MRbrownJAY:

you are missing the point here. that she is your wife or not is irrelevant.........so long as her love for you is based on "her upkeep".

what i have been saying all along is that whether you can take care of her upkeep or not (money), that shouldnt be a reason for her to fall out of love for you.

so LOVE is based on FEEDING in your world?! lol. who can survive withouth eating?! i guess in your world, if a guy can "feed" a gal then he is worthy of her love.

bwaaaaah, Killz, you are a funny character, i give you that!
A) as i said in my earlier post, CARE and AFFECTION is all that is needed to love someone.
B) as i said earlier, the same way you care for her, is what you should expect from her. NOTHING LESS!
C) CARE has absolutely nothing to do with MONEY, as you can show it to her without a penny.

i hate women who are quick to say "i love you", but then dont act like it. if a man is hungry then there is absolutely nothing he can do to stop his woman from being hungry. thinking that a woman is a man's responsibility when they get married is WRONG, they are each others responsibility 8as they become ONE). so if they have nothing to eat, its THEIR fault, not solely his.....unless you live in the stone age.

so what you are saying is that: if people handed them free meals, would their love die? if people offered them free accommodation, would their love die? or better yet, would she start loving the provider? lol

talina: @ Killz, So basically what your saying is that if 2 people love each other, then they will do anything to provide for their upkeep. They are living and surviving together as a team. Since we must eat and have a roof over our head, making money is the means to this. We wouldnt watch our loves ones starve while saying "I love you."

But if there was money problems they would stay together and the key is, TRY to make things better as a TEAM because of love and commitment.

God bless you and your Generations to come!

toyemz: ^^^^^

chei which one you dey now?
I said it quietly and now you have bolded it up and shouted it out!


any insults i receive oh,im passing onto you oh!

Anybody that insults you further on this thread, has me to answer to!

REALITY101:
Cold tequila?

~Killz~:

Like i said earlier in my very first reply : "Therefore, while Love can exist without money, money still has a vital role to play!" Her love for you is not based on her upkeep, but her upkeep is necessary!

That shouldn't. But it happens doesn't it? Neither have i said that lack of money should make a lady stop loving a man. . .

What are you saying? If? What if? Which comes first, love or the food?

Do you feed random girls, cos i dont! So i don't know how you'll say if i can feed a girl she's worthy of my love. I'm talking about a wife here. Would she marry me without love?

So if she marries me out of love, we shouldn't feed? Feeding was used in a context to mean providing. Re read the comment i used the word "feeding". You only picked out "feed", took it to mean physical food, and decided to enumerate on that. . . Lol. Funny guy!

Care and affection is needed to love someone, money plays a part in caring for someone. You need amenities that affection cannot provide. Affection cannot provide accommodation, neither can it pay the bills. Caring for someone entails provision of these basic amenities, and to provide these amenities, you need what? Money! It's because i care, that's why i work to earn money for our provisions. . . I dont know what you are saying!

They are each other's responsibility, but the man is head of the family, and the natural breadwinner. That she has a job shouldn't make him lazy to his responsibilities. Like i also said earlier, "How long were they expecting the leftovers to keep flowing? Why are they so lazy? If they failed to plan, they've planned to fail!" Don't twist my words!

How long until they get off their arses and get a job that pays them?

Money is needed to provide the free meals for them, or is it not?

And like you earlier said, "if they have nothing to eat, its THEIR fault" Why didn't you ask CARE and AFFECTION to provide them food? LOL!

MRbrownJAY:

money has a vital role to play in LIFE, therefore everyone needs money to survive.....now, the fact that you mix that up with love is just amazing.



well if lack of money wouldnt stop a lady loving a man then you should have said YES to the subject of this thread and we wouldnt have this discussion. lol.



stop trying to change the subject...... food (in such context) is meant to STAY ALIVE, thats not "upkeep" thats SURVIVAL, lol!
so as i said earlier, so long as you can provide for ONE meal, then that could be shared with the two of you and love will STILL blossom.



well it seems, feeding someone is the only problem in your story. here is a clue: if you cant feed your wife, let her go to her parents house and get food there.......et voila! but that shoudnt stop her from loving you.


and therefore i replied to you earlier, go back and read my answers again.



money plays absolutely NO PART in loving someone.
so are you saying that you NEED amenities for your wife to love you?! you NEED accommodation for your wife to love you? you NEED to pay bills for your your wife to love you? bwaaaah! you could have NONE of these and still be in love, where is the big deal, unless you married a golddigger?

caring for someone MEANS to be there for them THE BEST YOU CAN (whether you have money or not), if you aint got money then she (who supposedly loves you) should accept that and it should certainly NOT be a reason for your love to fade.



so to be the head of family means that everything is his fault?! to have no money means that a man is LAZY?! they take decisions together and accept the consequences TOGETHER. if/when he loses his job, then they act accordingly. it shouldnt make anyone "lazy". they are ONE, and therefore should act as such. if he has no money because he suddenly lost his job, it should in NO WAY be a reason to stop loving him.....in fact thats when she should love him EVEN more, thats when her LOVE is needed the most!



as long as it takes for an able bodied man to find one, if you think it is that easy to find one in 9ja then think again.



so long as HE didnt provide that money then who cares who pays for the meals. the FACT remains that they have no money and yet they still love each other.....whether their meals comes from the kindness of complete strangers or their family.



because CARE and AFFECTION has absolutely NOTHING to do with PROVIDING FOOD for one another, stop mixing oranges with potatoes! they care and love each other and they have no money, what has FOOD got to do with the love they have for one another, duh!
they need food/money to live, thats their ONLY problem, but regardless if they have it or not, they will STILL love each other.

talina: @ Killz, So basically what your saying is that if 2 people love each other, then they will do anything to provide for their upkeep. They are living and surviving together as a team. [b]Since we must eat and have a roof over our head, making money is the means to this. We wouldnt watch our loves ones starve while saying "I love you."

