Hi everyone, I have a little issue that I would appreciate your input. With the economic situation on the ground presently in the country it looks rather unnecessary to bother you guys with such a trivial matter but I still implore you to read through and give me your kind submissions. It's going to be a long read, please kindly bear with me.

I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and six months now and while it has not been a smooth sailing we've manages to always sort our issues. I lost my major source of income about two months ago and even though I had our little side gig it was tough for me because the job constitutes about 80% of my income.

My girlfriend was staying with me while she was working on her project but my job loss affected the relationship because I was broke and to a slight extent extended the aggression to her. I stopped caring about her or giving her any attention because I channeled all my time into getting another job. This resulted in us having lots of fights now and then and to make matters worse she discovered she was pregnant.

With the situation of things breeding a child was a no-go area for both parties but then things were so difficult that I couldn't even afford an abortion then. During one of our arguments, she angrily told me that my nonchalant attitude toward her was making her seek attention from guys outside because she wants to be happy.

I took her statement with a pinch of salt because relationship-related matters were the last thing on my mind then. We later made up as usual, the next day she asked me if I wasn't eager to know the guy she was talking to, and I told her that I didn't care.

She kept mentioning it till I had to inquire about it, she narrated how the guy was someone she normally talks to online about our problems, they met once in a restaurant and the guy asked her out and she was contemplating accepting him because of how I was treating her blah blah but asked him to wait a bit while she sorted out things with me. He would only call her only when she flashes him and she always delete their chats she continued.

I waved away the matter because I had just gotten a new job though with much lesser pay than the previous one but I still channeled all my focus on my new job so I didn't want any distractions. A week later we had a serious fight that led to me asking her to leave, and even flung her things outside. She insisted on staying till I took care of the pregnancy. I reached out to a friend that owned a pharmacy store and he promised to come around and take care of the stuff.

While we were waiting for my friend she kept exchanging voice notes with the guy telling him how he was free to call her anytime he wants now because she has broken up with her guy. The guy on the other hand was apparently excited and couldn't hold his joy, he kept repeating how that day was the best day of his life because he had been waiting for her to break up with me. He immediately sent her money when she requested for tp and later offered to come pick her up from my place.

I think it's worth mentioning that I found out that the guy was a banker and was relatively more well-to-do than me. He allegedly drives an RX 350 while all I had was my leggediz Benz.

I ignored her initially but she kept rubbing her nonsense on my face in a bid to pepper me including telling the guy that she loved him after she got his alert. I deliberately made a few calls to other ladies telling one of them whom she knows that I was ready to be with her now and concentrate on her. She flared up and started screaming on top of her voice to the girls hearing that she was pregnant and all. She later started dragging my phone to know who the caller was, she found out it was someone she knew.

She chatted the girl up and began to slander me through voice notes. It was resulting to insults so I had to leave the house for her because she was beginning to get on my nerves. An elderly neighbor came and spoke to her while I was away so she called me and started apologizing blaming her actions on pregnancy hormones. I went back home and forgave her after asking her to end anything she has with the guy.

We didn't have any form of intimacy the following week because my libido was zero. During that period she was still in communication with the guy, answering his calls discreatly and deleting chats. I complained about her fishy attitude and she said it's because she didn't know how to tell the guy that we were back together and I also threatened her that I would reciprocate what she did to the lady that I called if I get hold of the guys contact. She decided to go home for a week to attend a relative's wedding and while she was packing I noticed she was packing almost everything. I remarked on it and she mumbled an inaudible response. While she was packing I farted while rushing to the toilet and she started scolding with loud voice. I got angry and told her that I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could have peace. She fired back that she would never come to my house again. I gave her tp and she left. We both knew it was breakup. Just before she left she got a call from someone the guy referred her to for a job. She called the guy thanking him and promised to see her that evening.


Just three days after she left, she chatted me up that she still loves me and wants us to get back together. She revealed that she couldn't develop feelings for the guy no matter how much she tried. The guy had been at her beck and call, buying shawarma and pizza for the whole house and using his car to run errands for her but somehow she still wants me. I asked her what she intends to do with the guy and she said she would open up and tell him everything that evening. I said okay.

