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I Cheated On My Husband, I Feel Guilty; Can I Confess To Him?

Idk what you should do ooo. . . . . . . I seriously do not know!

Well, Hmm Idk what to tell you. I mean try and work on your sex life though. Whatever your ex did to rock the boat tell your husband to do the same. Maybe it will do the trick. Who knows?

Queenisha:

jenny I don't think you can count her losing her virginity as similar to what Hannibal is saying.
It's not particularly an enjoyable act to most women.

osisi d fact dat she lost her virginity does not mean it happened just dat once did it? except there is another definition of premarital sex,

osisi its obvious they were doing it,dont tell me d man just disvirgined her and never touched her again?

Ohhhhh, so they had SEX just once before marriage?? What an effort??

I am talking about a dozen trials before wedding not just a scrappy and painful kizzack.
Sexual compatibility is a must otherwise i am going to me in-laws for a refund.
I won't be happy with a faulty commodity.  So either they replace or they refund me in CASH.

Hannibal:

Ohhhhh, so they had SEX just once before marriage?? What an effort??

I am talking about a dozen trials before wedding not just a scrappy and painful kizzack.
Sexual compatibility is a must otherwise i am going to me in-laws for a refund.
I won't be happy with a faulty commodity.   So either they replace or they refund me in CASH.

Idot!
you no well

rampant:

osisi d fact that she lost her virginity does not mean it happened just that once did it? except there is another definition of premarital sex,

osisi its obvious they were doing it,don't tell me d man just disvirgined her and never touched her again?

Who knows.
Afterall he's getting it somewhere else
didn't you read the fire brigade she called down after the act.
If you were the man will you attempt it again?

He did apologise though and even though i tried to stop the wedding he begged me and made the whole world beg me i was no longer interested but it was too late.

Hannibal:

Ohhhhh, so they had SEX just once before marriage?? What an effort??

I am talking about a dozen trials before wedding not just a scrappy and painful kizzack.
Sexual compatibility is a must otherwise i am going to me in-laws for a refund.
I won't be happy with a faulty commodity.  So either they replace or they refund me in CASH.

The whole sexual compatibility thing is just an excuse to lay with someone outside of marriage. I think any couple can be compatible as long as both parties involved are willing to put some work into it.

Orimili:

The whole sexual compatibility thing is just an excuse to lay with someone outside of marriage. I think any couple can be compatible as long as both parties involved are willing to put some work into it.

Word!

As though those who did, did and redid before marriage don't go outside?

Orimili:

The whole sexual compatibility thing is just an excuse to lay with someone outside of marriage. I think any couple can be compatible as long as both parties involved are willing to put some work into it.

You'd be surprised oo.

Queenisha:

Who knows.
Afterall he's getting it somewhere else
didn't you read the fire brigade she called down after the act.
If you were the man will you attempt it again?

osisi abeg forget matter,d man disvirgined her and it was after a year  they  started having problems

its not as if d man disvirgined her wen the problem all started

chika98:

You'd be surprised oo.

Then they're obviously not working hard enough.

Orimili:

The whole sexual compatibility thing is just an excuse to lay with someone outside of marriage. I think any couple can be compatible as long as both parties involved are willing to put some work into it.

not always true,once two pple aint compatible no matter how hard they try,it will only take a couple of years before everything crumbles

Sexual compatibility shouldn't be about work. Either it is there or it ain't there. Period!

Orimili:

The whole sexual compatibility thing is just an excuse to lay with someone outside of marriage. I think any couple can be compatible as long as both parties involved are willing to put some work into it.

I disagree with u.

Sexual compatibility is hinged on various factors. . . .
It's the same as seeing a total stranger and liking/disliking him. . . .U cannot control such chemistry.
There are some people u see and u just don't like the look of em.
What work am i supposed to put into a woman that won't enjoy SEX with me. . . . .ask her to pretend or what??

Hannibal:

I disagree with u.

Sexual compatibility is hinged on various factors. . . .
It's the same as seeing a total stranger and liking/disliking him. . . .You cannot control such chemistry.
There are some people u see and u just don't like the look of em.
What work am i supposed to put into a woman that won't enjoy SEX with me. . . . .ask her to pretend or what??

hannibal,everything get school nowadays.
There must be a school of sexual compatibility where they can learn skills and tools to help them

Queenisha:

hannibal,everything get school nowadays.
There must be a school of sexual compatibility where they can learn skills and tools to help them

osisi no matter how person go school ,e no fit pretend to be wetin e no wan be

its like someone wey never even study science for one day,them just force am to go study medicine,no matter how much effort that is put into it the person can't make it

u can't make me pretend to enjoy sthg that i don't,pretence is like being in darkness and one day u must come out to face light,and that is d real u

Queenisha:

hannibal,everything get school nowadays.
There must be a school of sexual compatibility where they can learn skills and tools to help them

School of sexual compatibilty?? I won't mind to attend such schools.
Where can i get a FULL SCHOLARSHIP for such schools??

chika98:

Sexual compatibility shouldn't be about work. Either it is there or it ain't there. Period!

