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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Poske95(m): 10:48pm On Jul 14, 2023
Marriage will.make you later see the woman you gave all those vows as your best bud and sister .....
Remember that they also make you so irritable that you always end up forgiving them no matter what they do.....!!!!!

Sex is the mind.....she may need you to self-service her and vice versa...but the good thing is no shame.....
It's a crazy ride.......crazy but real

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Crystalom35: 10:50pm On Jul 14, 2023
EriMma1:
Marriage na cage from the way I see married women. Whenever we go out with them and try to chill, you'll see them hurrying back home to meet up with school runs and chores. Haba! Me I'll just be laughing and enjoying myself till 8-9pmish before going home.

Sometimes marriage scares me.
it's called responsibility not cage.

Or you expect them to be irresponsible to their kids?

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Hassanmaye(m): 10:56pm On Jul 14, 2023
Manson1:
Things nobody may tell you about marriage:

1) At some point in marriage, love may fade, you will only need commitment to survive. Especially when your partner changes from the person you knew initially.

2) As a woman, enjoy your single life now because when you marry, you will let go of certain lifestyle and enjoyment because of kids and family responsibilities.

3) As a man, when you marry , you must let go of certain life for your family reputation and integrity.

4) Attraction Wanes. This is one of the things nobody tells you about marriage. Even if you marry the most beautiful woman or a handsome man, one fine day, the attraction is sure to wane.You may feel that your partner is no longer attractive or your partner may feel the same about you. But still, the marriage can survive when you fall inlove with your partner's soul, not just the body.

4) Your in-laws are not your friends. Relate with them with caution.

5) You can stay many months without séx because of responsibilities.

6) Marriage is work, you work to make it work.

7) You need to forgive because you will always be offended.

8.) Childbirth can change your physical look or cause damage to your body. A successful child delivery is a miracle

9) If you marry someone who feels he or she is too good for you, you will suffer. The person will always make you feel less, like you're privileged to marry him/her

10) If you're a career driven person, marry a supportive partner, Marry someone who is eager to aspire. If you marry unsupportive partner or someone who settles for status quo, you will suffer alot

Cc; Walshak Kos

Let's hear from the married folks cool
Thank you so much for creating this thread

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by MrPOTUS: 10:56pm On Jul 14, 2023
AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom


This is the best piece I've read.

Marriage na retirement scheme, a big scam, designed to favor women, especially those broke ones.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by richie240: 10:56pm On Jul 14, 2023
Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by simplesearch: 11:03pm On Jul 14, 2023
AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom


Very useless advice none should listen to or accept. In life You always get your complementary half, meaning you can't be deceitful, promiscuous, cunning, and expect to get the opposite by chance if such does exist. There are women who will choose never to get marry again after the death of their husband. There are also many who serves as breadwinner for their homes when the going became tough for the man without blowing a trumpet. If you get marry to an ex-hooker, bisexual, serial fornicator or even a leabian or a godless fellow and except to have a good and sincere partner; you're joikng.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by richie240: 11:03pm On Jul 14, 2023
Manson1:
Things nobody may tell you about marriage:

1) At some point in marriage, love may fade, you will only need commitment to survive. Especially when your partner changes from the person you knew initially.
The only constant thing is 'change'.
Any man dt thinks d girl will still be 200% 'always dressed for d occasion'/thin or d woman that think d man will always be waking her up with pizza/suya like they used to do during courtship is in for a rude shock

2) As a woman, enjoy your single life now because when you marry, you will let go of certain lifestyle and enjoyment because of kids and family responsibilities.
Yesooo, let her distribute the pucci to every Tom dick and Musa, and bring me d left over when menopause is knocking. Sebi na me be mugu wey nor sabi marry virgin abi?
cool

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by vickydevoka(m): 11:05pm On Jul 14, 2023
AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom
So you also think the same for your parents. My mama lazy, she self know. Na my papa be number 1

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by EriMma1: 11:07pm On Jul 14, 2023
Crystalom35:
it's called responsibility not cage.

Or you expect them to be irresponsible to their kids?

That's what I'm saying now. Responsibly caged grin

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Kazeem47(m): 11:09pm On Jul 14, 2023
OBTOREPA:
Thanks, I'm not fully married yet.
So you are into part-time marriage right?

