If women could just sit at home and take care of the house, can't a man do the same. Is there anything wrong in dat?

Yes. Man are the provider. They hustle and provide the family with their needs and wants.

not in africa no, i even heard there s a part of nigeria where its like a taboo to live off a woman's sweat(not sure of its veracity tho)

God save me from those kinda men!

It is completely wrong.

Nothing wrong with it, 'What a woman can do a man can also do!'.

A man could sit at home and take care of the house while he makes cash from online business. In these days of technological advancement, most people can make money in their houses.

ya right stay at home, as a man you will malfunction, you are not designed genetically to accomodate the "stay home" downsides.(women can handle it better) lol. i cant believe i read this post. nice one.

benit:

A man could sit at home and take care of the house while he makes cash from online business. In these days of technological advancement, most people can make money in their houses.

You have mis-interpreted the topic.

babyx:

ya right stay at home, as a man you will malfunction, you are not designed genetically to accomodate the "stay home" downsides.(women can handle it better) lol. i can't believe i read this post. nice one.

Yea right! tell that to some special breed of men in the U.S. _{I did not mention what breed so dont call me racist!}

Nothing as long as you are ready to be the 'wife'

coolier:
Nothing wrong with it, 'What a woman can do a man can also do!'.

then the woman become the head of the house, so, ?

There is nothing wong with a man staying at home to look after his kids and take care of the house (house husband). Taking care of the house is a job in its self. However, in Nigeria, Jamaica etc, it's not the norm and the man would be accused of being a bum! It doesn't bother me sef!

My friend get off the grass.

There's nothing wrong with it, no. As long as both husband and wife are in total agreement, and both are well aware of the roles they'll be playing. Looking after children as well as running the home is a job in itself, and sometimes more demanding than regular employment.

Can't bring myself to imagine seeing my husband sitting at home everyday while I wake at 5 am to go to work when he's not ill or disabled or jobless. Let's not twist it please.

^^^ Radiant, no one's twisting things - your views are just different to mine. Out of interest, are you married?

i guess the wife will take her 2 week paternity leave and leave the breastfeeding to the house husband abi?

abeg if it is a temporary situation like he was made redundant or due to illness then fine but for me to go to work everyday and the man to sit at home - sorry God didn't make us like that.

besides u know this can't work in nigeria - the man will still leave the house for u to clean. house husband indeed.

Ada24, there are times when it's more practical for a woman to earn the bread! Let's say the man earns £1,600 per month, and the woman earns £2,000. It would make sense for the guy to be the house husband for a while. As for saying "God didn't make us like that", that's a load of baloney. God made us, period. We as Nigerians are over fond of bringing Religion into every thing, when there's absolutely no need.

You also need to realise, not all Nigerian men are the same, some live by practical rules, not social ones, whereby they're more concerned with how others may perceive their actions. If this is not for you, that's fine. My wife recently had our first child, and yes, she's currently a housewife; I do my share of housework, cook, clean, shop etc. It's no biggie - my ego will not override my sense of practicality. But debate based on what you know will work for you, without bringing God or Religion into the equation. It's not 1975, where things were different. These days, women can earn what their male counterparts take home, and more. There's no shame in a man looking after his children, if it's more practical for him to do so, and himself and his wife are in total agreement! What the outside world thinks wouldn't matter, unless outsiders pay their bills, and feed / clothe them?

@ siena i haven't read everything u said (sorry) but i was using the Nigerian setting and  not the UK setting.

I am not saying that people shouldn't do it but what i am saying is that a man should not make it a permanent lifestyle choice - one of the most obvious reasons that come to mind is when the women takes maternity leave that SMP is not really the same as a monthly salary - hence why its better for the man to be working. like i said if a husband should lose his job for whatever reason then there is no problem with him being a house husband - however i know of a case where the man is refusing to work cos his wife is a doctor and she will always earn more than him but she is frustrated cos she wants a baby and the man is very comfortable with the current set up hence 4 years and no child and that is not by choice on the woman's side.

yes not all Nigerian men are the same i can only speak of Ibo men (as i am ibo) and i know people are going to be on my back cos of what i am about to say but from my experience i cannot see an ibo man being a house husband - even my husband who is even some what westernised finds it hard to do any domestic work even when i was with him in my condition - chei we women don suffer 

siena there is no shame in men doing their share of the housework - ABEG PREACH THAT TO YOUR FELLOW BROTHERS ABEG O!! some of our men really need their mindsets adjusted.

