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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by lastpage: 3:31pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: Very self-explanatory darling, l just pity the neophyte of a lady who will come here, read and swallow these post thinking it was coming from a "balanced" elder sister. As for the huffing and puffing, some of us owe it a duty to the younger generation, to "try" to let them know that this world is filled "wolves in sheep clothing", moreover, l just finished my ration of daily exercise! Lastpage! 7 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by kenex4ever(m): 3:31pm On May 28, 2015 |
dBard:u said it all. Confess everything prior to the marriage because d love n infatuation dat has blinded him at that point most likely won't allow him to stop marrying u. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 3:36pm On May 28, 2015 |
lastpage: You see am |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 3:37pm On May 28, 2015 |
Blokkos matters will not kill Nigerian men. See as everyone ignored all the other points and focused only on the one about not telling your past sex life. Right now those other points practically don't exist Let us face the blokkos matters. Chai. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by PreciousBro: 3:40pm On May 28, 2015 |
Confiding in him before he finds out is what is right, it'll mean you're trust-worthy, not telling him would mean otherwise. If you're truly remorseful of your past,surely you'd want him to love and accept you for what you are, because your past is also a story of you, it should be his call and right/decision to either accept you or not, if he doesn't,take it like that, its your fate so long as you are true and repentant you'll see a man that loves you for you. Don't hoard secrets in the name of still keeping him(your partner), you are not God and hence not wiser than him, how do you know what works when you aren't open,is there wisdom in that ? You can't be 100% sure or guaranteed that he wont leave/accept you. It would be selfish,callous,unwise,unreasonable and tactless to not tell on matters that touches the heart as this. I can never bend the truth no matter what/how a badosky I am Let us preach and uphold it please please and please!!! Thank you very much. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by charles316: 3:41pm On May 28, 2015 |
jadelyn007: How do you mistakenly cheat? you mean you can mistakenly remove your pants,still mistakenly open your legs and mistakenly take the di,ck? jadelyn007: I`m happy you asked. I will make you understand. Why do you think people ask for the mileage of a vehicle before they buy it? They do that to evaluate the wear and tear the car must have undergone and to know its true value. So baby,a smart guy will want to know `where and how many times you`ve been there` to evaluate your true worth. A new car and a fairly used one are not of the same value. Have I been able to educate you ? 4 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Kimoni: 3:44pm On May 28, 2015 |
kilode100: See what double standards between men and women has caused in Nigeria When what is good for the goose has never been good for the gander The hunter is fast becoming the hunted... Bushmeat don finally catch the hunter... 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 3:45pm On May 28, 2015 |
kenex4ever: God forbid I made it clear in my first post that cheating is wrong and despicable and I will never condone it ever |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 3:47pm On May 28, 2015 |
cococandy: Hahahahahahahaha Cunny man die,cunny woman bury am Did they even read the circumstances around the no 3 point All the men sowing their wild oats and proudly boasting about it,are they pouring it into a drum? No be for woman bodi? Then when it comes to marriage and their own woman,they will start asking WAEC questions If you have chopped girls and did things with girls that will eventually become other people's wives,imagine that your own wife to be also did same before meeting you Simple 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 3:49pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:Your post says otherwise. 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by VintageCocktail(m): 3:50pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:I feel you. Some logicians here will think otherwise. A repented cultist-turned-pastor reliving on how he used to be bad pissed me off talk more of a better half of mine spilling how she aborted five or more pregnancies and how she tries to make ends meet by engaging in runs......hian hian. Abeg make we take true. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 3:53pm On May 28, 2015 |
AZeD1: This is it,people here are specialists in manufacturing a post and making responses to the posts in their heads It doesn't get any clearer than this Here Read that no 3 slowly,that is what I wrote babyosisi: |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by ralphGBP(m): 3:54pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:I think everyone should understand that confessing favours men than women because ladies have a very soft heart for honesty, it is not fair but there is nothing anyone can do about it. We all should just be totally honest in a relationship, it pays. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by kinglekan: 3:59pm On May 28, 2015 |
Ploutos:[b] We can't factor out kids here cos the thread states fiancee/husband. I understand your stance on this and I also agree. Seems you didn't get my point on leaving certain things unsaid because the knowledge wouldn't have any impact whatsoever on the union. For example if she was sexually violated at a tender age by her dad (who has now turned a new leaf and has asked for her forgiveness.) and had to go through a series of therapy to get over the hurt and emotional trauma. If she decides to withhold such information from you considering the fact that it reminds her of her ugly past and it wouldn't change or have an impact on her marriage. Would you consider that as not being open? Telling you would probably shred every iota of honour and regard you had for your FIL. She would have by so doing not kept the integrity of the family name. Hope you get my drift? I am guessing this is what @babyosisi meant in her write up. Cc: iAmPloutos [/b] 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Kimoni: 4:01pm On May 28, 2015 |
My opinion: Come clean with your spouse, the truth always sets one free But again, wisdom is profitable in all things:there may be no need to go into the gory details of your past Who needs to hear all that anyway Most importantly, ensure the openness is both ways, it's not only women that should be spilling like parrots 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
