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Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by babuji(f): 11:43am On Nov 24, 2011 |
Funny enough the difference which is quite small might just be a case of where the items were bought. From personal experience shops don't all have the same price when it comes to diapers or furmulas and at times the prices do change. Blaming the woman aint gonna solve the issue, they both should own up to their wrong and try to start again. Babbling about this to a friend is just too immature and shows he needs to grow up and be a man. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 11:45am On Nov 24, 2011 |
oyb: Thank you o jare . . . . If the woman had her own money, the man sef go even pilfer from her too. Nonsense and ingredient! |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 11:47am On Nov 24, 2011 |
jennykadry: when peeps dey tell guy bros ya wife dey look like supermodel tell me the guy head no go swell if madam is looking frumpy the guy eye go dey stray sharp sharp |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 11:51am On Nov 24, 2011 |
oyb: I Know of a man whose wife shoes are envied by all, His Friends Even told him that they told their wives to go and ASK this Mans Wife where She buys her Shoes from, so that they can go there too AND one would think Men don't have Eyes |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 11:54am On Nov 24, 2011 |
jennykadry: you go suprise. you will find that these fellows whose wives don't take care of themselves will be hitting on the hot wives of their friends i have seen it happen |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by blacklion(m): 11:54am On Nov 24, 2011 |
Abeg, stop trying to divert attention thru sista solidarity from the real issue which is gender parity in minor dishonesty If a man tells small lies about his movements or expenditure, you women are very quick to suspect him of infidelity. In fact, una no dey waste time to accuse. So tell me - if a woman tells small lies about prices of foodstuff or household goods, why should the hubby not be equally quick to suspect her of swindling him of larger amounts or at least potential/intention to do so? Its all about trust, baby What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Mutual suspicion |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 12:02pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
there's a word accountants/auditors use material is this thing material to you? eg - n5, n50, n100, n500 are cash amounts that are not material to me. if i lose them, no biggie if the woman is pinching serious amounts of money, then its an issue. just the same way your husband ogling women may be irritating, but certainly does not come close to actual adultery. all this blah blah blah about trust if the employers of 90% of these draconian inquisitors thought like this, them for sack the for theft longest time. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by blacklion(m): 12:02pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
Ujujoan: Nne, talk true, its not about weda the woman has her own money or not Both you plus including several of your own fellow women right here on this thread (including the career/professional women) have already confessed that as far as they are concerned, its a wife's privilege/right to loot/pilfer/inflate/extort petty sums of money from their hubby. Myself and several other guys have equally stated that most men already know that this is naija women's mentality and so its no biggie as long as the amount involved is petty. The bottomline (which most parties male and female) have agreed to is as follows - whether a naija woman is a fulltime housewife or a Wall Street investment banker, she has the innate belief that she is entitled to obtain or extract petty sums of money from her hubby as part of her God-given right or privilege in marriage. Na the koko be dat |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by blacklion(m): 12:09pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
oyb: I think we have all virtually agreed that as long as the amount of money pinched by a wife from her hubby is trivial, its really no biggie. The issue about trust is that since we are agreed that wives are allowed to pinch petty amounts of money from their hubbies, tell small lies about it and the hubbies should accept it as no biggie, then likewise hubbies should equally be allowed to tell small lies about their movements and expenditure and wives should equally accept it as no biggie. Agreed? |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 12:15pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
blacklion: I told you earlier, try not to be too close minded! If my husband lies about how many stick of ciggarette he smoked, I wont hang myself over it. But if he lies about vising that sister from church, I'll murder him! Likewise, if I lie about 500 buck, I dont expect him to complain, but if I lie about that date with the cute next door neighbour, I deserve to be mudered! |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 12:26pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
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Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 12:35pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
chaircover: Abi o . . Try loading N600 airtime in your phone. It will be gone before you say jack robinson! |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by blacklion(m): 12:45pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
