La Parisienne: There's only one Mr Right and he's taken, by me


Seriously though, you know it's right when it feels right. It might not necessarily be a 100% smooth sail, but it wont be a tug of war either.
Sorry about your bleeding heart, time heels all wounds. Just hang in there and be strong.
There are always red flags in bad relationships but some people choose to ignore it, then it explodes like a nuclear bomb and hearts get shattered. How sad
Calm down and work on your self and your emotions first, make sure you are that kind of person you want to attract. It'll happen when you least expect. Goodluck


Dayum, can't believe I typed that.

Alleinad: we all dream of mr right, that one guy made by God just for us, that guy who will sweep us into paradise and such happiness,we will never know trouble again. But hw do you know him when he comes?? Time and time again,i have been so sure i had found him,only for him to walk out and leave my heart bleeding, as a matter of fact, my heart is presently in a coma. I really need help this time, maybe am not looking at the right places or i dont get it. Pls, how do i know mr right?? How do i knw someone who wants a long lasting relatnship and not just a fling?? Help me pls.

Alleinad: we all dream of mr right, that one guy made by God just for us, that guy who will sweep us into paradise and such happiness,we will never know trouble again. But hw do you know him when he comes?? Time and time again,i have been so sure i had found him,only for him to walk out and leave my heart bleeding, as a matter of fact, my heart is presently in a coma. I really need help this time, maybe am not looking at the right places or i dont get it. Pls, how do i know mr right?? How do i knw someone who wants a long lasting relatnship and not just a fling?? Help me pls.

Killz.:

It's not rocket science. But how willing are you to recognize those signs when they come? Most ladies are so confused as to what they want in a man, and from a man. When you as a person cannot pinpoint what you want, how will you see it coming? The perfect man does not exist, but you can always manage an imperfect person and learn to love him perfectly. Are you willing to do that? Another common mistake is thinking that all men are the same. That you had a bitter experience with one, doesn't mean you'll have a bitter experience with the other. Define relationships before you fall headlong into them. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
Someone who wants a long lasting relationship cares about you and what you want, and not necessarily what he wants. He realizes that you are not a sex object and that since he has you in his future plans to make you his wife, sex will always be there so no need to rush into "stealing" what will be his. His love for you is more of action and not words. he praises your inner beauty more than the physical. You have misunderstandings and arguments but it is settled in a matured way. He respects your decision, especially when it bothers on the issue of conscience and what is good or bad.
Mr Right is not necessarily a 6ft tall handsome dark-skinned rich cute dude that drives a BMW. He may be that short guy that offers you a friendly smile but because you are too busy looking for a 6 footer, you failed to notice. He may be that guy with a "[b]leg[/b]xus", but since you are looking for a guy with a BMW, you fail to notice. The perfect man exists only in Fairy tales and in the mind of Naive girls who are yet to face reality. Some tribes in Nigeria are known for predominantly short people. Does that mean that there is no Mr Right in among the short?
To know Mr Right, you have to first know yourself. So, who are you? What are your likes and dislikes? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Everyone has wants and everyone has needs. Sometimes in life, it's not about what we want anymore, but what we really need. So what are your needs? Remember also that since there is no perfect person -you included- there may not be anyone who can satisfy those needs to the letter, neither also can you satisfy Mr Right's needs to the letter. So, look out for a man with qualities and not quantity, a man that genuinely cares for you, a man who completes you, magnifies, amplifies and compliments your strengths and marginalizes your weaknesses + encourages you to be the best in your endeavors. Your MR Right doesn't need to be right in the eyes of your friends, and you should care less what anyone says. He doesn't need to have everything, but with you by his side encouraging and complimenting him as well, you'll be perfect for each other. . .

One day you will post sense , another day, sense will post you ...

Alleinad: thankyou all for your advises,its helping... Praying is good, but what if God doesnt answer on time?? What if you thot u heard God but it still crashed?? I liked the idea of patience in sex but seriously, are there any guys like that left??

ijebabe: By knowing Mr. Wrong. If you can figure that out then you're solid

Alleinad: @ cowgurl, all the guys that come my way don't want to be just friends.... They keep saying they don't want to be my frnd, they want more... So am wondering how making them frnds will work for me wen they dont want that...

cowgurl: Wow, u must be that HOT Alleinad n I op 2 God u don't see Mr Right as Mr Perfect. Well then, ponder on all the pointers written on hia (cept Ski's o' course) cos THEY ALL MADE SENSE.

Skii:
I will pretend I didnt see it

Killz.:

It's not rocket science. But how willing are you to recognize those signs when they come? Most ladies are so confused as to what they want in a man, and from a man. When you as a person cannot pinpoint what you want, how will you see it coming? The perfect man does not exist, but you can always manage an imperfect person and learn to love him perfectly. Are you willing to do that? Another common mistake is thinking that all men are the same. That you had a bitter experience with one, doesn't mean you'll have a bitter experience with the other. Define relationships before you fall headlong into them. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
Someone who wants a long lasting relationship cares about you and what you want, and not necessarily what he wants. He realizes that you are not a sex object and that since he has you in his future plans to make you his wife, sex will always be there so no need to rush into "stealing" what will be his. His love for you is more of action and not words. he praises your inner beauty more than the physical. You have misunderstandings and arguments but it is settled in a matured way. He respects your decision, especially when it bothers on the issue of conscience and what is good or bad.
Mr Right is not necessarily a 6ft tall handsome dark-skinned rich cute dude that drives a BMW. He may be that short guy that offers you a friendly smile but because you are too busy looking for a 6 footer, you failed to notice. He may be that guy with a "[b]leg[/b]xus", but since you are looking for a guy with a BMW, you fail to notice. The perfect man exists only in Fairy tales and in the mind of Naive girls who are yet to face reality. Some tribes in Nigeria are known for predominantly short people. Does that mean that there is no Mr Right in among the short?
To know Mr Right, you have to first know yourself. So, who are you? What are your likes and dislikes? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Everyone has wants and everyone has needs. Sometimes in life, it's not about what we want anymore, but what we really need. So what are your needs? Remember also that since there is no perfect person -you included- there may not be anyone who can satisfy those needs to the letter, neither also can you satisfy Mr Right's needs to the letter. So, look out for a man with qualities and not quantity, a man that genuinely cares for you, a man who completes you, magnifies, amplifies and compliments your strengths and marginalizes your weaknesses + encourages you to be the best in your endeavors. Your MR Right doesn't need to be right in the eyes of your friends, and you should care less what anyone says. He doesn't need to have everything, but with you by his side encouraging and complimenting him as well, you'll be perfect for each other. . .

Arcadia: See why i luv you? So reasonable a guy. For those guys beefing killz, it all boils down to envy. Mentally, killz is wat they hope to be, but aren't. Talk silly, killz knows how to give it to you. Actually cracks me up lol. Talk sense, he's equally more than equal to the task. Wó, i luv ur brain sir.

Alleinad: @ cowgurl, all the guys that come my way don't want to be just friends.... They keep saying they don't want to be my frnd, they want more... So am wondering how making them frnds will work for me wen they dont want that...