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How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:08am On Nov 08, 2014
So I created this thread to get better views on who/what people think/believe an independent woman is/should be. A lady (firstEva) talked about her boyfriend having two cars yet she has to 'trek' about town, asking if it isn't selfish of him not to give her one, now I see nothing wrong in her wanting to share her boyfriend's car, only thing is, she didn't ask but almost everyone sounded like she committed a heinous crime for even just harboring the thought of ever using his car, shior! shocked.

I believe an independent woman is one who can take care of herself but that doesn't mean she can't ask her man for stuffs when she needs it and ofcourse he gets to do same.

I'm only asking because from what I read yesterday, people sounded like an Independent woman is one who doesn't ask her man for anything whatsoever, I come dey wonder, if I can share my body, my time, my brain, my energy etc with my man, what then is a 'ducking' car?

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by xynerise: 10:10am On Nov 08, 2014
Ask Beyonce tongue

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by naijaboiy: 10:12am On Nov 08, 2014
This thread has potentials smiley

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by naijaboiy: 10:13am On Nov 08, 2014
xynerise:
Ask Beyonce tongue
Funny,,but this made sense cool
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by naijaboiy: 10:17am On Nov 08, 2014
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by StealthyMe(m): 10:18am On Nov 08, 2014
Independent - Not subject to control by others
Not requiring or relying on something/someone else

An independent woman is one who possesses the aforementioned character.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by ogaofficer(m): 10:22am On Nov 08, 2014
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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Nobody: 10:22am On Nov 08, 2014
StealthyMe:
Independent - Not subject to control by others
Not requiring or relying on something/someone else

An independent woman is one who possesses the aforementioned character.
freecocoa did u see dis?

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Kuljoe(m): 10:22am On Nov 08, 2014
If you are sharing your body, your time and everything. There is God oh ..... Please stop sharing, cos the more u share , the more u reason that u av right to his properties. Its like ure doing him a favour by sharing those things. This is not a favour or a time to return favour. Courtship is not politics. An Independent woman is one that can take care of herself well without her seeing a right to her guy's properties. See Matt 6:33 for more help.
freecocoa:
So I created this thread to get better views on who/what people think/believe an independent woman is/should be. A lady (firstEva) talked about her boyfriend having two cars yet she has to 'trek' about town, asking if it isn't selfish of him not to give her one, now I see nothing wrong in her wanting to share her boyfriend's car, only thing is, she didn't ask but almost everyone sounded like she committed a heinous crime for even just harboring the thought of ever using his car, shior! shocked.

I believe an independent woman is one who can take care of herself but that doesn't mean she can't ask her man for stuffs when she needs it and ofcourse he gets to do same.

I'm only asking because from what I read yesterday, people sounded like an Independent woman is one who doesn't ask her man for anything whatsoever, I come dey wonder, if I can share my body, my time, my brain, my energy etc with my man, what then is a 'ducking' car?

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Nobody: 10:26am On Nov 08, 2014
Op I agree with you, being independent doesn't mean your boyfriend can't give you stuFfs

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by mesoade(m): 10:28am On Nov 08, 2014
Independent- you can take care of yourself .
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Firsteva's account was that he had two,then he should give her one when she did not contribute anything in buying the car and has not put a ring on her finger. That's stupidity sorry to say.
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Instead,the normal thing is asking for his permission to use his car on few occassions.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Lordabas: 10:28am On Nov 08, 2014









An independent woman is just...that woman who can function in her daily life indepently. Hence, without a man, mother, father, family help. A woman who can bring home the bacon and fry it too! cool
And if a man so happens to come along, he would be lucky to find someone who isn't a needy baby! cheesy

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Kuljoe(m): 10:29am On Nov 08, 2014
Space booked ....... Wow, Front page things .....

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:30am On Nov 08, 2014
StealthyMe:
Independent - Not subject to control by others
Not requiring or relying on something/someone else

An independent woman is one who possesses the aforementioned character.
Really? Can you be realistic please? Then I guess no one is independent in this world if we are to go by that definition, no?

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by chibwike(m): 10:35am On Nov 08, 2014
A woman who pays her own bills,
buys her own things, and DOES
NOT allow a man to affect her
stability or self-confidence. She
supports her self on her own
entirely and is proud to be able to do so.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Nobody: 10:36am On Nov 08, 2014
An independent woman relies on God/hardwork to excel not on a man.
though no man is self sufficient, we can ask for help once in a while but to totally depend on another human who is not your family or husband should be discouraged.

ladies can still buy a car while still single, you dont need to go begging if you can afford it.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:40am On Nov 08, 2014
Kuljoe:
If you are sharing your body, your time and everything. There is God oh ..... Please stop sharing, cos the more u share , the more u reason that u av right to his properties. Its like ure doing him a favour by sharing those things. This is not a favour or a time to return favour. Courtship is not politics. An Independent woman is one that can take care of herself well without her seeing a right to her guy's properties. See Matt 6:33 for more help.
Bros this no be Sunday school na and no be everybody dey go church so can we just leave religion out of it?

