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Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by jikins(m): 4:24pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
perambulator: You feel I am underestimating it but I feel you are overestimating it to prove a point. The child will clearly still have his roots and clearly know where he comes from. Your father's heritage isn't solely your roots. Your mothers heritage also makes up 50% of it. So this doesn't apply at all. I wonder what you will say about adopted children. Listen black Americans or at least the ones you claim are fu*ked up isn't because of the fact they don't know their roots. That's just a lazy excuse to defend poor parenting and negative societal influences. Don't pretend you don't know what they go through in the US. That alone can mess you up Again a child that is brought up well with lots of love and constant validation will be 100% fine. Obviously they would wish they had a dad in certain situations and in others they will be happy they don't. Not all dads are great I'm sure you know that. They will know who they are and where they are from. I talk like this because I was raised by a single mom. But never once have I felt inadequate or that I don't know my roots that's just some lazy excuse. I have even had a more exciting life compared to certain people with both parents. I know a couple of kids who ran away from home back then. But that was something that never crossed my mind. Why because I was surrounded by love and family. In the end that's all that matters. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by sisisioge: 4:24pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
dfrost: You're correct, man must then carefully select his/her companion to live a happy life. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by nurain150(m): 4:25pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Lollittaa:Ha, shey e pain you ni? |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Katcall: 4:26pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
QueenVaji:your biological clock is ticking 1 Like |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Angrygoat: 4:26pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Not at all,it'd ike a cycle in the life of every naija female. The ones who got married later divorced,some died in the process,others are just out to become baby mama. Hassanmaye: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by jadyclem(m): 4:27pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Toks2008:Replace "real" with "some". Your statement should read: ...Some men see no big deal marrying a single mum... The fact that a man doesn't want to marry a single mum doesn't mean he isn't a real man, and the fact that another man chooses to marry a single mum doesn't make him a real man. They both have different standards of the type of partner that they can each settle down with. So stop calling a man real because he choosed to go for someone that meets his standard... |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by dfrost: 4:28pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Petyprincess: Living their best lives? How sure are of that? You have interviewed a few and they told you that? Tiwa living best life after marriage break-up? Tonto? Linda? It applies to both gender though. Not saying they are not enjoying their lives but saying “living their best lives?” I still have doubts. I stand to be corrected though. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by MNDY(m): 4:29pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Petyprincess: From observation, single mums are very bitter and toxic to raise children with that character of theirs. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Angrygoat: 4:29pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
U sound broke. Religion is a big problem in nigeria okay. matm: |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by dfrost: 4:30pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
sisisioge: Perfect!!! I like that. All these postulation of what should or not shouldn't come in. Choose your mate and manage your life peacefully. No competition. Life is not a bed of roses (I'm yet to see one though). |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Bamzyriches451: 4:31pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Lemme be reading comments |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Kingcalls: 4:34pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Bruno whyyyyy?? |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by dfrost: 4:35pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
sisisioge: Haba na... Is that how you understood what I wrote? Not like that. I mentioned the reasons. It might be one, two, three or all three. Joke Silva Beyoncé - hubby cheated but she managed her home. No marriage is easy but it takes the two to understand each other. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Mikester: 4:35pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek: Just doing the right thing bro. Thanks. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Kingcalls: 4:36pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Y dis defence de leak like this |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Nobody: 4:37pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
The word of God shall not go unfulfilled. Isaiah 4: 1 coming to pass. Pvssy will make no sense AGAIN. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Kingcalls: 4:38pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
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Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Nobody: 4:38pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
jikins: In this life, you tend to justify anything once youve made up your mind especially when you are desperate. The truth is there is no reason a good responsible woman with a good attitude should be single at 40. Most are in the position they are because of the poor choices they made or attitude and it is that same mindset which clearly hasnt been resolved with which they think less about the child's future but their selfish needs by bringing a child to the world without a father talk less of via a sperm donor. It is the height of selfishness and the consequences on both the mother and the child will manifest as sure as there is night and day! 5% may escape but they will be the exception rather than the rule. You cannot cheat nature...a price will be paid!!! That these women are single at 40 is in itself a price for past poor decisions...have these women introspected and resolved these poor life choices that got them here in the 1st place? I make bold to say ANY woman who has a child DELIBERATELY without a father is inherently a selfish woman because it is clear her needs come before that of the child!!!! this is exactly the reason she is 40 and single. There is a time for everything, you must know when you missed the boat and dont create bigger problems in your desperation!!! You talk about love. Never mind that i dont think it is an act of love to deny a child the chance of a father to begin with but what happens is single mother tend to over pamper their child to compensate in the process creating children with an entitlement mentality, Weak minded men, or daughters with a bad outlook to men from birth because they've never experienced a real father. God help you as a single mother if you have a daughter because no man can replace her father. Any other male figure especially in these times will be very careful not to get too close or to upset her. The last thing a man wants is for a your daughter to accuse him of sexual abuse, even you the mother will be paranoid to have her alone around adult men. The only man that you can feel comfortable around her is her father and she doesnt have one so she will grow up with a bent/warped attitude towards men by default. I have said my own. dont waste your youth so you dont finding yourself facing unsavoury choices at 40. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by optm(m): 4:39pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