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by richie240: 11:12pm On Jul 14, 2023
Who send them message?
Majority of men wey dey marry na bcus of sex and also bcus that's what everybody their age is doing, ie they've reached the 'marriageable age'.

If many men weigh the pros and cons, they'll see that d thing na scam.

Apart from having children, many men (if they think deeply) will realise say there's no other special benefit to it.
cool

Merch:
Just know that married men are going through a lot

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Nobody: 11:15pm On Jul 14, 2023
Manson1:
Things nobody may tell you about marriage:

1) At some point in marriage, love may fade, you will only need commitment to survive. Especially when your partner changes from the person you knew initially.

2) As a woman, enjoy your single life now because when you marry, you will let go of certain lifestyle and enjoyment because of kids and family responsibilities.

3) As a man, when you marry , you must let go of certain life for your family reputation and integrity.

4) Attraction Wanes. This is one of the things nobody tells you about marriage. Even if you marry the most beautiful woman or a handsome man, one fine day, the attraction is sure to wane.You may feel that your partner is no longer attractive or your partner may feel the same about you. But still, the marriage can survive when you fall inlove with your partner's soul, not just the body.

4) Your in-laws are not your friends. Relate with them with caution.

5) You can stay many months without séx because of responsibilities.

6) Marriage is work, you work to make it work.

7) You need to forgive because you will always be offended.

8.) Childbirth can change your physical look or cause damage to your body. A successful child delivery is a miracle

9) If you marry someone who feels he or she is too good for you, you will suffer. The person will always make you feel less, like you're privileged to marry him/her

10) If you're a career driven person, marry a supportive partner, Marry someone who is eager to aspire. If you marry unsupportive partner or someone who settles for status quo, you will suffer alot

Cc; Walshak Kos

Let's hear from the married folks cool
Number 5 is the shocking part. Most people don’t know this. When you get married, you’d realize sex is overrated. 😁

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by AZControversial(m): 11:28pm On Jul 14, 2023
Zyxsc:
1. For a man, it's just a bills-paying institution. You go pay bills sotey you go forget wetin carry you enter the marriage in the first place

2. Enjoy your bachelorhood Wella before going into it. 40 is not too late for a man to get married.

3. You can't prove you're mentally strong until you're married because na then you go know what it takes to retrain an adult child like your wife. She go do some kain things wey be say, e fit make you go crazy.

4. If you can avoid it, please do. It's not worth it. Once you're married, you'll loose a part of your freedom. You can only regain it at the detriment of your home.

5. Don't go into marriage because of children. They may grow up and not make you happy by going against your wish (of course, they have their own lives to live. You've lived yours). Don't go into marriage because you love your girlfriend. Na this one go clear your eyes pass. Go into marriage because you want a life-long friend. Even at that, it's still a gamble. E fit shock you 10 years down the line.

Divine!!!

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by fortunechy(m): 11:28pm On Jul 14, 2023
No 5 is so wrong. Responsibilit(ies) won't make u not to have sex for months until u can't perform... If responsibility or responsibilities will make u not to have sex then the poor and the less privileged won't give birth at all..

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by AlphaHakimi: 11:34pm On Jul 14, 2023
vickydevoka:

So you also think the same for your parents. My mama lazy, she self know. Na my papa be number 1

I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by harmony940(m): 11:38pm On Jul 14, 2023
Wow! Very interesting.
Thanks for this piece.

I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by vickydevoka(m): 11:40pm On Jul 14, 2023
AlphaHakimi:


I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

I no de joke with my own papa. Me n my papa na cat n dog when I de grow up bcus I stubborn, buh deep down I know he loves me and wants my progress.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by occfx: 11:41pm On Jul 14, 2023
Nobody told us we need to have a family buisness before kids start coming. Every family should endeavor to have a family business

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by MS247: 11:48pm On Jul 14, 2023
shocked


Make una dey calm down abeg...

This whole information dey very hard to process at once for a man still single


.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by bonnyhope: 11:49pm On Jul 14, 2023
Merch:
Just know that married men are going through a lot

Na only men?

