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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by chris51(f): 7:12am On Jun 08, 2021 |
What you should look out for in a man is, that he has potential. I don't think your mother said, look for a poor man and marry. She didn't want you to fall into the trap of money bags who have no regard for wives and in-laws |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Blacksavage: 7:21am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: Omolola mi |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by jamesfield: 7:30am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by jmichael259(m): 7:32am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: It's either you didn't understand your mother's words or she didn't explain it properly. From the tone of this writeup, I'll say the fault is all yours. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Bordrich7(m): 7:40am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Since you know money is not love and you ain't after money, den what's ur problem ��� |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by erinatso: 7:45am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Came4amod:biko dont use ur confusion to confuse my confusion mbok |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Erojepromise(f): 7:59am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Asides the guy ticking all my boxes , he has to be averagely rich or rich , our kids cannot come to this life suffer and live poorly throughout their lives . Moreover if a poor guy with no achievement whatsoever decides to marry it only means he is unambitious and will likely be poor forever because basically you need funds to live and marriage is no different , money is definitely needed to sustain marriage forget love or no love . If 1 Like |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by LoveThemChubby(m): 8:10am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Stoop ke? You can only talk of stooping if you are from a wealthy family. You are not stooping low if you are poor and marrying someone poor because you two are on the same level. Besides you don't call someone poor if you are also poor |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Nobody: 8:24am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: Your mumu no get level. You don't need marriage now, please go ahead and work for yourself. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mapet: 8:29am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: 1. Stoop so low? Bad mother? what a ridiculous conclusion and entitlement mentality! On what basis do you think you deserve a rich man? Do you think it is by right? 2. You're a Yoruba girl I believe, your mother is speaking in context. She is not telling to marry a poor man. She is telling you to build your future together with a man from an humble beginning. She's advising you to be involved in the foundation of the home and family you want to be part of. She is advising you on issues along sharing burdens, pains and glory. 3. The other thing is that there are consequences/trade-offs with choices. Many people who marry into rich or already made family have tales, some sad, some of regret that money cannot wipe away. 4. The most important thing lies with you. Why don't you concentrate on carefully and prayerfully making the right choice "rich"-or-"poor" 1 Like |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mapet: 8:30am On Jun 08, 2021 |
NeeKlaus: Great submission |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mapet: 8:31am On Jun 08, 2021 |
emorse: I wouldn't |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mapet: 8:33am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: This line up here strongly suggests you're after money |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by HISSCRIBE1995: 8:34am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: The issue is not a rich man or poor man, but a man who will be an instrumentality in helping you fulfill what God destined you to be. What if you Marry a poor man, struggle with him, became successful - he then abandoned you for another woman? Haven't you heard of such stories where the wife help the husband to success only for him to abandon her? So the issue is marrying who God destined for you wether he be rich or poor, and not who some someone thinks you should marry. Your mother's destiny is different from yours, and your mother's experience might be different from yours at the end Think from the two edge of the stick then break it at the middle before your make your choice |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by alizma: 9:02am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100:Since you have concluded that she doesn't want something good for you, please follow your own heart. Eleriburuku, you called marrying a man who is not yet made an act of stopping so low, please how much is in your account, what do you do for a living, if you re not so poor both mentally and materially, would you be looking for a man to depending on? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by YESpParticipant: 9:07am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Crude oil dey your head! Amotolongbo: |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Goalnaldo(m): 9:12am On Jun 08, 2021 |
emmaodet:you are right sir. Hope you have not swallowed the redpill? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by westerner147: 9:21am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Onyi22: Funny you |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mayberry1(f): 9:38am On Jun 08, 2021 |
emmaodet: You made some valid points but I beg to differ on some; What's your yardstick for going into a relationship with the opposite sex, that would define if it's going to be meaningful or not. I'd use myself as an example, the least thing that'll make me date a man is his looks or how buoyant he is. If a man is intellectually and morally bankrupt, bereft of principles in life then it's a 'no' for me because I can't date a man who's not on same page with me. I will admonish men to look beyond beauty and focus on important things when searching for a partner. You mentioned men dating governors daughters and be of best behaviour cause of what they stand to lose if they act otherwise...lol, you haven't seen men who do and jeopardise everything still. Anything built on material benefits will never stand the test of time when life happens to one person(life will always happen to us in different ways). So try not to lower the bar when getting into a relationship, there are intelligent women who would help you grow in all facets of your existence, they are out there you just haven't looked within. Bye too....lol |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:38am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: This feels like a bait post, but if it'll bring them mail tears (which I suspect it will), I'm all for it! |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Nlanalyst: 9:39am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:Male you mean? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:44am On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100: That's right. Don't mind the small boys tryna shame you. Embrace your hypergamic nature and choose the best. That's what they'll do too if they had the money. Na painment. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:46am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Ninejaywon: Like. So? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:49am On Jun 08, 2021 |
mrblessed: Exactly. She shouldn't have tried to pander or mask anything. And you're right. She's expressing all our wishes (abeg, leave me if you are not average and it doesn't apply to you). If men can boldly and shamelessly say they want virgins, why not women wanting rich men? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:52am On Jun 08, 2021 |
this is what all women say but we understand You don't understand shit. Not all women, at least not me. I want the money, I want the money, I want the money and I'm not gonna "cover mouth" to say that. That's all I'm after and all I'm in relationships for. Finish. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:04am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Tony142: Wowww. Are you a man?? ?? ?? And it seems you're a follower sef. Kaiiiiii. I don't think that's coincidental, but this comment is tooo much!!!! I wanna like it a million times. "Everything is not about money bleh bleh bleh." What exactly do they want women to marry "poor men" for if they say true love isn't real? These people are fking hypocrites and I've learnt that they are cool with some things if it's coming from their mouths. The moment a woman accept their narration, take it in and turn around to say if for herself, they start foaming from their mouths. These people have said women don't love; even men don't love (as per the logical creatures); I know so many redpillers that have told me that marriage is a business contract to them and that love is a scam and allllll sorts. So if love isn't real, what exactly is the blackmail and tears for? If poor man na rich man no fit love, why not a calculative woman go for the best option that'll bring her more advantages in a business deal?? Clowns shooting themselves in the foot. iLegendd: The same way nobody is going to marry us non-virgins. Abi? Let's just make the best of our situations. Teinz. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by kissdreyalltime: 10:11am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Please, what’s your definition of poor man?? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Gerrard59(m): 10:13am On Jun 08, 2021 |
NeeKlaus: 1 Like
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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:16am On Jun 08, 2021 |
Volkswagen90: You think a rich man of all people is looking for a woman that has money like he does? For what exactly? If anything, money is down the list of their criteria. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Georgejeez: 10:32am On Jun 08, 2021 |
franklingud:Ogheneme !!! See question,how many years old are you? i go leave this Nairaland for Una o |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:48am On Jun 08, 2021 |
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2021/03/05/leemon-ikpea-how-a-husband-made-peace-with-an-acrimonious-wife/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/theinfong.com/2021/03/nigerian-billionaire-sends-wife-of-39-years-packing-after-mistress-tells-him-to-do-so-photos/amp/ Yes. I finally found this story. And I think it'll interest some particular users here. cc: Twoclans - look at the side chick angle. Mr. NiRFreak - you say you wanna marry an uneducated woman? Well that's one for you. Good luck in the compatibility. And my dear Omolola100 - that's a woman that started from the bottom with a man, only to end up being thrown out of her matrimonial home after 39 years of marriage. With nothing to show for it. Stories like that abound. After reading this, do whatever you feel is good for you. |
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