'My names are 'is often used in courts because the justice, lawyers from both end must know all your names so that when References are made to such names, they will know it is you.
But outside the court, ' My name is the most appropriate .
ify2016: Introducing ourselves is something we do in our everyday life in Gatherings, Meetings, or in Classroom. We usually introduce ourselves by saying: “My name is Tochukwu”, “I am Tochukwu”, “Hello everyone, I’m Tochukwu”, “Hey guys, I am Tochukwu” or “My name’s Tochukwu”.
The duality of English language has however resulted into controversy in the appropriate manner we should introduce ourselves. While some are of the opinion that the appropriate and grammatically correct manner of introducing yourself is saying “My name is Tochukwu Anayo”, some others suggest that the appropriate way of introducing yourself is saying “My names are Tochukwu Anayo-Enechukwu” in order to show plurality of your name.
These conflicting opinion is the reason for writing this article which examines whether ‘My name is’ or ‘My names are’ is the correct form of introducing yourself.
cause to reveal his dual identity, the rare plurality will apply and the writer may introduce himself by saying: My names are Anayo Tochukwu and Charles Lee (pseudonym name).
The similarity with the two aforementioned exceptions is its resemblance of plurality and the use of the conjunction ‘and’ which we cannot normally use while introducing ourselves. Thus, these exceptions come in handy in very special circumstance and can never fall under the conventional form of introducing your name. Hence, saying “My names are” is wrong, while saying “My name is” is the correct way of introducing your name.
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You that is a love-vendor nko? You think being a hard man in marriage works, nonsense it doesn't. Small children hiding behind a laptop or a phone to write nonsense about a man bring a simp.simply because he has appreciated his wife. I bet you, you are the most of all simpleton
Nigeria is the only part of the globe where they celebrate people for behaving like a normal human being or performing their duties⚠️
You will never see a white man, indian, Chinese or even an Arabian man with this kind of long epistle of jargon over a woman♂️
I have never come across a clip or text where foreign men are worshipping and praising their women, whenever i come online all i see is foolish African men disgracing themselves😔😔
Your wife is simply doing what you married her for and is no big issue you bloody simp💯
If you feel you need to show her love for being a good wife, please do that secretly and stop blocking our online space😡
Oga, your wife's younger brother is your inlaw and you need to ring.and hear from.him of the balance of 3.5m is his contribution or something.
If you are not.comfortable with the arrangement let both your wife and his brother know. Don't listen to anyone that calls you a SIMP.
You love your wife and wants her comfortable and anyone who doesn't like should go hug a TRANSFORMER.
QED
Freethought: My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.
This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.
Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.
I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.
The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.
What happened to a 3.5M car if he actually wants to buy a car for his sister?? Why must it be 5M naira car...... Either ur wife wants to run u marital street or the brother wants to run ur wife//you confirm street..
Wateva the case is ...u won't like the outcome after u drop the money
[ You MUST BE SICK IN THE HEAD AND STUPID FROM THE WOMB for writing this rubbish
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What is the state using the profits for?
Are they impacting on the common lives of her people? Because you will find every Akwaibom person doing househelp in almost every state in Nigeria.[/quote]
This is absolutely nonsensical, did you grow up to see Africans using fork and knife to eat our local foods or you just want to form nonsense table etiquette.
I use my hand to eat eba, come my house come beat me
If you marry wrong these are the things you get but if you marry the right person, you will enjoy your marriage. It's a mindset you MUST change, whether you are going to marry an American, British, Chinese, indian or.......... , there are challenges in marriage which you must work together with your husband to overcome through prayers, understanding, love and respect for each other.
Aa a woman you MUST first respect your husband to derive the best from him but if you copy and paste the OYIBO lifestyle of FEMINISM, YOU GO SUFFER.
You must contribute to the success of the marriage, you must make financial intelligence an important ingredient, don't spend money anyhow, don't hold your money from him, don't report the issues in your marriage to a third-party NO MATTER what happened.
If 2 people don't agree, they can't work together
Persephone1: [i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
REVEALED: Mr Caleb Westberg, CSU’s registrar since November 2020, said that Mr Tinubu did not apply for a replacement certificate, nor was he ever issued one -
Mr Caleb Westberg, the registrar at Chicago State University, during the deposition that lasted about 5.5 hours said Mr Tinubu’s certificate, dated June 22, 1979, and tendered to INEC on June 17, 2022, was not issued by the school and its administrators could, therefore, not be able to authenticate its source.
