As a born introvert, i decided to join the church work force six months ago to get more used to people and also to work on the shy part of me.
Two of my sisters are in the church choir and they have both gisted me of how the supposed brother and sisters of God use to continually have sex with each other
We are only four girls out of almost 25 guys in my subgroup and to be sincere, all these people are really nice and most times don't bother we girls too much on works to be done.
The problem now is reality is beginning to show itself as some guys in the choir have already started eyeing me, i don't mind them anyway and I guess they must have assumed me to be an easily convinced type of girl just because of the way I smile
One is always trying to get my attention in church while the other will not stop disturbing me on whatsaap
The same me that thought of joining the church choir is already having a rethink of going back to my former self as a bench warmer I seriously cannot be a part of this kind of hypocritical act going on right in the church of God. I told my boyfriend about it and it doesn't seem new or surprising to him, it's like this is now the new trend in churches.
I don't know the kind of Christian we call ourself but having sex with Co workers right in. Church is just not done, in most cases the girls are at the loosing end cos every guy in church will know how that guy slept with you and they will probably wanna get under her skirt too

I understand what you are going through. I myself was in a similar situation.

op I can't blame you, its a trend in churches this days, I'm not encouraging it but that's just d way it is.
most people join this church worker thing for certain reasons mostly d wrong ones, I was in ur shoes once but I left d church thing for a diff reason entirely.
nonetheless it should not let you get discouraged cause it seems u actually want to serve God, my advice for you is to actually continue your work (if it makes you happy), don't let wat they are doing hinder your stance but b careful cause u can fall easily especially if u don't have someone spiritually sound to back u up.
If the pressure gets too much leave the church cause it may seem like u can fight ur way thru but den u realise that there is actually no where u can go to without d help of your fellow Christian brothers and sisters.

Dnt wori.. This will make fp on sunday..

one of the things i always tried to avoid, back when i was an avid church goer, was church parole...

it always felt like a slap on God's face.

oh well

True talk....its a big slap on God's face.

From my teenage yeara till date I find it hard to have romantic/lust feelings for a sister in church.

I am there to worship praise and pray and then go my house.

buh OP, permit me to ask, u hv a "BoyFriend" right?, & this ur "boyfriend", I supoz he is a christian, right?...if ur answers to d above questions are in d affirmative, den u confuse me with d "I don't want to be a part of the "hypocrite" thing going on in d church.."statement....just as ur now boyfriend,who I believe is a "christian" saw,admired,wooed u & u accepted, is the same way these other guys saw,admired(still admire),wooed(still wooing) u & is upto u to either accept or reject their advances...so whatz d news here? or are they outrightly asking u for sex?, is it now wrong for pple,irrespective of d group they belong in, to xpress themselves?is it not possible for dez guys asking u out to actually mean well & "might" respect & abide by any conditions u give...by the way,don't u think dat u and ur boyfriend are already hypocrites(that is,if u guys indulge in kissing & any other sexual acts,even if u don't indulge in s*x itself)?.........

Nawa for we women, if they "woo/pursue" us,wahala, if they don't, we start crying & going from one church/pastor to the other asking for deliverance...its well oooo

Anyways sweetie, plz don't b pissed,just appreciate dem for desiring u & politely turn dem down(so far dey ar young unmarried pple), buh if is d married ones ? my dear, u really don't need to be polite cus itz obvious what they want..

Plz keep serving d Lord in anyway u can, don't b discouraged by all d distractions plz...

most of the workers are seeking their rewards on earth, and not in heaven again.

am not a saint,but I don't joke with sacred Place like church to display my sexual ego..

How some people engage in sexual relationship in a church gathering baffles me.

I feel your pain OP.

No wonder d bible says judgment will start from d house of God. May God save us all

1dafullymade:
buh OP, permit me to ask, u hv a "BoyFriend" right?, & this ur "boyfriend", I supoz he is a christian, right?...if ur answers to d above questions are in d affirmative, den u confuse with d "I don't want to be a part of the "hypocrite" thing going on in d church....." statement....just as ur now boyfriend,who I believe is a "christian" saw,admired,wooed u & u accepted, is the same way these other guys saw,admired(still admire),wooed(still wooing) u & is upto u to either accept or reject their advances...so whatz d news here? or are they outrightly asking u for sex?, is it now wrong for pple,irrespective of d group they belong in, xpress themselves?is it not possible for dez guys asking u out to actually mean well & "might" respect & abide by any conditions u give...by the way,don't u think dat u and ur boyfriend are already hypocrites(that is,if actually u guys indulge in kissing & any other sexual acts,even if u don't indulge in s*x itself)?.........

Nawa for we women, if they "woo/pursue" us,wahala, if they don't, we start crying & going from one church/pastor to the other asking for deliverance...its well oooo

Anyways sweetie, plz don't b pissed,just appreciate dem for desiring u & politely turn dem down(so far dey ar young unmarried pple), buh if is d married ones ? my dear, u really don't need to be polite cus itz obvious what they want..

Plz keep serving d Lord in anyway u can, don't b discouraged by all dat distractions plz...

Don't get me wrong abeg, am not a baby anymore and I know the difference between a guy that has a good intention and the one that basically needs only sex from me just to boost his ego among his peers.
These are guys that have slept with countless of girls in the church choir and other workers, what is the difference between me and these girls that will make this same guys have good intention towards me?
This isn't asking out, it is simply boosting their ego so they can go about and say 'i have slept with the new worker too'
I do have a boyfriend and theere is nothing hypocritical about that.

classicB:


Don't get me wrong abeg, am not a baby anymore and I know the difference between a guy that has a good intention and the one that basically needs only sex from me just to boost his ego among his peers.
These are guys that have slept with countless of girls in the church choir and other workers, what is the difference between me and these girls that will make this same guys have good intention towards me?
This isn't asking out, it is simply boosting their ego so they can go about and say 'i have slept with the new worker too'
I do have a boyfriend and theere is nothing hypocritical about that.

