Stillfire:


Lol, as of the 1900s Igbo women were demanding that the British promote and give them positions as they did the men. In 2015 Nigerian women cannot fight for their rights and be assertive in their life choices. I'm sure our foremothers would be turning in their graves.

Chillisauce:
not applicable to me.
Made my own rules, lived by it and still living by it.
Lodged in different 5stars hotels across the country and obodo oyigbo. All alone and sometimes with bobos
did my own share of clubbing and going to church the next day

if i die today, no shaking. I did well.

Coming back next world, i come back as me.
Full option.

make una dey dia dey grind teeth.
This one world that has been existing for billion of yrs, you end up in this generation. You dey here dey grind teeth dey shout society.
The hell fire and heaven is in this world

make your choice and live by it.

Chillisauce:


They are fighting for their rights oh.
In terms of blokoses
Na dis most Nigerian women dey carry first.

babygirlfl:


@ bold, I just love that quote. I would support it with this picture.

Chillisauce:


They are fighting for their rights oh.
In terms of blokoses
Na dis most Nigerian women dey carry first.

Stillfire:


Women are socialized to be modest and then add the African idea of 'respect to elders', you have a generation of weaklings. It has to take an understanding of self, a personal self-reflection to go against societal norms. Most will never reach that point.

tyconcepts:
Its bad enough men think this way. To see
women do it too, and fight men like me who
have been carrying women’s rights on our head
like we are the next Malcolm X, Luther or
Madiba, is shocking and sad. Maybe one day
things will get better.
I pray it does, because anyone who says the
aforementioned trash to my baby girl(s) will hear
from me, and they won’t forget me in a hurry.
[size=40]Sometimes I am grateful to God I am not a
woman. I might have killed someone by now…[/size]

lilmax:
i don't know who told nigerian women not to buy cars ,which societal norms dem dey follow?

If its the olden days, it's acceptable. But in this present day where women are educated there's no excuse

Stillfire:


Lmao, local. Welcome to Nairaland. You will realize you've been living in a parallel universe all your life and majority of Nigerians are indeed LOCAL.

https://www.nairaland.com/1406504/it-proper-single-lady-live

https://www.nairaland.com/2144641/should-unmarried-working-class-lady

https://www.nairaland.com/1906833/which-better-single-lady-getting

https://www.nairaland.com/2652299/ladies-owning-car-scare-away

funlord:



Chaiii! So the message that the aba women rioters tried to pass during the last century has entered voicemail be that?

Abeg oh, naija women should adopt the european and asian style and be independently happy abeg! All these ethno-traditional crap does not fly around me or my woman! Please strive to be different!

lilmax:
i don't know who told nigerian women not to buy cars ,which societal norms dem dey follow?

If its the olden days, it's acceptable. But in this present day where women are educated there's no excuse

Burntpalace:


And yet, here you were on one of the posted examples...

thorpido:
Yes money makes many women proud.Can a woman have money,be independent and yet humble?

lilmax:
i don't know who told nigerian women not to buy cars ,which societal norms dem dey follow?

If its the olden days, it's acceptable. But in this present day where women are educated there's no excuse

Burntpalace:


And yet, here you were on one of the posted examples...

Stillfire:


Haaaaaaa abajo, Lilmax is this trueeeeeeeeeeeeee??

bukatyne:


Bros, it still happens till tomorrow.

Mindfulness:


Why should they be humble?

lilmax:
where please?

tyconcepts:
[s]This piece should interest you coming from a man


Some times, being a woman in Nigeria is quite a
task. You are subjected to absurd societal
norms, by men…. and other women. Many times,
men, even those that ‘love and care about’ their
women can’t see these absurdities as what they
are. Onuora Ikechukwu Onianwa see these
absurdities, and he has written a Facebook note
about them. His note his getting plenty likes
from women, and some men.

