~Killz~:

1) For every action, there's a reaction. . . A consequence
2) You commit a sin, there's a consequence. . .
3) You cheat on me and contract STD's. I forgive you, but you'll suffer the consequence of the STD's alone.
4) You ask a child to sit or he'll be spanked. He stands, he gets spanked, his arse is hurting and he comes to you and says he's sorry. You say it's ok, but then, his arse still hurts. . . Consequence
5) You will be forgiven, but the consequence will still play out.
6) The consequence of infidelity to me is Divorce.
7) If you cheat on me, i forgive you, but the consequence will play out. . . Divorce!
If you need my support, i support you if i can, but we remain divorced. You are not my wife. . . Consequence
9) I have rights to forgive and keep or forgive and kick out. If i choose the latter, no problem. I can't live with you if i can't trust you. Hell, you did not just cheat, you took in a baby. . . What an insult!

ronkebp:

it does not matter, what if it was him that impregnated the wife's friend

naijasexy:


What you have done in this case cannot be described as forgiveness.
1) There is no dispute about that.

2) If that had always strictly been the case I am pretty sure the world including you, would be out of existence by now.

3)That is a different case entirely and quite different from the one being discussed.

4) If you ask a child to sit and he disobeys, there are other ways to correct him other than spanking and trust me, he would still feel the brunt regardless.

5) I believe you are a christian. If that was how God ran this world, we would all be carcasses by now. To forgive is to assure an offender that all punitive measures that would have been meted out on the offender are no longer required as his offence has become insignificant. In other words, no more consequences.

6) That is understandable only on the grounds that you have refused to forgive (which is my point anyway)

7) see 5.

9) It is either you forgive ENTIRELY and disregard all the hurt that the missus has caused or you do NOT forgive and kick her out. The term "forgive" cannot be bent to suit situations. Forgiveness means a renewal and revival of trust that was once lost. So if you think you have forgiven her, you MUST be able to live with her as the message you would be sending to her by saying "I forgive you" is "my trust for you has not abated". What difference does it make if her escapades outside marriage bore a child or not? The crux of the matter is that she cheated so you should not base your forgiveness on if there was a child produced rather the willingness to forgive should stem from your wish to ignore the fact that she once cheated and MOVE ON!

Note: I am not saying you would be wrong to divorce her, my point of argument is that if you do so, it means you DID NOT forgive her. You cannot say "I have forgiven you" and still kick the missus out.

When God forgives, does he remove the consequence of your disobedience?
The wages sin pays is death. Does that mean God does not forgive sins? He forgives your sin, but the consequence of that sinning is death, so we all die.
I forgive her freely but we cannot continue the marriage. In the bible, adultery is the only legal grounds for divorce. . .
Would you rather i divorce here without forgiving her? Anyone is fine by me. i just choose to forgive her. . .

~Killz~:

When God forgives, does he remove the consequence of your disobedience?
The wages sin pays is death. Does that mean God does not forgive sins? He forgives your sin, but the consequence of that sinning is death, so we all die.
I forgive her freely but we cannot continue the marriage. In the bible, adultery is the only legal grounds for divorce. . .
Would you rather i divorce here without forgiving her? Anyone is fine by me. i just choose to forgive her. . .

naijasexy: We really do not need to argue this any further. Was just trying to point out to you that your mode of action cannot in anyway be termed "forgiveness".
Peace, my intelligent brother.

You are right. When God forgives he strikes off the consequences. . . But you still die! Then he raises you later as a result of striking off the consequence.
A woman who is convicted of cheating + carry another man's baby is guilty. Who told you she is not? Let's just say she's guilty, i throw her in Jail without hard labour, by forgiving her. . .

Peace, even though i know you will still reply!

naijasexy: ^^ lol, *he said I'll reply and here I am confirming his words *
Okay sir, I have heard you. She is GUILTY and should be thrown into JAIL.
Do you ever give up??! Pheew!lol

Yes i'll throw her in jail, but that's just me. . . Others may forgive, keep her and train the baby to be theirs, even though they are both fair skinned and the baby is dark skinned. . .

I salute men like that o. . . It isn't easy! They may just say the baby was adopted.

~Killz~:


Yes i'll throw her in jail, but that's just me. . . Others may forgive, keep her and train the baby to be theirs, even though they are both fair skinned and the baby is dark skinned. . .

I salute men like that o. . . It isn't easy! They may just say the baby was adopted.