Lubbish

It is very good to keep virginity till marriage!

kristina1:
God bless you for this write-up

ar u virgin?

The lord have mercy on you if he/she gives you great pre-commitment sex. It has the ability to cover your eyes from the issues you should be looking at.

onila:
TeamVirgin all day

its not easy but we try

are u sure?
masturbation u no dey do

Most of Una here na lier. Many of una dey hotel dey enjoy una life finish come dey talk no sex. YE GENERATION OF VIPERS WOO ONTO YOU

U are on point @op

Not easy but we are still sailing in virginity

onila:
TeamVirgin all day

its not easy but we try

You were 99.9% of your topic na sex. WHY DID HE ASK FOR SEX, MY EX LOVE SEX, WHY DID MY MOTHER AND FATHER GET MARRY, SEX IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH. etc. Dey open mouth say you be virgin. THUNDER FIRE THAT YOUR MOUTH WERE YOU DEY USE TAKE TALK

HzRF:
I did not even read this before clicking on reply

Since the day pple hav been shouting no premarital sex
Nobody has ever said no premarital spending

Smh, this article wasn't even meant for women alone. Get of your high horse. It'd have been better if you even had the money to spend in the first place

netizenbuzz:


Smh, this article wasn't even meant for women alone. Get of your high horse. It'd have been better if you even had the money to spend in the first place

Lolz
When will you guys cease to exist... Using ur pocket to judge others pocket

Did you know me?
Do you knw how much I worth?

Just because nairaland is a place for everyone doesn't mean we all are in the same level

I don't know ur worth either
But for u to assume I may not have enough to spend is stupidity

Easier said than done. Pastor Chris preached more than this but at the end, see what is happening to his marital life.

close ur eyes and let us pray...

Samwell247:
Sex is everywhere. It permeates
television shows, the Internet, and
magazines.
Even children’s movies often
have thinly veiled sexual overtones.

Today, society’s carefree thinking on sex
out of wedlock is simply, “Why not?”
Believing that “most are doing it
anyway,”

Most people say we're in
the 21st century and that's now legal, but 99% of
things that are legal are not right.

Is this a bad thing? Most say no. To
support this position, some cite the well-
documented health benefits of being
sexually active.

some even say ""does sex belong only inside a
marriage relationship""? What is wrong
with reaping all the physical benefits of
sex outside of wedlock so long as one is
“smart” about it?

hmmmm but I tell u, there are dangers for the
sexually active person: transmission of
diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and
potential emotional scarring from a
promiscuous lifestyle of multiple
partners.

see our generation where teenage pregnancies are
rampant.
you meet young people “where
they are” and talk openly about sex.
Educators hope to arm teens with
enough information to dispel the
mystery of sex so they can “decide when
they are ready” to lose their virginity.

“One of the things young people say a lot
is that the sex education they get is
virtually meaningless, it’s too biological
and doesn’t relate to how they are
feeling.

Essentially, parents have concluded
they are no longer able to stop children
from having sex. The best they can hope
to do is teach them about it.

sexually transmitted diseases
have reached an unprecedented level.

Even the “safest”
sex can result in unintended pregnancies
This can lead to the tragic decision
to end the unborn child’s life through
abortion, something a woman will carry
for the rest of her life.

If the couple decides to go ahead with
the pregnancy, children of unmarried
parents are often susceptible to a host of
physical and emotional problems.

children born to women who
did not intend to get pregnant have been
found to have lower birthweight, poorer
mental and physical health, lower
educational attainment, and more
behavioral problems than do children
whose births were intended.”

Men and women who are products of
broken homes often have children out of
wedlock as well, which leads to a vicious,
multigenerational cycle of unhappiness.

Couples who wait enjoy
significantly more benefits than those
who had sex earlier..

A healthy, happy marital relationship
produces similar relationships in the
lives of children who come from them. In
short, happy couples produce happy
children.

It is a parent’s job to proactively teach
about sex. Yet parents have to compete
with what their children learn from this
world’s “sexperts”—the hyper sexualized
media, permissive sexual education at
school, misguided how-to websites—as
well as their peers.

While these sources
may supply some correct information
about purely physical aspects, the
majority of what they teach includes
much error. Add to this the pull on
young people to learn by their own
experiences, which can be painful.

Because of these factors, many parents,
who do not truly understand the purpose
of sex, are perfectly happy to outsource
the difficult job.

