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Re: by Sagamite(m): 8:30pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
jennykadry: I am multi-talented, baby. chaircover: You know how we do it, when we do it. chaircover: One thing I have realised over my period on this Earth is that it is not really worth arguing with most women. Logic and objectivity flies out when it comes to discussing their behaviour in a relationship. They know the right thing, but they will frequently try and do what they want that gives them the most pleasure even if it is wrong or selfish. My planned approach to any issue with a woman in my life is that: - I will tell you what I have an issue with if it is serious. I will say it clearly and respectfully. - Let her respond. It is best she makes sense but my fingers are not crossed with women. I expect the me, me, me. - The respond is not relevant to me. I will see how you attitude changes in respect to the complaint/issue I raised. Actions speak louder than words and I know people can be defensive even though they understand the complaint. - If I see positive change, I will try and support the change with compliments, advice and patience (people don't change in a day) - If it does not change, depending on the significance of the issue, if it is low, we will go back to the begining of me telling you about the issue until we get hear again. - If it is of high significance, I will respond by not giving a hoot. This is where fire starts. It is better she calls fire-brigade and start dousing the fire and see whether we can go to that important discussions. - If she come with the attitude of "Whatever, I will show you, blah, blah, blah". Then I will show her I really could not give a hoot. I will look for my happiness elsewhere without a jot of regret. By the way, she is free to find hers too. - If she no like am, I will go to the market and get a rope. I will tie her the noose and offer it to her. If she does not take it, I will help her tie it to some reinforced structure and direct her on how to use it. Don't argue or debate with unreasonable women. Life is short, enjoy it. No man/woman not interested in making you happy is worth your time. I can understand why some men might just chin a woman. |
Re: by Nobody: 8:35pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
@Jenny and other female dam.n good drivers, Sorry to derail CCs thread but please Ladies can you tell me what areas of Lagos you drove through? With all the Danfos and Molues and OKADAs. Like I said it is like a scene from Dantes inferno. The constant blaring of horns. The hawkers-Ladies there in NO way you will drive through this madness without a scratch except you are driving abroad! |
Re: by Nobody: 8:35pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
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Re: by Nobody: 9:05pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
Lmao CC you wicked ooo, by force braking just to wake the poor man up . Iyana Iba was my route naaaa. I fellowship weekdays in one church diaaaa. The evening hold up around Volks will make you cry and yea I reverse a lot without looking at the mirrors @Richy I say I sabi drive, ki lo de? Leave me joooo, only a few times(ok all the time) have I DRIVEN without checking the oil and water coolant level in the car. I told my husband that I don't know why he bothers, shebi the car gets serviced every 6months, the coolant they put in there should be enough naaaa. @Topic Such a man will not see my unclothedness again. |
Re: by Nobody: 9:17pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
Ladies I once abandoned my car in one petrol station around Volkswagen after spending almost six hours in that hold up-it was complete bedlam,insanity and madness all rolled into one place with vehicles breaking down all over the place from overheating. Took an Okada home and surprisingly when I came back to pick the vehicle-it was still in one piece. Its crazy,but I love Lagos and even when I travel out I still find myself missing the madness. |
Re: by Sagamite(m): 9:25pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
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Re: by ronkebp(f): 9:29pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
Sagamite:And this is for the woman, you claim to 'love'. |
Re: by Nobody: 9:31pm On Nov 06, 2011 |
I also love riding on Okadas, goshhhhhhh I miss Lagos already. |
Re: by Sagaman: 12:02am On Nov 07, 2011 |
Stewpid, moroonic, foolish spambot. ronkebp: Have you thought of it from this angle? "This is the woman that claims to 'love' me and thinks she deserves my 'love'?" Sagamite: I hope you are not one those L'Oreal women ("Because I am worth it", who think everything about a relationship is about them? You think my 'love' is cheap for or free to people that abuse it? |
Re: by Nobody: 12:49am On Nov 07, 2011 |
^^^Sagamite go and marry. Every time you'd be doing superman on the net. Go jare. Hope you are not one of those grim faced naija men. |
Re: by Nobody: 1:01am On Nov 07, 2011 |
chaircover: Lol. That's funny. |
Re: by isleman(m): 10:12am On Nov 07, 2011 |
let me make a point clear here, women generally talk, its in their nature. Men are not gifted talkers. Women need to study the mood of their spouse and know when to chat him. Personally, i don't like chatting in public places, especially long or loud chats. I will talk as short as possible on any conversation. I use to have that problem with my aunt as she cant just stop talking (commenting) and most of her talks are "question asking talks", invariably i will be answering questions like am being interrogated by police so am always forming asleep or reading when am with her in a public place. Imagine if she were to be my wife, we will hardly get along. women just need to know men talk less and should know when to start a chat. men do more talks i their head. The man who came from a trip and couldn't say hi his wife and family is just something else, perhaps he had a bad day. He shouldn't transfer his aggression to his wife (if she is his wife). |
Re: by DOGIDOPE: 10:49am On Nov 07, 2011 |
its their business paddle your own canoe,moreover na people you go watch for airport? |
Re: by Cogent: 11:03am On Nov 07, 2011 |
Please lets not generalize, with things like men are not gifted talkers and women talk a lot. No matter how widespread a behaviour is among any gender, there are still exceptions so please. . . .and on the topic, Obviously the men will want to see things from the husbands' point of view and the women will want to see things from the wives' point of view, and since OP just saw the couples and didn't have any knowledge of the true situation, there is no point apportioning blame |
Re: by Cogent: 11:04am On Nov 07, 2011 |
Please lets not generalize, with things like men are not gifted talkers and women talk a lot. No matter how widespread a behaviour is among any gender, there are still exceptions so please. . . .and on the topic, Obviously the men will want to see things from the husbands' point of view and the women will want to see things from the wives' point of view, and since OP just saw the couples and didn't have any knowledge of the true situation, there is no point apportioning blame |
Re: by netotse(m): 11:04am On Nov 07, 2011 |
DOGI DOPE: I'm guilty of the bolded as well it's a hell of a lot of fun. . . @thread while I belong firmly to the not-talking-to-you-when-i'm-pissed school of thought or the one-word-answers school of thought, the part I fail to understand is why a man would let his wife and kids struggle with baggage (his or theirs all join). The dude should just take the luggage and continue not talking to her nii. . . that's part of being a (married)man, there are things they(emphasis on the they ) SHOULD/MUST do irregardless of how you feel at the moment. Being the bigger/stronger/whatever-you-want-to-call-it-person means that there are times you need to suck it up and do the right thing even if you've done the wrong thing in your head a million times over! There's nothing manly about letting your emotions make you come across as retarded IMNSHO |
Re: by Sagaman: 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
stillwater: They don't make them like they used to anymore. And I am not metrosexual, I am He-man, so I don't really like L'Oreal products. |
Re: by cold(m): 12:58pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
So for someone like me who's not into public display of affection,i'd be termed 'arrogant'.O ma se o! |
Re: by cold(m): 1:17pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
Btw,i'm recommending this new seatbelt design for enhanced road safety.Probably this could have averted the 34 car pile up along the M5 recently.
