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Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by pickabeau1: 1:02pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
crackhaus:lol |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Rose2014: 2:04pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
babyosisi: Nne looks like you're saying in other words na aturu muru ebule gba aka nwa 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by kaboninc(m): 2:21pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
remsonik: Like you have problem of reading and comprehending. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 3:08pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: I think it is important to Address this young lady as well. This is a man that she dated for 5 years and eventually had a child for. How can she now say that a 100 of him are not worthy of her. What was she looking at for the 5 years. Then she admits to being violent towards him. Why though?. She has some issues she needs to work on and you are doing her a disservice by not pointing it out and just focusing on the young man. Yes I will always condemn violence but it goes both ways. Men should not hit women and women should not hit men. Tell her where she went wrong too as well as condemning him, let us be fair. Rose2014, I'm tagging you in this too 9 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by cococandy(f): 3:38pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
When he posted his topic I did. Now she posted hers I'm addressing him and his fellow abusers can't take it? Too bad. Anyway we know what this is. Everyone dislikes abuse (well except some really deranged ones among us.) So I can tell you most people on both those topics share the same exact opinion about the two lovers just that some will go extra mile to get at someone who's been giving them sleepless nights even when ordinarily they would share the same opinion if they weren't biased already. fem29: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 3:59pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Rose2014: Iwe li weee 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 4:07pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
P cococandy: Ok I didn't see that To be honest I saw his part and I could not even comment and avoided the topic. the violence and depravity was just too much. How can anyone allow their life to descend into such chaos. If you dig yourself into a hole, you need to stop digging, stick your head out and try to find a way out. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Rose2014: 4:09pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
fem29:Nne biko there can never be anything fair about mcdokwe dishing out the type of blows he described here on someone's daughter and having the nerve to come boast about it here on nl. Thats what got my attention in the first place Moreover the mcdokwe guy a.k.a Kiliwii Nwachukwu is verbally abusive too. He rants worse than the lady. Look at him insulting his father in law to his face while claiming he's calling for peace. Imagine the guy sending a reply to the lady's friend. So much hypocrisy on nl. If I open a thread here saying I read hubby's message and replied and he slapped me for doing that,the same you people will still say I got what I deserve. You'll even advise me to apologise to him and promise never to try it again. But here we are talking about mcdokwe replying her message and once she dares complain, he insults her and her family and went ahead to beat her twice in one day. C'mon people Why invading her privacy for goodness sake? And no remorse whatsoever cos he has a JT?Why letting outsiders know how controlling he can be? Jeez Living with such a controlling guy, verbally and physically abusive must have bn hell on earth. For me, it'll be better if they make up for the sake of their child but before that, the lady should make sure mcdokwe has truly truly grown up cos he needs lots of it to do. My only fear is that once an abuser is always an abuser 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 4:38pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Rose2014: Rose ooo, you are dancing around the issue, this was a mutually abusive relationship. She admitted to hitting him because he was an expired person , im guessing she means broke. Someone who is controlled does not hit their aggressor. Let us tell miraijj the truth so that she can learn 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Rose2014: 4:40pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
fem29: It's the other way round sweerie, let's tell mcdokwe the truth so he can grow up. Abusing a woman is nothing to be proud about Let him go try his strength on fellow guy. He's lucky he's in Naija . Imagine daring such in a civilized country. U guys are not doing him any favour by not telling him the truth 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by kaboninc(m): 5:00pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
fem29: Thank you o jare. This is what I've been advocating for since last night. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Rose2014: 5:11pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
kaboninc:As long as the bolded is all you have to say if such happens to your daughter, we have a deal |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 5:13pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
so this is where the party moved to!! OK na *spreads kingsize mat* 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by freecocoa(f): 5:21pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Seriously Rose2014, you don't want to be objective and that's not really a good thing. The dude abused the OP, just as she did him or more than she did him, agreed, so why can't you just tell her she was also wrong? He is physically stronger than her, therefore his blows were deadlier but does that cancel the fact that she also hit him? Won't he be the one receiving deadlier blows if the woman is stronger? I don't support anyone hitting another person, but can you stop with the "hitting a woman" rubbish? If a woman can hit, she should be able to take a hit, it's that simple. 9 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 5:28pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Op and wify please don't forget to open a thread informing us of your settlement when you do. But seriously mcdokwe and miraijj you both don't need all this please . 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Ewuro4: 5:44pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Una still dey here Na wa oh .... Who is Babymoma64 that quoted babyosisi's post yesterday?.... The moniker opened a gory thread that almost made me shait in my pants. That ain't funny dude/madam.
