ftmom:

Maybe deferring her studies for hose 6 months could work too?

If she can't independently cater for that baby while in school, I strongly advise involving her parents. CC already said go to them with other family members and I agree they would have more influence than strangers from Nland however if Nland peeps are willing to accompany her, then please go with her. The situation sounds desperate.

sweetcocoa:

To the person saying nigerians are all talk and no action,in your mind you think just dropping your digits and asking her to call you makes you better than all on this thread trying to help?abeg make we hear word.mscheeew.

ifyalways:

Mutter's lawyer friend established that the welfare can't attend to her without involving atleast an adult member of his family,not necessarily the parents,Rev George said thing and both parties were willing to go all the way with her before things got . . .

Idowuogbo:

Babe u dey mind dat ragga muffin excrembe,u no see as d mouth wide like d whole off Ghana population.How person go enter dey claim superstar,for all we no na shrine she fit base.Chioma u berra no go dial babalawo mobile u were warned oooo hmmmmM

Chiomamb:

@Nekai
Check ur inbox.I have 2 be in school by 4pm today or i am going to be in serious trouble

jennykadry:

BB, so the bethrothed(parents choice) is the father of the baby? If so, the parents shouldn't have probs with her or the child

maclatunji:

This story is more complex than any Soap Opera I will ever watch. Big Bumper are you saying the baby is a product of Chioma's liason with a man her parents forbade her to see?

mutter:

-----------------Chioma you might wish to open up to us and let us know what really is going on, and how on earth can you be betrothed to a man who is not in any way involved in this issue?

armyofone:

BB, thanks for clarifying. I think she should take responsibility at this stage.

she should get some pple like the Rev and Mutter lawyer's friend talk to her parents. whatever the outcome, so be it.

big_bumper:

Forbidden liason with an unapproved fiance, so going to parent would mean more than the issue on the ground. . .besides it goes to reason that if baby goes to his side, his parents might not wanna give her back and slam the door on whomever wants to come and reclaim the baby, which might make Chioma's family throw a stinker . . .

Shame and sad that some people were privy to this information, yet pulled the rug from under her feet at the last minute, only bothered about their overbloated egos and the tears they were shedding cos they wanted to find out how someone else got her contact details. . . God pass all of them. . . and they are now pretending and acting shocked seeing the time constraint, as if she just came to open the thread today, and not since last week, mschewww. 5days old baby+thread opened last week=12 days oh, and I bet this is not inclusive.

And see them trying to paint the poor hapless girl greedy, saying they will not donate as if i was not the one that made reference to helping out financially with the baby. . . and as if when i made the plea, they are the only one that make up the whole population of Nairalanders, argghhhhhh. (((Arghhhhhh my blood is boiling))) Who comes out to voice out and say they will not donate! Who does this in a civilised society! How crass and vain and backward and full of oneself can one get, ARE THEY GOD!!! dang, na wa.

OAM4J:

And your continuous over flogging the beef and the issue does not help her case either.

Anyways, she has sorted herself out. My heart goes out to the child. I pray God keep and be with her wherever she is now.

moremi2008:

See how a simple case of charity turned into a slug-fest for egomaniacs, empty barrels and misguided moralists?! I have never seen a situation this terrible in all my life. Chioma runs on here pleading for help and all these people come out of the woodwork asking her to involve her parents, as if they have some information about her parents that Chioma herself doesn't have or as if they can love her daughter or care for her more than she can. What kind of ego or conceit feeds these attitudes? Why should true charitable donations come with conditions, commas, semi-colons, insubordinate clauses, modifying phrases and all manner of addenda? Why do we see our charitable contributions as opportunities to control and manipulate those in need? Na wa oh!

To be honest, I initially thought Big-Bumper was going on and on earlier in the thread because her feelings were hurt  and her intentions were misconstrued but I now see that she was the only one with a genuine interest in helping in the first place. Shame on the rest of you! Throwing out toys from your prams while a desperate young woman cowers in some BQ with an infant she can barely feed.

I hope Chioma and her baby are now safe. Chioma, may God strengthen you over the next few months as you write your final exams! I hope you find a good job immediately after graduation and are able to take back your baby as soon as possible.

moremi2008:

See how a simple case of charity turned into a slug-fest for egomaniacs, empty barrels and misguided moralists?! I have never seen a situation this terrible in all my life. Chioma runs on here pleading for help and all these people come out of the woodwork asking her to involve her parents, as if they have some information about her parents that Chioma herself doesn't have or as if they can love her daughter or care for her more than she can. What kind of ego or conceit feeds these attitudes? Why should true charitable donations come with conditions, commas, semi-colons, insubordinate clauses, modifying phrases and all manner of addenda? Why do we see our charitable contributions as opportunities to control and manipulate those in need? Na wa oh!

To be honest, I initially thought Big-Bumper was going on and on earlier in the thread because her feelings were hurt  and her intentions were misconstrued but I now see that she was the only one with a genuine interest in helping in the first place. Shame on the rest of you! Throwing out toys from your prams while a desperate young woman cowers in some BQ with an infant she can barely feed.

I hope Chioma and her baby are now safe. Chioma, may God strengthen you over the next few months as you write your final exams! I hope you find a good job immediately after graduation and are able to take back your baby as soon as possible.