UnproudLife: So it happened that at this certain time, I was running a lucrative business that had so much cashflow., to the tune of about 2-4m monthly and I married my long-time girlfriend whom I disvirgined and had been dating for 7 years.
The moment we married and started the family journey, I tried making conversations about having a core family standard that would make harmony stand the test of time. Note that I am a man who is disciplined and goal-oriented. So first I approached my wife with a conversation on how to both make meaningful contributions in getting the family from point A to B at all times, to be more detailed, one of the conversations we had was about our finances because I also mentored her in the same business and she was raking in cash as well and was profitable.
I asked her that we make it a habit of both of us making contributions, having a certain joint account where we drop in cash from a certain amount we make sure we get paid monthly from our businesses. This was because while I was a reasonable spender who knows that if I go broke nobody got my back in the whole wide world. I'm the kinda person who when I spend, let's say for example, 200k just knows I'm worth times 30 of that but even with that I didn't have a concrete structure in business, I just spend money or do things as though my business was an extension of me, which the same was my wife's as well. And this was the reason I wanted us to make the conversation and also do things together. So I told her when we get paid monthly from our businesses we send a certain percentage of it to a joint account to run the family and if I was doing let's say 70k she should do like 30k because, with all honesty, I valued her business at if not half of mine or slightly above it was close at the time. And this was immediately we got married oh.
I was met with strong refusal, as she told me I married her and it was my duty to cater for everything, but as a patient person that I am in not making my judgement rashly I kept trying to convince her. I did till when it dawned on me that we was stern with her objection. And then this created in me a sense of deep selfishness from my wife and also note that I wasn't ever nosey about her income and even though I had a way to access her accounts to monitor Everything I wasn't interested and I was being the sole provider in the family while I watched my wife spend her money how she liked, making decisions that should involve me with her sister and calling some things to surprise me, and I don't mean it negatively.
It happened that i started a project in building a house 3years before we married which I'd credit to her sisters's advice and by the time we married we were already done with the roofing, remaining plastering and the rest. We were living at a very moderate house in town but had this project at a suburb in lagos which we all know that as a lagosian is still Lagos but only that the area would be less expensive. So at a time we were planning moving to a better apartment in town when her sister and her friend advised we pour money in completing our own place to move in. After much convincing I agreed and God blessed the most during this period in business so I had a dream house kind of finishing to the interior and we moved in.
During this time we were managing living at our business place because I was still accommodating her in my business space and we lived there and went home ones or twice in 2 weeks as it was easier with my driving. We then had a certain disagreement that made my wife without my agreement move her business and everything to that house and the area sighting her sister advicing it be done. I winked at it for peace to reign and because I wasn't a fool. Sorry without having to correct what I typed up there, this was the real account of what happened. When we had our first child she moved directly there and I went home weekends while running both businesses with me just directing her staffs and guiding them with discipline. We all know when you leave business for strangers it's OYO but all that doesn't mean I was also having access to her money, the money went to her while I managed the business.
This also was playing out while we dated and got married in how she never likes making any expenditure in even the cost of executing her jobs, and she would rather blackmail which I don't buy and because at those times I stick to mindset in business she'd rebel and take rash decision that would later backfire. So that was how she came one day and moved her everything to the area where we built saying her sister advised it.
I was a faithful man, a born again personality who ever since I gave my life to Christ about 5years to our marriage I stopped having fornication even with her or anyone and till that point in the marriage. So as she had moved, ye little things I knew in her business started diminishing while I was running the family financially. But this lady was always making me feel less than a man because she was so so not submissive even though I married her with the us being both core Christians and born again where she was even more fired up than me so we all knew submissiveness was the watchword but she wouldn't sub to it at this point and when I was home she'd make life miserable for me shouting in an area that the voice travels far, insult my life telling me that she regretted marrying me because I was a person who just wouldn't budge and I used to say I don't "think" as in the thinking that leads to depression and I guess this was why she wasn't having it. I always found ways to channel my thoughts to things positive that gets me going and even forgiving her on time while she sometimes take days to stop keeping malice.
