Mrs, Chima:

LMAO

You know some men can't work well with friction!

MarcAnthon:

Why are you ALWAYS ANGRY and RUDE

MarcAnthon:

Yeah at a point it gets boring what the 3ndy girl is at, but this girl here is always biting out at everyone. That gets boring too.

MarcAnthon:

^^^ there she goes again!

Ozichim:

Note this! this conversation is not very smooth and it is not peaceful.  These two statements from you are not very ok.
" ME: HONEY PLS COULD YOU HANDDLE IT?? "

" ME: WELL I'M OBVIOSLY BUSY, SO CAN'T U HELP ME? "
Again you could have asked/persuade the man to come eat even though he seem not to be hungry and is wicked just for you to be sure of something and have your peace.

The man action is not new to anybody. And it is not enough for anybody to take negative action on his relationship.
But if you are serious about this relationship you will have to help to make it work. It must take the cooperation of both parties to make any relationship successful.
As I said before, see if you can give some breathing space to the man and watch his action and your own feeling. If you feel happier staying away from the man for long then you are not meant to stay together (Marry). Giving the man some space will help him tell himself the truth concerning the relationship.
You will be happier to take any outcome on the relationship when you have confirmed the true situation of things; because by then you will be bold and sure.

PLs. be sure that your attitude doesn't seem to be challenging the man. Men don't like to be challenged even by a fellow man let alone a lady.
Also, note that; that you are more educated does not necessarily mean that you are wiser or more enlightened in all things than the man.
Make out enough time to discourse with the man about your relationship and demand for a better/healthier relationship. At times there is a time to talk and talking can help.

Remember you will not get any perfect man, and you should also know that you are not perfect.

If the man is serious about the relationship, He will come back asking for your help when you try to stay away from him a little bit. I don't mean you should run to another man, you can decide to be staying with your parents or brother, let him know your movement. Remember you are at advantage because you are the one trying to confirm his true character and heart concerning you. Also, make sure the man is not looking for you because he is been sex starved.

If the man can be your husband he will come crawling to bring you closer to himself. In fact he will panic for your absent.
In all this be sure that you really want to keep the relationship.
Let it not be that you are watching another man while keeping this one in case it didn’t work just as so many ladies do.

Believe me more than 70% of men and women have in one time or the other slap their partner out of provocation. You will be surprise to discover that many women beat/slap their husband first (out of provocation ) even when they know that their husband can kill them with just one hand but then the man in many cases will end up not beating them back.

So, please if you confirm that the man is really serious to live with you (to be your husband); do not use it against the man; co-operate very well to make to relationship work if you are interested.

affigurl5:

Not at all, i wont marry a submissive man no matter how rich he might be. a submissive man can't make decision, my man shld be able to make decision and also be in control,

Lord_Reed:

@Topic
Submissive man is an unfortunate pairing. Leaders(which is what men are meant to be take it or leave it) may have different styles but submission is not one of them. The only submission required of a man is to God. BTW submission and humility are two different things so to seek for a submissive man while you really intended to go for a humble man is to miss the mark.

A woman who seeks a submissive man is up to no good because she wants a man she can manipulate at any time for her own ends.

@inky
I love the passion in your reply to 3ndy, if only it was transferable - 3ndy needs a lil spine.

@eatme
Somehow I sense envy.

Mrs, Chima:

For those who are atheists and non-believers will have an issue with your write-up.  There are non-religious couples who are in successful marriages.  Successful marriage is contingent to those in personal and individualistic marriages. 

Each marriage has its own rules and practices.  What works for you may not work for the next couple. 

3ndy:

THANKS EVERYONE,
SORRY FOR BOTHERING/BORING YOU
BUT THIS IS THE ONLY PLACE  I CAN FEEL A LITTLE FRESH AIR
I ADMIT NOT TO BE VERY WISE IN THIS ISSUE,  SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME,
I'VE SURRENDERED,  I GAVE HIM THE SPACE HE NEEDED,
I'M HEART BROKEN BUT AT LEAST I'M SCATHELESS,  THANKS TO YOU ALL,  REALLY WILL NEVER BE GRATFULL ENOUGH,
I DON'T KNOW HOW I BECAME LIKE THIS I ONCE WAS TOUGH AND THOUGHT NOTHING LIKE THIS WOULD NEVER HAPPEN TO ME!!
ANYWAY,  NOW IT'S OVER,
BY THE WAY,  I DON'T LEAVE WITH HIM BUT IN THE SAME CONDO
                     I NEVER HAVE TAKEN ANYTHING FROM HIM,  NOT EVEN A CENT
                     ALWAYS HAVE RESPECTED HIM AND TRIED TO BE TOLLERANT
BUT NOTHING WORKED SO I TOLD HIM I KNOW HE'S TIRED OF ME (THANKS TO SOME POSTS READ ONLINE) AND TOLD HIM IT WAS OVER,
REACTION,  SILENCE,
I'D JUST LOGG OFF FOR A WHILE,  SORRY PALS,

Lord_Reed:

@ThiefofHearts
Sorry to disappoint you.

@Mrs.C
Here comes the logic. Men and Women are different and have different roles. A submissive man (which implies both attitude and action) is a negation of his role as Husband and Leader. I am not saying he is to be bull headed and not listen to the wife but here is the difference between a submissive man and a humble man. A humble man realises that he is endowed with power to provide and protect so he bends it all to serve his wife and children while a submissive man thinks he has no power and acts like it.

@Inky
You are excused.

Elaborating further on the difference between Men and Women. Women natural fit the submissive role because they build mostly for defense while men are build for offense. I just saw a video of a young mother (real life story) who killed an intruder who had broken into her home, her reason - she had a lil baby. Motherly instincts are the best defensive instincts in the world both in man and animal. The female is supposed to protect the nest while the male goes a-hunting.

Before you go telling me about today's world lemme ask you this: when a baby is born who does the bosom feeding?

ThiefOfHearts:

notice how that woman defended the baby on her own. without Mr leader around. If a woman would listen to you, she should have waited for a policeMAN to save her.

Mrs, Chima:

So why would a man wants a submissive woman who has no power and acts like she does?  So in order for men to feel like they are in control they seek a powerless woman who knows nothing and incapable of doing nothing.  That's an insult to "powerful" men.  Men should be able to achieve any challenges that comes their way and not NaughtyWoman about being self defeatist.  (not saying you per se)

Lord_Reed:

@Inky
On the issue of a woman being up to no good, I stand to be corrected but a woman only seeks a man she can brow beat because she has ulterior motives. A man's place is at the front of his family taking bold strides for a woman to seek a negation of this speaks volumes about her motives very clearly.