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Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by coogar: 2:04pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon: i opened my eyes & i can see the man is a victim of domestic abuse(physical, emotional, etc)
because he realised her friends are the ones influencing her idiotïc decisions. i would not want the mother of my child to keep bad company too.
fixed!
if her fellow women are noxious to the relationship, then good riddance to ebola virus. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:04pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Vyolet:God bless you. Exactly my point. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:06pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
babyosisi:you are highly Nno, *rushes to bring chair, popcorn and one liter bottle of 'share a coke with mcdokwe' 2 Likes |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:07pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon:well, from the words of the man. The relationship was a good one until friends came in. Mend that instead of all these |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:09pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
coogar: She is an adult naw . . . not a child you would set rules and curfews for . . All of us have made wrong decisions in choosing our friends, but it would be wrong for a man to insist we leave out friend. IT should be our decision, not his. I detest my husband's bff with a passion. But will I 'force' him not to hang out with the guy? I can only give my opinion about him and pray he sees what I see! If I had a friend who a guy got pregnant and refused to marry . . . and still cheats on her, I will cuss the guy out to eternity. Infact, I won't even bother to hide my feelings from him. If looking out for a friend makes me bad for their r/ship then so be it . . . |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:09pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther:sorry. The man didn't post pic or details of the woman so I see no reason how that should be her problem. If she didn't open this thread we wouldn't know about her so that case I proclaim "void* |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by mcdokwe(m): 2:09pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Lol, I text her for the following reasons. I have grown above hate like her and won't hesistate to advice or help her when I can. 2. She has with her, my lovely daughter whom I have all the rights to and would not stop asking after. babyosisi: 5 Likes |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:11pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
mcdokwe: Did you try to sleep with her friend? Did you call her irresponsible?? Did insult and belittle her in front of other people You have a child man . . . GROW UP!!! 3 Likes |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by iykedare(m): 2:12pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
[quote author=MizMyColi post=31670161] Which is why I maintain that he is a good person who just missed his way. (who doesn't sef) Yeah,the guy seem like a reasonable dude. Some of us are worse. Me no fit withstand any girl`s tongue lashing. She should hit me instead,I sure wont feel the pain. Naija girls and their mouth,they can do better with their mouth. . I definitely wont hit back,don't wanna commit murder. Nevveerrrrr. Who doesn't like alpha males? mizmycoli would rather fall for one than fall for a beta male. I will be factual here. No condition is permanent? If the condition come permanent nko, they would come to nl to air their quarrel.Marriage is for better or worse conditions. 1 Like |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:14pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Owliver:Hmmm OK o. But seeing the story here can make her angry. Maybe she decided to open hers because if the bashing she was getting without them hearing her own part of the story. The op doesn't sound happy too you know. Biko I'm not a relationship or marriage counselor, as a matter of fact I'm not even married so make I Sidon with MarvellousGod dey watch dey go. 1 Like |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by coogar: 2:16pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon: a man's responsibility is to lead his partner. part of that includes rules & curfews. i see nothing wrong with a man putting a wedge between his partner & bad friends.
if her friends are awful, then he's within his right to cut them off.
it depends on the reason for detesting him. if you detest his arrogance or good looks, it's not a valid reason. if you detest because he poisons your husband against you then it's a valid reason. the latter is the case with the OP.
why did she get pregnant for a guy that hasn't discussed any marriage plans with her? could it not also be argued she trapped him with the pregnancy or what are you saying?