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Re: by maclatunji: 1:18pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
cold: No my brother, you would be termed "too arrogant to show love to your wife in public." Whilst I am not in support of being mushy in public, you should be able to sprinkle some show of affection to your wife in public once in a while- i know a guy(man) who is really good at this. |
Re: by cold(m): 1:20pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
^^Yeah I concur.A lil sprinkling of affection here & there is cool |
Re: by maclatunji: 1:23pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
Let us put it this way: if you cannot show love to your wife in public, whom are you going to show it to? |
Re: by logica(m): 3:08pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
DOGI DOPE:Best response so far. |
Re: by logica(m): 3:18pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
isleman:You mean, generally men are not given to idle talk or talk that yields no profit or serves no purpose. |
Re: by ronkebp(f): 3:22pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
maclatunji: They would show it to their girlfriends outside. |
Re: by ArQuAbOy(m): 3:25pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
maclatunji:i woonder |
Re: by blank(f): 4:22pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
What is d problem with the second scenario? That he did not kiss and cuddle d wife abi he collect steering? If my husband insists I drive na dat time he go see my red eye. Keep d kissing n cuddling for when we r at home. |
Re: by JeSoul(f): 6:27pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
Why would a husband & father merely stand to the side and watch as his wife and kids labor & slug around luggages? He probably does not think anything of it is my guess. Once I was slugging some heavy luggage from an apartment building to the car for a sick friend who was travelling. As I brought out luggage after luggage stacking into the car, there were 3 african men standing beside a car nearby just chatting and laughing and looking at me as I kept going in & out. On the 3rd luggage, a postal truck pulls up, the worker gets out to drop off the packages. As soon as he saw me he walks right over and offers to give me a hand with the bags and he helps me with the rest. I honestly think a lot of (obviously not all) men of african descent just do not think much about things like these . . . at least from what I've seen. |
Re: by SisiKill1: 6:36pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
chaircover: This post had me laughing so hard!! A couple of years ago, I wrote about Chilvalry and how it is so not part of the Naija man's dico!! It's kinda long oh, so bear with me. Sisikill: |
Re: by maclatunji: 6:48pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
ronkebp: Your wife is the real deal, not some fleeting distraction. So, if you cannot show her love once in a while in public you should check yourself! By the way @RonkeBP: doth ye speaketh from experience? @Sisi_Kill, reading your post just reminds me of some aburos (younger friends) I have. They are already taking-up d nasty habit of being haughty without being close to getting married. The thing is: you women too should stop rewarding guys who behave like jerks and then you start complaining when they start behaving like they always have. That is why I was close to agreement with dayokanu's first comment on this thread. |
Re: by Outstrip(f): 6:52pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
Reminds me of the first time that I went to Nigeria with the boys. On 2 or three occassions when I was stuggling with my double stroller and trying to balance purse 2 overly excited children and everything else in a very public place (once or twice at airports and the other at a bank) the only people that came to my aid were white men. IN NIGERIA. lol. At the bank the man even held my 10 month old son while I tried to fix the wheel of the stroller. I thanked him with a smile but wondered why nobody not even the women thought to assist. It is not a big deal people wrestle with strollers everyday but I know for a fact that if I were at the mall or anywhere else and I saw a woman with a stroller or kids on both arms I will hold the door for her to walk through and when my kids were still young enough to need a stroller I even came to expect it in a way. I am wondering what the guy at the airport was thinking when he got out of line to help me. Was he thinking don't these people standing around have any sense. Nigerian women were probably thinking "this one no fit push stroller sef" and the men were probably thinking "yeye woman wey no fit carry two toddlers at the same time" lol. |
Re: by SisiKill1: 6:53pm On Nov 07, 2011 |
maclatunji:You are right, some women are partly to blame for this behavior. Sadly some girls don't want to rock the boat before marriage, so they take crap hoping that when they get married. . .they will change the guy. Yeah, we all know how well that works. |
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