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Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 6:30pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: What she said |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by 5minsmadness: 6:31pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
mcdokwe: this shows our man is not naturally a woman beater. According to this statement She even attests to it and it is also obvious her 'friends' have been looking for a way for them to break up since. In fairness to the truth, I learnt a lot from her and having her taught me how to treat my sister who was her age better. worthy of note. If you have a problem with your spouse, discuss with him. Dont go about telling friends you initially wrote off, who initially had misgivings about a man. they tend to blow things out of proportion and leave you feeling worse off than when you came. we see a lot of this on nairaland for example. Fast forward to that particular day, a lady who I encouraged her to make friends with because of her distress and the feeling we could be of help to sent a text to her sim which happened to be on my phone saying she needs to know when I left the house so she could come over and I was wth! This is some one I brought in, someone whose coming means she is to fend from my toil, and I asked what it could be that I did that should warrant such. I sent her a text telling her never to bother coming anymore as I wasn't leaving the house that day anymore. She called her back and asked her only God knows what and my lady went up in frenzy insulting me not minding that a third party was there. Verbal abuse. HORRENDOUS AND HURTFUL esp as mcdokwe lost his father just the previous year. He responds with some verbal abuse of his own but knowing he cannot match her word for word he decides to remove himself from the situation. But she locked the door and wouldn't let me. She turned apologetic again and then insulting, in that state all I could do was pity her because I couldn't imagine how someone could be so unstable, I was visibly frustrated and made to leave the house which she wouldn't have either and I had to forcefully remove her from the way. She came back hard on my, making for anything. That could be converted into a weapon, thankfully I was stronger and made her efforts futile. I pinned her to the ground with the intention to make her realise I am stronger than our love sessions where I played weak to let her have an upper hand so she could give up already, but the moment I released her a bit, she reached for my phone and smashed it on the floor repeatedly, I regrettably gave her some blows and because I didn't want it to continue, opened the door so a neighbour could come in a stop the fight. I later stormed out with the child and headed for a family who had rendered enough care to us and she later found her way there, I expected her to behave more in their presence but that was to wishful of me and unfortunately the ladies couldn't stop me as I gave her even deadlier blows but mehn, she never really got enough. 1. she starts throwing weapons, striking as hard as she can and he pins her to the ground but the moment he releases her she continues her attack. if you reading this cannot see that this lady is overly aggressive then you must be blind. 2, it is after this incident that he regrettably strikes back and gives her some blows and then opens the door for a neighbor to intervene. Does this look like a man interested in pommeling his wife? She was later forced into one of the rooms in the apartment and locked up with the baby. Reconciliation. She is astonished he hit her. Ipso facto, he is not the physically abusive type, hence her surprise. Could it be that this night she pushed his buttons too far? She also told me how a particular friend of hers who came in after the fight had told her not to have sex with me that night and all that.Did she deserve it? Maybe she did and maybe she didn't. But the facts still remain that mcdokwe is not a habitual batterer, in fact his gf went to great lengths to provoke him that night until he finally lost control. We are all human and nobody is perfect. Even a pastor will strike back if put under the same strain this man was put under. Should they seperate? It is left for them. However I feel the woman in question is being heavily influenced by outside sources. I do not belive in the juvenile slogan of "once a batterer, always a batterer." this statement apart from being utterly naive and simplistic, reduces battering to an unconscious reflex which repeats itself in the person after it has occurred once like a cocaine addiction. Even habits require repetition to become habits. IN SUMMARY This woman verbally abused a beast much larger and stronger than her and went on to prevent same beast from exiting the scene even in the face of oncoming danger and then further went on to strike at same beast until she was pinned to the ground and then smashed the beast's phone. what was she expecting in return? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 6:32pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Ewuro4: We still dey kampe , we cannot get enough of this post, e be like say we go die here, I see this going on in perpetuity |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 6:34pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Hmm I concur |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by kaboninc(m): 6:46pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Rose2014: At no time did I support any form of physical abuse. I never supported the guy and I've always said that to me, there's no moral justification. However, that lady needs to be told the truth, that her mouth is really uncouth, confirming that she's indeed verbally abusive. That has always been my stand. But people like you, cococandy and babyosisi especially, console yourselves with the one-sided judgements you give. You attack the fire from the surface and neglect the root cause. Now it will be very shameful to me if my daughter was in that mess. In fact I'll scold her for taking such a decision. I'll also share a blame for such irresponsible behaviour. And yes, if her abusive mouth causes her some slaps, she deserves it. (I know you'll take solace in that) However there are boundaries to which a corrective measure can be taken. We need to speak the truth always, not for the sake of swelling our followership. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 6:46pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Where is the thread They have all arisen from death |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by cococandy(f): 6:49pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
babyosisi: Deleted I guess by mods. So someone actually wishes you'd lose your husband and kid. Over difference of opinion? It is funny and not. Some people would murder fellow nairalanders if they knew where they lived. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 6:51pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Rose2014: Yes I have told him how wrong he was , warned him never to try it again. You see I don't think he is a batterer, I can understand being pushed to the wall, being at your wits end and lashing out in anger. I can remember when I was pregnant, I always thought I was gonna be fantastic mon, never beat my kids be all nicey nicey, even my friends were like your kids are gonna be soooo lucky, ur so laid back, you won't beat then etc. Fast forward to toddlerhood, I had no help, hubby is not with us, I was with them 21hrs a day 7 hrs a week, when for the umpteenth time they get hold of the sudocreme or Vaseline or powder or any blessed thing they can get there hands on and smear it all over the sofa and carpet. They spoil the 3 rd phone in 6 months by putting it in their mouth(damn you blackberry ), I would lash out at them, slaps, abara, screaming like a banshee. I never imagined in my life I could ever do that to my kids. It really wore me down, in the end I had to get a babysitter because God forbid me lose it one day and inflict some damage on them. Now thank God everything is cool and no more hitting. So I won't judge him too harshly though he went overboard, I never used anything apart form my palms on my kids though that is painful enough and I never injured them. What am I saying, ladies do not hit men, don't abuse their mother during an argument, don't do shit that could make him possibly lash out at you. If he is grossly irresponsible, try to find a way, regardless of him. Learn how to try to discuss logically and express yourself very clearly. 5 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by kaboninc(m): 6:54pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
@5minsmadness Bro, you're not the only one who have analysed this issue and decided to call a spade a spade. Yet some folks who think because they have a cult followership have just decided to twist issues. Every sane post from very sane folks have always said one thing. Both are guilty. Yet, these 'I over sabi' feel otherwise. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 7:00pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
If you read the two account you can easily spot who the abuser and the abused is. All her line ended with an insult This guy's only crime is that he lost control and hit her repeatedly. Funny enough, she admitted she was wrong for pushing him to that extent. I guess the friends that has been asking her if he hits her finally got the hit they were looking out for and convinced her to leave Stop begging shit to smell biko Move on with you lives 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Ewuro4: 7:05pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
fem29: Iya ibeji I see that too I think say something else dey this matter sef, people wan quench for the matter. couple wey don knack kpako and made up.. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Druss(m): 7:09pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: Are you an idiot? |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Ewuro4: 7:12pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
babyosisi: How's this funny Did you create that thread? cococandy:where did you get all this idea from. Na wa for you oh |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 7:12pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Ewuro4: I tire for myself, I keep coming back to read the thread wherever I am |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by cococandy(f): 7:14pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Someone pretended to be her creating a thread to lament the death of her husband and kid. The mindset of the person is not hidden obviously. I don't understand the sick joke. There's no na wa for me in this matter. I've been here a while and I see folks wishing others ill over disagreement or just plain dislike. Why did the MODs lock the thread? Na wa for them. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Ewuro4: 7:15pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
fem29: Hian! Non stop Back & forth on top nothing ... Makes a good read anyway. Afterall na NL Have a great day jare. |
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