She later called me that evening to narrate how she opened up to the guy and the guy was furious at her for leading him on and trying to get back to a guy she said treated her like shit. He ended up smashing his Samsung S2somthing on the wall and left angrily. So that was how we made up again.

She came back to the house days later so we could take care of our unfinished business, but I discovered she still had a soft spot for the guy. She always gets upset each time I use the guy to catch cruise the way she does to my female friends. She claims the guy was just a nice person to her and didn't deserve the things I said about him.

She missed his call one morning and was restless, said she was inquisitive to know why he called because he hadn't been online probably due to his bad phone. He chatted her up once night and they chatted for hours with the excuse that I was working on my laptop and was ignoring her. I worked throughout the night and slept around past 5 in the morning only to wake up around 8am to her talking to the guy in the kitchen. I gave her a stern warning to stop whatever rubbish she was up to with the guy again.

Her birthday is next week and I gave her 20k manage it anyhow that she can, I initially promised her 25k but had to reduce it because I had to send and urgent money to my mom. She later told me that this same guy was offering to bake a cake for her birthday. I told her that she likes complicating issues for herself since she would be celebrating the birthday in my house how is the guy supposed to give her the cake or is he going to bring it to my house? Of course she had no answers.

I told her to put the guy in his place and explain things to him, let him know that she's spending the day with me but if he's okay with bringing the cake to the house then fine. I saw her list this evening and noticed cake there so I asked her what was the outcome of her discussion with the guy, her mood changed instantly and she said that after explaining everything to the guy, he was upset and said I should handle everything myself and started ignoring her. She made a comment that the guy always responds to her online, but he's ignoring her now. It was obvious she was hurt because the guy has withdrawn the attention he was giving her.

I've asked her several times why she came back to me if she had feelings for the guy but she doesn't give me a concrete answer. How do you guys think I should navigate through this?

Please I am sorry for the lengthy post and any typos, I wanted to add most details for better understanding.

Share energy booster first make I fit read the post.

One:
You transferred the aggression of unemployment to your woman. Na she be the company wey sack you?

Two:
You act like a kid. You called girls in her presence because she called a guy in your presence. A male adult should not have such habit.

Three:
A girl that keeps a close communication with another man and accepts his gift while living with you is indecisive. She has a high tendency to later dump you for a richer man. The only thing keeping her in your life is that you give her a charming treatment most times. But an average Nigerian lady will one day choose wealth over the charming treatment only to later regret dumping you. It is possible for this your girl to later ignore other men and concentrate on you. But the tendency for her to disappoint you is very high. Mark my word, any day the guy finds her in a secured place, she will gladly open her legs for him.

Four:
Do not abort that baby boy. Cancel the abominable business you planned with your pharmacist.

dis long epistle 4 pussy matter? I’m not fvcking reading this shit.

Supremedrizzy:
Hi everyone, I have a little issue that I would appreciate your input. With the economic situation on the ground presently in the country it looks rather unnecessary to bother you guys with such a trivial matter but I still implore you to read through and give me your kind submissions. It's going to be a long read, please kindly bear with me.

I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and six months now and while it has not been a smooth sailing we've manages to always sort our issues. I lost my major source of income about two months ago and even though I had our little side gig it was tough for me because the job constitutes about 80% of my income.

My girlfriend was staying with me while she was working on her project but my job loss affected the relationship because I was broke and to a slight extent extended the aggression to her. I stopped caring about her or giving her any attention because I channeled all my time into getting another job. This resulted in us having lots of fights now and then and to make matters worse she discovered she was pregnant.

With the situation of things breeding a child was a no-go area for both parties but then things were so difficult that I couldn't even afford an abortion then. During one of our arguments, she angrily told me that my nonchalant attitude toward her was making her seek attention from guys outside because she wants to be happy.