OK O! Ujujoan and CC Abeg, help me with this one. A married man is making 500k/month net. He decides one weekend to host his crew at their local joint to watch Premiership. He picks the entire tab of 5k even though his buddies drank most of the beer. Is it okay if he comes home and tells missus that he only spent 1k, that it was only him and the next door neighbour at the joint and they only had a couple of beers? Is that acceptable behaviour from a married man? |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 12:53pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
blacklion: A husband (or a wife) shouldn't see the need to lie to his partner about money! If he spends and doesn't want to disclose the full amount, there should be a good reason. However, it'll be wrong to brand him a thief because of that. But like I've been saying since, I don't even consider what the poster's wife is doing a lie! Besides the scenario you gave is entirely different from what we are discussing here. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 1:11pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
@OP Your wife has already studied you. . .studied the grip hold you have on the finances. You think women are mumu? You are just in primary 1 while your wife has graduated from college in terms of understanding the dynamics of the kind of marriage you created. This is usually the cry of stingy or poor men. It shall be well, dear. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 1:18pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
you step away for a short time and they flip the script on this thread. @bro Blacklion, yes many of you guys have accepted that the amount is "nothing" but are you therefore saying that someone who sees this as a BIG DEAL is wrong?! each and everyone has the right to decide what is good (or bad) for their finances. the poster obviously has a beef with lying partners, whether a white lie or not. who are WE to say that he is wrong for having a NO LIE policy? it is all about TRUST. here is something for you to consider: we have great r/ships with our banks, but if you knew that they stole from you then you would be mad (even if they make you earn 10x that amount) because it's the PRINCIPAL that matters here. now can some of you ladies explain to me what "looking good" has got to do with ANYTHING? so far as we know, the OP never refused his lady anything, so if she needed items to make herself look desirable, the OP would have given her the money for it. duh! call him stingy/tightfisted or whatever but he knows how hard he sweated to earn this money and therefore HE has the right to control its flow. who want to put a thief in charge of finances?! look at the 9ja Gov to have a clue of what will happen. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 1:20pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
try an analogy that has to do with something personal if we found that madam was paying for her girlfriends weaves, we'd be pissed too eg would u be pissed if you found your husband spent 5k buying modern warfare 3, and told you he spent 2k buying it? |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 1:22pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY: dude, let me put this in a personal context downloading movies without paying for them is stealing sharing them is distributing stolen goods by inference . . . if you want to deal in extremes, then you are on a very slippery slope . . . |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by coogar: 1:27pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY: it's their money. chaircover: don't mind the overgrown babies!
maybe he was forced to marry the wife. other than that i don't see how any man will not be happy the wife is pinching is money. if my wife cannot pinch my money, whose money should she pinch? |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by iaabc(f): 1:40pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
It is very interesting to note that money issues contribute very much to the making or breaking of marriages. Funny enough while listening to the radio yesterday, this same money matter was what was being discussed. The question was would you vote for a joint account and would you want to know or demand to know how much your partner earns? All kinds of responses showed clearly that no one has an handle on these things. However, one caller said since he'd been married for 13 years, his wife handles all the finances in the home and he has had peace with the arrangement.Some others said lailai! I'm not saying its right or wrong, all I'm saying is everyone has their own views on this matter. All I know is your wife is your partner for life! Not someone you live with or someone who is just there sha. Many of us get it wrong here, husbands and wives alike. And until we change the way we think about our marriages, things like this will continue to happen. We should not even equate this with househelps, hanging with the boys or whatever. The critical issue here is that the husband IMO has a wrong basis for thinking the money is his own. The day he said I do, the end came to him owning himself. Wifey too, should not destroy the trust. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 2:27pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
coogar: who said the contrary?! @OYB i dont get you your analogy. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by coogar: 2:31pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY: you did. . . .