Firstly, I don't see whatever I do for my man as a favor that's why I said I'm happy to share it with him and therefore I expect he does same, we are talking someone you may get to spend the rest of your life with and you come up with this? So we should do as we please without regard to the other person? Please how would the world work if we all behave as you suggest?

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Rapsainot(m): 10:41am On Nov 08, 2014
3cycle:
An independent woman relies on God/hardwork to excel not on a man.

I support you on this . Lemme add this



An Independent Person is someone who doesn't
always need others. Others includes influence,
guidance, control, etc. You can rely on yourself,
instead of constantly looking to others for
affirmation, or to help you. You can fend for
yourself, and you can do so well.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by mumumugu(m): 10:44am On Nov 08, 2014
As long as someone pays your brideprice,you are not independent

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by StealthyMe(m): 10:47am On Nov 08, 2014
freecocoa:
Really? Can you be realistic please? Then I guess no one is independent in this world if we are to go by that definition, no?

Well,it actually depends on the definition and the context used...
Independent can depict self-governance,self-sufficience,self-sustaining.

We could say Dangote or Adenuga were self-made but is that really possible in the context you're talking about?
No...it simply means achieving success/prominence based on one's efforts or actions. smiley
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:49am On Nov 08, 2014
StealthyMe:


Well,it actually depends on the definition and the context used...
Independent can depict self-governance,self-sufficience,self-sustaining.

We could say Dangote or Adenuga were self-made but is that really possible in the context you're talking about?
No...it simply means achieving success/prominence based on one's efforts or actions. smiley
So you know about context yet clearly ignored the one I used? You see your life?cheesy

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by lilmax(m): 10:51am On Nov 08, 2014
Independent blah blah blah, the moment you ask your boyfriend for something you are depending on him.....

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:54am On Nov 08, 2014
chibwike:
A woman who pays her own bills,
buys her own things, and DOES
NOT allow a man to affect her
stability or self-confidence. She
supports her self on her own
entirely and is proud to be able to do so.
Support herself entirely? If someone can support herself entirely, would that person need anybody else in the world? That's going by how y'all are defining this in the OP's context.
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 10:55am On Nov 08, 2014
lilmax:
Independent blah blah blah, the moment you ask your boyfriend for something you are depending on him.....
And the minute you ask your girlfriend for something you are what?
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by StealthyMe(m): 10:55am On Nov 08, 2014
freecocoa:
So you know about context yet clearly ignored the one I used? You see your life?cheesy


Nawa oo...iya calm down laa

No one can be independent (your context) because at one point or the other,you need people to make it - be it by patronage,advice,help or what have you...

People can be independent according to my defintion of efforts & actions...

Some words have different meanings depending on how you choose to interpret it...

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by chibwike(m): 10:58am On Nov 08, 2014
freecocoa:
Support herself entirely? If someone can support herself entirely, would that person need anybody else in the world? That's going by how y'all are defining this in the OP's context.
You asked who is an independent woman...and i just told you that.
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by lilmax(m): 11:00am On Nov 08, 2014
freecocoa:
And the minute you ask your girlfriend for something you are what?
i don't ask

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 11:00am On Nov 08, 2014
chibwike:
You asked who is an independent woman...and i just told you that.
okay dear, now do such women exist? The ones you described that is.
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by freecocoa(f): 11:04am On Nov 08, 2014
StealthyMe:


Nawa oo...iya calm down laa

No one can be independent (your context) because at one point or the other,you need people to make it - be it by patronage,advice,help or what have you...

People can be independent according to my defintion of efforts & actions...

Some words have different meanings depending on how you choose to interpret it...
I'm calm my love, don't misunderstand me please.

I'm just trying to make us all see that a man and woman are dependent on each other in a relationship so people should stop talking crap about how a woman needs to be independent, ofcourse every woman should strive to have her own money but it's just so clear that people don't know what they talk about when they keep screaming 'independent woman'.

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Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by chibwike(m): 11:05am On Nov 08, 2014
freecocoa:
okay dear, now do such women exist? The ones you described that is.
Yeah...they do exist....dont ask me to give examples oh..Lol.
Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Caracta(f): 11:06am On Nov 08, 2014
An independent woman can live her life without the help of anyone. She is hardworking and likes to fix things herself.

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