pattybf: why should any girl/woman want to suffer all in name of marriage just to be tagged 'real'. From my two years experience in marriage, i can tell u dat love & good charater does not keep a relationship but money does.

Hmm, since you're speaking from experience maybe I should believe what you just typed?!? So as far as there is money I ma settle with/for a bad-mannered lady who probablyy doesn't love me?!? Am I correct?

fresh_dude: Hmm, since you're speaking from experience maybe I should believe what you just typed?!? So as far as there is money I ma settle with/for a bad-mannered lady who probablyy doesn't love me?!? Am I correct?

....Lolzzz

fresh_dude: Hmm, since you're speaking from experience maybe I should believe what you just typed?!? So as far as there is money I ma settle with/for a bad-mannered lady who probablyy doesn't love me?!? Am I correct?

....Lolzzz

Shollypopz:
did you see the bolded part??

Nope. Using a phone.

It's a free world, life is filled with choices. If you make one that comes back to bite u in the a.ss, don't complain just bear it. My cousin has full blown AIDS, his wife just found out she has the virus and the marriage is over..I am trying to feel pity for her but i just can't. He was NEVER a husband material has always been a player, treated her like crap but she married him anyways cos of his money..Today she's 31 struggling alone with two kids cos my cousin is too sick to work..who will she complain to?? She made the choice.

tgirl1986: It's a free world, life is filled with choices. If you make one that comes back to bite u in the a.ss, don't complain just bear it. My cousin has full blown AIDS, his wife just found out she has the virus and the marriage is over..I am trying to feel pity for her but i just can't. He was NEVER a husband material has always been a player, treated her like crap but she married him anyways cos of his money..Today she's 31 struggling alone with two kids cos my cousin is too sick to work..who will she complain to?? She made the choice.

Thats some serious sh!t.

BolaBankole: @2Sexy exactly what I said in my last post, no one hear when girls did there own....if you marry her now and you try to revenge she will begin to shout around that she stood by you when you are still struggling but now you have abandoned her. The whole idea of this piece is to help our girls see beyond what they are seeing, to help them think inward in choosing the right partner other than making money your top priorities. But i still give it to some girls, 10% of them are good but others.........

My bro, the funny thing is that she said the guy below is ugly

[EDIT] I had to remove my pic cos it's no longer necessary.

I did what most guys has never done for her, that is give money without sex. But that one done pass sha.

I too pass, pass the so call guy she lost her virginity to and all what not.

zeddicus.... you dey see your guy abi?

Any way I go remove the pic soon

tgirl1986: It's a free world, life is filled with choices. If you make one that comes back to bite u in the a.ss, don't complain just bear it. My cousin has full blown AIDS, his wife just found out she has the virus and the marriage is over..I am trying to feel pity for her but i just can't. He was NEVER a husband material has always been a player, treated her like crap but she married him anyways cos of his money..Today she's 31 struggling alone with two kids cos my cousin is too sick to work..who will she complain to?? She made the choice.

. What a story for those who care to listen.

pattybf: why should any girl/woman want to suffer all in name of marriage just to be tagged 'real'. From my two years experience in marriage, i can tell u dat love & good charater does not keep a relationship but money does.

Really Are you still?? Can you share your experience with us and let other young folks learn?

BolaBankole: . What a story for those who care to listen.

He who has ears, let him hear. These days money however it is gotten garners respect and admiration.

But it wasn't always like this, our societal norms and values have been traded for bogus things at the altar of materialism.

Good piece.

thanks OP for this post, it has given me a new perspective to things.....i think i need to sober down and bring out my true self... There's more to life than wealth,besides i dont want my eulogy to just be that she was wealthy... Great post!

@ 190 thanks... I cant help but wonder what ladies want. Though I have learnt not to treat them bad because I too have a sister . I have also learnt to put them where they belong.

Here is how I do my things.

If I am dating a girl, I score her 100% as we gone in to the relationship and I beginning to see that she is trying to act smart, I deduct mark and if eventually she keeps losing marks, I place her where she belongs.

Alleinad: thanks OP for this post, it has given me a new perspective to things.....i think i need to sober down and bring out my true self... There's more to life than wealth,besides i dont want my eulogy to just be that she was wealthy... Great post!

I'm so happy for you. Money isn't everything. The bibles says:" My People Perish For Lack of Knowledge"

Only a lazy,brainless and autoretarded girl like my ex would do that. I was at a cafe today and I saw a woman searching the internet for white men. This woman should be in her late 30 if not over. Why? Money. It's crystal clear that she's the lazy type wanting to reap where she didn't sow.

Another thing I would like to is that parents also contribute to this menance.

Imagine a mother whom her daughter ask for money would without a modicum of shame tell her daughter to go and get a boyfriend. A lot parents do this with impunity.

