Disclaimer!!!


I'm not saying I'm a Virgin.
Personally, I believe that Sex should be engaged in by TWO CONSENTING individuals who understand it's implication and consequence thereof when abused.


I think it's sheer hypocrisy when people condemn pre-marital sex based on religious reasons, meanwhile, they're likely chief perpetrators should their garb of self-righteousness be removed.

So, apart from religious reasons, what other arguments can you put forward as reasons to avoid pre-marital sex.

Don't talk about STDs because that can be avoided using condoms.

No quoting of bible or quran or any religious book
No insults nor bashing.

Let's have a discourse like reasonable intellectuals.

chigoizie7:
i dont know oooh, besides our individual religions might differ

Perchance, are you saying if we lived in a world devoid of religion, you'd gladly engage in PMS with everyone you date? (Assuming you date more than one person before getting married)?

Kachisbarbie:
Ohhhh.
This babe be reading my mind per second.

Little thing, they start quoting bible -that thing dey make me mad.

Where are the anti premarital sex crew.

Lolz

timawoku:

I think we really need to critically analyze this topic,

timawoku:
I don't know why o

And its sweeter when sacred
I think we really need to critically analyze this topic, because (to me o) pre-marital sex might actually save marriage

How?
Help us analyse mbok.

FriedPlantain:
hmmmmmm, I'll be back

waiting.

jmoore:
"Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid murder?"
Survival of the fittest, according to biology.

jmoore:
"Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid murder?"

Survival of the fittest, according to biology.

todayguest:
Unwanted pregnancy, abortion, rejection after conception by parents and family members, Family status and denials.Nb. Condoms aren't 100% safe. But, to abstain is.

-- Physical consequences -- unplanned pregnancy and STDs.
-- Emotional consequences -- feeling dirty/used/foolish, heartbreak when the relationship ends, loss of self-confidence when you're deceived or betrayed by someone you chose to have sex with, the baggage you carry to the next relationships (making the next person "cash the emotional checks written by someone else" ) .
-- Psychological consequences -- extremely powerful human drive that can lead to irrational decisions, creates a bond with another person that often overrides common sense, increases the price you'll pay to maintain the relationship (consider women who stay with an abusive boyfriend).


Culled from>> https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080810205937AA1FAuo

ALKARULEZZ:
IT CAN WRECK UR MARRIAGE

Some people think that if they just get married, everything will be fine. But this is not so. A happy and successful marriage is not easy to come by under the best of circumstances, but when you start out wrong, it is very difficult to achieve.

Sex before marriage greatly reduces your chances of a successful marriage. One reason is that those who play around with sex before marriage tend to do the same thing after marriage. They are never satisfied, always looking for a new thrill.

Sometimes couples engage in sex before marriage, then get married and seemingly get along well. But they have sown seeds of doubt and distrust which will bear bitter fruit later on.

Karleb:

1. The urge to have more of it which might turn one to a sex addict and the other patner can never be as available as a patner you are legally married to.

2. Unwanted pregnancy. Trust me many people who engage in premarital sex are not ready to father nor mother a child.

3.

1-Those having premarital sex may be fooled into marrying a person who is not right for them.
Sex can emotionally blind. Real love can stand the test of time without the support of physical intimacy. "If you establish a mutually satisfying sexual relationship, you lose objectivity and actually cheat on the test of time. The only way to rationally decide whether your love is for keeps is to remove any preoccupation with eros, sexual love. Otherwise you may marry a mirage, not a person you really know."

2- Those who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
Premarital sexual attitudes and behavior do not change after one marries; if a woman lives with a man before marriage, she is more likely to cheat on him after marriage. Research indicates that if one is willing to experience sex before marriage, a higher level of probability exists that one will do the same afterwards. This is especially true for women; those who engaged in sex before marriage are more than twice as likely to have extramarital affairs as those who did not have premarital sex. When it comes to staying faithful, married partners have higher rates of loyalty every time. One study, done over a five-year period, reported in Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles indicates 90% of married women were monogamous, compared to 60% of cohabiting women. Statistics were even more dramatic with male faithfulness: 90% of married men remained true to their brides, while only 43% of cohabiting men stayed true to their partner (Ciavola 1997). In another study published in the Journal of Marriage and the Family researchers analyzed the relationships of 1,235 women, ages 20 to 37, and found that women that had cohabited before marriage were 3.3 times more likely to have a secondary sex partner after marriage (Forste and Tanfer 1996:33-47). It was also found that married women were "5 times less likely to have a secondary sex partner than cohabiting women" and that "cohabiting relationships appeared to be more similar to dating relationships than to marriage."

3- Those who are sexually active before marriage are much more likely to divorce.
A study of 2,746 women in the National Survey of Family Growth performed by Dr. Kahn of the University of Maryland and Dr. London of the National Center for Health Statistics found that nonvirgin brides increase their odds of divorce by about 60%. Some would argue that cohabitation does not automatically mean that sex is taking place. However, cohabitation and sexual relations are related or that there is a strong correlation between them. Sex usually does accompany cohabitation (de Neui n.d.); Webster's Dictionary, in fact, defines cohabitation as "living together as or as if husband and wife." If cohabitants live together like "husband and wife," having sex is a very reasonable expectation. Therefore, the assumption is made throughout this writing (granting some occasional exceptions) that cohabitants do have sexual relations.

culled from>> http://www.leaderu.com/critical/cohabitation-html

AbuMikey:


This is so not true.

That Pre-Marital sex can wreck a marriage!

Ha!!

Bros, read Your comment again na

AbuMikey:



Very True!

The urge to have more of it which might turn one to a sex addict and the other patner can never be as available as a patner you are legally married to.

How is it very true, Mikey?
If one gets married a virgin, you can also turn an addict (new thing dey shark). The husband can actually get tired of servicing the wife too.
That's when we see threads like "My Husband Doesn't Make Love To Me Often"