MrsChima:


First of all nigga...they started calling me names and I have returned the gift.

If you are going to jump in...look before you do.

ayoku777:


There is nothing wrong in reasoning with your head, as long as it doesn't contradict or make you start twisting the word to make it say what you want it to say.

If a man objects to a woman bearing her Father's name after marriage; he has scriptural justification for his stand; more than the woman has to stubbornly insist otherwise. That's what I'm saying.

urchmanx:

Never call me Nigga. I am not your nigga. Be careful with your choice of words.

MrsChima:


And what are you going to do? Jump through the screen?

MrsChima:


You are doing a great job tagging behind boys with their balls on your mouth. I always knew you were a gay.

MrsChima:


There is nothing in the bible that said a woman has to take the man's surname. If you want your wife to take your surname and she doesn't mind...great! We shouldn't tell people how to run their lives if it is what they want to do. If a man has no issue with his wife not taking his name then why does it bother you?

If a man has an issue with a woman not taking his surname then he have a choice...fund another woman who will. Simple. You guys make simple things complicated.

MrsChima:


Nigga...leave that weed alone because you are reading shit from a dyslexic point of view.

You have nothing to stand on and making up shit as you go. You can't show one thing that was different in my posts on this thread and I have maintained through the whole argument that women have a choice and don't have to take their husband's surname and you bishing about me choosing to accept my husband's name with my father's.

MrsChima:
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No...the id0it would be you.

My comment still remains....what are you going to do ho?

MrsChima:
I don't think that it's an issue to take husband's surname and keep maiden name. It won't change anything if you do and your marriage shouldn't suffer because of it.

Men likes to feel in power and important so they requires women to take on their name. I don't see women going around shouting "take my father's name" so why are the men shouting?

There are more important things to worry about than surname. It won't strengthen or kill your marriage. . Stupidity will!

A man told me that he left his wife because she didn't take his surname and felt she didn't love him so. People nowadays don't have a clue what marriage is and why it was created in the first place!

MrsChima:
I don't think that it's an issue to take husband's surname and keep maiden name. It won't change anything if you do and your marriage shouldn't suffer because of it.

Men likes to feel in power and important so they requires women to take on their name. I don't see women going around shouting "take my father's name" so why are the men shouting?

There are more important things to worry about than surname. It won't strengthen or kill your marriage. . Stupidity will!

A man told me that he left his wife because she didn't take his surname and felt she didn't love him so. People nowadays don't have a clue what marriage is and why it was created in the first place!

Hollamydey:
B4 nko, am still d daughter of my father. Besides am married 2 my husband nd nt sold 2 him so I still have d right 2 maintain by father's name nd dat of his, ko fa ija rara.....#my opinion

MrsChima:


Where is it in the bible that say a woman must take the man's surname because she left her patwnt's home. There is no such thing as modern trend marriage. Marriage is marriage regardless of the season. If it is not a big deal for a woman to take the man's bame....then it shouldn't be a big deal for a man to take the woman's ,name. Simple.

computerboy:


You are sounding like a frustrated scum bag. My dear, shouting and attacking all nairaland guys can never make u regain ur wasted years. After reaching menopause, you came here and added a consolation "Mrs" to ur moniker---you wish... lol cuz no right thinking guy would marry a confused ewe like u.
Keep on parading ur over screwed self here looking for whom to curse. misery they say, always finds company.
am out

Beface:

you are the first fo.olish lady i've ever come across on NL and you claimed to have a husband,Fo.olish prostitute. I blame myself for not realising how stupi.d you could be the moment i red your your post. I guess you've not taken your drugs that why you are reacting this way.

ayoku777:


Give me a scriptural justification for insisting that you will bear your father's name and a man that doesn't want that should go find another woman.

On what scripture do you justify your audacity. Or its just "civilization"?

Coz I've shown you where the king told his daughters to forget their father's house.

Its not by force to agree with the scripture, but don't tell me I've not shown you scriptures that prove women are called after the name and house of their husbands after marriage, not after their fathers

slimmy05:
don't derail the topic. You still calling someone gay? You talk about diversity? Your a most silly and dul human on nairaland.

urchmanx:

Nothing because this is online... you can say what you want to say.

dicefrost:




Please tell me a religion that doesn't recognise the man as the head of the family.
Are you married?

slimmy05:
Frustrated crack head

dicefrost:




When he paid your bride price, and your family 'extorted' him, you were handed over to him. You became a member of his household, his property. Just as he has become yours.

ayoku777:


Are you calling me a hypocrite? Or that I quote scriptures without striving to live up to it by God's grace? Do you judge people without knowing them? Or you are just fond of stereotyping?

I'm not perfect but hear this; if Jesus were to show up to me today and say; Ayo, ask what I shall give you? I will say, Lord, to be like you. To behold your glory and be changed into the image of your glory.

Sister, not everyone is a hypocrite. So please stop stereotyping. Don't judge me by the character of those you've met or know.

That being said; you didn't disprove all the verses I quoted to buttress my point. You just digressed to implying.

While it is true that killing an adulterer falls under the old covenant; the verse that said that the man is the head of the woman and that the man was not made for the woman but the woman for the man are new testament truths.

A man should love his wife as Christ loves the church; and the woman should submit to her husband. Let the scripture say what it said, not what we want it to say.

When a woman marries a man, she marries into the house and family of the man. That is why Jesus was called a Son of David; even though she was born of a virgin and Joseph was the one from the lineage of David.

It proofs that Mary married into the lineage of David through Joseph. That's the way it is. She leaves her father's house and is called after her husband.

Scripturally speaking, a man has more right to demand that his wife bears only his name, more than the woman has to demand otherwise. There is no scriptural justification for a woman objecting to that. Just 21st century civil liberty justification.

MrsChima:


If a marriage suffer because of a surname then thar marriage is useless!

The bible says nothing about taking of a surname upon marriage....that is a man's idealogy. Jesus Christ is the head of the Christian family and you don't see men bearing the name of Christ as their surname so why expect women to do what men won't do themselves, Exactly.

sampsondeen:

Shhhh!!!
it's diff in ds case..we tawking marriage. .yhu bringing in religion

MrsChima:


Go beat your mammy.

MrsChima:


Are you married nosy mofo? If you are going to jump into an argument....look first.

A chatter posted a verse from a bible and I responded the above as the tegards to the bible being a Christian thing. What other religions you know reads the bible?

Exactly.

dicefrost:




I would have commented further, but since you have taken to name calling, i ll just stop here. I thought we could reason like responsible people, but i'm not good at name calling or trading insults, neither do i like being insulted. I was polite to you. ...... Bye

slimmy05:
what do you expect from a frustrated bitter woman? She is possessed with evil spirit