I took her statement with a pinch of salt because relationship-related matters were the last thing on my mind then. We later made up as usual, the next day she asked me if I wasn't eager to know the guy she was talking to, and I told her that I didn't care.

She kept mentioning it till I had to inquire about it, she narrated how the guy was someone she normally talks to online about our problems, they met once in a restaurant and the guy asked her out and she was contemplating accepting him because of how I was treating her blah blah but asked him to wait a bit while she sorted out things with me. He would only call her only when she flashes him and she always delete their chats she continued.

I waved away the matter because I had just gotten a new job though with much lesser pay than the previous one but I still channeled all my focus on my new job so I didn't want any distractions. A week later we had a serious fight that led to me asking her to leave, and even flung her things outside. She insisted on staying till I took care of the pregnancy. I reached out to a friend that owned a pharmacy store and he promised to come around and take care of the stuff.

While we were waiting for my friend she kept exchanging voice notes with the guy telling him how he was free to call her anytime he wants now because she has broken up with her guy. The guy on the other hand was apparently excited and couldn't hold his joy, he kept repeating how that day was the best day of his life because he had been waiting for her to break up with me. He immediately sent her money when she requested for tp and later offered to come pick her up from my place.

I think it's worth mentioning that I found out that the guy was a banker and was relatively more well-to-do than me. He allegedly drives an RX 350 while all I had was my leggediz Benz.

I ignored her initially but she kept rubbing her nonsense on my face in a bid to pepper me including telling the guy that she loved him after she got his alert. I deliberately made a few calls to other ladies telling one of them whom she knows that I was ready to be with her now and concentrate on her. She flared up and started screaming on top of her voice to the girls hearing that she was pregnant and all. She later started dragging my phone to know who the caller was, she found out it was someone she knew.

She chatted the girl up and began to slander me through voice notes. It was resulting to insults so I had to leave the house for her because she was beginning to get on my nerves. An elderly neighbor came and spoke to her while I was away so she called me and started apologizing blaming her actions on pregnancy hormones. I went back home and forgave her after asking her to end anything she has with the guy.

We didn't have any form of intimacy the following week because my libido was zero. During that period she was still in communication with the guy, answering his calls discreatly and deleting chats. I complained about her fishy attitude and she said it's because she didn't know how to tell the guy that we were back together and I also threatened her that I would reciprocate what she did to the lady that I called if I get hold of the guys contact. She decided to go home for a week to attend a relative's wedding and while she was packing I noticed she was packing almost everything. I remarked on it and she mumbled an inaudible response. While she was packing I farted while rushing to the toilet and she started scolding with loud voice. I got angry and told her that I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could have peace. She fired back that she would never come to my house again. I gave her tp and she left. We both knew it was breakup. Just before she left she got a call from someone the guy referred her to for a job. She called the guy thanking him and promised to see her that evening.


Just three days after she left, she chatted me up that she still loves me and wants us to get back together. She revealed that she couldn't develop feelings for the guy no matter how much she tried. The guy had been at her beck and call, buying shawarma and pizza for the whole house and using his car to run errands for her but somehow she still wants me. I asked her what she intends to do with the guy and she said she would open up and tell him everything that evening. I said okay.

She later called me that evening to narrate how she opened up to the guy and the guy was furious at her for leading him on and trying to get back to a guy she said treated her like shit. He ended up smashing his Samsung S2somthing on the wall and left angrily. So that was how we made up again.

She came back to the house days later so we could take care of our unfinished business, but I discovered she still had a soft spot for the guy. She always gets upset each time I use the guy to catch cruise the way she does to my female friends. She claims the guy was just a nice person to her and didn't deserve the things I said about him.

She missed his call one morning and was restless, said she was inquisitive to know why he called because he hadn't been online probably due to his bad phone. He chatted her up once night and they chatted for hours with the excuse that I was working on my laptop and was ignoring her. I worked throughout the night and slept around past 5 in the morning only to wake up around 8am to her talking to the guy in the kitchen. I gave her a stern warning to stop whatever rubbish she was up to with the guy again.