Alleinad: thanks OP for this post, it has given me a new perspective to things.....i think i need to sober down and bring out my true self... There's more to life than wealth,besides i dont want my eulogy to just be that she was wealthy... Great post!

. What you've learnt through people here I'll advise that you hold it firmly, what you see attimes can be deceiving many guys do all sort of things to get a girls attention, emerging a guy tht collect loan inother to entiles a girls family after there marriage he sold everything including the window blind. Peace of advise for all ladies in the house. Pencil down what you look out for in a man, if a man possess 70per cent is ok for you. Remember love is not how you start but how well you built it to the end, and also don't forget that love is work if you believe in it you will achieve it. God bless us all.

Thank you OP for this great contribution to NL. You deserve an award.

You must consider that you are casting your pearls to swine for the most part.

Once many young girls discover that their sexuality may be a passport to riches, they abandon their virtue.

Most wise men become wise in times of hardship and when they do succeed, they are able to differentiate between a virtuous woman and a loose/foolish woman.

This is why many successful men use and dump the loose girls and then look for something more chaste to marry. Nobody wants to buy tokunbo when they can buy Today's cars.

As for the men that marry women for money, I do hope there's a special place reserved in hell for the lazy good-for-nothings.

BolaBankole: . What you've learnt through people here I'll advise that you hold it firmly, what you see attimes can be deceiving many guys do all sort of things to get a girls attention, emerging a guy tht collect loan inother to entiles a girls family after there marriage he sold everything including the window blind. Peace of advise for all ladies in the house. Pencil down what you look out for in a man, if a man possess 70per cent is ok for you. Remember love is not how you start but how well you built it to the end, and also don't forget that love is work if you believe in it you will achieve it. God bless us all.

amen

2sexy:

I'm so happy for you. Money isn't everything. The bibles says:" My People Perish For Lack of Knowledge"

Only a lazy,brainless and autoretarded girl like my ex would do that. I was at a cafe today and I saw a woman searching the internet for white men. This woman should be in her late 30 if not over. Why? Money. It's crystal clear that she's the lazy type wanting to reap where she didn't sow.

Another thing I would like to is that parents also contribute to this menance.

Imagine a mother whom her daughter ask for money would without a modicum of shame tell her daughter to go and get a boyfriend. A lot parents do this with impunity.

ure right,i think materialism has really eaten deeper than we know into our societal values..the end doesn't always justify the means...

DailyNews:

My dear, its not all about poverty or whatever, its about being sure that this very girl isn't after your money, its about making sure that the girl u call girlfriend, fiancee, or wife isn't just loving you because u give her money, buy her gifts, gives her this favor & that...not necessarily becos guys want girls to love them as poor people, who loves poverty? by the way, y do u think rich guys marry late? its cos of confusion as to why girls like them, they get confused & believe that all girls love them cos of their money, which is very scary maybe u as a girl don't know. but for instance, how would u feel to discover that a guy is tripping for u just becos u have some irrelevant physical qualities & not cos of ur inner beauty, person & character? see, it is cos of this same reason that most guys that were not born rich goes back to their former girlfriends when they were nobody to marry them when they become rich. Kanu Nwankwo the popular footballer if I am not mistaken, did it, Tuface went back to the girl he had been dating for long after discovering that every girl wants to marry him cos of his fame, now the owner of facebook did same, does it mean he is not seeing all those super-models & elegant high-class girls to marry but he still went back to his long time girlfriend...men feel insecure a lot if u girls dnt know, especially when they become financially buoyant, they see all girls as gold-diggers...and thats why they always go back to their childhood or previous girlfriends who showed excellent character & manner. so all those stories some bad ladies do cook up that once a one-time poor guy hits the rich list, he will kick his long time gf its a pure LIE from the tongue & heart of bad deceptive ladies who want to mislead others into living immoral & useless life they are living. See, I am witness okay? Two of my elder brothers married their childhood girlfriends who stood by them when they were nobody, and two others are about marrying their school girlfriends, and they have made it now & never kicked the girls away, so don't let anybody deceive u pls...men have conscience more than women, ask anybody...and men respect the ladies who stood by them during the days of little beginning & hardly do they play with such ladies except the unreasonable who always live to regret it in their lives. again, y do u think more marriages are breaking & collapsing daily in our days now unlike in the past? its becos of this recent craze by our ladies not to walk through the pathe of life with a potential guy but to wait for an already made guy who would come & take them to an already built castle...which hardly survive for long...pls preach good moral, don't deceive the young girls with this kind of moral teaching pls...its really destroying both relationships & marriages in Nigeria today. Take care and all the best.

Gud one bro,ON POINT.

