menix:

But u re not doing mii gud..

Good morning, how na?

naija girls sha...so dump...getting some1 pregnant and being forced to marry her is a lie married men tell too often. he let u cross the line and made sure u've fallen for him before telling u...open ur eyes woman!

Story story!
Story for nollywood! A he acting and writing as she.

Princecalm:
sometimes I ask if Love and stupidity have anything in common

They do my brother. That's why I never fall in love. I just see a woman I like, woo her, f*ck her like 4 times and off to the next!

You broke up someone's marriage and expect to have peace right??Sorry is your name

A good study in stupidity . What a super story!!!

you are in love just because of the guy look and his money. You are also a woman, dont ruin anothers woman's home.

samafooo:
you are in love just because of the guy look and his money. You are also a woman, dont ruin anothers woman's home.

The home was ruined when the married man stepped outside his home so to speak.

@VICTORIA91 click the link below to reand and see what happens when you date a married man.

www.nairaland.com/2616327/dating-married-men

Law of karma
Prepare to be bitten by it
Love is sensible not this petty emotion we overuse/under use
But you didn't know at the initial stage, I'd spare you my serious backlash.
Start a life with him but don't cry foql when the actual reality comes knocking. I just hope you are employed and can care for whatever child you bear for him.
If you continue on this path.

lawanson44:


They do my brother. That's why I never fall in love. I just see a woman I like, woo her, f*ck her like 4 times and off to the next!

Bad boy

Ask him to marry you as a second wife. If he says NO, move on. Pele

Swissheart:
Opt out!......he was forced to marry her yet they have 3kids....think pls

chai we men and our lies! I laffed wen I read that part...

honeygirl17:

Good morning, how na?

Morning, u did not come again abi u 'shiting' on mii wiv Naijaboiy.

menix:

Morning, u did not come again abi u 'shiting' on mii wiv Naijaboiy.

Lol, who be naijaboiy? I'm not cheating joor

Both of them are to share blame

OP while I do not support your relationship with a married man, I would advice you with the notion that his utterances to you may be true.

Yes he may have three kids with the lady but if he never truly loved her without compromise I can understand his desire to move on and be with you, but darling pray to God, I don't think this is your stop.

Advice this young man to return home and build in his relationship at home, unless the wife is lazy and faulting on her responsibilities as a mother and wife there is nothing beyond repair. Her faults can be fixxed it they talk and make a honest effort and his as well.

Do not take the bait, don't be a second wife, I don't advice it.

Good luck and God bless

honeygirl17:

Lol, who be naijaboiy? I'm not cheating joor

Gud, that is why my Luv for u is like a Golden Clay...

The funniest thing is, this girl might have a boyfriend and the guy will be like; I have a babe. Not knowing that his so-called girlfriend is messing around with another man.

May God have mercy on these silly women!

My sister the best thing is that you detarch ursef immediately. Think of tomorrow, think of the fact that polygamy is one of the factors that has destroyed many homes and it has a great effect on the children i came from such home. What if he shift his attension to you only later in life or otherwise your children or the other woman's children will cry later. No man can love two woman same way one will definately be at the receiving end. Dnt scarter that home, pls try as much as possible to do away with that man so that the devil dnt use you. Heaven hates this even our society does not encourage it. Am sure if that guy is nt that rice mayb u will nt love him as such. Not saying yu are after money thou. But pls flea dnt even run you will find your own man. He belongs to another woman already. Best wishes.

80% of Single Ladies in Lagos(case study) once dated or still dating married men...Why?
Unquenchable Quest for Flamboyant Living,most young guys can't finance such an unrealistic lifestyle,@Op you are just attracted to his wealth,be ready to face the consequences your case dey MOUNTAIN OF FIRE HQ that woman you want to snatch her husband can go to EXTREMES to destroy you...get ready

Well, my advice to you is THIS:
This is the point in Life where you must think to decide what you really WANT
What kind of Life & Lifestyle have you envisaged for yourself as representing your IDEAL Happiness
The best way to do this is to imagine e such a Llfe as existing without money or Superficiality!!!
That's how you envisage your Ideal Life of Happiness!!! Your dreams, ambitions, wishes...

If you rediscover this, relate it to the man in Question, his character & means.... Do you think by what you already know about him, he will fit into your Life ambition & Picture...in Character & Potential? The best way to do this is FORGET HIS MONEY & CARES!!! Think of him in Character... So you won't be bias....

Now, ask yourself whether what you discover is what the Trouble.... Marriage, second Wife etc...If it does: Proceed to knowing HIM better, go for what he is not telling you, employ the services of a faithful friend!! in this, as you may be blinded by what you.... Confirm all he told you first!!!! His marriage, circumstance, background, if they prove satisfactory; to you, then you can PROCEED to gain an understanding with his present Wife...& establish the terms of Marriage... It will make you know better the circumstance of their marriage...
You will have to go this far if you LOVE, & must soulfully unite with this man!!! YOUR discovery will Guide you....

IF NOT, if as much as a considerable detail is compromised, MOVE ON!!!! & FORGET HIM. By your account, you've not known men well enough!!!

Understand however that WILL bear the CONSEQUENCE of any decision you will make in this respect!!!! Second Wife, Double marriage, may not be a problem if well managed, the Parties agree ing in consequence...

Understand at the last phase, it is the man and his CHARACTER, understanding that speaks!!!
Be WISE!!!!

OVER ALL, I will advise you to concentrate on your JOB & CAREER & try to be INDEPENDENT!!! & financially balanced....
I discover that WOMEN know their hearts more When they are financially balanced & Secured!!!!