You guys are liars from the pit of hell, tufiakwa
Naija2023: Chicago State University registrar: We get 30 enquiries a day on Tinubu, confirms graduation
Go and read history my friend and stop this, blacks were the first people to occupy the locations called India and even China too
GYBABA: Jeez, she's an Asian that's just dark skinned probably due to been exposed to harsh weather conditions or her genes are responsible. Don't you see dark skinned Indians when you watch Bollywood movies? These guys are mostly used as thugs, criminals, henchmen & stuff. Do blacks even have that hairstyle she has naturally? Nawa for you ooo
Oga, I am a married man and a faithful one for that matter, I will tell you the truth, you are an idiot for going outside your marriage to commit adultery. No matter how you cover it with many excuses, it doesn't hold any water.
Build up your mind to love your wife and your love making will be rekindled. It's your mind my friend
I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.
My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).
I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.
Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.
Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.
Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.
As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.
Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?
Madam go.on your knees and ask your Heavenly father for the way out. Humans instinct and advice might not be enough. Thank you
Vyvyanvyvy: Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.
I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.
I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.
He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.
Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?
She is from Onna Local Government Area in Akwa Ibom State not from Cross River please
NaijaRoyalty: He that findeth a woman findeth a good thing and enjoys obtains favours from God, so says the bible. And since H.E Peter Obi met his beautiful wife, Margareth, it has been blessings upon blessings upon the 2023 presidential front runner, Mr Peter Gregory Obi.
The photos below are pictures of Mr Peter Obi in loved up photos with his beautiful wife, Margareth.
Please sign underground to bring rubbish report but you guys refused to address the drug baron headache your corrupt laden master is carrying about. Una nova start Nonsense and ingredients
Specialist900: all these governors, they all forget that one day they will cease to become governors then they will seat and recount all they did when they had power. its their time sha, anything they want to do they should do
Did you see a tweet where Deji told Sowore Reporter that he never meant that ? Or you are one of them rushing to attack Peter Obi? We have seen you, Nwa jog on
JEWELofHELL666: Peter Obi Offered Me Money To Support Him, I Rejected It — Adeyanju Lambasts Supporters Of Labour Party Presidential Candidate Who Accused Him Of Sycophancy | Sahara Reporters.
It will not discourage people, it's to show people that are new that, everyone will be scanned. Be free okay
bottlewater1: Good morning nairaladers and happy Trinity day
So I went to church with my family, at the entrance of the church members of protocol use their security gadgets to search us whether we carry any kind of weapon. Me that did not even carry Bible expect my phone and offering, yet they use their gadgets on me.
My opinion:
I was just laughing because it seems they don't trust their members again for instance me a member of more than five years and listen to the pastor almost every week. I think this acts in church will further discourage people from attending church services but to stick to electronic programmes
You are sick in the head and stupid from the womb for typing this rubbish about your fellow citizens. If you are called a black monkey you will puff like an over feed monkey. Idiot
It has to be. What is the residents population of Akwa Ibom? With 95% of Akwa Ibom indegenes working as house boys and house girls in Lagos, tbe state should be the cleanest on Earth
Solofresh2: There is course mate of mine. We were close friends in school. So there is this day she followed me to my home (because I don't live in the hostel, I rented an apartment outside), I was so hungry so she decided to cook for me. After we finished eating, one thing led to the other and we had sex. This girl is in her early twenties just like me.
Since that day, she never lets me rest. We have been having sex and she told me she has a boyfriend. She comes to my house and we always end up having sex all the time. I have told her enough is enough but she keeps coming. I use protection though.
I blamed myself for letting her know my place How can I discard this girl totally because as long as she comes, I will keep sleeping with her.
Bro, fix the date and arrange with the King and your kinsmen in collaboration with some Mopol to station around the burial or secretly arrest them one by one and after the burial then release then
My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.
My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.
Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.
They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.
They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.
I really want to charge them for this.
They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.
These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.
Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.
They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.
The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.
I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.
Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.
I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.
I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.
I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.
I have been a member of this forum from 2007 and I love it so so much, I am addicted. For the tribal tantrums, I don't respond to such, truth be told, some are for cruise and some are deep-seated bigotry . Seun well done
Leave the house for 2 months and stay in an hotel, don't call or visit but remember to send money to her to take care of your son.
DONT ALLOW ANY WOMAN TO FRUSTRATE YOU
QED
Philip94: I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.
She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.
Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.
I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.
She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.
B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.
Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
Go and beg both your dad and mum then leave the house QED
Moz22: Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
2 to 3 times a week is good, I thought it was 2 to 3 times a day. Bro please it's good for the prostrate, you will be 40 soon. Get on with it
Videour post=111303818: Actually she's a good girl in all aspects. We have been dating for 3year now, she's all I want in a woman, her smile gives me joy every time with dimples.
I am 35 years she should be going to 25 this year. A career lady that has this hustle spirit in her but my problem is that she's obsessed with sex.
Imagine a man at my age having 2 to three times a week, which I know if I don't put in work she's definitely going to get it else where.
Psychologically, it's affecting me. Please what is the best way to handle this? My Nairaland family.
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