AngelJennifer:


In my place in Imo state, with 250k you can complete the traditional aspect of your marriage.

Lol hope youre not referring to that notorious land of the 5 villages...hmmm

Happiness87:
lol, then you can share with me na

Ehen

There are 2 cakes left

Oya come and take

ednut1:
i knw a lady who is 37-38 she don turn prayer warrior on this matter, going to mfm prayer city tmrw self.abeg mk she go turn baby mama

not funny.

Marriage Palaver

Gurgle:


Ehen

There are 2 cakes left

Oya come and take

where are you based??

jnrbayano:
You were making sense until no 2.

"Igbos" are not expensive. The bride price paid to the bride's family is returned to the man in a 9 out of 10 situation (the bride price paid in the head of each of my 3 sisters were returned)

I guess you need to assimilate and decipher my point. You will agree with me that there is a general mindset that Igbo ladies are expensive right? So im not saying that is true yet that seem to be the belief in many quarters especially the non igbo tribes so that was why i wrote that it is the duty of the lady to let the guy in her life understand that her case is not so.

Have you realized that Igbo guys now come for Yoruba ladies and some have argued that its because they are cheap but HELL NO.Its a cultural practice and been cheap is very relative.

Is been cheap about bride price or cost of marriage,Nah i think been cheap is about the decency of the lady in question.

Happiness87:
where are you based??

London and you

So all the pretty ladies looking for a ready made Dangote.

I offer the following analysis of your predicament.

In economic terms, you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain: you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35, stick a fork in you!

Your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity … in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what most of them are asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following: if my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating(leasing), not marriage.

But rational arguments rarely win the day in dating, love, and marriage.

Good luck in your search.

Gurgle:


London and you

oh no, thought you were in Nigeria, precisely Lagos

jnrbayano:


Igbos are widely travelled and I believe you know that. Take a cue from us, travel, ask questions, get first-hand information and this will get you emancipated from the slavery of stereotyping.

The No 2 point in the Op have done my Igbo sisters disservice and slanderous to their/our families as well.

Anyway, Ethnic Aspirations differs from Self-Actualization, we are not competing for the most travelled tribe. To the point, people may have stereotyped the Igbos from their own perspectives, viewing the Igbos 'eyes on details weddings' as 'extravagance' compare to what obtains in their own. Cultural difference reactions. I once saw the list on a bride price for an Igbo babe, its demanding. In Lagos, people says Igbo guys marry late because of bride price, but I always felt chidi is searching for mammy-water-fine-bride to bring to 'travel'. Can you pluck such from the nest without paying the price? warever

Happiness87:
oh no, thought you were in Nigeria, precisely Lagos

What made you think so

Ok. I'll mail them to you

Happiness87:
where are you based??

Lol sorry but your profile pics got me thinking...

I will advice you replace it with a more decent one because you might attract the wrong admirers.My candid take.

Don't ask why i checked your profile pics,most of us are guilty of the act.

I. Am also Seeking of a serious Yoruba lady who is ready for relationship that will lead to marriage.

iamnemo:
So all the pretty ladies looking for a ready made Dangote.

I offer the following analysis of your predicament.

In economic terms, you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain: you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35, stick a fork in you!

Your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity … in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what most of them are asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following: if my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating(leasing), not marriage.

But rational arguments rarely win the day in dating, love, and marriage.
Good luck in your search.

You are right bro

Do you know that despite the fact that i really want to settle down with a good lady,anytime i se a lady in her thirties i tend to pause and take a deep look unlike when i see 20something year old lady.

The moment a lady clocks 30 and she is yet to marry i will advice her to be very very careful because at this point on,even if she is not desperate at all,that age automatically puts her at a precarious situation.

Toks2008:


Lol sorry but your profile pics got me thinking...

I will advice you replace it with a more decent one because you might attract the wrong admirers.My candid take.

Don't ask why i checked your profile pics,most of us are guilty of the act.

thanks but Am not gonna pay attention to useless tales. I have automatic filters

I shall not marry until I get a good Job! I don't want disgrace.

Gurgle:


What made you think so

Ok. I'll mail them to you

am waiting o o

alvin000:
I. Am also Seeking of a serious Yoruba lady who is ready for relationship that will lead to marriage.

It was my searching that made me realize how desperate some ladies can be.I will advice ladies in their early twenties and mid twenties to please and please be reasonable because one wrong affair at your early twenties can destroy you totally and you will see the guy just keeping mum and and licking the whole honey in you just to dump you in your late twenties and then wahala don start.

Watch out for my next article and you will realize that you don't really need to date a man for more than a year at most before he proposes to you even if he is living in face me i face trouble.

Happiness87:
am waiting o o

**Sending**

True..true... Why did they wait so long? Me sef na atawewe (21-24) I dey find o. But I still fit consider 25 sha if she is slim. The slim ones tend to get prettier as they age.

