on d out side, u may think u won, but on d inside, u were expecting him to call first and since he didnt, that means he won. In essence, it is 1-1

Well 1-1 is not a bad loss win

i think its a good loss

Or a bad win

its a good loss because even if on the outside u won, u will never forgive urself right inside cos the love still flows like a river in ur heart.

Not so easy when you truly love him o.But i think the jilt him before he jilts you stands if you want to be on the safer side

safer side that may haunt ur conscience forever?

Joey82,Joey82,Joey82,

Will you rather he jilts me first? Then, I'll never forgive myself for being stupid!

Emm sisters, ya'all be missing something here.Bet u've all heard bout love being blind??   wel it really is that way for some.

Them girls can never reckon wit the fact that their guys r players or jus not in lov wit em and so they keep on living in a fools paradise,blindfolded by a veil of an imaginary Romeo-n-Juliet kind of fantasy world, until it is too late and the guys drops the jilting bomb.only then will they awaken from under the veil to face n look reality in d face

The issue here is to love wisely n pray u don't fall madly in lov enough to be blind._{Cus somtimes u jus can't tel}

Why not Jilt her before she jilts you.
Babes too can be wicked. Speaking from experience. This life is complex. Na God go save us.

You can never be sure till ure married. even some married peeps are regretting and saying had i known.
So watch and pray hardddddd so u wont have to jilt or be jilted. Chikena

diva naija,
abeg, help me tell them oo!
ve said that before but they wont listen

yimiton,
he may not even jilt u, why jilt first when he had no intentions,
dont live in fear ma dear, just confidence and u're in control,
haven't u seen situations where peeps jilt and yet come back to beg,
then u can hold ya head high, abi?

diva_naija:

Emm sisters, ya'all be missing something here.Bet u've all heard bout love being blind??   wel it really is that way for some.

Them girls can never reckon wit the fact that their guys r players or jus not in lov wit em and so they keep on living in a fools paradise,blindfolded by a veil of an imaginary Romeo-n-Juliet kind of fantasy world, until it is too late and the guys drops the jilting bomb.only then will they awaken from under the veil to face n look reality in d face

The issue here is to love wisely n pray u don't fall madly in lov enough to be blind._{Cus somtimes u jus can't tel}

Love ya Sis!

@ yimiton - right bac @ ya sis. lov u 2 n lov wisely.

Nice posts I've seen here. Pity majority can only serve purely academic purposes.
In real life, jilting him/her still doesn't erase or make more bearable the pain
of the loss. If it's love we're talking about and not the typical fineboy rolling with
finegirl shizzle, the pain is comparable only to that of losing a truly loved one/relation.
. . .and oftentimes it's got little to do with who actually verbalised it.


_{. . . . Priding urself in the "I dumped him" mentality is just a function of ego which
may have contributed lots to d break-up in the first place.}

Please tell them bolarge, it doesn't change the pain. People who avoid hurt eventually get it. I've never waisted my love, d two of them r on my neck right now. Hoping to get back & appreciate the fact that i loved them.

by the way, how have u been Long time bolarge

jkpretty:

between how have u been Long time bolarge

Sweetie I dey o. Decided to chill out for a while. How've u been? Missed y'all.

well if every time a guy gets indifferent u leave him u'll never stay in a relationship long enough to go further than the dating part

people have ups and downs, there are so many things in life that could make a person distant or preoccupied that doesnt mean that he or (she) is indiffrent or thinking about leaving

if u do want to fall in love u have to  take your chances and give the other side thiers

and believe me if u do fall deeply in love u'll find that it is worth it even if it ends with a broken heart  

there r no guarantees in life and u shouldnt expect it in relation ships

after all its for better and worse.


There 're several ways a man/Guys behaves and u get to know that the next word will be GOOD BYE. thats what KOOLDAMSEL is talking about. My dear

dont be decieved you know the way your guy behaves and when he starts behaving funny then you need to out smart him be for he BREAKS YOUR

HEART.

is it that being the one to pull d plug on a relationship makes d pain go away cause i believe if u wanted d relationship that much, u still would still feel some heartbreak however mild [b][/b]

Thats not what we are saying, but you wouldn't the pain that much i bet you. Saying

I dont think matters of the heart should be approached this way. Is it a competition? I understand broken hearts take a while to heal but come on people. women generally are afraid to be dumped but they forget they do that almost all the time. I dont think it is a big deal if a guy wants to end a relationship. why focus your energy on cues for dumping instead of trying to make it work?

pejubaby:

well if every time a guy gets indifferent u leave him u'll never stay in a relationship long enough to go further than the dating part

people have ups and downs, there are so many things in life that could make a person distant or preoccupied that doesnt mean that he or (she) is indiffrent or thinking about leaving

if u do want to fall in love u have to  take your chances and give the other side thiers

and believe me if u do fall deeply in love u'll find that it is worth it even if it ends with a broken heart  

there r no guarantees in life and u shouldnt expect it in relation ships

after all its for better and worse.