This lady graduated to the aspect of telling me she stooped so low marrying me and I could go out and meet other ladies that she wouldn't even give a damn, and this went on for a long time. Without exaggeration, I myself was someone that in her words she feel for initially because of my looks although I was 5"7 and she like 5"6 in height which isn't that short for a man. I knew how young in thought and look I was when I start taking care of myself and dressing nice again and without a doubt an handsome man, so it got to a point I said to myself I've had enough. At this time I was already lusting at my spec in ladies out there in which I married her like but she refused to remain at. I brushed off and even while being in my early 30s I had several ladies saying I looked 23-26 in age and I started meeting ladies and having affairs with multiple through platforms and it was mind-blowing to me because they were telling me I looked better in person even though the profile pictures I had were compelling themselves. So I had several young ladies wishing we were dating for real but u didn't want that and wouldn't lie to get them laid with promises but the only lie I told was that I wasn't married neither with kids which some weren't even suspecting not to talk of asking such. But something was just not clicking with the way guys if this age behave when I relate with them and this is when we have more deeper relations and then they start sensing the nature of responsibility which makes them ask if I was married.
So at this point I said to myself, I was separated from my wife and I told her in several occasions because I wasn't going home as often as before she noticed all the changes in my looks but cared less. I was so far gone in having other ladies that I didn't even know what could ever make me wanna get back with her again. But in all these I was still a man who doesn't believe in divorce, which is what I always tell her made her misbehave. Then lemme note this. I was so far gone playing churchy Al these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale, I could remember hearing the word hookup for the first time 2 years ago when I had started contemplating cheating and I turned so many girls down on those platforms when I understood what hookup meant. I mostly kept them friends online for whining and all and I went off without meeting anyone until last year, that same last year by almost the middle of the year I had my first encounter with a lady who was almost begging I had s*X with her right in my car as the car was tinted at the back, and this was while being friends. I refused and explained I had never done it before. But a month later I started getting in the act until miraculously this year at mid year I had been longing for a change in lifestyle when I got the gift of repentance right in church and I just at this moment didn't care what my wife had ever done to me, I just forgave her in my heart, asked for forgiveness from God. Then it has been happening lately by then that she had been begging me and her sister was saying she in the person of my wife was already fed up and wanted to beg back in good terms with me but you know basking in the love of flesh I wasn't into it and knowing she was the kind that goes back to her vomit. But at this point I determined to make her come where I was and then we reconcile. But shortly after I did restitution with her and told her all I had done and what she made be go into but to my surprise she was so disappointed crying and telling me all sorts which was surprising to me because I expected this woman should have already seen the writing on the wall because I don't know how to pretend at all but she said she never suspected that she knew I was a Christian. Although I played a clean game but was was obvious was the fact that I changed in looks and all and shouldn't that be glaring. And now she only sober occasionally when the thoughts kicks in
My main problem now is that, while my first child is a copy of me, I started seeing the looks of my sister in law's last born in my last kid, which my mum has vaguely noted and I seconded. We can't even nurture the thought as we just said it. But personally each day I now stay with the kid I keep looking the semblance and thinking what if my bro in law which is my sister in law's hobby fathered this child. You see that would have out the child conception at about 3 months before I ever started having affairs outside marriage. I just wish to know what you guys think because I haven't even been able to ask any question relating to that as my wife just seem to off to ever fall into such.
Please ignore any typo as it was long and I'm trying to get by with a new course and it'll be hard to go through what I've written again. Pardon me
Do DNA for both kids, even the one that you think looks like you.
socialmediaman: Reno is wasting his time, Atiku's chances are very slim in this election. If Kwankwaso continues campaigning strongly in the NE and NW, he may eventually overtake Atiku and end up in second place behind Peter Obi, which means:
1. Peter Obi (winner) 2. Kwankwaso (runner up) 3. Atiku or Tinubu
The Juve star is set for a sensational return to Old Trafford after he departed Turin by private plane on Friday
Manchester United have agreed a £24 million (€28m/$33m) deal to sign Cristiano Ronaldo from Juventus, Goal can confirm.