On the other hand, well-meaning parents
who seek to discourage premarital sex
might simply say: “Because I said so!” or
even, “Because God said it’s a sin!”
Others, feeling it is inevitable that their
child will have sex, may hand their son
or daughter a condom and tell them to
“be safe.”

In both scenarios, parents merely pass
along what they feel is right or what
others have told them—without ever
proving the truth for themselves.

By comiting to premarital sex you risk.....

1. The risk of disobeying God and letting Satan
get a foothold

The Bible, time after time tells us to flee sexual
sins. Why? Because it is a major strategy of the
devil to sabotage God's work on Earth.

2. The risk of shame

Premarital sex imputes a spiritual state of shame
that becomes a major weapon of Satan. God
forgives you, but you will still face the fruit of the
sin and you'll still be vulnerable to Satan's
whispering accusations on your worth as a
person and your value as an active individual.

3. The risk of sexual dysfunction

People spend millions of dollars to correct sexual
dysfunction through drugs and psychotherapy.
Why? Because they entered marriage with
unresolved sexual issues. For example, a man
may think that he will be free from the curse of
pornography once he gets married, only to find
that the problems are even more noticeable and
controlling.

4. The risk of placing your future children in
spiritual harm's way

The Bible clearly speaks of
the concept of generational sin. What you sow
(plant) spiritually may be reaped in the life of
your children. Break the power of Satan's curse.
Remain pure before God and you'll be
tenaciously guarding the future of the next
generation.
,
5. The risk of depression

Those who participate in premarital sex
experience emotional damage that may lead to
an increased chance of mental depression and
emotional despair.

6. The risk of permanently damaging your
testimony as a Christian or Muslim

You'll never be able to honestly say, "I was a
virgin before I was married." You'll never be able
to live as an example of committed purity.

7. The risk of damaging the destiny of your
future marriage
There is no way that premarital sex of any kind
could be a plus for your future marriage. It only
causes suspicion, mistrust, and regret.

8.. Risks of incurable disease

Imagine that you have found that one special
person with whom you want to share your life.

And now you are forced to break the news that
you have an incurable disease.
Even though such
diseases like herpes are generally not considered
life threatening, there are no cures.
Not only is it
incurable, it fills a life with worries, awkward
revelations, and continuous need for medication.
Herpes and other STD's are everywhere.

Why risk contracting an STD?

9. The risk of lost relationships

When you choose to develop a sexual
relationship with someone, you have immediately
changed the entire definition of the relationship.

God's intent was for a man and woman to enjoy
sex throughout the course of a lifetime. There is
no such thing as casual sex.
Once you have
developed a sexual relationship, that relationship
turns a critical corner. After the relationship
ends, you and your partner will experience the
guilt and pain of promises broken.

10. The risk of death
No one can deny that having sex before marriage
can have grave consequences.
disease like AIDS and its likes kills its victims.

The choice is yours...

[size=20pt]ADVANTAGES OF SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE[/size]


We have said that leadership involves making good decisions. One of the most important decisions many young people face today is whether to wait until marriage to engage in sex or to go ahead before marriage. This is a major decision in how to lead one's life and should be considered very carefully.

Many media messages seem to tell us there is nothing unusual or wrong with having sex without marriage. People in movies and on TV do it all the time. However, because they are not really doing it, there are rarely any consequences shown on the screen—like diseases, unwanted pregnancies, or regrets for having engaged in sex. The reality of people's lives who are having sex without marriage is a very different story.


(1) Sex before marriage creates strong emotional bonds

(2) Sex before marriage can make us believe a relationship is deeper than it really is

(3) Sex before marriage takes you to prolong a very powerful feelings that nevertheless fade.

(4) Sex before marriage sexual experience gained will help us to have better sex in our eventual marriage.

(5) Sex is simply a physical need, like eating or sleeping, and there is nothing wrong with satisfying this need.

(6) Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner's semen are all possibilities, wouldn't you rather deal with those issues before you're married? This way you know if the person is even going to deal with them.

(7) Don't you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid's pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I'm not saying size would be a dealbreaker, but don't you have the right to know what's down there?

(.8.) Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don't start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

(9) I know too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn't have sex with a partner. Not having sex with the opposite sex can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same sex, and therefore don't acknowlege them.

(10) Sex before marriage plays a big role in a relationship. There is no evidence that the couple are more likely to NOT divorce or be happy after marriage after starving themselves of sex in the name of Sex after marriage .

Different strokes for different folks.

Garbage.

