Matthewbriggs:


I think you are more expressive than your partner. Nice one. . There is need for balance.

100Cents:



Lol. His aspiring partner.

Point of correction..

Urine:
Firstly, I don't think it's a form of emotional abuse.

Secondly, we will all agree that men and women are totally different, we don't and will never think the same way. Men are practical, women tend towards making decisions based on emotions.

For example when a man falls in love genuinely, he probably has seen some solid traits in a woman eg intelligence, respect, how she relates with other people but for a woman this is slightly different. Their decisions are based on emotions and emotions do 'fluctuate'. So to create a sort of balance, a man has to be bold and not give in to his emotion @ all times.

There are times to show a woman love and there are times to be 100% frank with a woman.

So to answer your question, a woman shouldn't do that or better still a woman can't do that.

AreaFada2:



It's a good idea, but ladies are funny people.

The minute they know you're addicted to them, you become boring to them.

Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave.

Many female friends have admitted this much.

ilori1930:


And would I be committing any crime by crushing on her
I like intelligent people and I beleive she is one of such

Urine:
Firstly, I don't think it's a form of emotional abuse.

Secondly, we will all agree that men and women are totally different, we don't and will never think the same way. Men are practical, women tend towards making decisions based on emotions.

For example when a man falls in love genuinely, he probably has seen some solid traits in a woman eg intelligence, respect, how she relates with other people but for a woman this is slightly different. Their decisions are based on emotions and emotions do 'fluctuate'. So to create a sort of balance, a man has to be bold and not give in to his emotion @ all times.

There are times to show a woman love and there are times to be 100% frank with a woman.

So to answer your question, a woman shouldn't do that or better still a woman can't do that.

AreaFada2:



It's a good idea, but ladies are funny people.

The minute they know you're addicted to them, you become boring to them.

Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave.

Many female friends have admitted this much.

MizMyColi:

Let's Have Your Take On This Please.

I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome"
(That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across)

In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much.

In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish

Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about.


My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path?

If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too.

If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too.

Let's contribute objectively

Cheers.........

MizMyColi:

Let's Have Your Take On This Please.

I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome"
(That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across)

In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much.

In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish

Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about.


My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path?

If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too.

If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too.

Let's contribute objectively

Cheers.........

ilori1930:
EstarKeys strongly advocating for 100per cent expression of love... lol. But seriously, there has to be adequate rationing... speaking from experience ooo

Urine:


100000000 likes.

EstarKeys:
..u speaking from an experience of untrue love and lack of trust nd undertanding ma dear...if u both are truly in love wif eachoda,u dont even think to reserve ur love for a while...not atall! Only If u really love her from d depth of your heart,such falacy wont get into ur mind..love is patient,never fails,...it sacrifices..except ur playin her..am tokin frm experience too

ilori1930:


that experience of untrue love is the more reason I have to ration my affection for any girl till I marry her. I can only be sure of the authenticity of my own feelings but she may be smartly playing with me.

EstarKeys:
...hahahahaha..u see, no trust at all..hw do u now expect love to abidei? see uve been hiding behind ur fears of her playing you tooo....no wonder..lmao! Well,i grab..dats d point am hitting on,..

ur scared she myt be playin u dats y ur trying to be reserve..dats NONSENSE!

If u both re really sure u r truly in love,den no cause for alarm..its really insignificant tryin to ration ur waheva feelings..

well,i nw undastnd wot u tyna say..ur really playin dis gurl..awwww! I pity her

Kachisbarbie:
Sincerely, I don't see anything wrong in rationing affection ACCORDINGLY.
It's infact a regulative principle aimed @ maintaining an equilibrium in the love section of a relationship.

Following the Law of Love/Affection 101 (I made that up....lol). The higher the output of love/affection- the higher its value diminishes.
There is an inevitable correlation/relationship between the amount of love you exude and your partner's behaviour (especially when you're stuck with a manipulative partner). You don't wanna come off as obsessive/needy.

The application of this Law...should be based on the circumstance of your relationship and your discretion.

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I still believe: anything worth doing is worth doing well........love inclusive.

Okikiki:



To be sincere, this attitude of dudes hiding their feelings and being less expressive have sent many flourishing relationships to their early graves.

I mean, come to think of it, you are having strong and real fire for me but you bottle it up in your chest, whereas another chap has a crush on me and goes straight ahead to express it. The other babe would leak her wound later when the expressive babe has flown away with her hearthrob.

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ilori1930:
It is not hiding behind fears, its about using your head and not your heart.

Scared??... Hell no! It's mere application of wisdom. Only a fool will fall twice inside the same pit.


What is the yardstick for being sure about how the other person feels?
The only feeling you can be sure of is yours alone


No, you don't understand... and no need for the pity cos there isn't any girl at the moment.

ilori1930:
It is not hiding behind fears, its about using your head and not your heart.

Scared??... Hell no! It's mere application of wisdom. Only a fool will fall twice inside the same pit.


What is the yardstick for being sure about how the other person feels?
The only feeling you can be sure of is yours alone


No, you don't understand... and no need for the pity cos there isn't any girl at the moment.

ilori1930:
It is not hiding behind fears, its about using your head and not your heart.

Scared??... Hell no! It's mere application of wisdom. Only a fool will fall twice inside the same pit.


What is the yardstick for being sure about how the other person feels?
The only feeling you can be sure of is yours alone


No, you don't understand... and no need for the pity cos there isn't any girl at the moment.

EstarKeys:
...lmao! See u oo.."use ur head instead of heart?.lol..mayb u fink love na JAMB...guy,chill,weda u get one or not,still stay pinned cos u neva knw ow ur tomao go be..stop declaring false notes here making pple get confused...lol..geee! Am nt a victim of dat...moreover,u mentioned wisdom,,,abi na wisdom u need...loll..u dont hve any atall..i doubt cos if u really do,we all will know...also,wisdom is gotten from up der not from dah ur head ok..woA! I now see y u dnt even knw ow to maintain ur stance..cos u no get one sef...well,as u said,its ur past experience dat av tot u all dis...lol...how ridiculous u can be...loll

Kachisbarbie:


Don't tell me it's cabin biscuit that's inside ya head?
Wetin much for that English now?

chimerase2:
ur fone no get dicKtionary?

ilori1930:


And you just have to be so vulgar with words... Since I don't have any wisdom at all, and you have plethora of it, will you teach me wisdom please?

ilori1930:


And would I be committing any crime by crushing on her
I like intelligent people and I beleive she is one of such