Wish you GOODLUCK
REMEMBER that MARRIGE is not clearly held up by LOVE as by UNDERSTANDING!!!
MARRIAGE IS A different LOVE-BASE!!!!

Remember to Pray & ask for Grace!!!!

Be YOU!!!!

Those that commented before me have said it all.Like our lord Jesus will always tells us let he who has ear listen to wise counsel.If you disobey Gods word by destroying another woman's home you will NEVER know peace.If you like try it.God loves you.

menix:

Gud, that is why my Luv for u is like a Golden Clay...

I see

Babe, leave that guy u are mature enough to control ur emotions, u are talking about ur _fucking feelings, that woman he got pregnant, doesn't she have emotions, u are too selfish, know that if u marry that guy, u have killed another woman like u emotional, u are beautiful, ur own guy will come, if em no come, am available

Yes. I know you love him. And he loves you. Now do something for this love-LET HIM GO. BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM, IT MEANS YOU LOVE HIS FUTURE, HIS KIDS, HIS HAPPINESS etc.

Love is living your life for the good of someone you love! It is not selfish. TRUST ME AND ANYTHING SPIRITUAL ON THIS FACT-THAT YOU WILL NOT LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN THE HOME AS A SECOND WIFE.

I love your sincerity.




Now, come here and collect some strokes of cane!

Sakes:
Well, my advice to you is THIS:
This is the point in Life where you must think to decide what you really WANT
What kind of Life & Lifestyle have you envisaged for yourself as representing your IDEAL Happiness
The best way to do this is to imagine e such a Llfe as existing without money or Superficiality!!!
That's how you envisage your Ideal Life of Happiness!!! Your dreams, ambitions, wishes...

If you rediscover this, relate it to the man in Question, his character & means.... Do you think by what you already know about him, he will fit into your Life ambition & Picture...in Character & Potential? The best way to do this is FORGET HIS MONEY & CARES!!! Think of him in Character... So you won't be bias....

Now, ask yourself whether what you discover is what the Trouble.... Marriage, second Wife etc...If it does: Proceed to knowing HIM better, go for what he is not telling you, employ the services of a faithful friend!! in this, as you may be blinded by what you.... Confirm all he told you first!!!! His marriage, circumstance, background, if they prove satisfactory; to you, then you can PROCEED to gain an understanding with his present Wife...& establish the terms of Marriage... It will make you know better the circumstance of their marriage...
You will have to go this far if you LOVE, & must soulfully unite with this man!!! YOUR discovery will Guide you....

IF NOT, if as much as a considerable detail is compromised, MOVE ON!!!! & FORGET HIM. By your account, you've not known men well enough!!!

Understand however that WILL bear the CONSEQUENCE of any decision you will make in this respect!!!! Second Wife, Double marriage, may not be a problem if well managed, the Parties agree ing in consequence...

Understand at the last phase, it is the man and his CHARACTER, understanding that speaks!!!
Be WISE!!!!

OVER ALL, I will advise you to concentrate on your JOB & CAREER & try to be INDEPENDENT!!! & financially balanced....
I discover that WOMEN know their hearts more When they are financially balanced & Secured!!!!

Wish you GOODLUCK
REMEMBER that MARRIGE is not clearly held up by LOVE as by UNDERSTANDING!!!
MARRIAGE IS A different LOVE-BASE!!!!

Remember to Pray & ask for Grace!!!!

Be YOU!!!!

Don't forget to QUIT!!!! & Move on, if you feel less sure at any STAGE!!!!

ANU OHIA!!!
Husband snatcher,the repercussions of your action will get to u soon.Where else will he take you outside the country if not Dubai.
You comes from an average family MY FOOT!!
You are not moved by material things MY A$$!!

honeygirl17:

I see

I hope u re not married because this luv am seeing is leading somewhere because I will not be as foolish as this OP..

OMG...I read all these crap.

Naija gals re reknown for gold digging.

#fact

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

my dear itz simple, do 2 odaz wot u wish em do to u! Our choices 2day make up our 2moro!

VICTORIA91:
I once said abuse is allowed......is not my fault, all blames on blind love. :-

waris this one talking about?:/.......blind love ke?na you blind the eye?:|,even as the guy revealed himself to you,you still need an advice?,just like someone who wants to step on nails asking if she should go on with it,and you are still 25,you claim to be working and bla bla bla,anyway am waiting to hear "I GOT PREGNANT FOR A MARRIED MAN PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO?"






THE GUY NO TRY SHAA,AFTER BONDING THE GIRL'S SOUL WITH HIS(SEXUALLY)THAT'S WHEN HE REVEALED HIMSELF,GUYS SHAA,GIRLS AND THEIR STUPIDITY,LATER ONE IDIOT WILL COME HERE AND SAY SHE CAN TIE HER MAN DOWN WITH SEX.....................YEEEEEE I STILL DEY REASON IF THIS KIND STUPIDITY STILL DEY EXIST,THE FOOLISHNESS JUST DEY BANG MY MIND LIKE IS THIS GIRL FOR REAL?................HE CARRY YOU GO ABROAD,WORKING CLASS LADY?AND YOU DEY JUMP AROUND,YOU EVEN WAITED TO SEE IF HE WILL SUCCEED IN DIVORCING THE FIRST WIFE?AH AH AH SISTERLI,DIARIS GOD OO,GUESS YOU ARE HERE TO GET A PLAN B......GIRL SEE EH,NA YOUR TYPE OF WICKEDNESS WEY DEY SHOCK DEVIL, anyway the story is not real shaa,one can easily tell from the boldness of the girl and her replies
GOOD MORNING FELLAS AND LADIES