Her birthday is next week and I gave her 20k manage it anyhow that she can, I initially promised her 25k but had to reduce it because I had to send and urgent money to my mom. She later told me that this same guy was offering to bake a cake for her birthday. I told her that she likes complicating issues for herself since she would be celebrating the birthday in my house how is the guy supposed to give her the cake or is he going to bring it to my house? Of course she had no answers.

I told her to put the guy in his place and explain things to him, let him know that she's spending the day with me but if he's okay with bringing the cake to the house then fine. I saw her list this evening and noticed cake there so I asked her what was the outcome of her discussion with the guy, her mood changed instantly and she said that after explaining everything to the guy, he was upset and said I should handle everything myself and started ignoring her. She made a comment that the guy always responds to her online, but he's ignoring her now. It was obvious she was hurt because the guy has withdrawn the attention he was giving her.

I've asked her several times why she came back to me if she had feelings for the guy but she doesn't give me a concrete answer. How do you guys think I should navigate through this?

Please I am sorry for the lengthy post and any typos, I wanted to add most details for better understanding.

you Dey tolerate rubbish ooo. She comot your house go Dey with guy, the guy go don smash am, she begged you and you still accepted her back into your house. Na under ur nose them go Dey knack now

shege45:
you Dey tolerate rubbish ooo. She comot your house go Dey with guy, the guy go don smash am, she begged you and you still accepted her back into your house. Na under ur nose them go Dey knack now

I had proof that she was in her family house...the guy visited her there

Brother, why are you trying so hard to domesticate a street dog? Generation before you tried and failed, why do you think you will succeed? This is an effort in futility if you ask me.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Give to dy street what belongs to dy street lest u get burnt.
Free the girl let her go nd hoe to her satisfaction.BTW what happened to dy pregnancy, did dy other guy know that she was/is pregnant 4 u?

Dyfynezz12:
Give to dy street what belongs to dy street lest u get burnt.
Free the girl let her go nd hoe to her satisfaction.BTW what happened to dy pregnancy, did dy other guy know that she was/is pregnant 4 u?

The pregnancy was terminated, yea he was aware that she was pregnant

Toxic relationship, even Nigerian IndecentStar Faber relationship is more stable than your own. Ikegwuru

Supremedrizzy:

The pregnancy was terminated, yea he was aware that she was pregnant

Then the guy is not fit to be called a MAN

The three of Una dey jonz..if you’re not going to marry her,better stop stressing yourself bros.

VOsimhen144:
dis long epistle 4 pussy matter? I’m not fvcking reading this shit.

bro!!

Advising you isn't the problem, the issue is you ain't gonna take our advice cos from ur write up you're so in love with her. Well, i tell u to discard her if you can cos she gat no iota respect for you. I mean how do you explain a woman frolicking with someone else while still with you just because you guys are having issues? Discard any woman that feels u ain't enough for her without thinking twice as she won't regard u..

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I read this sh*t with a bit of anger in my heart, see how a man is writing a long epistle because of a Nigerian girl. Naso girl scarce you no fit find another?. This is what happens when you prioritize a pussy. Nigga get a grip of yourself. All these ladies don't worth it.

It’s obvious you are very much in love with the girl. I also believe you love her more than she loves you. Your next line of action depends on what you want in life. If you want progress and peace of mind, let go of her but if you want negativity and anarchy then keep trying to make her stay with you. For her to agree to abortion says a lot about her character and there’s nothing to write home about it. You know the right thing to do but the flesh is weak. Better some weeks or months of sadness than a life time of regrets

I got tired and angry, at the point you said you accepted her back into your house after the guy smashed his phone

I didn’t bothered to read the rest because I don’t have any advise to give you, but to tell you are weak and uninspiring man, you tolerated a girl that did all of these to you, in your own house

God forbid bad thing

Her birthday is next week and I gave her 20k manage it anyhow that she can, I initially promised her 25k but had to reduce it because I had to send and urgent money to my mom.