Ronaldo’s agent Jorge Mendes offered the former Red Devils forward to Man City after they missed out top target Harry Kane, but City dropped out of the race on Friday.
That allowed United to make an official bid to bring the 36-year-old back to Old Trafford, where he starred between 2003 and 2009.
What's been said about the Ronaldo transfer? In a press conference on Friday, Pep Guardiola suggested City's squad will remain the same despite failing to replace Sergio Aguero who left for Barcelona at the end of last season.
"The position right now this is my feeling that I am more delighted with the squad I have and we will say the same," said Guardiola.
"I am incredibly happy with the squad I have more than satisfied. We are the same squad except one player leaves Sergio and we have Jack [Grealish]."
Man Utd have made a €28m offer for Cristiano Ronaldo � pic.twitter.com/4xWcxwjWS5
— Goal (@goal) August 27, 2021 United boss Ole Gunnar Solskjaer, earlier on Friday, refused to rule out a deal.
“I don’t want to speculate too much. Cristiano is a legend of this club, he is the greatest player of all time," said Solskjaer.
"He’s such a tremendous human being so let's see what happens with him; everyone who’s played with him will have a soft spot for him.”
When pushed on whether or not United would be making a move for Ronaldo, he replied: "I didn’t think Cristiano would turn out leaving Juventus and it’s been speculation the last few days. We’ve always had good communication. I know Bruno [Fernandes] has been talking to him as well and he knows what we feel about him and If he was ever going to move away from Juventus he knows we’re here."
Ronaldo transfer: The bigger picture Juventus boss Max Allegri confirmed at his news conference that Ronaldo has no "intention of staying" with the Italian club.
He was seen leaving Juventus' training ground on Friday morning while the rest of the team began their session, before boarding a private plane out of Turin.
City held some talks over the possibility of a deal but there was no agreement on terms between the player and club.
Ronaldo was believed to be open to a move to the Etihad Stadium despite saying in the past that he would never line up for one of the Red Devils' main rivals.
Juventus are looking for a £24m transfer fee from any potential buyers, otherwise they would suffer a capital loss on their original deal to sign Ronaldo from Real Madrid in 2018.
FaruqMadridCr7: Mods pls don't delete this post I know it's a wrong section i just need help pls. This is will be lengthy but please bear with me
I think it's high time I share what I've been going through with you guys cause I don't know which way again. I'm an introvert, I'm always shy this makes me feel so less and the worst part is that I'm scared of almost everything as well, this particular fear is drowning me.I don't know what to do again,I always try to read some motivational quote,they help me sometimes but it's never permanent. I always try my best to be brave and confident but it only works for few minutes,hours, days it's never permanent.i don't know whether it's only me in this shoe but those who knows what real fear is will understand me, it's Soo hard for me to do things on my own,fear always grip me plus shyness,and what I've observed in me that cause this fear is THINKING.
I think too much, even when I don't want to think, those thought will just come to my head without control and I'll be just be thinking whatever and this is really affecting me psychologically. it's really affecting my live.i can't think straight. I always feel less confident at home and work, when my peers are talking and gisting I'll find it very hard to join them, thinking of how to associate with them in my head.These people are not newly friends to me,yet I still find it very hard to feel free with them . It's always a bad experience for me infact it gets to a certain point when I'm shy and scared I'll be shaking and having a hot temperature as if I'm in war can you imagine
But, whenever this fear and shyness leaves me(when I'm trying to act bold it sometimes will)I feel like a normal person,I control things,I do whatever I want to do,THAT IS ALL I CRAVED FOR but it's never permanent. I don't just know how I'm going to live my life on my own way. I'm tired of these things guys I don't know what to do again please help me.Anyhow. I'm scared as I'm typing this scared with no one or nothing pursuing me oo I pray so much on this. It's been happening to me since I was small.i always think it will leave me when I grow older but now I'm 19 and it's just getting worse.It cause so much depression in me there was I time I thought of committing suicide cause I was totally fed up of everything. I'll just wake up every single day thinking of how to overcome fear while it grips me more.Being shy is normal but the scared part is what is killing me.Anybody with help pls just don't know where to face Lalasticlala,dominique mynd44 pls help me push this to front page
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joefengzy: Please your advise is needed A friend intend to move to hongkong on a free visa Kindly advice her Thanks.