Ladies please imagine this scenario In your university days,money was tight,father and mother poor,living in a one room at overail Aba You are in the third year at UNIJOS Temptations Somebody comes and tells you some senators are coming into town and you follow them go party After the party,una come go for bed Na so you begin do small small side things and you graduate from the uni You turn a new leaf,totally hate what you did and genuinely repent Tomorrow you meet emeka who is getting serious with you and in the name of coming clean,you tell him all your last including the 5 senators and Mazi you chopped,emeka picks race. One year later,you meat Nnamdi,same thing repeats 6 months later you meet charles,you will open mouth again and start blabbing You meet Gbenga and Edet,you are still blabbing Assuming the relationships didn't break over these revelations per se but all of a sudden you have about 7 or 8 men that you have told secrets of your life Emeka,Nnamdi,Gbenga et al will of course tell people what you told them especially when the relationship is over Ngwa how does that feel to know your story is everywhere This is how girls destroy themselves with their own mouths Don't do it please 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: You're still missing the point, it's not about the deed itself, it's not about how traumatic the deed was or how frequently, all that matters here is the ability to share anything with the one you love or the one you claim you want to spend the rest of your life with. People marry prostitutes everyday, people marry former drug addicts, there's no big deal in that, what matters is that both parties involve understands one another and there are no skeletons in the cupboard. Believe it or not, most guys appreciate hearing a confession from the person who erred than from an outsider! 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 4:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:How can you tell someone you don't condone stealing and still tell the person if they steal, they shouldn't get caught? If you don't condone cheating, you would have said "if you cheat, face the consequences of your action". 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by charles316: 4:07pm On May 28, 2015 |
Kimoni: There is nothing you can do about it but to live a good life. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:08pm On May 28, 2015 |
AZeD1: So if I had stolen,I should come out in front of the congregation and tell you I was a thief to be forgiven? How many of you in Nigeria are walking around with their real birth certificates for starters Please |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 4:10pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: Another bad example, what I would suggest here is for the girl to change her type, to change her preference in men. I refuse to believe all guys think the same! If a guy truly loves a woman, past incidence are easily forgiven, especially if the girl was honest from the start. Most Nigerian university girls are worse than prostitutes so that's nothing new, if the girl kept the secret, got married and after some years one of the senator happens to be the guy's employer or kin, what would she do? 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:11pm On May 28, 2015 |
ApexTitan: In this your most detailed definition, how do you prove claims to virginity? |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:12pm On May 28, 2015 |
abbey621: If you don't know,it won't hurt you As long it is not detrimental you are safe So long for these one sided confessions Ladies should be wise and talk less sometimes That is the summary |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:13pm On May 28, 2015 |
abbey621: It is a foolish man that will reveal who he slept with Didn't the man also sleep with people What is the big deal So you want to know so that what will happen? Ask her who is bigger or better? |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 4:14pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:If you steal, you feel bad and want to repent you should return/{confess to} what you stole to the rightful owner As to your second question, there's nothing as terrible as self deceit. I use my real birth certificate, i don't care about others. I'm beginning to believe your "mentality is since others are thieves, i should be a thief". 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:16pm On May 28, 2015 |
AZeD1: Sometimes you cannot return what you stole Doesn't mean you are not repentant It's amazing how this thread is showing the clear double standard in men As for the fake birth certificates,many were made by the people's parents and it is already on record as their DOB Some they made themselves So what should they do? Return their WAEC and college diploma and ask their jobs to fire them because they gave false records? Please !! |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by BABE3: 4:21pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: what double standards? You focused the lens on women yourself. The topic says "things your husband is better off not knowing". OP is about women. Question; should men keep those secrets from their wives too? 3 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Kimoni: 4:21pm On May 28, 2015 |
charles316: Says who? This is the mistake men are making that is turning the world upside down Quit the double standards!!!!!! Women are fast learning and even outperforming men in this dirty game It's a man's world as much as it is a woman's world Wake up to reality 4 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:21pm On May 28, 2015 |
abbey621: If past incidences are easily forgotten then past incidences are inconsequential since they are easily forgiven anyway So why bring them up? The woman doesn't need the forgiveness when she was already forgiven before she met him Women blab less,that is my message Keep your dignity If the relationship doesn't work out you will be glad you kept your stories to yourself 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 4:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:Its true you cannot always return what you stole and there's nothing you can do about that, but if you cheat on your partner(both men and women) you can and should confess especially in marriage. As for the double standards, i haven't seen any guy here say only women should confess. The people against your point have said do not build a relationship on falsehood and that works both ways. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by 9jatatafo(m): 4:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
BABE3:You can't tell me you don't have a secret |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 4:26pm On May 28, 2015 |
Kimoni: Another thing along this same line A man and woman deeply in love,what do some stupeed women do,send pictures of their nakid behinds and pictures in compromising positions to their sweetheart because of love. Allow tapes be made of them Foolishness all in the name of love If they happen to eventually marry fine What if they don't which happens in many cases What if they divorce? Suddenly a picture of your naked self is somewhere in space and could be worldwide at the click of a button What woman wants that? Women do a lot of stupeed things without thinking that's why I am saying these things Same thing here Share what is necessary,keep others and certainly don't go blabbing for no reason E touch you for waist,touch am for blokoss and keep your mouth shut The females here will understand me They are the ones I am speaking to 1 Like |
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