OK dear

demmy0325:
Dnt wori.. This will make fp on sunday..

true

Hmmmmm...... I'm here

OP, I rily salute ur decision. It baffles me wot pple av turned d church of God into all in d name of bin a worker thereby exploiting d foolish babes.
This dint jst started, it has bin happening. More of y I rily hate dis habit of calling ' bro $ sis' so so so, hypocrisy of d highest other.
Similar fin happened to my cousin. Met dis guy on a neutral grnd nd wanna get married sharply(3-4months). I had to tell my cousin to ignore him nd mak tym to discover his kind of person(because I suspected foul play). God so gud, she went to spend lyk 2days wit him abt 2wiks ago nd she over heard his bro askin him abt d girl he impregnated whch he claimed he is nt redy to d responsible for d pregancy. Dis unfortunate guy is a chief organist in a baptist church.
It is heart wrenching d havoc workers commit, nd d gullible ladies too will com out later to say "all guys are same"
OP, if u av wot it taks to work in d house of God witout tradin ur worth, go ahead nd manage it. Dnt forget d pressure dis mofo guys can also mount on u.

It is said that we should not be equally yoked with unbelievers, now that brothers have seen a believing sister to yoke with, una dey talk hypocrite. Werey?

1dafullymade:
buh OP, permit me to ask, u hv a "BoyFriend" right?, & this ur "boyfriend", I supoz he is a christian, right?...if ur answers to d above questions are in d affirmative, den u confuse with d "I don't want to be a part of the "hypocrite" thing going on in d church....." statement....just as ur now boyfriend,who I believe is a "christian" saw,admired,wooed u & u accepted, is the same way these other guys saw,admired(still admire),wooed(still wooing) u & is upto u to either accept or reject their advances...so whatz d news here? or are they outrightly asking u for sex?, is it now wrong for pple,irrespective of d group they belong in, xpress themselves?is it not possible for dez guys asking u out to actually mean well & "might" respect & abide by any conditions u give...by the way,don't u think dat u and ur boyfriend are already hypocrites(that is,if u guys indulge in kissing & any other sexual acts,even if u don't indulge in s*x itself)?.........

Nawa for we women, if they "woo/pursue" us,wahala, if they don't, we start crying & going from one church/pastor to the other asking for deliverance...its well oooo

Anyways sweetie, plz don't b pissed,just appreciate dem for desiring u & politely turn dem down(so far dey ar young unmarried pple), buh if is d married ones ? my dear, u really don't need to be polite cus itz obvious what they want..

Plz keep serving d Lord in anyway u can, don't b discouraged by all dat distractions plz...

lol..nice

classicB:


Don't get me wrong abeg, am not a baby anymore and I know the difference between a guy that has a good intention and the one that basically needs only sex from me just to boost his ego among his peers.
These are guys that have slept with countless of girls in the church choir and other workers, what is the difference between me and these girls that will make this same guys have good intention towards me?
This isn't asking out, it is simply boosting their ego so they can go about and say 'i have slept with the new worker too'
I do have a boyfriend and theere is nothing hypocritical about that.

I fear your Church oooo, so you have the history of d bleeping, definitely its not new in your so called church..........What re you waiting for unless you want to be the next prey

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op apart from posting this ur story here, have u tried doing anytin sensible about it? Like reporting to a superior in the church or an elder or even ur pastor or abi u join th group to see how the attention feel?

sarmiie:
one of the things i always tried to avoid, back when i was an avid church goer, was church parole...

it always felt like a slap on God's face.

oh well

same here

masterchi:
op apart from posting this ur story here, have u tried doing anytin sensible about it? Like reporting to a superior in the church or an elder or even ur pastor or abi u join th group to see how the attention feel?

That's if they so called elders are not doing same

naijaboiy:
That was how the choir master in my church impregnated one of the members in choir and they forcefully had to get married.

choii,nawa o,end time things

You make it look like the church is for perfect people. The hospital is for the sick what the church is for the sinners. The reason I do not go to church is because I believe the church is for sinners who seek repentance. I am not a sinner, so I can not go to church. Have you seen a very healthy man going to stay in hospital ? No, only a mad man can do that. And so are many Christians.

classicB:


That's if they so called elders are not doing same

so every person in positn of authority in the church is into the act?

Titus 1:16 They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate.
* I pity churchman who are obviously not Christians.
@Op. Neither give place to the devil.

Op, are you abstaining from sex with your bf?

e be like say u get killer shape wey de make doz guys come de fly around u lik fly wey de near corpse *winkz*, if you cant stand d temptation den u quietly leave d church.

Devils in sheep's clothings everywhere..

Billyonaire:
You make it look like the church is for perfect people. The hospital is for the sick what the church is for the sinners. The reason I do not go to church is because I believe the church is for sinners who seek repentance. I am not a sinner, so I can not go to church. Have you seen a very healthy man going to stay in hospital ? No, only a mad man can do that. And so are many Christians.

Errmmmmmm bro,if thats ur reason then u are "reasonless",any1 preacher that understands preaching preaches 4 2 reasons
1)to get sinners saved
2)to get the already saved ROOTED AND GROUNDED that they be not tossed about by any form of doctrine.if as a xtian u isolate urself 4rm oda xtians is it then d world u go and be unequaly yoked ?
@ op.its no new trend bt it is very regretful that filthines is nw rampant in the workin team,heartbreaking is it that men dn't see GOD as a judge,funny that men nw offer sacrifices with strange fire..........and here we are prayin 4 revival......
these last days ?,GOD HELP US