DailyNews:

My dear, its not all about poverty or whatever, its about being sure that this very girl isn't after your money, its about making sure that the girl u call girlfriend, fiancee, or wife isn't just loving you because u give her money, buy her gifts, gives her this favor & that...not necessarily becos guys want girls to love them as poor people, who loves poverty? by the way, y do u think rich guys marry late? its cos of confusion as to why girls like them, they get confused & believe that all girls love them cos of their money, which is very scary maybe u as a girl don't know. but for instance, how would u feel to discover that a guy is tripping for u just becos u have some irrelevant physical qualities & not cos of ur inner beauty, person & character? see, it is cos of this same reason that most guys that were not born rich goes back to their former girlfriends when they were nobody to marry them when they become rich. Kanu Nwankwo the popular footballer if I am not mistaken, did it, Tuface went back to the girl he had been dating for long after discovering that every girl wants to marry him cos of his fame, now the owner of facebook did same, does it mean he is not seeing all those super-models & elegant high-class girls to marry but he still went back to his long time girlfriend...men feel insecure a lot if u girls dnt know, especially when they become financially buoyant, they see all girls as gold-diggers...and thats why they always go back to their childhood or previous girlfriends who showed excellent character & manner. so all those stories some bad ladies do cook up that once a one-time poor guy hits the rich list, he will kick his long time gf its a pure LIE from the tongue & heart of bad deceptive ladies who want to mislead others into living immoral & useless life they are living. See, I am witness okay? Two of my elder brothers married their childhood girlfriends who stood by them when they were nobody, and two others are about marrying their school girlfriends, and they have made it now & never kicked the girls away, so don't let anybody deceive u pls...men have conscience more than women, ask anybody...and men respect the ladies who stood by them during the days of little beginning & hardly do they play with such ladies except the unreasonable who always live to regret it in their lives. again, y do u think more marriages are breaking & collapsing daily in our days now unlike in the past? its becos of this recent craze by our ladies not to walk through the pathe of life with a potential guy but to wait for an already made guy who would come & take them to an already built castle...which hardly survive for long...pls preach good moral, don't deceive the young girls with this kind of moral teaching pls...its really destroying both relationships & marriages in Nigeria today. Take care and all the best.

Gud one bro,ON POINT.

Guys lose money chasing ladies,but guys who chase money attracts ladies.

You are right my dear. All that glitters are not Gold.

DailyNews:
Seems to be the obvious truth though....giving it a second thought.... ....thanks for that reminder....

DailyNews:
Seems to be the obvious truth though....giving it a second thought.... ....thanks for that reminder....

2sexy: @ 190 thanks... I cant help but wonder what ladies want. Though I have learnt not to treat them bad because I too have a sister . I have also learnt to put them where they belong.

Here is how I do my things.

If I am dating a girl, I score her 100% as we gone in to the relationship and I beginning to see that she is trying to act smart, I deduct mark and if eventually she keeps losing marks, I place her where she belongs.

PREACH!!

pattybf: why should any girl/woman want to suffer all in name of marriage just to be tagged 'real'. From my two years experience in marriage, i can tell u dat love & good charater does not keep a relationship but money does.

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even brothers want the best brother in laws funny enough... They don't want they're sisters to "suffer" ... That's what they say when a woman goes for what they see as a "looser".

So who's sister deserves to have that looser would you want your own sister to eat love when she's with a very poor stupid somebody?

Thing is some men jump from this to that and take forever to get anywhere so its not fair on us women to be considered "real" cause of waiting for someone to get his act together.

c.fours:
This topic is stupid. If you are a rich man, won't you go for the best woman available?
so why blame the woman for trying to go for the best man available to her.
maybe you need to look at yourself and find someone on your level instead of chasing after the flashy girls that are beyond your reach. I'm sure there are more less glamorous women that will agree to marry you if only you give them a chance.

it goes both ways, my brother.
and I agree with the poster who said when a poor man becomes rich, 90% of the time, he dumps the loyal girlfriend or wife for a more flashy one.

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pattybf: why should any girl/woman want to suffer all in name of marriage just to be tagged 'real'. From my two years experience in marriage, i can tell u dat love & good charater does not keep a relationship but money does.

Tell them I beg. everyone needs to pull they're own weight in these hard times . Do you even consider how a woman who ends up with a poorer partner gets teased by her entire family?

Do you even consider how a woman who ends up with a poorer partner gets teased by family and society?

khukhi:

Tell them I beg. everyone needs to pull they're own weight in these hard times . Do you even consider how a woman who ends up with a poorer partner gets teased by her entire family?

Smfh over and over and over again. Is this supposed to be intelligent. So what you are saying is if not for family and society you would have made different choices. OMG!!! When this one has children what values could she possibly instil in them? I'm beginning to believe people who say nairaland is filled with teenagers.