Bro, I'm much concerned that you only sent 5k to your mother that needed money while you gave 20k to an unfaithful lover who equally collected money from another man.

You'd agree with me that women are naturally emotional but Some guys dey really act cheap meh! The banker guy is really cheap damn it.

I can't be dragging a girl with another fellow Niggar. NEVER..!

TonyeBarcanista:


Bro, I'm much concerned that you only sent 5k to your mother that needed money while you gave 20k to an unfaithful lover who equally collected money from another man.

Nah I sent her more than 5k, moreover my mom has a sacrosanct monthly allowance while my girlfriend doesn't . I sent my mom the exact amount she asked me for, and will still send her allowance by months end.

This your write up be like bad energy.
Free relationship matter and face your hustle, no vex me this morning o.
You said you gave the girl 20k and you also gave sent some money to your mother. I hope the money you sent to your mother was more than the 20k?

Naija biggest simp

How far with her pregnancy.

U aren't mature enough to be in a relationship.

On this Nairaland, there’s a name for guys like you. Simp!

You mean niggas still deal with things like this in these times?

Continue my friend. All these epistle ontop vagina people?

You or the other guy go learn lesson. Or both of you go learn lessons when she eventually follows her hypergamy.

immortalcrown:
Share energy booster first make I fit read the post.

One:
You transferred the aggression of unemployment to your woman. Na she be the company wey sack you?

Two:
You act like a kid. You called girls in her presence because she called a guy in your presence. A male adult should not have such habit.

Three:
A girl that keeps a close communication with another man and accepts his gift while living with you is indecisive. She has a high tendency to later dump you for a richer man. The only thing keeping her in your life is that you give her a charming treatment most times. But an average Nigerian lady will one day choose wealth over the charming treatment only to later regret dumping you. It is possible for this your girl to later ignore other men and concentrate on you. But the tendency for her to disappoint you is very high. Mark my word, any day the guy finds her in a secured place, she will gladly open her legs for him.

Four:
Do not abort that baby boy. Cancel the abominable business you planned with your pharmacist.

What do you mean by he should not abort the baby?

If it's still in pre-foetal stage (germinal or embryonic) he better use all he has to abort that baby and they go their separate ways.

No man can understand the ways of a woman, but this much I know - once a woman has her heart set on another man, allow her. You are fighting a lost cause and it has claimed the lives of many a men.

TheGreatIYANU:




What do you mean by he should not abort the baby?

If it's still in pre-foetal stage (germinal or embryonic) he better use all he has to abort that baby and they go their separate ways.

No man can understand the ways of a woman, but this much I know - once a woman has her heart set on another man, allow her. You are fighting a lost cause and it has claimed the lives of many a men.

Nothing justifies the intentional killing of an innocent baby. Those who are entangled in an unwanted pregnancy should face the lesser consequence of it. Keeping the pregnancy and facing the difficulty of raising the child is a lesser consequence because abortion of the pregnancy will bring emotional torture. No matter how you claim to have no conscience, your spirit will disturb you for aborting the pregnancy.

This man na mumu man o

You don't know what you want for yourself

True Christ eledumare I've readalander.

This guy fit kill for the banny but banny no lover her reach.

Nigga dey carry her like bag of rice while she carry you like pinch of salt.

The secret to happy relationship is the opposite make the woman carry you like bag of rice while you try to carry her like quarter bag of rice.

If na she carry you like bag of rice even yahoo boy sef no go fit use anything commot her from your hand.


Nigga go turn philosopher Las las.


Women don't love men you're just a means to her end.

Supremedrizzy:


Nah I sent her more than 5k, moreover my mom has a sacrosanct monthly allowance while my girlfriend doesn't . I sent my mom the exact amount she asked me for, and will still send her allowance by months end.

Great then! Kudos...


Meanwhile, the Banker guy has no self dignity... As for you, you should not be calling her 'your girl'

How come a lady not married to you is living permanently in your house.? Very soon you will be contesting for local gov chairman or state governor . This country is finished.