There 're several ways a man/Guys behaves and u get to know that the next word will be GOOD BYE. thats what KOOLDAMSEL is talking about. My dear

don't be decieved you know the way your guy behaves and when he starts behaving funny then you need to out smart him be for he BREAKS YOUR

HEART.

i believe those r my words ur using

u say out smart him?? its a heart break for her in either way,whether she said it or waited for him to say it


men usually keep silent about thier problems and dont share them so if evry single time a man gets preoccupied she runs away then she will end up with nothing

if u want to save urself from the heart break just wait for a stranger to come ask for ur hand and this way u'll know his intentions and u wont need to calculate things

there r signs a woman sees and feels when things get cold but she shouldnt run away from the slightest thing

all i'm saying is u should take it easy and enjoy ur life and dont waste it on calculating

pejubaby:

is it that being the one to pull d plug on a relationship makes d pain go away cause i believe if u wanted d relationship that much, u still would still feel some heartbreak however mild [b][/b]

Thats not what we are saying, but you wouldn't the pain that much i bet you. Saying

The pain will not even be mild, it will b greater cos u'll always regret ur action.
In practical r/ships, i maintain that conscience really matters.
U feel less pain when u know u've done ur best to keep the r/ship but things couldn't just work out

When you truely love the guy you can't pull out just like that. Remember

there is no running away from love cos it is in the heart. Love will always lead you back.[/color][color=#990000][color=#990000][/color]

"Jilt him/her, before he/she jilts you" I smell fear hear. Let me tell you all something. Fear is one of the greatest weapon that could be used to ruin your life. If you fear something, that thing you are afraid of, usually happens. Why make life hard for yourselves? A girl fancies a guy, why should she have to play 'hard-to-get'? Likewise a guy fancies a girl, why should he attempt to make her jealous by threatening that he would dump her for another girl?

People need to check their attitude in this 'modern' World. In the 'modern' World, you have people breaking other people's heart and the World sometimes praises the heart-breaker. Just to let everyone know, whether you are an Athesist, Christain, Muslim, Buddist or any other clan you can claim to belong to. There is one and only one God who rewards everyone according to their work, whether you are a believer of God or not. Anyone that intentionally breaks another person's heart knowingly, wouldn't go unpunished. Of course, you have people who were heart breakers and they succeeded in life with no problems, BUT I tell you, the God we serve can punish the sins of a person up to the 3rd & 4th generations. This God, can also choose to forgive the sins of a person as quoted in a bible passage - "blessed is the man, whose sins, the Lord does not count against him".

I envy you guys.
You got hearts!
_{I'm out our here for good}

Diary of dumped souls

eniyan:

"Jilt him/her, before he/she jilts you" I smell fear hear. Let me tell you all something. Fear is one of the greatest weapon that could be used to ruin your life. If you fear something, that thing you are afraid of, usually happens. Why make life hard for yourselves? A girl fancies a guy, why should she have to play 'hard-to-get'? Likewise a guy fancies a girl, why should he attempt to make her jealous by threatening that he would dump her for another girl?

People need to check their attitude in this 'modern' World. In the 'modern' World, you have people breaking other people's heart and the World sometimes praises the heart-breaker. Just to let everyone know, whether you are an Athesist, Christain, Muslim, Buddist or any other clan you can claim to belong to. There is one and only one God who rewards everyone according to their work, whether you are a believer of God or not. Anyone that intentionally breaks another person's heart knowingly, wouldn't go unpunished. Of course, you have people who were heart breakers and they succeeded in life with no problems, BUT I tell you, the God we serve can punish the sins of a person up to the 3rd & 4th generations. This God, can also choose to forgive the sins of a person as quoted in a bible passage - "blessed is the man, whose sins, the Lord does not count against him".

gr8 speech but sometimes my dear, the writing on the walls are Unequivocal. . . me for instance wldn't jilt a guy out of fun . . . but out of fear like u said. it sometimes better to clear ur mind off a parcel that may forever not arrive.

good point u have there, esp with the part of God thingy. . . very true . . . it's all depends on the circumstances.

ifyalways:

run before he leaves.

Can't agree with you less.

_{jilt him before he jilts u}

Bblak:

Can't agree with you less.

_{jilt him before he jilts u}

got no heart to be messed with

WELL ANYBODY CAN BE JILTED. ONE THING MISTAKE MOST OF US MAKE IS THAT WHEN WE SEE THE RIGHT PERSON FOR US WE JUST IGNORE THE PERSON AND INSTEAD TRY TO ATTRACT THE ATTENTIONS OF THOSE WHO DON'T CARE ABOUT US, BUT JUST WANT A FLING.

MOST OF US ARE JUST OBESSED, INFACTUATED OR LUST. LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS IS A GRADUAL PROCESS, THEY TAKE TIME AND THEY COME WITH ALOT OF THINGS.

"Women are like monkeys

they will never leave a branch untill they lay hold on another."

I think U find it easier to jilt when you dont love a person or there is a targetted branch somewhere. But if not,
In my years of advice to folks, ave seen the hardest breakdown in the face of true love.
lets just be careful and correct