But if there was money problems they would stay together and the key is, TRY to make things better as a TEAM because of love and commitment.[/b]

That's an unarguable fact! Take it or leave it! Those who understand my parabolic trajectory do so already!

~Killz~:

There is Love without money. Money sustains that love. Crave for the right attitude towards money. Love for her will make you realize that you need money for her upkeep. If you do not take care of her, who will? To take care of her, you need money. She loves you none the less, but then hunger can also kill her. . . Therefore, while Love can exist without money, money still has a vital role to play!

MRbrownJAY:

as much as money can help love "feel" better, it has absolutely NO WEIGHT on the issue. if it does then surely this CANNOT be love.



what about:" her love for you will have her sort out her own upkeep to help your r/ship"? lol! whoever told you that a man should take care of a gal's upkeep is clearly missing the point. Love has absolutely nothing to do with what you can do for her BUT all to do with what you both can do for each other. the minute her life/upkeep is more important than yours then it is no more LOVE, but simple foolishness.



- her self.
- her parents.
- whoever took care of these issues before you met her, duh!


My brother help me tell them o, after they'll say Nigerian girls dey gold dig. The mentality is just base, argh!
NO, you dont! you only need care and affection. but you're right about ONE THING: to take care of a broke ass golddigger, you need money, yes!



so in a way what you are saying is that a man in love should provide for his partners meals and upkeep? may i ask: since love is 50/50, does SHE also provide for the same thing? or are all gals broke ass begging women in your part of town?
nothing can kill faster than loving someone who doesnt really care about you, or only care about what she can GET from you.




money has absolutely NO ROLE to play in love. here is what you should have understood by now:
- if you love someone and you are not "well off financially", you simply have to share YOUR own meal with her, to show her that you love her (not provide her with her own).
- if you rock a Nokia 5110 and she demands for a BB, simply tell her that she can use your own phone whenever she desires (instead of thinking you need to buy her one)
- if she cant pay her school fees then help her find a job and take care of this issue (instead of paying for it, while not solving the problem at hand).

again, love is about caring, NOT providing a easy way out of poverty for goldigging broke asss babes

MRbrownJAY:

i see no difference between such love being for a GF, a future wife or a wife.
if you have no money to buy her a meal then SHARE YOURS WITH HER.
if you have no money for a BB, then SHARE YOUR NOKIA 5110 WIT HER.
if you have no money for school fees the HELP HER GET A JOB TO SOLVE THAT.
......and my point is that: no way should these flimsy issues be a reason for this lady (gf/future wife or wifey) to fall out of love.......if it is then she never loved him to begin with (or clearly has no idea what love is).

toyemz: @debrake




since i dont know the real reason behind your rudeness i wont stoop to your level,
However, i will say this to you,not all fingers are equal and not all ladies are gold diggers!
but you wouldnt know that, would you? since in your miserable terrible existence there has never been a time when any lady ever dug any gold out of you,has there?, since you have nothing to contribute
Having said this much, here's my challenge if you desperately need help with your mite existence,why dont you just ask in the nicest possible way? it really isnt hard to have manners,you can always learn!

seek with manners and you shall surely find!

MRbrownJAY:

you are missing the point here. that she is your wife or not is irrelevant.........so long as her love for you is based on "her upkeep".



what i have been saying all along is that whether you can take care of her upkeep or not (money), that shouldnt be a reason for her to fall out of love for you.



so LOVE is based on FEEDING in your world?! lol. who can survive withouth eating?! how did SHE survive before meeting you? i guess in your world, if a guy can "feed" a gal then he is worthy of her love
A) as i said in my earlier post, CARE and AFFECTION is all that is needed to love someone.
B) as i said earlier, the same way you care for her, is what you should expect from her. NOTHING LESS!
C)
if people handed them free meals, would their love die? if people offered them free accommodation, would their love die? or better yet, would she start loving the provider? lol

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ bro, if you were surrounded by 99% ashewos, would you marry one?! i guess not!!!!
well, you should use the same logic here then: simply because most 9ja babes act in such hungry manner, shouldnt be a reason to now believe that this is the RIGHT way to live/love. stand for what you believe (and die trying) instead of becoming the "mugu" they want you to be.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ bro, if you were surrounded by 99% ashewos, would you marry one?! i guess not!!!!
well, you should use the same logic here then: simply because most 9ja babes act in such hungry manner, shouldnt be a reason to now believe that this is the RIGHT way to live/love. stand for what you believe (and die trying) instead of becoming the "mugu" they want you to be.

~Killz~:

There is Love without money. Money sustains that love. Crave for the right attitude towards money. Love for her will make you realize that you need money for her upkeep. If you do not take care of her, who will? To take care of her, you need money. She loves you none the less, but then hunger can also kill her. . . Therefore, while Love can exist without money, money still has a vital role to play!

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ayodele123: My opinion:
For a woman,love and money are intertwined and are the same.
For a man, love and sex are interwoven and are the same.
If you are asking if there is love without money,is it not the same as asking a man if there is a marriage without sex?
If we expect a woman to love without money in the equation,ask a man if he can scale through a marriage without sex in the equation and without looking elsewhere?