talina:

@ poster,  While I understand what youre trying to say, all the things you say a woman can spend on getting ready for a date can be much less. Like maybe simplify and do your own nails and facial. Wear a dress you already have and just be yourself Then, when youre on your date, when its time to pay, dont offer, just pull out your wallet and money as a matter of fact. Then theres no need for a thread in defense.

slimyem:

I find it offensive that men always think it's all about the money paid on the date. The costs are far more than that. When a man asks me on a date, he plans to wear the same shirt and trousers he probably wore last week. With the same shoes, run a comb through his hair, buys some petrol and he's ready for the date. With women, it's different. When a guy asks me out, regimes need to be followed. If it's a good week, a facial. Then my hair, a manicure and a pedicure. I have to think of a dress to wear,  If I don't have one, I have to buy one. And fashion in Lagos is an expensive hobby. There are shoes to consider and a purse big enough to hold my phone and lipstick. By the time I'm ready for that date or a night out, I've probably spent twice what he'll spend for the whole night. Who said girls never pay? That's a blatant lie from the pits of hell!!!

sliMYAM. sweeery u look skiiny and hungry. where the heck are you goin to get moiney to pay for a date (no oofeinsce)

Idowuogbo:

hehehe stingy boi , buy puff puff jo

Outstrip:

If a gentleman asks a lady out on a date it is rude for the woman to pay. He asked and he pays. Especially on a first date. If a man asks you out on a date and waits for you to pay then high tail it out of there. He is not a gentleman

agnesefe:

It’s really humorous to read and hear illogic like this. Now, extend the scenario and argument further and, pray tell how appearing presentable at events, interviews and other engagements, conduces to one bearing the cost of hosting and organizing them. To be adjudged lovely is entirely at anyone’s behest or call and, is weighed to exact a measure of appreciation or praise, both by self and the other party, with possible extensions in the tenure of interest beyond the moment.

No better convincing impression exists than being oneself and making bold admissions and gratitude for the roles we all play in the making and sustenance of associations.

eghost247:

can u show us tell us or explain to us how u reached this conclusion that men think its all about the money paid on a date, and why should u go through all this for a date?, why do u have to buy new clothes to go on a date.?people get married with jeans and sneakers so i find it ridiculous that u need to go through so much for a date

pendo89:

That is how it is but as a lady never ever assume esp on first dates. Have cash with you incase anything happens.
My principle is never go out broke. I like covering up risks to avoid embarrasment or danger.
Thing is,he knows I can pay for myself because the interest I have in him supercedes the value of the meal.
That means I took time to study him before accepting to go out on a date and therefore am okay with sharing costs.
Its a happy feeling cz hes a friend that I love.Thats how it should be. In most cases a guy that loves you enough to want to take you out will settle the cost.

slimyem:

i'm surprised at all this attacks and outbursts and i seriously wonder how many people here can properly comprehend and read btwn lines of three simple statements.
Apart from the fact that this is an attempt at humor,which y'all cant recognise anyways,naturally,If you get to ask anyone out on a date,you should be responsible for bearing the costs.
You guys should stop whining and crying out much you spend on women and whatever.as far as i'm concerned,no one's dipping hands into your pockets.
If you balls arent grown,then dont bother asking any girl out.simples!

divine2043:


If a guy is taking you out and paying your bills and you give him 'stuff' in return, that aint dating.

divine2043:

A good reason why ladies should go to school, work hard and have a more advanced mentality to 'dating'. As long as you are waiting to pounce on 'the money from the guy dating me', you would always present yourself as a greedy gold digger.

Dating is very different from 'paying for s3x'.

Many ladies see dating as : 'Guy, take me out, buy me stuff'.

If a guy is taking you out and paying your bills and you give him 'stuff' in return, that aint dating.

It’s really humorous to read and hear illogic like this. Now, extend the scenario and argument further and, pray tell how appearing presentable at events, interviews and other engagements, conduces to one bearing the cost of hosting and organizing them. To be adjudged lovely is entirely at anyone’s behest or call and, is weighed to exact a measure of appreciation or praise, both by self and the other party, with possible extensions in the tenure of interest beyond the moment.

No better convincing impression exists than being oneself and making bold admissions and gratitude for the roles we all play in the making and sustenance of associations.

divine2043:

Slimyem,

It is obvious, the kind of lady you are. No surprise what you are made of. My comments did not attack any one. Learn to be smart enough to make your opinions known without personal attacks.