Hi Nairalanders,I feel there is smthing wrong with me cos my fwends already confirmed it. When I get attracted to someone, we eventually start a relationship but wen he becomes overly nice,loving and caring, he begins to piss me off and next thing I avoid him till d relationship dies a natural, stone cold death! What should I do and don't tell me to see a psychologist cos I'm one of them!

Maybe you are destined to be a rev. Sister(nun).

@poster, I recommend you a book called "Stop Running from Love: 3 Steps to Overcoming Emotional Distancing & Fear of Intimacy"

Awesome stuff.    

since you know your problem getting solution lies in your hand, try to discipline your self to love

i tink i knw u @poster! Well, i dumped a chick who bhaved exactly as u some time ago! I dnt tolerate slackin at all!

All of una no serious o! I mean wot I'm saying.
@yorke,I asked for help and not insults o!
@rokiatu,I have read books and even encyclopedia,on-line books o,out-books,every book on relationships does not pass me by!
@iice, thank u very plenty and , ur advice was appreciated

Kayflexy1:

All of una no serious o! I mean wot I'm saying.
@yorke,I asked for help and not insults o!
@rokiatu,I have read books and even encyclopedia,on-line books o,out-books,every book on relationships does not pass me by!@iice, thank u very plenty and , your advice was appreciated

In that case, this advice is all you need. You know your problem very well, the solution lies in you.

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since you know your problem getting solution lies in your hand, try to discipline your self to love

yorke:

Maybe you are destined to be a rev. Sister(nun).

Wey d insult hia na. 2 work 4 God na insult 4 ur village?

If u do really break-up cos d other is nice and caring, then, for the love of aphrodite, u do need to see a psychologist. And if u one of 'em, u shld know what you have a complex: a variant of masochism. My, u nid help!

you havent met the one, the person whose gonna make you lose ur mind and be crazy in love. make you change your beliefs and see the world in a whole new way. also you gotta to let yourself go. i used to think emotions are for the weak then i met whats his face and its 2years later and i still think emotions are for the weak.

I agree with u,a lot of pple have told me dat!

@ poster i pray that you will not lost gold when you bussy seaching for stone

Learn tv LOVE.

Firstly you have to love yourself(I'm not saying you don't)just do so a lot more.
Then don't just date anyone that comes your way(nice or not)because you want to be in a relationship,look out for someone you are attracted to,someone who has your kinda interest and don't feel like you are looking or searching(it seems one never find when looking very hard) just open up your heart and accept love when it comes knocking.

hehehe,try to do so.okay

It's obvious u like ur boys bad n uncaring

You need a tough love,someone who doesn't give a fck about you,then you will know how it feels to be on the other side.

People don't always appreciate what they got,it not just you.

@poster, if u dnt knw aw to love then u aint a woman yet, i think u like someone who doesnt give a hook about u and u keep going insane over d person n its hurt u lol, dnt u get it? If he doesn't care then he doesn't love u. Girls like u re sturborn, inshort u like guys that would panel beat ur face n still kiss u. , solution to ur problem, u nid intimacy wit sum random guys then maybe later u wld knw aw to luv, cos if u dnt, i doubt u re a woman maybe a lesbo. But u feel sometin for ladies

Listen to lil wayne's hit song and u will learn. Babe to be serious the truth is that immature females like urself are hard wired to crave drama and a roller coaster of emotions both good and bad when in a relationship. Girls like u will either end up marrying convicted killers with the excuse that ur in love or grow old and wrinkled and finally widen up and settle for a well adjusted male. The choice is yours, Then again there is also the possibility that the men u date smother you too much as if they don't have lives of their own and that's unattractive so if that's the case I understand u. If not then see ur destiny choices above,

@ Op mayb u hav a history of being a commitment phobic and you need to work on it.

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