freecocoa:

Madam pendo why did you steal my thoughts na?

De~Blunt:

does she work or earn money for herself? cos i don't think your friend is meeting up with her financial needs.

freecocoa:

Okay I for say o,cos I know you are far too responsible to indulge in theft.

webcam:

@poster this is what I hate most its make my system seize anytine a wman do that to me is nit the money the she add to the house stuff that matter to me but the trust which the wife has lost.I think this kind of woman kill, ask the your fruend to be involve in house stuff, its very annoyed stuff

pendo89:

Throwing out wife is not an option.He can square it out with her cz I am sure shes using the extra to do something for herself.
Why can't the hubby find out what that extra need is, then try to help her meet it instead of accusing her? maybe he denies her when she asks and she's found a better way of getting money out of him.
its funny to know that the hubby knows the price of each and every item bought. It simply means he doesnt trust her with money at all.

pendo89:

This is what I think.She has no income and has no extra money to buy herself stuff. forget the diapers and sugar, she needs to look good and pamper herself once in a while. She a married woman not a maid.
I like it when wives have their own source of income to supplement and take care of those small women's needs. This one here doesn't seem to have one and so if the hubby is not helping her out then what does he expect? Its a bad habit that makes me ask myself again is that justified? has she begged and was denied?
And if he refuses to sort her out then can she please get some work to do like the rest of the women?

Throwing out wife is not an option.He can square it out with her cz I am sure shes using the extra to do something for herself.
Why can't the hubby find out what that extra need is, then try to help her meet it instead of accusing her? maybe he denies her when she asks and she's found a better way of getting money out of him.
its funny to know that the hubby knows the price of each and every item bought. It simply means he doesnt trust her with money at all.

Now, she's been caught in the act. What next??

tellwisdom:

Now, she's been caught in the act. What next??

Jeez, it's just a little money here and there, she shouldn't face the eletric chair!

Besides, haven't your friend heard of rounding up sum? She mustn't be accurate to the decimal point.

Women (esp house wives) have to be very shrewd and save for themselves a little nest egg, no one knows tomorrow. How they go about it does not matter. Students do this to their parents, and wives do it to their husbands. Your friend should not get worked up over this issue. Men always know about this inflation, but i'm guessing it should amuse them

Shuttttttttttt the helllll up and dont irritate me, madam . Like i said earlier in my previous thread, most of you dont practice what you preach. . If actually men knows, why the hell is he going mad abt it?? #Any answer to that??

I hate to be in the hubbys/wife's shoes for real. I also hate it if I discover somebody has been milking me without my consent when I was only trying to help.
I address it point blank and ul never see my aid again.But this is a wife.I said the method she uses sucks even if shes got needs.
The way MBJ has described it makes one think shes a 'scam artist'.419 in the making.
Habits dont die. She has just learnt the art of perfecting it. Now why is the hubby not addressing it instead of saying he feels like throwing her out? she could be putting money in some savings account.(just thinking) They have a kid for christ's sake.
sad the husband will never trust her again.I pity them both but this can be salvaged through talk.

It doesnt really matter if she's a wife or not, but the fact still remains, she's not being faithful as a true wife , perhaps extorting his husband in a very funny and fraudulent way which is uncalled for . #Very very wrong, i must tell you.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
i can understand why your friend feels the way he does. his partner is deceitful and he must be feeling that EVERYTHING she says is/was a lie. what else has she been lying about? what more deceit is laying around to be discovered?

it doesnt matter if she has no income, it doesnt matter if she needs extra stuff for herself or not, and it surely DOESNT MATTER what she did with the extra money, the point here is about TRUST and HONESTY (which are basic foundations for any successful union). if his wife cannot tell him honestly what she needs and rather "scam him" with overpricing items then there is a SERIOUS problem in this union. also, if husband DONT want to give her extra cash for something else then wifey should adapt rather than scamming her husband with some dumb fraud.

marriage is about SHARING everything, no husband needs to be coming home after a hard day work, and then, become a detective in his own home to "find out" what his wife needs. there is definitely a serious lack of communication in this union.

my suggestion is to sit her down and give her a SOUND WARNING that if that was to repeat itself, drastic measures would have to be taken. there is NO reason to stay married to someone you dont trust, someone you dont understand, someone you cant relate to, someone who has no remorse in "stealing" from you. so, wifey should work damn hard to rebuild that trust, and if she cant then he should let her go her merry lying ways.

the fact that some women here feel that what she did is "remotely" RIGHT or UNDERSTANDABLE is amazing.
yes ooooo

weaseloo:

The truth is that most women do it. And it is totally wrong.
That is how we pass this miserable act to our children and the cycle continues. . .

Your friend should work with his wife down to the detail with this and tell her it is wrong for her to do such since they are both in the marriage as 1.
He should not take it as one big thing abeg. Ask other married women, they do it but wont admit it. Just like you when you were growing up and you had to ask your parents for pocket money. You would want to add your own extras so you can get spare money for other stuff you might need but not want to tell them. Na so.