Wot abt women?
Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by AlphaHakimi: 11:52pm On Jul 14, 2023
simplesearch:



Very useless advice none should listen to or accept. In life You always get your complementary half, meaning you can't be deceitful, promiscuous, cunning, and expect to get the opposite by chance if such does exist. There are women who will choose never to get marry again after the death of their husband. There are also many who serves as breadwinner for their homes when the going became tough for the man without blowing a trumpet. If you get marry to an ex-hooker, bisexual, serial fornicator or even a leabian or a godless fellow and except to have a good and sincere partner; you're joikng.



You are trying to sound politically correct so that the ladies on this forum will term you "Mature man or Real Man".

My message is not geared at hating women. It is rather to open your mind to understand the nature of women and how they reason.

You see, the world is a place where the fittest survive. If you are not fit, you wount survive. Fitness in today's world is not by physical strength just like it was in the old. Fitness is your ability to scale through life's problem.

Women are weak. Left to their own strength and reasoning the world would never have developed. So they understand that to live and survive against the predators of life, they have to manipulate the people (men) who hold the real power to do their bidding. Now they know that the male ego is our downfall, so they try to either pet your ego or destroy your ego as the case may be.

Here is how the male ego affects you as a man
-Baby I want you to last in bed for 5hours.
-You are not strong
-You are not a real man or a mature man.
- You are broke

No man wants to last for 5hrs in bed. Infact men just want to climb, cum and dismount. All we want during sex is just that 15secs orgasm.

When a girl says you are not strong, she wants you to do something she is physically incapable of doing.

You are not a real man or mature man means she wants something that is emotionally okay but reasonably not okay. Women work with emotions.

You are broke means that even though she knows she is broke and that she comes from a broke home, she still wants you to spend the money her entire family are incapable of spending.

A man can get married to a woman and for 40years of marriage she was a full time house wife. A woman cannot feed you for a month without grumbling.

Now, the relationship you have with a woman determines how she will treat you.

YOUR MOTHER IS A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOU AND SHE IS ALSO A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOUR FATHER. THIS IS WHY SHE TREATS YOU DIFFERENTLY AND TREATS YOUR FATHER DIFFERENTLY.

MY WRITE UP IS FOR THE OTHER WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE APART FROM YOUR MOTHER OR SISTERS. REMEBER, TO YOUR MALE INLAWS, YOUR SISTERS ARE THE SAME THING YOUR WIFE IS TO YOU.

Shalom

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by sukkot: 11:54pm On Jul 14, 2023
Zyxsc:
1. For a man, it's just a bills-paying institution. You go pay bills sotey you go forget wetin carry you enter the marriage in the first place

2. Enjoy your bachelorhood Wella before going into it. 40 is not too late for a man to get married.

3. You can't prove you're mentally strong until you're married because na then you go know what it takes to retrain an adult child like your wife. She go do some kain things wey be say, e fit make you go crazy.

4. If you can avoid it, please do. It's not worth it. Once you're married, you'll loose a part of your freedom. You can only regain it at the detriment of your home.

5. Don't go into marriage because of children. They may grow up and not make you happy by going against your wish (of course, they have their own lives to live. You've lived yours). Don't go into marriage because you love your girlfriend. Na this one go clear your eyes pass. Go into marriage because you want a life-long friend. Even at that, it's still a gamble. E fit shock you 10 years down the line.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Dizzyyish: 11:57pm On Jul 14, 2023
Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by sukkot: 12:13am On Jul 15, 2023
AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by Ezyp(m): 12:54am On Jul 15, 2023
Zyxsc:
1. For a man, it's just a bills-paying institution. You go pay bills sotey you go forget wetin carry you enter the marriage in the first place

2. Enjoy your bachelorhood Wella before going into it. 40 is not too late for a man to get married.

3. You can't prove you're mentally strong until you're married because na then you go know what it takes to retrain an adult child like your wife. She go do some kain things wey be say, e fit make you go crazy.

4. If you can avoid it, please do. It's not worth it. Once you're married, you'll loose a part of your freedom. You can only regain it at the detriment of your home.

5. Don't go into marriage because of children. They may grow up and not make you happy by going against your wish (of course, they have their own lives to live. You've lived yours). Don't go into marriage because you love your girlfriend. Na this one go clear your eyes pass. Go into marriage because you want a life-long friend. Even at that, it's still a gamble. E fit shock you 10 years down the line.