Hang on, house husband for how long are we talking about? Even if I earn more than my husband doesn't mean I can't sit at home for 6 months after having my baby while he works.

Siena, can you send your wife to work everyday while you stay home with your (gorgeous) baby assuming she's on formula because your wife earns more than you If you guys take turns to work like you know part time then I can understand but not that the woman will do the working and the man do the cooking

Some women are full time housewives for years. Are you telling me a man can do this too Why

If you're very practical then your wife who earns more should save enough for her to afford staying out of job for even 1 year. However, her salary remains the same until at least one year (UK) so what we talking about here?

If it's about taking care of the kids that's easy. Loads of help around though sometimes you have to pay depending on where you are.

Siena don't worry about my status  

Radiant, for some couples, it works, and their set-up is by mutual choice, not because one coerced the other. Does this make them a bad couple?

As per your status, I'm not "worried" about it, I merely asked, as I was curious as to what perspective you were viewing things from - as in if you were basing your view on personal experience.

With regards to your question, if my wife earned almost twice my salary, and we had a mortgage to cover, before other bills, then yes, it would be practical if my wife worked, to cover these outgoings. This would be something we'd discuss, and we'll do what's most appropriate / practical at the time.

Cover which mortgage for how long? How long are you looking to being a house husband? Except you guys don't know how to plan ahead.

The next thing you'll tell me you don't mind playing in Scott Brown's league (you know the guy taking female hormones to breastfeed his triplets )

Anyway, to each their own but this idea is totally sick.

Radiant, we'll just have to agree to disagree. Anything that makes things work for a couple can hardly be described as sick, as in a husband playing home maker for a while, as well as looking after the children. And the Scott Brown analogy hardly applies here.

Also, I never said I was a house husband - I stated if my wife was on twice my monthly wage, and it was more practical for us to switch roles, then so be it. It wouldn't harm me, and as long as both parties were okay with things, that would be all that counts. Not how others perceived things.

This thread was about is there's anything wrong with being a house husband? Now it's digressed to a guy taking Estrogen to develop bosoms to nurse triplets.

I never said you were a house husband. I was only asking you questions in case you found yourself in such a situation.

Since you don't mind staying home to look after your new baby while your wife works then we might as well introduce Scott Brown. What's the difference? It's all part of being "practical". Or you think he's weird?

Even if your wife earned more than you I really don't see how you'll bring up this issue with her to be honest. Like, really are you that "practical"? I know we all now live in a 50/50 world but come on man! If you can't work that's a different issue but as long as you're able to work don't send the woman on the streets and sit at home. If you plan ahead you won't need to think of this option.

Seriously, which man will tell his wife to go and work while he stays home? Siena I want to take it that you're just talking. When will she work? A week after giving birth or 2 months later or when the kids are old enough to go to a child minder or when 

If am out of job and on job hunting I can look after the home but I will never chose to be a house husband for whatever reason even if my wife earns 10x my salary - Not me!

But i have seen many couples do it in the west, especially when the hubby income is less than what a child-minder will collect. And it works good for them. But Not me.

if the man is firmly grounded [ie a good husband], nothing wrong with him taking care of the kids instead of leaving them with a childminder.

he can just work from home or something, if people are starting to gossip.

@Radiant I must say I am with you on this one for all the reasons you've put forward. If the reason to stay at home as a husband and send your wife to work is the mortgage then I'll have to say the most practical thing to do would be to change lifestyle. Sell the house and get something smaller and live within your means. I think the operative word here should be "protection".

Husband must protect his wife and family give them a secure environment, be the leader and provider that you were set out to be. Wive gives husbands a warm, healthy and respectable home. Husband can provide a house and wive can provide a home.

Dafinately not the example that I want my husband to set for our children. I want to look up to my husband. Honestly now, not everything that the western people do is correct nor sensible. Let us learn to take some of the things they do in th ename of evolution with a pinch of salt.

I am still not sure why would a man want to stay at home while the wife works, when he is fully functional phisically? If its temporary yes! I'll do it and the man will get my full support. That's just the kind of girl I am. Man get up and get a JOB PLEASE.

Honestly? no

Here in australia people see it as normal, but me see it as a taboo

Seriously?

Nah if I make more then I'll work part time to help out. No husband of mine is going to be a stay at home parent. How many men will even do it and not let their ego take over?

Think of it though some of them here are sending their wives to nursing school as soon as they land whilst they pretend to start up a bizness which no gree bring income

There's nothing wrong with it!

As far as he's going to give up all that 'head of the home' crap!

Nothing wrong with it, but I won't marry you.