Ivynwa: Who is accusing Mac (who is a moslem) of sanctioning polygamy when his religion accepts that?

It is clear that the whole issue affected the woman mentally, someone once narrated to me how the same thing happened to their mother when their father took a second wife and they had to be treating her in a psychiatric hospital. What even gives some men the audacity to turn around and consider their wives "unbefitting" after getting old with them? The children should get medical help for their mother and stop patronizing the native doctors-prophets-and-prophetess that only help in breaking families apart with their crazy divinations and finger pointing.

As per the man the right proverb for him should be "Onye kpatara nku ahuhu si ngwere biara ya ugwo/ He who fetched an ant-ridden firewood invited lizards". What is that other woman still doing in that place? She better find her way and allow this unfortunate family to pull themselves together.

chaircover:

WHATTTTTTT!!!!!!!

Go back and read Biology 101 abegiiiiiiiiiiiiii. Is is not a medical fact that a mans libido decreases as he ages?




. . . . .And how can a woman with that at the back of her head, give her all in all to the marriage/man. You think that if I know that my husband will go and marry another I will invest so much into my marriage? Any spare penny I have will be put to securing my future and that of my kids.



A man who woke up one morning and kicked his wife to the kerb and is frolicking in the arms of another woman is the same man that you want to appeal to his conscience abi?

Richvkunt: Whatever their fathers fault,I still feel it is wrong for a child to raise his hand and manhandle his parent,not to talk of flinging their father and his property out of the house and publicly disgracing/humiliating him him.

maclatunji: i

Where did you put this one before that these "lionesses" wanted to devour me? Thank God I survived.

Richvkunt: I recently witnessed something that shocked me and made me wonder what has happened to the foundation of the family,if a couple of grown up kids could gang up and kick their aged father out of his own house?

The father in this real life story,had struggled all his life to train these four kids up to university level.
He had recently retired as a lower cadre civil servant,in one of the Federal ministries in the country.

In the course of his career as a civil servant he had managed to save up enough money to build a medium level bungalow,where he,his wife and four kids lived.

Now in his retirement,when he should be enjoying the fruit of his labour,his four grown up children and their mother ganged up to kick him out of his house,into the streets.WHY?

Well the reason according to the children,is that the their father recently collected his gratuity money and decided their mother was too old for him and therefore decided to bring in a younger woman as a wife to keep him warm in his old age.The children kicked against this and told their father that he could marry his new sweet sixteen OUTSIDE the house he built,meaning he had to rent a house outside where the new wife would stay.
The father agreed to these terms and conditions and everyone was living happily ever after until the mother of these four grown up kids contracted a strange sickness that almost turned her in to a lunatic who began mumbling and talking to herself.

The drama began,when these four kids who are university graduates decided to take their mother to a herbalist,instead of a psychiatric hospital.
The herbalist informed the stunned children that the cause of their mothers strange illness was their fathers new wife and that through their father the young wife had apparently planted some juju in the house that was affecting the mother and driving her mad.The children were up in arms and without consulting any elders confronted their father over the allegation of the herbalist.The father denied this accusation and insisted on the old wife being taken to a hospital for proper treatment.The children were having none of this and would not allow their father touch his wife.

Anyway last weekend all hell was let lose in the household when the four grown up children kicked their father out of his house,clothes,shoes,books and mattresses were flying through the air,till they rested in an untidy heap outside the house.

Finally the man himself was physically rough handled and pushed out of the house.
All pleas from neighbours for restraint fell on deaf ears.

Shocking situation:mother demented and living with a herbalist.Father thrown out of the house,into the streets.Grown up kids in the house refusing to take their mum for proper medical care.Young wife living in fear for her life.

What is the family turning into?

dayokanu: The children are in the wrong here.

people divorce everyday. Women divorce men and men divorce women. it would be heartless to tell the man to continue living with their mother if he doesnt feel like it again. Would it be better if he stayed with her and stabbed or shot her?

The man spent his gratuity he earned the way he wanted, The woman too could have worked and earned her gratuity and spent it on a new boy toy Would it be right for the kids to go to the house of the new Boyfriend and throw her belongings out causing her physical harm in the process?

Nothing is by force in the world. A couple can marry at 12noon and by 3pm one decide he/she isnt interested again. Likewise they can live for 60yrs and still say they are not doing again. Fight no dey inside

dayokanu: The children are in the wrong here.

people divorce everyday. Women divorce men and men divorce women. it would be heartless to tell the man to continue living with their mother if he doesnt feel like it again. Would it be better if he stayed with her and stabbed or shot her?

The man spent his gratuity he earned the way he wanted, The woman too could have worked and earned her gratuity and spent it on a new boy toy Would it be right for the kids to go to the house of the new Boyfriend and throw her belongings out causing her physical harm in the process?

Nothing is by force in the world. A couple can marry at 12noon and by 3pm one decide he/she isnt interested again. Likewise they can live for 60yrs and still say they are not doing again. Fight no dey inside

Ibime:

Shuuuuush!!!

The wife is entitled to half of his gratuity.

Im sure the wife woulda earned her own kishi if she wasnt home raising 4 kids.

The man is an eediot. His life is evidence of that. He was a broke ars.e all his life, and the first time he got his hand on a little cash (which Im sure is pocket change to me and you), he decided to waste it all on renting a place for some 16 year old girl (when he already has a house), rather than setting his children up in life or treating his long suffering wife to some rest and relaxation after all the sacrifices she must have made with him over the last 30 odd years.

Why couldnt he cheat discretely on his wife all these years if he needed some "action"? It is in his old age that he wants to behave like a kid, throw his toys out the pram and rub disgrace in his wife's face. There are many great men out there keeping their families intact whilst still enjoying small action on the side. Im sure his wife would not have gone mad even if he was cheating, but the old fool decided to disgrace his whole family by making the matter public.

armyofone:

The man is wrong! how can you treat someone like that? why didn't he share the money? i mean give her some.

Pple divorce everyday but please divorce with some sense and your sanity intact. a woman who has been with you all that long, given you 4 kids that you both raised! now you retire and hook up with a younger woman. How abt sharing the mooney or giving everything to her and start life afresh with your opeke?
What the man did was wrong. We may never know what their mama went through for the children to have acted like that.
no one is saying don't divorce but give that woman what she deserved!

armyofone: nothing like assuming in this case. read the Original post again.

She is entitled to that money.
don't get it twisted.

Richvkunt: Well the reason according to the children,is that the their father recently collected his gratuity money and decided their mother was too old for him and therefore decided to bring in a younger woman as a wife to keep him warm in his old age.[b]The children kicked against this and told their father that he could marry his new sweet sixteen OUTSIDE the house he built,meaning he had to rent a house outside where the new wife would stay.
The father agreed to these terms and conditions and everyone was living happily ever after [/b]until the mother of these four grown up kids contracted a strange sickness that almost turned her in to a lunatic who began mumbling and talking to herself.