A woman came to the hospital today very anxious, sleep deprived, poor appetite, headache, generally a nervous wreck. When questioned she says her husband caught her cheating on him by walking in on them in a compromising position at her shop.

He responded by turning and walking away. She returned home later that evening after thinking of how best to confront the situation but the man has not brought up the matter since then.

She said it has been over a week now and Oga is carrying on as if nothing happened and she is going crazy with anxiety because she doesn't know what is running through his mind.

I asked if she had done something like this before and she swore she hadn't, that it was bad judgement on her part with a former ex. I suggested she be the one to breach the subject to her husband but some of my colleagues believe she should let sleeping dogs lie and take a sedative.

What do you guys think?

Let her bring it up abeg. Better to know what is on his mind than sleep one day and not wake up because he's strangled her in her sleep.

She strong gan. One week and she's been living with him under the same house sleeping peacefully?

I prefer people who vent and get it over with.
What normal person won't be hurt if they catch their wife or husband red-handed with another person?

Anybody that pretends to swallow such without even seeking an apology or explanation is mean and may be planning Armageddon.

I pray it torments her to her grave..
Wat on earth was she thinkin, knowin shez married.

If she was not caught, she wuld carry on nd b feeling "James bond"

Wat a gr8 man shez got as husband, I blive dey ve got kidz nd d man aint ready to sacrifice d happiness of doz kidz by doin d rite thing.

OR
D man is goin to up his game wivout fear of being caught.

i like the man......exactly what i would do....if she brings it up,,fine...if she doesnt..no biggie...life is too short abeg.

lol thats actually the best punishment for a cheating partner,that anxiety will not let them rest and wont even let them play rough play again hehehehehe

menix:
I pray it torments her to her grave..
Wat on earth was she thinkin, knowin shez married.

If she was not caught, she wuld carry on nd b feeling "James bond"

Wat a gr8 man shez got as husband, I blive dey ve got kidz nd d man aint ready to sacrifice d happiness of doz kidz by doin d rite thing.

OR
D man is goin to up his game wivout fear of being caught.

these is totally called for..

So do you think if the wife/ woman dies man would be happy..

I think there better approach to situations like these..

Royver, this is what I call Satanic gentleness. If I were the lady I'd be very very afraid, because if I act like that when I catch my husband in a 'compromising position', then it means I'm up to no good. I'm planning evil.

She should better broach the subject and clear the air before he goes all Jack the Ripper on her cheating heinie.

Ishilove:
Royver, this is what I call Satanic gentleness. If I were the lady I'd be very very afraid, because if I act like that when I catch my husband in a 'compromising position', then it means I'm up to no good. I'm planning evil.

She should better broach the subject and clear the air before he goes all Jack the ;DRipper on her cheating heinie.

hehehehehe.. satanic gentleness indeed bro. Reminds me of a case sometime in 2010 in Lagos, only this time the husband was the victim/culprit. The wife caught him in bed with a lady and walked out not saying a word.

he tried to bring it up, but she'll have none of that. Then one night while he was sleeping, she quietly entered the kitchen, put vegetable oil in a frying pan, after bleaching the oil, went into the room and emptied the contents on his Instruments... Twas such a gory sight bro when neighbours broke in hearing the dude's screams.

Relationship (RLS) 101, stay away from them exes.. It only breeds trouble

She should report her self to the relevant authorities , the boss is actually planing a termination

The man simply want guilt to kill the woman..

This is what we call fear of the unknown..

What if the husband isn't planning anything at all?
The man may be a chronic cheat himself justifying his wrestling mind by the fact that his wife is a cheat too.

i seriously hate this silent treatment thing, the lady has no way of guessing when it's going to end or what he's thinking so she'll be constantly on edge and that's enough punishment on its own. I'm not in anyway implying that she doesn't deserve some form of discipline for her actions but the man should come out of his cocoon and let them decide if their marriage would survive or not, the earlier they start-the better.

cococandy:
Let her bring it up abeg. Better to know what is on his mind than sleep one day and not wake up because he's strangled her in her sleep.

She strong gan. One week and she's been living with him under the same house sleeping peacefully?

I prefer people who vent and get it over with.
What normal person won't be hurt if they catch their wife or husband red-handed with another person?

