They dated for two years after school and everything was awesome then he decided he wanted to go abroad for his masters(that's what he told her) well he left and things still were okay till the end of his program abroad,he told her he won't be returning home as planned cos he wants to get a permanent residence permit and the likes(una know the 411 na)she finally gave in after realizing arguing won't change a thing since he already made up his mind,he assured her he loves her and would be back for her before she knows it,he made her promise him she'll wait for him bla bla bla,which she did,meanwhile she kept supporting him any way she could,money,prayers,calls,etc.

Now 2 years +,after his masters he's not yet back,she asks about their plans,he says its still in the pipeline and he would execute it soon and then tells her all those sweet nothings women like to hear,time kept going and the shocker came when one day, he told her the white woman he's living with, is pregnant with a female child,she cried and threatened to leave as that wasn't part of the original plan(he told her it was a contract marriage and that the woman would be paid,of which she contributed part of the money for the payment )but he pleaded and reminded her of her promise then assured her it won't change a thing but would only delay it.
6 months after she discovered the child on the way,he longer calls like before,he only calls at certain times and would not always pick her calls,she feels this happens whenever he's at home or with the white lady.
She's 27 and he is 31,she loves him and don't want to leave cos of the time,effort,money etc she has put into the relationship but she is worried, cos she doesn't know when he'll come back, if he will and so would love to know
1.Can\would this child complicate things?
2.Could he have lied about the marriage being on contract?
3.Should she keep trusting and believing in what he says?
4,Would she be a bad person if she leaves?considering she made a promise.
She doesn't ask anything from this guy as she works, rather she sends money to him once in a while cos he complains things are hard,she feels time is not her friend and men are asking for her hand in marriage.

Good people in the house,what would\do you advice she do? Your opinion is highly appreciative I mean appreciated,thanks a bunch.

PS.please after contributing,kindly go to the food section and vote FIREARM for food section poster of the year,remember a vote for him is A VOTE FOR A BETTER CHANGE.thanks as you comply and may God bless you all.

My 2 cent
It seem she's willing to take anything and i don't understand why
There should be a line that can't be croosed
So she's willing to still marry such a guy
Na wa for women ohhh

Abeg she should move on and stop wasting her time with such a man jare.
Abi is she not fyne ni

She better go for any of the other guys serious and stop waiting for obodo oyibo guy

He's not wasting her time

She is the one wasting her time,money and effort.

Don't compromise

She should delete his number and not pick his calls if she wants to move on with her life or not she would be 40yrs and saying the guy is a bad person but he's not she's the one that can't use her head.

So wat does she want the guy to do before she moves on.

He's married or paid or not but once baby enters it then agreement is finished which states he's enjoying oyibo so much that he can't use condom.

You're not the intended mrs anymore,u're now the mistress he's cheating with.

[color=][/color] U are being stupppid and played at d same time

food section first.
i think am hungry

This is why i always say if i have a boyfriend who decides to leave the country for more than 6 months without any plans for me to join him,i'd see him off to the airport and that'd be GOODBYE!
babe,how long are you willing to wait for this man?
are you really sure he's ever coming back?
are you sure he's not just playing along because of the money he's still getting from you?
honestly,i think you should start living your life here since the guy already has a life and family too.
forget the time,money and all expended on the relationship.they aint worth your hapiness,clean state of mind and health,and above all your emotional sanity.pls think it through and through.goodluck!!!

Chimezie198:

slimyem, y are u so mean?

do you know the dictionary meaning of mean?

190_@:

^Na witch she be

WIZARD,how far?

Trevor and co,shebi una don start?atleast let the thread reach ordinary one page before una derail an,abeg.

The dude has it all sorted; white puzzy in the house when he's away and black puzzy he doesn't have to pay a dime for when he's in 9ja.
Neat playing.

Freecoochie, so this is what u have been going tru all this while and u run ur mouth on here like say "all is well with u", Anyway @topic dump the brodas backside chikena, this is what we call "local!", the guy is doing u "local!"

Every single day you spend with the wrong one, becomes one more day wasted, one more day you will never get back. Think hard and take a befitting decision. You know the guy better than anyone here, and you should be able to know if you should stick with him or move on.

If I was the one, I'd pick myself up, brush off my shoulders and get back into the dating scene. . . .

@ Mr lesbian trust me if I turn 27 and unmarried,well let me reserve my comment.

1.Can\would this child complicate things?
2.Could he have lied about the marriage being on contract?
3.Should she keep trusting and believing in what he says?
4,Would she be a bad person if she leaves?considering she made a promise.
She doesn't ask anything from this guy as she works, rather she sends money to him once in a while cos he complains things are hard,she feels time is not her friend and men are asking for her hand in marriage.
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1. yes the child has already complicated things because even if the guy was really of the mind set of just getting his papers now he has a kid in a country where he is trying to settle in. The govt of that country will never let him rest if he tries any funny biz depending on what country it is

2. he could have lied about the contract marriage or he could have gone in thinking he would just get his papers and be out but the chick would probably want some loving which he would have to provide because he has to make her believe. Hence the child

3. No she shouldn't keep trusting and waiting. I mean he was part of the promise when he left right? now he has a baby and he made a promise too didn't he?

4. this is a dumb question. How is she a bad person if she leaves? for christ sakes the man is married to someone who just had a kid for him. isn't that reason enough to be out? the dude has to now hide to call her because his wife aint having that shit. Anyway it's her life to waste when she wakes up it might be too late

Defo cocoa dint post dis dem hack ur machine

Now a reply to d hacker,madam u are wot u are JONZING!!!!!!!!.He ignores ur call, has a baby on d way or a new arrival and u don't no his final destination u b d definition of MUGUN!!.Listen d guy don begin jaye foreign he no send ur obiageli again o, for hin mind u don reach ur use buy date aka u don expire(oti sha oti di panda).If u no wot is better for ur life u berra enter scene dey socialise bcus d little part of u wey never rust cud b gold to sum1else good luck.

Badosky talketh

Op,is this whot you did been passing through? Sorry,that dude is not sincere. Come unto me,the coast is clear. i promise you,both of us will write his name in the book of history

Na wa o,so if someone opens a thread,it automatically becomes the person's life history? Paddy you sef follow dey ask,you no know me pass like that? Abeg the topic title means nothing, concentrate on the he\she there and free cocoa alone,thanks y'all.

@cocoa dats y I answered d hacker not u na lol, change ur red eye jo

Chimezie198:

[b]Just be nice. Brb!
Errrrm freecocoa as old as thou at, u r still being stupppid and been playing and being played??

Foool,what do you know kwanu? Anumanu of the highest order.

If d guy neva told her beforehand abt d contract stuff, she shld as well expect oda shockers in future such as "its over". Let her pick up d scrap n move on with her life.

Freecokes i hope bronzetuke comes across dis ahahahah lol.
D dude de play olingo oversea tell d gal make she get a life. D moment a guy leaves for overseas n and starts givin xcuses ANODA BEE IS IN d HoNEY

Freecokes i hope bronzetuke comes across dis ahahahah lol.
D dude de play olingo oversea tell d gal make she get a life. D moment a guy leaves for overseas n and starts givin xcuses u no sey ANODA BEE IS IN d HoNEY

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