Funny how number 3 is 10000000% true.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by egojeny1(f): 1:01am On Jul 15, 2023
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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by egojeny1(f): 1:05am On Jul 15, 2023
Manson1:
Things nobody may tell you about marriage:

1) At some point in marriage, love may fade, you will only need commitment to survive. Especially when your partner changes from the person you knew initially.

2) As a woman, enjoy your single life now because when you marry, you will let go of certain lifestyle and enjoyment because of kids and family responsibilities.

3) As a man, when you marry , you must let go of certain life for your family reputation and integrity.

4) Attraction Wanes. This is one of the things nobody tells you about marriage. Even if you marry the most beautiful woman or a handsome man, one fine day, the attraction is sure to wane.You may feel that your partner is no longer attractive or your partner may feel the same about you. But still, the marriage can survive when you fall inlove with your partner's soul, not just the body.

4) Your in-laws are not your friends. Relate with them with caution.

5) You can stay many months without séx because of responsibilities.

6) Marriage is work, you work to make it work.

7) You need to forgive because you will always be offended.

8.) Childbirth can change your physical look or cause damage to your body. A successful child delivery is a miracle

9) If you marry someone who feels he or she is too good for you, you will suffer. The person will always make you feel less, like you're privileged to marry him/her

10) If you're a career driven person, marry a supportive partner, Marry someone who is eager to aspire. If you marry unsupportive partner or someone who settles for status quo, you will suffer alot

Cc; Walshak Kos

Let's hear from the married folks cool
No 4 so so true

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by obaidan: 1:34am On Jul 15, 2023
Zonefree:
Marriage is overrated!

I won't say marriage is overrated..I will just say what a lot of people are in is not marriage..a lot are just cohabiting..but because they have court certificate, they think they are married.... for people that are truly married, it is not overrated...

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by PECON1(m): 1:35am On Jul 15, 2023
abobote:
You will never know the true colour of a woman while dating.

The period my wife refused to serve me food for one good week, even when I'm the only one providing for the family financial. That's when I knew that some women we call wives are mean
Are u serious,am afraid. If not for children,I hate marriage,am very serious. I don't see the reason why I will overwork myself to feed an Adult and at the end die. The Adult will start sleeping around or even poison me if she choose to or cheat on me😣

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by phemmyfour: 1:37am On Jul 15, 2023
Manson1:
Things nobody may tell you about marriage:

1) At some point in marriage, love may fade, you will only need commitment to survive. Especially when your partner changes from the person you knew initially.

2) As a woman, enjoy your single life now because when you marry, you will let go of certain lifestyle and enjoyment because of kids and family responsibilities.

3) As a man, when you marry , you must let go of certain life for your family reputation and integrity.

4) Attraction Wanes. This is one of the things nobody tells you about marriage. Even if you marry the most beautiful woman or a handsome man, one fine day, the attraction is sure to wane.You may feel that your partner is no longer attractive or your partner may feel the same about you. But still, the marriage can survive when you fall inlove with your partner's soul, not just the body.

4) Your in-laws are not your friends. Relate with them with caution.

5) You can stay many months without séx because of responsibilities.

6) Marriage is work, you work to make it work.

7) You need to forgive because you will always be offended.

8.) Childbirth can change your physical look or cause damage to your body. A successful child delivery is a miracle

9) If you marry someone who feels he or she is too good for you, you will suffer. The person will always make you feel less, like you're privileged to marry him/her

10) If you're a career driven person, marry a supportive partner, Marry someone who is eager to aspire. If you marry unsupportive partner or someone who settles for status quo, you will suffer alot

Cc; Walshak Kos

Let's hear from the married folks cool
As a man , if you married the first born of a struggling family .....be ready to acquire bills from her siblings and parents even before having your own kids.

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Re: For The Married Peeps What Are The Things Nobody Told You About Marriage? by onumadu: 1:44am On Jul 15, 2023
That keeping family secret is an essential/necessary skill in marriage.
The less others know about your marriage, the better for you.
The most successful families are the ones with the biggest secrets.
E get why.

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