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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 10:55am On Oct 08, 2015

Wow she looks so cute and her age too

cococandy:

Thank you my dear. I feel sick when anyone says a child is dressed provocatively.
That's just sad. What's the world turning into?
We try to blame it on modernization and say that's what's spoiling our kids while in truth we are becoming more and more prudish and over sexed.
I don't even know how that combination is possible but it's happening.

Before this so called modernization, we didn't see anything wrong with child nudityy.
Even we as kids didn't know there's anything called sexy until we started maturing.

So what's the real culprit here?

Didn't we all grow up in Nigeria where kids stay outdoors all day only in panties and are non the wiser about their provocative nature? Now we see sexuality where there should be none.
It frightens me.

As for kids' fashion, some thing definitely look odd on kids. And that includes weaves, make-up or anything that makes them not look like kids. Let the kids be kids dear parents.

Below is a child in bum shorts and there's nothing sexy about that. Don't give pervs excuse to justify paedophilia as they've tried to justify rape of adults on dressing.

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by bukatyne(f): 10:57am On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:
Or this
@bukatyne

Hair... on point
Face on point

Dress? A lil' bit longer and no need for the jacket cheesy

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 11:00am On Oct 08, 2015

and me I was thinking the jacket makes her look more cute.so tell me what's wrong with the other little girl in sunshades and knicker

bukatyne:

Hair... on point
Face on point

Dress? A lil' bit longer and no need for the jacket

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 11:04am On Oct 08, 2015

@ bukky bukatyne you mean long like Beyonces daughter's own?

this type of long?

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by bukatyne(f): 11:08am On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:
is it the sunshades knickers or blazers.which one is wrong there?

no make up and no earings o

Sunshades (there is sunshade for kids na) and knickers (I would prefer the multicolored ones and not jeans).

The blazers is more of an overkill for me jare.

Make the ~~pikin~~ child play cheesy

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by bukatyne(f): 11:10am On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:
@ bukky bukatyne you mean long like Beyonces daughter's own?
this type of long?

Now this is a beautiful baby girl kiss

Knee length or slightly above the knee is ok

Though in all honesty, for kids very little (2, 3yrs), the length of the dress doesn't matter grin

All you would see is a short moving object grin

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 11:18am On Oct 08, 2015

@
Bukatyne bukky. Too much emphasis on girls jare. What of this cute little boys cheesy

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 11:20am On Oct 08, 2015

bukatyne:

Now this is a beautiful baby girl

Knee length or slightly above the knee is ok

Though in all honesty, for kids very little (2, 3yrs), the length of the dress doesn't matter

All you would see is a short moving object

bukky too much emphasis on little girls appearance is too much jare. What of little boys like those ones I posted above

you nor see as them pocket their hands and cross their legs to pose for photo shoot cheesy

then the dreads and shades are cute too cheesy

@dyt come and see fashion styles for your little son wink

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by bukatyne(f): 11:43am On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:
@
Bukatyne bukky. Too much emphasis on girls jare. What of this cute little boys

Cute boys

The shade and dreads is a no no grin

These children will live long ke; let them focus on been kids now... there is a time for everything cheesy

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Dyt(f): 11:57am On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:

@dyt come and see fashion styles for your little son

My son swags ooo
Plenty one sef

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 12:00pm On Oct 08, 2015

the idea is to show that the mother has taste and a sense of fashion ni jare

there's an addage that says kids are a reflection of their parents. More like show me your child and I will tell you what the mother is .so the point is to package the kids and make them look stylish yet kiddish too

bukatyne:

Cute boys

The shade and dreads is a no no

These children will live long ke; let them focus on been kids now... there is a time for everything

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 12:01pm On Oct 08, 2015

Dyt:

My son swags ooo
Plenty one sef

ghen ghen

ako po

too much shakara cheesy

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Dyt(f): 12:05pm On Oct 08, 2015

SAMBARRY:
ghen ghen

ako po

too much shakara

He needs it ooo
Let him.spend all mummy and daddy's money

How's beautiful Gold?

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 12:07pm On Oct 08, 2015

@ bukatyne if you say kids shouldn't wear adult clothing they can as well not wear their traditional outfit like iro and buba like this kid dressed like her mom

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by SAMBARRY: 12:19pm On Oct 08, 2015

Dyt:

He needs it ooo
Let him.spend all mummy and daddy's money

How's beautiful Gold?

she's gone to school. Thanks

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by nickishire: 1:56pm On Oct 08, 2015

cococandy:

Thank you my dear. I feel sick when anyone says a child is dressed provocatively.
That's just sad. What's the world turning into?
We try to blame it on modernization and say that's what's spoiling our kids while in truth we are becoming more and more prudish and over sexed.
I don't even know how that combination is possible but it's happening.