That's exactly why most relationships fail in some way. People in such relationships expect everything to come easy to them. As much as two people are alike and share the same tastes, the reality is that both people are still completely different. You cannot simply know what the other likes and dislikes in the bedroom, therefore, it is not a question of whether compatibility is there or not. In a marriage, two individuals become one, and as with any process in the universe, it requires energy, some form of effort for such a union to happen. Relationships tend to fail because they expect things to be easy, and therefore, don't put in the effort required for the relationship to work. When the relationship doesn't work, they blame it on the other person and try to look outside the relationship for someone else, thinking it will be easier for a relationship with them to work. Surprise, surprise, that doesn't work either, and it becomes a cycle. I have not seen one marriage where people go outside and "find" a "more compatible" mate. This westernized/Disney/MTV idea that people have for relationships need to stop.

Orimili:

That's exactly why most relationships fail in some way. People in such relationships expect everything to come easy to them. As much as two people are alike and share the same tastes, the reality is that both people are still completely different. You cannot simply know what the other likes and dislikes in the bedroom, therefore, it is not a question of whether compatibility is there or not. In a marriage, two individuals become one, and as with any process in the universe, it requires energy, some form of effort for such a union to happen. Relationships tend to fail because they expect things to be easy, and therefore, don't put in the effort required for the relationship to work. When the relationship doesn't work, they blame it on the other person and try to look outside the relationship for someone else, thinking it will be easier for a relationship with them to work. Surprise, surprise, that doesn't work either, and it becomes a cycle. I have not seen one marriage where people go outside and "find" a "more compatible" mate. This westernized/Disney/MTV idea that people have for relationships need to stop.

yeah it takes patience ,understanding,compatibility,enduranceand trust for a marriage to work out

But it does not take pretence to make that powerful word called marriage work,it will only bring it down ,wen it has exhausted itself

Orimill

Why should she 'confess" when her husband hasnt done the same?

thats why its always good to know if you are sexually compatible with your girlfriend or boyfriend b4 u marry

KarmaMod:

Orimill

Why should she 'confess" when her husband hasnt done the same?

that's not exactly a good excuse to
she can confront him about the voicemail.

The voicemail the slowpoke probably deleted

She sef I agree she should have confronted him the first time she heard it. However one can not turn back time.

Until he confesses I dont think she should say a word HOWEVER they should see a marriage counselor and see how they can fix things and if it's unfixable well then they'll have to consider separation

The OP doesnt have kids right?

sayhi2ay:

thats why its always good to know if you are sexually compatible with your girlfriend or boyfriend before u marry

Please tell them. . . . . .

I am allergic to all sorta putrescent odours
How does one get sexually compatible with a chic with natural BO, MO and PO??
What am i supposed to work with?? Put aerosol spray up her cooch or what??

KarmaMod:

Orimill

Why should she 'confess" when her husband hasnt done the same?

I think that confessing will at least clear her conscience. Ideally, it would also shame her husband into also confessing, as he knows that he hasn't been honest either. Also, there are the voicemail messages. . .

if sexual satisfaction is important to her, then this marriage should be over.  no questions asked.  i wonder if she has kids though.

Orimili:

I think that confessing will at least clear her conscience. Ideally, it would also shame her husband into also confessing, as he knows that he hasn't been honest either. Also, there are the voicemail messages. . .

in a perfect scenario. if he's a coldhearted cheat he won't feel the least bit remorseful about what he's done.

Hannibal:

Please tell them. . . . . .

I am allergic to all sorta putrescent odours
How does one get sexually compatible with a chic with natural BO, MO and PO??
What am i supposed to work with?? Put aerosol spray up her cooch or what??

Lol! Get em deodorant. works wonders

sexual satisfaction SHOULD be important to every couple

Orimili:

I think that confessing will at least clear her conscience. Ideally, it would also shame her husband into also confessing, as he knows that he hasn't been honest either. .

Why should she be the first one to confess first? Keeo in mind he accused her of cheating before they got married. I assume you know what they say of people who throw around false accusation? THEY are usually the ones GUILTY of something so I would NOT be surprised if he's been cheating on her way before they even got married.

She doesnt owe him a confession. She didnt even wanna marry his deceitful ass in the first place.

chika98:

Lol! Get em deodorant. works wonders

Some BO are so legendary they will overpower any deodorant.
They ooze out of the sweat pores with a reckless abandon.

chika98:

Lol! Get em deodorant. works wonders

deodorant for PO?      Abeg wey dem sell am make i charter am dey sell for naija.

lol. Y'all are harsh! BO is so not sexy at all. A huge turn off man.

HCH3COO:

if sexual satisfaction is important to her, then this marriage should be over.  no questions asked.  i wonder if she has kids though.

in a perfect scenario.  if he's a coldhearted cheat he won't feel the least bit remorseful about what he's done.

That's why I said ideally. It probably won't work that way, but at least she will know that she did right by telling him. You don't want a secret like that on your heart when you die.

KarmaMod:

sexual satisfaction SHOULD be important to every couple

Why should she be the first one to confess first? Keeo in mind he accused her of cheating before they got married. I assume you know what they say of people who throw around false accusation? THEY are usually the ones GUILTY of something so I would NOT be surprised if he's been cheating on her way before they even got married.

She doesnt owe him a confession. She didnt even want to marry his deceitful ass in the first place.

If so, she was a fool to marry him in the first place, but the damage is already done. You can't go back in time. If the two continue to act as if nothing is wrong, then it will only end badly. For example, what if she caught an STD? She will have already transmitted it to him, and he probably affected others, many lives potentially ruined because people want to keep secrets about things like that. It's an extreme example, but not completely out of this world. Both parties owe each other a confession, but it is likely that the husband won't say anything. The fact that the poster is asking what she should do indicates that she is at least thinking about confessing. Someone needs to say something, and she seems more likely to do so.