Free visa?
She needs to apbe able to answer a few honest questions, like:
1. Who's paying for it on her behalf or who's issuing the free visa? 2. Will she be going OYO or she'll be attached to the issuer? 3. Is she obligated to repay? 4. Is she going to be free over there to do what she deems fit or she will be obligated to do certain work? 5. Has she been trying to move abroad/to Hongkong or it was just dropped into her laps? 7. Is she ready to learn Chinese? Etc
jiggaz: This post is not in any way in support of suicide. No matter what has happened or is happening around you, taking your own life is never an option. If you are going through depression to the point you are having suicidal thoughts, please speak up. Talk to someone - a fellow believer, a pastor, loving relatives or trained specialists.
According to ResearchGate, over the last 45 years, suicide has increased globally by 60%. Among the young and the elderly. This has led to many Christians wondering what happens to fellow Christians who lost their lives via suicide, where will they go?
If you have lost a friend, a loved one, a colleague or a business partner who is a Christian through suicide and you are wondering what will happen to them since they have a hand in their own deaths, let this post comfort and set your heart at peace as it brings to light what the Bible truly teaches concerning that.
What The Bible Truly Says About Suicide
Here is what the Bible has to say concerning suicide.
1. Suicide is a sin but not the unpardonable sin
Like every other wrong acts the Bible instructed you not to be involved in, suicide is a sin. It has to do with one taking his own life, that is, one killing himself (directly or indirectly). We are instructed to cherish and value life in the scriptures, not to destroy it.
However, though suicide is a sin, it is not the unpardonable sin. The sin which can never be forgiven. The unpardonable sin also known as the sin against the Holy Spirit, is simply a wilful rejection of Christ via unbelief in the Salvation and forgiveness of sins that He has brought for all men.
2. The Sacrifice of Jesus was for all sins, including suicide
“For by one offering, he hath perfected forever them that are sanctified.” Heb. 10:14 KJV
The sacrifice of Jesus did not take care of the “small” sins alone, leaving the “big” ones behind. It took care of all sins, for all times. And that includes suicide and other sins that causes the ear to tingle.
Haven taken care of the believer’s sins by the sacrifice of Himself, He established Himself as his advocate (the believer’s advocate). So the believer has nothing to answer for before the Father concerning sins.
“My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.” 1 John 2:1-2 KJV
He is the advocate and the propitiation for our sins, including that of those who took their own lives.
3. Those who lost their lives through suicide are still saved if they depended on Jesus for Salvation
One of the most popular misconceptions about Salvation is that it is a work in progress. That is to say that our salvation from sin is a progressive work and not instantenous. While this may be partially true for our present physical bodies (since it is still waiting for immortality to be fully manifested on it), it is not true for our Spirits where the real Salvation took place (to be manifested to our outer parts from there).
Those who say man’s Salvation is on going most of the time presents it in such a way that you are not totally saved until the end. And that is largely because your Salvation will have to depend on how sinless or sinful you have been to be completed or cancelled totally. That would mean that if you ever sin after believing in Jesus, then there is a tendency that you may lose your Salvation and go to Hell. This is not what the Bible teaches.
In every place that the Bible talk about man’s Salvation from sin, it always presents it as eternal and instantenous. The scriptures are clear on this, exceprt when quoted or read out of context.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 KJV
Did you notice how the above scripture said “whosoever believeth in him” and not “whosoever stops sinning” or “whosoever does not sin” shall not perish? It is crystal clear. Those who believed in Jesus for Salvation can never ever perish. Regardless of the sin they commit afterwards, including suicide.
Does this mean it is okay to sin? God forbid! Jesus died so we can live for Him, and part of how we live for Him is through righteous living. However if we fall into sin while on this earth, we can be sure Jesus got our back. And that’s till eternity.