that should read "how hard they sweated to earn this money. . . . ." 2 became one the moment they read their vows in the church. my money is my wifey's money and vice versa. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 2:33pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
coogar: no no HE sweated for this money by going to work every damn day, he contributed to that account and decide to share it with his spouse (like any man should) but he has all the rights to want to CONTROL its flow. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 2:44pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY: this is what i'm getting at - by your definition, the wife is a thief because she pilfers small amounts of money from her husband - therfore, she cannot be rusted etc i consider this an extreme draconian mindset, and i am pointing out that in the past, you have posted links to pirated movies on nl. by your strict standards, this is distribution of stolen goods. ergo, you are untrustworthy etal and have no business commenting we have to avoid extremes when judging people |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 2:54pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahaha you do have a point but again, i have not lied to anyone nor did i deceived anyone or force anyone to accept my lifestyle in a deceitful way. if you look at my movie thread carefully, i do NOT steal movies nor distribute them, i simply give the link to my fellow NLers on WHERE TO WATCH IT FOR FREE. . . . . . . . .so each and everyone can decide if they want to indulge or not, focus on the word "EACH AND EVERYONE". this is a complete different issue of DECEIT, THIEVERY and complete LOSS OF TRUST! |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by blacklion(m): 2:55pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
Chief Brown Jay, No min all these wayo women, according to them, inflating prices when requesting money from your hubby is not lying because its only a small amount of money, I wonder if they will accept it as no biggie that if their hubby paid N1k for N400 worth of orange to that omo alata down the street with the perky b o o b s, after all, its just N600 difference that cannot even buy third grade tokunbo undies for omo alata at bend-down market, |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Busybody2(f): 4:10pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
I am so emotional right now, I could burst into tears right now, us Women have come such a long way, see Sisters doing it for themselves, see Sista solidarity extra-ordinaire, it gladdens my heart to see the emancipation of the Nigerian woman happening before my very two korokoro eyes, my eyes are so welled with tears dearest Baba God hope I don't choke on my own tears Chai, our dearest beloved men, you have to bear with us, this emancipation has been a long time coming so if it looks as if we are going about it the wrong way, it isn't, us Sisthrens are just like the proverbial Ramadan ram that usually reverses backward to gain momentum before it charges at its prey. . . Can't wait for the Sisthren solidarity to move to the next cause: Igbo men that beat their wives for not giving birth to boys and Yoruba men that go to impregnate another woman outside cos wifey at home could not give him a son and Hausa men and their paedophilic tendencies |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by dayokanu(m): 5:04pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
[size=18pt]So if your son or daughter inflates the prices of books, School fees and money spent on groceries its ok? Why cant the lazy woman get up and look for a job to pay for her own bills instead of stealing and she would have the guts to tell the children that stealing is bad. If stealing from your husband is permissible then children stealing from parents should be permissible too[/size] |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Claus(m): 5:23pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
Busy_body:Sisthren solidarity ke? More like wives solidarity and then mistresses solidarity and then runs girls solidarity. For all the above to combine into one sisthren solidarity movement, na big lie! Like I've said before, it'll save guys a lot of time if they just work on the basis that anything that's wrong in their relationshiop is their own fault. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by emmatok(m): 6:43pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
dayokanu: Bros You dey mind these women, If the Hubby did the-same thing, these women will call him BROKE ASS, lazy fool, gold digger bla, bla, bla. But it is normal for a woman to do it. |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by Nobody: 6:59pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
dayokanu: dk abegi they are adults and it is completely different what next - so because i stay up late my kids can too ; because u shak ur kids can too? etc etc |
Re: Wife Financial Insincerity by emmatok(m): 7:09pm On Nov 24, 2011 |
coogar: LOL, you really surprise me, So have you ever heard the word JURISDICTION? The most EU countries use the-same currency, technology e.t.c is their Marriage Laws the-same?NO. Meddle Eastern countries speak the-same Language, practice the-same religion.Is their Marriage Laws the-same? NO Marriage is a legal contract and your Western Laws don't go beyond their various countries. Imagine MAMA IYABO tying to evicting BABA IYABO because it is done that way in US. When their is no legal backing for it. In Nigeria the man keep all his asset after divorce . In US it is 50-50 (except their is a contrary legal agreement). So why judge Nigeria marriages by your WESTERN LAW. |
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