Anybody that pretends to swallow such without even seeking an apology or explanation is mean and may be planning Armageddon.

she said she tried to bring it up that night but he refused. Told her they would discuss it later. Unfortunately she hasnt attempted to broach the subject again since then.
This may sound crazy, but is it possible the man has forgotten? She says he goes around happily, not carrying face or sulking.

temi4fash:


these is totally called for..

So do you think if the wife/ woman dies man would be happy..

I think there better approach to situations like these..

I suggested she write him an apology letter.

Ishilove:
Royver, this is what I call Satanic gentleness. If I were the lady I'd be very very afraid, because if I act like that when I catch my husband in a 'compromising position', then it means I'm up to no good. I'm planning evil.

She should better broach the subject and clear the air before he goes all Jack the Ripper on her cheating heinie.

According to her, her husband is the "walk away and cool off type". Has hit her only once since the marriage, apparently not the violent type. my colleagues said to give her drugs and send her home and she should be extra nice to him and all will be well. But with all this stuff i see on nairaland about man stabbing woman am not so comfortable with that.

Nimen:
What if the husband isn't planning anything at all?
The man may be a chronic cheat himself justifying his wrestling mind by the fact that his wife is a cheat too.

nah. Even a chronic womanizing husband will go ballistic if he catches his wife cheating in him.

Op, she should let the matter rest.
The man may have just come to terms with it and has decided to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING as repercussion.

She should just be extra nice to him for a long while.
Do they have kids?

She can try to bring it up again but if he refuses to talk to her, she can do nothing.

Time bomb: I suggest she should confront her husband to shot everything out. What will it cost her to wake him up in the night to beg for mercy. If his intention is clear he will forgive her

Royver:

she said she tried to bring it up that night but he refused. Told her they would discuss it later. Unfortunately she hasnt attempted to broach the subject again since then.
This may sound crazy, but is it possible the man has forgotten? She says he goes around happily, not carrying face or sulking.

Lol I love this man die!!..... hehehe

Some of the comments here hun...

So If one decide against going ballistic, and instead opt to think rationally by keeping his cool, it can only mean one thing, he's plotting vengeance; murder!

Wow! So dumb & shallow.

Love dat man,,mehnn,,U̶̲̥̅̊ r d main man

I won't spend a night under the same roof with a man that caught me cheating. If he strangles her, she had it coming. Useless married men and women everywhere, people should just put a cork on there itchy privates .

That woman should pack out if she wants to survive the man has plans deadly plans.... She might beg him for life.... I like the man

Aprime:
Some of the comments here hun...

So If one decide against going ballistic, and instead opt to think rationally by keeping his cool, it can only mean one thing, he's plotting vengeance; murder!

Wow! So dumb & shallow.

I tire o!!...na until The man beat am blue black na wetin wan hear......That time dem go dey call The man beast.

Lmao! Love this. Deafening silence when she's expecting thunder.

I think it's either he is too disappointed with her and such detachment from reality is his own wall of defence, or he has been suspecting all along and has filed it away for future use.

The woman sef. She was caught in a compromising situation, he postponed the talk and she just rested. She's very unwise sha. Trust me, he hasn't forgotten. He probably is giving her time to make amends on her own.

I cannot say what he'd do, but he'd do something if she doesn't. She better act fact for her own good.

I like that man.

Ishilove:
Royver, this is what I call Satanic gentleness. If I were the lady I'd be very very afraid, because if I act like that when I catch my husband in a 'compromising position', then it means I'm up to no good. I'm planning evil.

She should better broach the subject and clear the air before he goes all Jack the Ripper on her cheating heinie.

not everyone is into violence though...

Oahray:
not everyone is into violence though...

Better safe than sorry

They never lied when they said "Nigeria has the highest rate of infidelity"....To some persons(women);they were lying & blabbing rubbish without prove.

Now they've seen it,Nigerian women tends to cheat more,when they are married,compared to when they were single.

Kudos to the man


Let her steam in her own boiling water



He should just watch her wither away

Lol....
Nice Husband... I could do that too....
Silence sometimes portray maturity.
On her part she could just meet him and explain yourself.