In conclusion
We started by saying Suicide is never an option. Regardless of whatever you are going through, there is always a way out. You may not see it but it’s right there. Find someone to talk to. We were then able to see from the Scriptures suicide is one of the sins for which Jesus died. And by His death, He redeemed man from sin, granting him eternal Salvation. So if a man died in Jesus, regardless of how he died, his Salvation is still intact.
So do you have someone who is a Christian that lost his life through suicide? Be rest-assured that even as we speak, he or she is with the Father, completely saved through the sacrifice of Jesus.
@OP, all of the items of your argument are seriously flawed, first of, you're basically preaching that once a person is saved or has given their life to Jesus, that person is saved regardless of any thing they do afterwards.
The sin of suicide is equivalent to the sin of mother in gravity, but suicide is worse in that there can be no repentance from it. someone who commits murder can repent, be forgiven and become genuinely born again, but those who committed suicide denied themselves the chance to repent as there is no repentance in the grave.
Only those who died in Christ are saved and will go to heaven and that cannot be said of those who willfully commit suicide.
The ONLY WAY, I RECKON, THAT SOMEONE WHO COMMITTED SUICIDE CAN BE SAVED IS IF THEY WERE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF A FORCE BEYOND THEM SUCH AS BEING OBSSESSED BY A DEMON OR SOME OTHER MEANS OF MANIPULATION, IN OTHER WORLDS, THE ACT WAS NOT DONE WILLFULLY.
The first of three debates between Republican US President Donald Trump and Democrat nominee Joe Biden is set to take place this early morning at 2 am Nigerian time (9pm Eastern Time) in Cleveland, Ohio. It is going to last 90 minutes.
Bloooody: It seems women are very very dull when compared to us men especially Nigerian women. I dare any man to try to bring an intellectual debate with his girl like the government or the existence of god or evolution or the theories of natural selection. Almost no woman would answer you especially a nigerian woman. It's very unsettling and makes you question if truly they deserve equality with us men.
I bet it's the people you know, I have a lot of super-smart ladies in my cycle. I've seen both male and female dullards too. But maybe the percentage of the clueless ones is higher though.
But do not rate a girl who is not versed in the things that interest you as dull, she may not be interested in those things or she may not be as exposed as she should.
Hndrrxxx: That's true Ofc It's a new era and it's going to be harddd asf
Tbh he is right. It was easier fr Man United to dominate in the 90's because they had no rivals in terms of revenue . But he's really fuxked up saying it was easier and Alex Ferguson is basically a shyt whisked nosed Arrow (OLE's words) until Abrahamovic took over Chelsea and United were second best in terms of trophy haul even tho Chelsea had several managers they won more than United but after 2004 Ferguson isn't actually the Man UTD make him out to be
It's obvious you don't know your onions, Fergie still won the league 3 times in a row after 2004 (2007, 2008, 2009) and narrowly lost in 2010 and 2012 (on goal difference for the latter) would have been 7 in a row before he retired cos he won it in 2011 and 2013 too making it a total of 5 league titles since Abrahamovic acquired Chelsea. Chelsea only won 3 league titles in that time!
Hello techlanders, I am looking to market my products with the network marketing business model and therefore need an ecommerce incorporated MLM Website but i couldn't a Nigerian developer online. I want to use a forced matrix system (with a maximum of 3 downlines for each). Any suggestions please?
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Opera News is a news publishing outlet that uses independent freelancers to produce their news items and articles
The only problem is that they do not pay you for the work, Opera News pay based on how your article fairs after being published: that is, by the number clicks, likes, comments and shares
However, their pay per click is super low: N0.036 per click, so it might be impossible to really make much money from that.
However, they pay N1800 for every 100 engagements (i.e. likes, comments and shares) and there's a sense in that, it is highly unlikely that you get 100 likes because most people who read news items do not like or comment, they just read and move on, and you can only like an Opera News item from their app.
So, I have created a system where we will be optimising the use of engagements to help everyone make 'at least' 1800 per article.
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Family / Re: How Do I Confront My Wife With This Kind Of Question by lonipeter(m): 7:25pm On Nov 21, 2023 
this particular fear is drowning me.I don't know what to do again,I always try to read some motivational quote,they help me sometimes but it's never permanent.