Everybody go dey form say dem no dey Bleep...yet condoms dey sell for market pass garri now

Samwell247:
Sex is everywhere. It permeates
television shows, the Internet, and
magazines.
Even children’s movies often
have thinly veiled sexual overtones.

Today, society’s carefree thinking on sex
out of wedlock is simply, “Why not?”
Believing that “most are doing it
anyway,”

Most people say we're in
the 21st century and that's now legal, but 99% of
things that are legal are not right.

Is this a bad thing? Most say no. To
support this position, some cite the well-
documented health benefits of being
sexually active.

some even say ""does sex belong only inside a
marriage relationship""? What is wrong
with reaping all the physical benefits of
sex outside of wedlock so long as one is
“smart” about it?

hmmmm but I tell u, there are dangers for the
sexually active person: transmission of
diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and
potential emotional scarring from a
promiscuous lifestyle of multiple
partners.

see our generation where teenage pregnancies are
rampant.
you meet young people “where
they are” and talk openly about sex.
Educators hope to arm teens with
enough information to dispel the
mystery of sex so they can “decide when
they are ready” to lose their virginity.

“One of the things young people say a lot
is that the sex education they get is
virtually meaningless, it’s too biological
and doesn’t relate to how they are
feeling.

Essentially, parents have concluded
they are no longer able to stop children
from having sex. The best they can hope
to do is teach them about it.

sexually transmitted diseases
have reached an unprecedented level.

Even the “safest”
sex can result in unintended pregnancies
This can lead to the tragic decision
to end the unborn child’s life through
abortion, something a woman will carry
for the rest of her life.

If the couple decides to go ahead with
the pregnancy, children of unmarried
parents are often susceptible to a host of
physical and emotional problems.

children born to women who
did not intend to get pregnant have been
found to have lower birthweight, poorer
mental and physical health, lower
educational attainment, and more
behavioral problems than do children
whose births were intended.”

Men and women who are products of
broken homes often have children out of
wedlock as well, which leads to a vicious,
multigenerational cycle of unhappiness.

Couples who wait enjoy
significantly more benefits than those
who had sex earlier..

A healthy, happy marital relationship
produces similar relationships in the
lives of children who come from them. In
short, happy couples produce happy
children.

It is a parent’s job to proactively teach
about sex. Yet parents have to compete
with what their children learn from this
world’s “sexperts”—the hyper sexualized
media, permissive sexual education at
school, misguided how-to websites—as
well as their peers.

While these sources
may supply some correct information
about purely physical aspects, the
majority of what they teach includes
much error. Add to this the pull on
young people to learn by their own
experiences, which can be painful.

Because of these factors, many parents,
who do not truly understand the purpose
of sex, are perfectly happy to outsource
the difficult job.

On the other hand, well-meaning parents
who seek to discourage premarital sex
might simply say: “Because I said so!” or
even, “Because God said it’s a sin!”
Others, feeling it is inevitable that their
child will have sex, may hand their son
or daughter a condom and tell them to
“be safe.”

In both scenarios, parents merely pass
along what they feel is right or what
others have told them—without ever
proving the truth for themselves.

By comiting to premarital sex you risk.....

1. The risk of disobeying God and letting Satan
get a foothold

The Bible, time after time tells us to flee sexual
sins. Why? Because it is a major strategy of the
devil to sabotage God's work on Earth.

2. The risk of shame

Premarital sex imputes a spiritual state of shame
that becomes a major weapon of Satan. God
forgives you, but you will still face the fruit of the
sin and you'll still be vulnerable to Satan's
whispering accusations on your worth as a
person and your value as an active individual.

3. The risk of sexual dysfunction

People spend millions of dollars to correct sexual
dysfunction through drugs and psychotherapy.
Why? Because they entered marriage with
unresolved sexual issues. For example, a man
may think that he will be free from the curse of
pornography once he gets married, only to find
that the problems are even more noticeable and
controlling.

4. The risk of placing your future children in
spiritual harm's way

The Bible clearly speaks of
the concept of generational sin. What you sow
(plant) spiritually may be reaped in the life of
your children. Break the power of Satan's curse.
Remain pure before God and you'll be
tenaciously guarding the future of the next
generation.
,
5. The risk of depression

Those who participate in premarital sex
experience emotional damage that may lead to
an increased chance of mental depression and
emotional despair.

6. The risk of permanently damaging your
testimony as a Christian or Muslim

You'll never be able to honestly say, "I was a
virgin before I was married." You'll never be able
to live as an example of committed purity.

7. The risk of damaging the destiny of your
future marriage
There is no way that premarital sex of any kind
could be a plus for your future marriage. It only
causes suspicion, mistrust, and regret.

