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bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

bolargeez: Who are the friends of married women? Their nossy, gossipy friends I guess.

bolargeez: Who are the friends of married women? Their nossy, gossipy friends I guess.

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

pendo89:


Well your question is genuine and it happens to a lot if single folks. First it's important to respect that institution of marriage.
Do not expect that you are going to spend as much time together as you used to..She has a bigger commitment,changed priorities and a marriage to build now.
I like people who know how to balance.Its wrong to just get rid of all your single friends because c'mmon don't u have a thing or two to teach them about marriage? There are things married people can learn from singles too you know.
You can introduce your single friend to your partner to remove any fears and doubts,assuming that the friends are level headed and sober.
If you feel left out in the cold,don't despair,keep the communication going cz at times people are so engrossed in stuff that constant communication becomes a challenge,but if you do your part of maintaining it they will appreciate.
Next behave! Don't go uninvited into their homes like u were used to.That is not her home alone rem.
Bottom line is Respect and knowing where the boundaries lay, Otherwise I see no big deal.

pendo89:


Well your question is genuine and it happens to a lot if single folks. First it's important to respect that institution of marriage.
Do not expect that you are going to spend as much time together as you used to..She has a bigger commitment,changed priorities and a marriage to build now.
I like people who know how to balance.Its wrong to just get rid of all your single friends because c'mmon don't u have a thing or two to teach them about marriage? There are things married people can learn from singles too you know.
You can introduce your single friend to your partner to remove any fears and doubts,assuming that the friends are level headed and sober.
If you feel left out in the cold,don't despair,keep the communication going cz at times people are so engrossed in stuff that constant communication becomes a challenge,but if you do your part of maintaining it they will appreciate.
Next behave! Don't go uninvited into their homes like u were used to.That is not her home alone rem.
Bottom line is Respect and knowing where the boundaries lay, Otherwise I see no big deal.

bennyraz: kai, u get time o. So if OP was married to you, you would be ok with it if he kept his past single female friends as close buddies hun? Make you & shollypopz and op dey deceive una self dey mislead all d mumu wey dey NL. Shiooo! tofiakwa!

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women.

pendo89:

I have sober mind and I interact with like minded individuals.I mingle and interact with all manner of people,single married,teens,kids.I know how to behave like Roman when I go to Rome. Keep boundaries and if you do not trust yourself or if your friend doesnt feel comfortable having you around then stay off for peace sake.
I cannot stop my partner from having single female friends! Is he a prisoner or child? What of single biz colleagues,Must I always suspect him everytime a woman calls?
Why should I be so insecure? It simply shows that I don't trust him at all.Then the problem is not the friends but him.

I dont even know why women/men spend so much time dealing with the the 3rd party.It only fuels the fire.
Manage/tame what you 'own' what is yours and set it free.His conscience won't allow him/her to do some things even if the opportunity presents itself.
Are there such men and women? of course.They owe it to their family and know what a vow means.
But I guess we are not all the same.

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

Mrs.Chima:
My girls definitely come before Mr. Chima.

bennyraz: yes, we are not the same being. I just hope what you wrote here about yourself is the truth nothing but the whole truth if not? #GODISWATCHIN U

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

dadicvila: Was even about to create a similar thread,for guys as we get into our mid twenties,we realise that some of our female buddies are getting married,it presents a problem,do we abandon them to face their marriages or we keep being buddies with them,it certainly presents a problem so you guys should contribute sensibly or leave the thread joh!!was telling a female friend last night that immediately she gets married thats the end of our close friendship because i dont feel comfortable with married women and she said am joking,that nothing changes,i believe its different stroke 4 different folks

Tyche:

Sure. vice versa?