Before this so called modernization, we didn't see anything wrong with child nudityy.
Even we as kids didn't know there's anything called sexy until we started maturing.

So what's the real culprit here?

Didn't we all grow up in Nigeria where kids stay outdoors all day only in panties and are non the wiser about their provocative nature? Now we see sexuality where there should be none.
It frightens me.

As for kids' fashion, some thing definitely look odd on kids. And that includes weaves, make-up or anything that makes them not look like kids. Let the kids be kids dear parents.

Below is a child in bum shorts and there's nothing sexy about that. Don't give pervs excuse to justify paedophilia as they've tried to justify rape of adults on dressing.

I tire ooo, see as all of em just dey condemn... provocative indeed

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by armyofone(m): 2:12pm On Oct 08, 2015

the dread is unnecessary. Imagine the time spent doing his locs which should be used learning his next generation's abc's.

SAMBARRY:
@
Bukatyne bukky. Too much emphasis on girls jare. What of this cute little boys

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by coogar: 2:15pm On Oct 08, 2015

armyofone:
see you going around in triangle so the sector of money making is the exclusive preserve of the fathers/men huh...smh
Where have you been, done doing omugwo ?

doing my 2nd omugwo already....
i don't waste time. cheesy

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by MusingsOfALady: 2:36pm On Oct 08, 2015

The boys are very cute but not the dreads.
That's just unnecessary.

SAMBARRY:
@
Bukatyne bukky. Too much emphasis on girls jare. What of this cute little boys

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by MusingsOfALady: 2:42pm On Oct 08, 2015

Yes, Children are a reflection of their parents but children are not toys or decorations for show. The emphasis should be on our kids reflecting our values more than our sense of fashion. We should also take in consideration their comfort as well as the values our fashion will reinforce in them

Some parents go as far as relaxing their 1 year old child's hair without considering the impact of the chemicals to the tender scalp, some make their child's hair for hours while the poor child screams and cries in pain.

Truth is if you subject your child to pain or discomfort or expose them unnecessarily just to show your your sense of fashion - it is Child abuse.

SAMBARRY:

the idea is to show that the mother has taste and a sense of fashion ni jare

there's an addage that says kids are a reflection of their parents. More like show me your child and I will tell you what the mother is .so the point is to package the kids and make them look stylish yet kiddish too

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Stillfire: 5:36pm On Oct 08, 2015

Popular culture dictates these rules. Fortunately for us we grew up during the time of Michael Jackson, so children wanted to break dance not twerk. The highest sex.ual dance was to do a Patra-butterfly dance grin

. Unfortunately today popular culture is ruled by the twerkers association. And children would absorb these element adults have put out there. If we had such gyrating, sexu.al dancing in our time, we would have done it as well especially without parental guidance. grin

Today's parents have a whole lot more to do in releasing healthy individuals into society, considering the amount of information children would absorb in the current and future generation, most of us didn't even understand it until we were in our 20s. grin

For you to have a headway, the entertainment industry wings need to be clipped. You can also use the way a child is dressed to gauge the mental class of the parent.

Notwithstanding, your individual/institutional ideals on decency may differ from others. For example, my church would consider the pic below indecent because they can see your knees, but I can wear this to work without anyone batting an eyelid.

And I do agree with Freecocoa on viewing certain items on 4-6yr olds as 'provocative'.

Also, A kid can also be covered up, but not wear age-appropriate clothing.

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Stillfire: 5:45pm On Oct 08, 2015

cococandy:

Thank you my dear. I feel sick when anyone says a child is dressed provocatively.
That's just sad. What's the world turning into?
We try to blame it on modernization and say that's what's spoiling our kids while in truth we are becoming more and more prudish and over sexed.
I don't even know how that combination is possible but it's happening.

Before this so called modernization, we didn't see anything wrong with child nudityy.
Even we as kids didn't know there's anything called sexy until we started maturing.

So what's the real culprit here?

Didn't we all grow up in Nigeria where kids stay outdoors all day only in panties and are non the wiser about their provocative nature? Now we see sexuality where there should be none.
It frightens me.

As for kids' fashion, some thing definitely look odd on kids. And that includes weaves, make-up or anything that makes them not look like kids. Let the kids be kids dear parents.

Below is a child in bum shorts and there's nothing sexy about that. Don't give pervs excuse to justify paedophilia as they've tried to justify rape of adults on dressing.

Is that what they call bum short in Nigeria? I was thinking it's the one the butt would be loosely hanging out, lol. grin

I practically grew up wearing shorts like that in the pic. So people find that provocative? Really?