8. Risks of incurable disease

Imagine that you have found that one special
person with whom you want to share your life.

And now you are forced to break the news that
you have an incurable disease.
Even though such
diseases like herpes are generally not considered
life threatening, there are no cures.
Not only is it
incurable, it fills a life with worries, awkward
revelations, and continuous need for medication.
Herpes and other STD's are everywhere.

Why risk contracting an STD?

9. The risk of lost relationships

When you choose to develop a sexual
relationship with someone, you have immediately
changed the entire definition of the relationship.

God's intent was for a man and woman to enjoy
sex throughout the course of a lifetime. There is
no such thing as casual sex.
Once you have
developed a sexual relationship, that relationship
turns a critical corner. After the relationship
ends, you and your partner will experience the
guilt and pain of promises broken.

10. The risk of death
No one can deny that having sex before marriage
can have grave consequences.
disease like AIDS and its likes kills its victims.

The choice is yours...

Your message would be more effective if you don't attach it to what may be categorized as religious beliefs! Not all young people actually care about that!

I think my greatest argument against premarital sex, aside from disease and unwanted pregnancy, is that premarital sex often creates an illusion of love and compatibility that is often dispelled when the 2 people eventually get married! Because they enjoyed the premarital sex, they were deceived into thinking they will make a happy married couple . I think this is happening a lot, leading to many divorces!

naijaboiy:
Well I don't care

If you truly knows the consequences of your actions you should care,
Most of us are guilty of this and the op is saying the truth, the loss of premarital sex out weighs the gains. Bewarned.

@op 100000000000000000 likes
but they won't listen

HzRF:
I did not even read this before clicking on reply

Since the day pple hav been shouting no premarital sex
Nobody has ever said no premarital spending

nice one bro

educative post,very true,very precise,let's our selves the truth we men after fucking around like dogs,inside our hearts we still cherish virgins and dream to end up with one..

Thank you for this write up.

There is no positive benefits having sex before marriage other than satisfying ones sexual urge.

It is so disheartened that women are mostly the victim of this sex before marriage. Some may be lucky to get married to the same guy that that took their virginity, but mostly end up been dumped with or without pregnancy. Still yet other wouldn't learnt, but say that will not be my portion in Jesus name, when actually you are acting against the teaching of Jesus christ and the teacher of Quran as in Islam religion.

At the end of the day, women start to blame men for everything, which includes the emotional effect they suffered from been dumped.

I hope women expecially will learn from this, because one's you have sex before marriage and you are dumped. Any man that eventually marries you will not trust you when some people that are expert in home braking decided to decend on your marriage. They only need to tell your husband that they have been seeing you with a man. Or arranged with your old boy friend to one day accidentally cross you on the road for a chat while they are hidden somewhere taking pictures.

Moreover, you make it easier for some men to sent you parking from your home because they never trust you as you where not a virgin before you where married.

I hope we will all learn and leave by God's commandments.

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Sex is over hyped. Just for one moment put on your thinking cap and critically examine sex- the mind plays,lies,dramas,spending,press ups and push ups exchange of saliva and then offloading your fluid embedded with your DNA. The feelings of getting fidgety towards month end is epic. I've been there and done crazy stuffs and I dare say it aint worth my time but the experiences are pure gold cos I understand what and what to teach my kids.

@op from what you listed here, i learnt that you stil a virgin. well good for you but i want to tell you that there are all also many advantages even more than disadvantages ok
as for me, i did not loss my virginity rather i willingly gave it... and am proud of not being a virgin as a matter of fact am enjoying my status.

@op from what you listed here, i learnt that you stil a virgin. well good for you but i want to tell you that there are all also many advantages even more than disadvantages ok
as for me, i did not loss my virginity rather i willingly gave it... and am proud of not being a virgin as a matter of fact am enjoying my status even more...

when writting articles like this,either you remove religion out of it or you back it up with all religion that supports your claim..

#not everyone on here is a xtian.

Whenever the name SEX is mention much attention is being pay why? Virgin or no virgin the urge for sex in this 21st century is uncontrolable period! :PWhenever the name SEX is mention much attention is being pay why? Virgin or no virgin the urge for sex in this 21st century is uncontrolable period!

Op forget abt sex some yago de maturbate

It's obvious that the poster is old fashioned...
Recent studies showed that virginity affects the emotional psyche..
....I wonder what I'd be doing with a gal that's not my relative...
#myopinion