Toks2008:


You are right bro

Do you know that despite the fact that i really want to settle down with a good lady,anytime i se a lady in her thirties i tend to pause and take a deep look unlike when i see 20something year old lady.

The moment a lady clocks 30 and she is yet to marry i will advice her to be very very careful because at this point on,even if she is not desperate at all,that age automatically puts her at a precarious situation.

Even the rich who are ready to do everything for their daughter's groom are still stuck with their daughters, tradition has nothing to do with a lady not having the right attitude to attract the right guy for marriage. Another point u never mentioned is that at a point in every woman's life, there were influx of men asking for their hands in marriage, irrespective of whether their bride price is high or low or nothing, but they never were ready at the time - they usually would be busy chasing their fantasies. So for me, the categories you are trying to describe missed their turn by error or omission.

Gurgle:


**Sending**

make i follow you??

Happiness87:
make i follow you??

For where? stay there, it will reach your house na

danbrowndmf:
so u do fart? I was even thinking that fine girls don't fart...now am dissapointed.

lol errione farts jore

Gurgle:


For where? stay there, it will reach your house na

ok o, finally i like you

Gurgle:


Well OP said that women are trying to marry using all the ceremonies under the sun without considering whether the guy can afford it, so I was just responding to what he said. Unless youre just telling me what you think. Anyway I agree with you. Except the traditional wedding part; in my place it cant ever double up because there are too many steps. If the guy is serious he has to keep coming

My submission was a response to the OP not necessarily you.

Don’t you think we have to lobby the government to recognise either of the 3 methods legally since it may or may not have direct impact on why eligible men aren’t taking the bold step

Gurgle:

Well if OP is Igbo then I guess so. If hes not then hes looking at it from outside

So the OP can’t really be making assertion of what he has no clue about.

Gurgle:

And what do you say about this. They still upgrade though, a lot of the time

The top reasons for divorce have nothing to do with upgrade in financial status

Gurgle:

Past can determine the future if you don't deal with it properly and leave it to spoil in the background, thereby allowing the "smell" to leak into your present life

I insist on past not determining the future so long as there is complete honesty between the two couple

You are usually supposed to base your decision to accept your bf’s proposal using the experience gained whilst dating them. That’s the only reliable indicator on how someone will perform once you agree to share the rest of your life with them

PastorAji:
whia my Vaseline dey

*soliloquies* so evn pastor de use vaseling too

Toks2008:


Lol sorry but your profile pics got me thinking...

I will advice you replace it with a more decent one because you might attract the wrong admirers.My candid take.

Don't ask why i checked your profile pics,most of us are guilty of the act.

Yet again you are going ahead making wrong assumptions even though it's really non of your business

I'm sure she never claimed to be looking for admirers on NL so why can't she be free to post whatever she likes so long as it conforms to forum rules?

You come across as someone very stuck up in old archaic ways

The Igbo expensive bride price is just overrated! Stop saying what you don't know OP, if it were,how come Igbo gals get married everyday!

ronald4lif:
There are potential husbands everywhere and when they're ready to get married they will. They keep waiting for ready-made guys whose heart belong somewhere else, prolly to a loyal lady who stood by them through thick and thin.

Except if they want to tell us those bus drivers, conductors, unemployed graduates and those earning less than 50K a month aren't good enough. Then they can as well mould a Dangote and Tony Elumelu replica for themselves.

That's a bit bias..I'm sure if ur sister or family relative brings home a conductor or bus driver to marry you would be the 1st to raise the alarm.

The thing is we are all humans and every Human wants the best. So u won't entirely blame a lady for going after what she wants. The problem there is when greed sets in... you find out that some ladies want an already made guy someone who already has 3 cars and houses. That's why ladies date married Men some even become second wives. They fail to acknowledged that hustling graduate with a goal. That man in a rented apartment with one Toyota. They become too choosy, that's where the problem is.

jaybee3:

My submission was a response to the OP not necessarily you.

Don’t you think we have to lobby the government to recognise either of the 3 methods legally since it may or may not have direct impact on why eligible men aren’t taking the bold step

Ok, the thing is that my parents only did a traditional wedding and the certificate was recognised both in Nigeria when they travelled, so im not sure which laws you are referring to

jaybee3:


So the OP can’t really be making assertion of what he has no clue about.

Yeah I think enough people have already corrected him

jaybee3:


The top reasons for divorce have nothing to do with upgrade in financial status

I cant say whether its a top reason but I know for sure that it is definitely present

jaybee3:


I insist on past not determining the future so long as there is complete honesty between the two couple
You are usually supposed to base your decision to accept your bf’s proposal using the experience gained whilst dating them. That’s the only reliable indicator on how someone will perform once you agree to share the rest of your life with them

Yeah that's true

Gurgle:

exactly

*BRIDE PRICE