of you no matter how good you are to them. It is well.

AlphaHakimi:


In all you do please marry a kind person. As an African, your marriage should be the way our fore fathers married their wives.

Edusouls:
Women that made their creator heartbroken talkless of common man

MarketDispatch:

Which evidences for defence does your friend have? First thing for him is to try to get a Job...if not, living in UK without a Job is not for the faint hearted.

MT:


Most cases on Nairaland that includes "My Friend" ends up to be the Op's story. Just saying.

onatisi:
tell him to relocate back to nigeria, his life, and his head will reset. nothing big deal

JONSYN7154:
Bursted 😀😀😀

ahnie:
IyaTola you need to change.apparentlyeverything about you is fake.
Fake life
Fake write ups
Identify theft
Plagiarism
Pimping cartel(you present fake pictures,dupe men then zonk them out)


I fear who nor fear you.

sisisioge:


My brother, if you are married to a woman that works as much as you do, contribute economically to the household as you do, then it is too much for you to also expect at bolded from her because she's your wife. If you have the machine, endeavour to load it as much as she does. If you have kids, take care of them as much as she does. Take care of the cleaning as much as she does.....etc. this way, you are equally responsible for the success of your marriage and home. One party burnout wont be a thing.

By the way, are you aware of how much surrogates earn now? Your wife does that for free while even still working to support the household.

Cleaners dont even charge you the minimum wage abroad, they charge at least twice the minimum wage per hour to cleanup. Madam does it for free.

Cooks/chefs. Let's not start imagining how much their time cost.

Nannies....

Imagine men expecting all these from their wives despite her working just like they are plus additional king treatment. It's just unfair, that's what causes majority of the fights in abroad marriages. While in Nigeria, a lot of women stomach it because they mostly have access to cheap maids or support from families but once abroad, it's just them and it doesn't take so long to snap. If you want peace, do not overburden your spouse!

Unless you have a full time housewife, it's quite unfair for you to expect your abroad wife to keep up the "good woman" vibe of naija.


Meanwhile, yes there are some really irrational/irresponsible women who would do anything to be rid of you no matter how good you are to them. It is well.

MasterTeeUSA:
Please reach out to me or have him reach out to me. I do not have a magic wand...but I can offer some small support and discuss with another friend that might be able to help him. Solution is not to be drowned by the wave, but to swim harder in spite of the wave. Email - idagbaempowermentfoundation@gmail.com

Philanderboy:

This is a copied story.
Where are the mods??
It's a story from 2021.
https://nairaland.com/6448238/how-did-survive-divorce-uk?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597

Tats:


Who resurrected this same old thread of last year

https://www.nairaland.com/6448238/how-did-survive-divorce-uk

dazzlingd:


Most.of your threads are copy and paste and you k ow what's that's called in western world. It is called plagiarism.

Iya Australia, na only you don see outside Nigeria. I hope you continue with this theft till you land in serious trouble

InvertedHammer:


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UK/USA/Canada is very good for men who believe in polygamy. All he has to do is migrate with the wife to any one of these countries.
She will raise hell after a few years. The man can then go back home to marry an upgraded version. But he must be wise enough to "Achraf Hakimi" himself in all these plots.

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blowjohn:



Did Australia make u lose ur senses?
Why post something already posted by someone else to prove nothing?
My friend go and sit down.

mployer:


You women has no iota of sympathy in you.

You are wicked down to every fiber of your being, reason I don't loose guard when dealing with women. I always prepare for the worst and stay one step ahead in the game.

Hakimi remains a hero.

Pastoshizzy:
I actually expect lawyers to fall in here
..not people that don't have an iota of what a divorce proceedings entails, especially in the UK.
Nigerian married women in UK have been villified these days (the way they get to UK to become something else). I am well travelled but I thank my parents I'm able to retain my African heritage. My wife and I share the same values.

When will parents start to realize that the interest of their wards emotional and social well being may come back to haunt them later coz they are the future.
Parents (especially women) should be guided rather most are blinded by rash emotional/financial entitlement mindset they export to the 'white man' land using their laws ('white man' courts) to vindictively mare the future of their innocent children.

No difference can't be settled. Divorce is never a good option except in cases of physical abuse.

dazzlingd:
At this rate, men will stop getting married.

MrCuteking:
Same thing happened to my customer. He was in Canada. His Nigerian wife showed him shege so he had to retire back to Nigeria. Now he sells outdated wallpapers. I charge him less than the rest because he's yet to stand.

omoadeleye:
Omo, make he face his wahala squarely.

At least he was clamouring for japa when in Nigeria, and we thanked God that less liability to worry about, now you still want to choke us with his abroad issues


It's like issues were pre installed in some of y'all from birth. Y'all just lying that's the government that is doing yall.

dazzlingd:


No be today she start and seun is not looking into people copying and pasting other peoples work.
Next na to tell us say she dey Australia while the rest dey suffer for Nigeria. Which kind of dull mentality is that? People dey craze oo.

olabrinks:
Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

Almunjid:

Are u new to NL? There are no real stories on NL, all news/stories here are fabricated or copied from another source. Just tag along and have fun.
Nairaland aka "copy and paste land"