looking out for a friend that bore a child out of wedlock. where was your advice when she was spreading her legs to enjoy unprotected sex? 1 Like |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:16pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther:yes I believe that there is a lot that we don't know but cheating and beating are both deal breakers. no matter the love, I think she is better off without him |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:17pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther:choi* oya letz marry na. Make we run our paroz codedly. All this one wey I dey shout here na mouth I dey make oooooooo no go think say me fit beat someone. I no even get body. Howfa? |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Rose2014: 2:18pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon:Great observation I couldn't have said it better I thought I was the only one who could read in between the lines of his 'wife beating & bragging about it' post Nansense |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:18pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
bestestgirl: |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Vikky014(f): 2:18pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
mcdokwe:hmmmm. i am regreting sending her dt birthday txt .Gush do u hv human sympathy @all cant u see u r wronghw can u tell ur babymama dt u used her to explore d world of sexu even tried sleepn wt her friend.SMH |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by MizMyColi(f): 2:19pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
iykedare: Owhhhh yes.... I love Alpha Males. I just learnt more about the term "Alpha Males" yesterday..... But.... You know there are pros and cons. I actually read up on Alpha Females. So my conclusion is this....... Be the alpha....but be discerning enough to know when to go beta Forget o. Givers never lack. It is a general principle. As for airing their issue..... I have a feeling she might regret taking this step in the near future, but for now, let it serve its purpose. I wish I had the boldness to tackle people sha. Sometimes, when I remember how ungood my mouth can be......and how it might affect others, and how miserable I will become ultimately.... I prefer applying self control and just ignoring. Well, different strokes. Different folks. To each his own path. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:19pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
bestestgirl:abusive and locking up a man is a deal breaker too. Even telling "your friends" about your husband is a deal breaker. He's better off without her. I hope he realizes this earlier. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:19pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Owliver:Marry make u beat me too? No vex I don marry. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:23pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
coogar: LEAD . . . not RULE!
Cut them off . . . maybe . . . not try to bang them! it depends on the reason for detesting him. if you detest his arrogance or good looks, it's not a valid reason. if you detest because he poisons your husband against you then it's a valid reason. the latter is the case with the OP. Errrm. . . The OP is not married to this man. He is a baby daddy who is drinking the milk without paying for the cow. Any good friend would be right to condemn him! why did she get pregnant for a guy that hasn't discussed any marriage plans with her? could it not also be argued she trapped him with the pregnancy or what are you saying? True . . . she already made the mistake . . so did he! So she is not good enough to be his wife and he wants the right to choose her friends? That's just not how it works! 1 Like |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Rose2014: 2:23pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon: The mistake ladies make is staying with an abusive man because u don't want him to bring another woman, nansense, or hoping he'll change. Nah, he'll just kill u n remarry anyway so it's better u leave him and let him remarry when u're still young n alive Once A wife beater, always a wife beater cos just like in every marriage,there'll always be times u get him upset 1 Like |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:26pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther:ask rose2014 she will vouch for me. I don't beat ladies. Meanwhile, why all of una dey marry marry na. Choi* nawa ooo lekwe nu le oooooo |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:26pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Vikky014:Wow I didn't even see that. Smh really. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by cococandy(f): 2:27pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther I can't believe you didn't alert me on time to this thread. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:28pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Owliver:Vouch ke, my non woman beater hubby will soon locate me. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:28pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Owliver:chai Owliver make una fear God na, you guys keep making it seem that the reason why he eventually beat her was because she locked the door and would not let him go out to vent. but have you forgotten the part where he said that he beat her senseless in another location (without locked doors) where even several women could not stop him? Her child was just two months at the time (stitches never heal finish sef). He then collected the child from her and gave a neighbor and went to buy milk so that the baby "will not suck her silly breast" (I guess thats why he said he was afraid that his daughter will learn bad behaviour from her Mom, maybe e think say dem dey suck behaviour from breast) Just call a spade a spade, the man is abusive and does not deserve her. you sef think am na, if your girlfriend caught you cheating, will you not expect her to call you 'unprintable names'? will you not expect her to fight you even a little? Should you not endure it knowing that you bleeped up? |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Vikky014(f): 2:28pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Herzumpther:can u imagine dt kind of rubbish |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by coogar: 2:29pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Wedon: a leader is a ruler.
i do not believe he tried to bang her friends.
she chose to have a baby by him. what's the business of her friends in the relationship?
he didn't make any mistake - she chose to have a baby by him & she's chosen to leave him. she's the one that made a mistake.
there's a child involved - his child! he has the rights to know the kind of bad elements that come to the house where the child lives. if there was no baby between them, he would have moved on aeons ago. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Owliver(m): 2:29pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
Rose2014:the mistake men make is to think they can change an abusive and talkative wife. The more they realize that verbal abuse is the cause of male deaths in Nigeria the better for them.... Always an abusive wife will forever be an abusive wife. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Nobody: 2:29pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
cococandy:My dear I tot its your sleeping time in America already. I'm so sorry. |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Rose2014: 2:29pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: No sweerie, oga Owliver is not mcdokwe I may be wrong but I believe Mcdokwe= Dinachi |
Re: He Hit Me, He Regrets It, I Deserved It by Raymie(m): 2:30pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
The couple are in the building! Oya let the debates begin. |
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