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by cococandy(f): 6:08pm On Oct 08, 2015

Stillfire:

Is that what they call bum short in Nigeria? I was thinking it's the one the butt would be loosely hanging out, lol.
I practically grew up wearing shorts like that in the pic. So people find that provocative? Really?

Well that's what I know bum shorts to be.

On adults the butt may hang out because they have butts that can hang out but on kids, there's nothing there to hang out so that's how it looks on kids.

Anything shorter than that is basically a pantie.

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Nobody: 6:20pm On Oct 08, 2015

We may want to take this campaign to clothing manufacturers
A friend shared a link on facebook where a mum wrote a petition to a departmental store on the shorts available for a toddler the inner seam was less than 6inches so invariably the shorts were more like a pant which where we get the term bum shorts. It was so bad she considered buying the shorts for boys because there was no way her daughter was wearing that.

You see designers are making mini me's for kids so they simply scale down adult clothing for kids.

Haven't you noticed that even cartoon characters clothes are shorter and tighter.

About the music we need parents to insist that DJs music selection is approved by them prior to playing. Better still get a entertainer who will coordinate line / group dancing at parties. All this dance competition is non inclusive and it makes kids want to dance to show off what they saw adults doing.

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Nobody: 7:00pm On Oct 08, 2015

Is it just me or is this a slut shaming thread?

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Talon05: 8:30pm On Oct 08, 2015

Please, it's completely wrong to think a child is dressed provocatively. It is wrong in its entirety.

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by coogar: 8:33pm On Oct 08, 2015

Stillfire:

Is that what they call bum short in Nigeria? I was thinking it's the one the butt would be loosely hanging out, lol.
I practically grew up wearing shorts like that in the pic. So people find that provocative? Really?

it's obvious cococandy does not know what bumshorts are. the base of the bütt has to be exposed for it to be bümshorts!

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Talon05: 8:59pm On Oct 08, 2015

coogar:

it's obvious cococandy does not know what bumshorts are. the base of the bütt has to be exposed for it to be bümshorts!

Bumshorts on adults, yh but what's called bumshorts on little girls are completely different from the one in this pic, the base of the bütt are NEVER exposed.

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Nobody: 9:04pm On Oct 08, 2015

MusingsOfALady:
[size=18pt]Yes, Children are a reflection of their parents but children are not toys or decorations for show. The emphasis should be on our kids reflecting our values[/size] more than our sense of fashion. We should also take in consideration their comfort as well as the values our fashion will reinforce in them

Some parents go as far as relaxing their 1 year old child's hair without considering the impact of the chemicals to the tender scalp, some make their child's hair for hours while the poor child screams and cries in pain.

Truth is if you subject your child to pain or discomfort or expose them unnecessarily just to show your your sense of fashion - ~~it is Child abuse~~.

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Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Stillfire: 9:09pm On Oct 08, 2015

cococandy:

Well that's what I know bum shorts to be.

On adults the butt may hang out because they have butts that can hang out but on kids, there's nothing there to hang out so that's how it looks on kids.

Anything shorter than that is basically a pantie.

Lol.

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by Stillfire: 9:21pm On Oct 08, 2015

coogar:

it's obvious cococandy does not know what bumshorts are. the base of the bütt has to be exposed for it to be bümshorts!

I actually saw a chic in wearing that at the mall. It was a funny sight. grin

Something like this is OK as far as I'm concerned as long as she's not going to the church, mosque or office. But some people may not consider it decent.

https://fashionablestylish.files./2013/05/mid-length-shorts.jpg?w=300&h=375

Re: Sexualization Of Children: Parents Have Lost It In Parenting by coogar: 9:37pm On Oct 08, 2015

Talon05:

Bumshorts on adults, yh but what's called bumshorts on little girls are completely different from the one in this pic, the base of the bütt are NEVER exposed.

bumshorts are bumshorts
kids don't have a special type of bumshorts......the ones we are talking about are exactly like the image i uploaded. and when we say kids, we are not necessarily talking about the 3-6 year olds.....we are talking about those ones in their early teens who wanna become adults prematurely!

Stillfire:

I actually saw a chic in wearing that at the mall. It was a funny sight.

you would be surprised she would attempt to cover her flying bütt-base with her hands while walking. i sometimes wonder if they were forced to wear it!

Something like this is OK as far as I'm concerned as long as she's not going to the church, mosque or office. But some people may not consider it decent.
https://fashionablestylish.files./2013/05/mid-length-shorts.jpg?w=300&h=375

hehe!
this is super-decent. if ladies leave it like this, no one would raise eyebrows. female footballers wear this types and men don't drool over them.

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