You are rather promoting single parenting without considering its impact on the child , i think a study on the effect of single parenting on child raising should be done if it hasn't. It's quite challenging for both parent to raise a child how much more when it's done by just one parent . In the end the society suffers largerly from the effect of poorly raised kids. I know it's quite challenging for people approaching menopause and unmarried but there are responsible men out there that wouldn't mind raising a family with such persons if they care to lower their standards a bit . There are responsible men out there that would want to get married but can't , majorly for economic reasons . I ll also like to advise ladies in their prime to settle down with a responsible man if raising a family is quite important to them rather than wasting their time in purposeless relationships all in the name of flexing. Your attractivess wane as you age so make the best use when at its peak . 1 Like |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by sunnedee2: 4:39pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
pocohantas: Poco!! Juju ke? But then.... Omo, man needs to be extra careful.... |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Xbs1: 4:40pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Good |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Crucialgem(m): 4:41pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
humilitypays: This op bad ooo see all of your opinion is excellent save that last one, anything that has to do with forcing someone to do what they ordinarily not want to do is ungodly, and the consequences is not good so that last advice is a miss 1 Like |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Carot: 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Octopusssy:last seen today |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by ThickSharon123(f): 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Toks2008: All these is story, for me, I advise find a sugar boy, and let him get you pregnant before menopause. I can't marry again, becuase my first marriage was a relationship from hell, although I'm getting suitors though. I just want to be free and happy. Not a man that would be threatening to deal with me just because I talked to his friend or parents somehow. Mtcheww. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by neyoohhh: 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
They need to drop "wokeness".(feminism,LGBT, sex positivity, body positivity, drugs, promiscuity, transactional sex), as those are the self inflicted injuries the modern woman have embraced as part of their psyche. They simply can't think straight! All the aforementioned adds to their already fickle minds and turns them against their innate femininity. There's also the lie that they can do and be everything at the same time which is false. What they need to adopt instead. Reduce their unrealistic standards and expectations. Be accountable. Be open. Be self sufficient enough, not to beg or LovePeddler. Keep life simple and light. Believe they can build with the average Joe. Accept the average Joe, then actually build with him. Marriage might be a scam but it's more disadvantageous to men, however anyone who minimises the need for companionship as humans get older is a big phoney. To summarize, get back to the old traditions, you'll thank me later. 1 Like |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Omoluabi16(m): 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Hmmm.. Naim be say |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Kingcalls: 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
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Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by shugamummy: 4:44pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Stop commenting stupidly! Tell me deep down in your hearts you don't wish to be that young mother with beautiful kids with beautiful faces playing funnily with the kids. Have you not attended child dedication party in the last 6months? Tell Buhari you don't wish to be in the position of the mum of the young chap during the party. Na this kain pretense kept many of you single till you are 40. siofra: 1 Like |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by GANDALF1(m): 4:46pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Looking at this topic factually; First I will say that the female is already disadvantaged by the existence of menopause and being born with limited eggs at the time of birth. While this seems unfair, God has a reason for this and I can’t question it. Secondly, not everyone must get married! But everyone needs someone to look after them at old age. Care homes can do that but can they sincerely handle your financial affairs without defrauding you? Thirdly, most ladies do not know what they want. You set very high and sometimes unrealistic standards when age is on your side and then start lowering the bar as you age. This has worked for some but has not worked for others. Instead of going with this general flow, why not be different? Why not lower the bar to acceptable and reasonable levels while you are still young and get a good man? Fourthly, most men have woken to the realization that marriage favours women more and are choosing to remain single for longer periods. This is going to worsen as globalization and westernization gets to the roots of the world. After all, while cater for another human’s needs when you have to do the dishes and do house chores? Then lastly, most ladies are blind and superficial! They only want the enjoyment of today and attracts only those willing to give that enjoyment. Men who have lots to offer are sidelined because they are not superficial or wearing blings and driving big cars. In the end, its all empty drums that will make the loudest noise and this will definitely end in use and dump. Drops mic 4 Likes |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by jaxxy(m): 4:46pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Petyprincess: If u desire to get married and don’t then u will not find much happiness doing anything else. U will always have that regret that u will live with the rest of ur life. That’s the truth. Anylady that wants to get married should be ready to use her sense and think not just her feelings or ridiculous standards. I’m speaking of ladies who actually want to get married. As for those who never had such intentions then enjoy ur life to the fullest with whatever u claim u like. I guess there will be little or no regrets for them. It’s very simple. Linda Ikeji still wants to get married and she just might cos she wants it. If she knows how to go about dating the right people not the person people think she should date. |
Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by siofra(f): 4:47pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
shugamummy: No. I don't wish. I don't wish to have tiny children around me. Not everyone is the same. Not every woman is born to be a mother and that's not something you should be so triggered about. |
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