Onuora Ikechukwu Onianwa’s note :

I want to make a general, sweeping statement. I
know it will sound unfair and rude, and I’m sorry.
I truly mean no insult. It is just me expressing
my view on a long list of issues.

So, here we go…

Sometimes I am grateful to God I am not a
woman...

* I can’t have an education or it will make me lord
it over my man, and tempt me to be the head of
the home.

* I can’t have a job because I will become proud
and un-submissive.

* I can’t have a job that pays more than my
husband’s because it is an insult to his manhood
and he will be emasculated. One day I will even
use it to rubbish him outside.

* I can’t be single at 25, and unmarried at 30, or
without a single child at 35. It means I am
cursed, have a spirit husband or have a bad
character and no man wants to be with me.

* Any achievement of mine is a waste and useless
if I have no boyfriend or husband, and it will only
make me more arrogant and unattractive to
men.

* Heaven forbid I own a car or a house for the
same aforementioned reasons. The only place I
can live till I marry, is my parent’s home.

* Only loose women stay in hotels. If my job
requires I travel, I must stay with older people,
friends or an elderly couple who can talk to me
about this my job that won’t allow me settle in
one place and marry.

* Expensive things are not allowed. I can’t marry
quick with them.

* I can’t speak about anything under the sun
without a ring on my finger and babies who have
suckled my breasts.

* If my boyfriend/husband cheats on me, I must
endure it and manage. All men are the same.
There are no good ones around any more.

* Whatever my husband says (even common
pangolo boyfriend that doesn’t know his left
from right) I must agree. The moment we got
together, I lost my sense of reasoning and
purpose in life. his word, even if foolish, is law
and I must die to please him and obey.

* How dare I expect my husband to hire a maid or
ask anyone asides me to clean? What did he
marry me for?

* My husband, cook and clean? Am I mad? Is that
not witchcraft?

* Why should he take care of the kids while I
sleep, travel or go out? Is he my mate or my
servant? Am I a fool?

* Oh, so I don’t know I must cook fresh soup
everyday? I must be an idiot.

* So, I don’t know I must wear make-up , heels
and sexy dresses or be naked all day? Do I want
him to go out and cheat?

* The home falls apart because I’m a useless and
stupid woman.

* The marriage ends because I am a useless and
stupid woman.

* My husband cheats on me and beats me
because I am a useless and stupid woman.

* The children grow up horrible because I am a
useless and stupid woman.

* I am a useless and stupid woman…because I am
a useless and stupid woman.


Its bad enough men think this way. To see
women do it too, and fight men like me who
have been carrying women’s rights on our head
like we are the next Malcolm X, Luther or
Madiba, is shocking and sad. Maybe one day
things will get better.
I pray it does, because anyone who says the
aforementioned trash to my baby girl(s) will hear
from me, and they won’t forget me in a hurry.
Sometimes I am grateful to God I am not a
woman. I might have killed someone by now…


PS : Coming from a man, this shocked me walahi

lalasticlala, ishilove.....Please let's hear what the general public thinks.[/s]

(not as if most young women who earn decent salaries can even afford an Evoque, but who's counting )

tyconcepts:


Nah...Momsi rather I borrow hers than own mine for the 6th started reasons.

Burntpalace:


And yet, here you were on one of the posted examples...

Kimoni:


You should have put your foot down!!! Were you working on the Island? Cuz if you were, it wouldn't be strange. And those babes are not single

I got my first official car and a driver in my mid-twenties. I had the option of monetizing the driver's pay if I wanted to but of course, I did not. say wetin happen I remember one or two family friends expressed their fears (maybe because the driver I got was quite advanced in age) but of course I just laughed it off. There is time for everything in life, there is a time to live by other people's rules and there is a time to take your own decisions and be responsible for the outcome. The time for the latter is now!

@topic - as much as I agree it's not easy to be a woman in Nigeria, I would go further to say it's also not easy being a man in Nigeria (abi is it easy to save for years just to use it to pay dowry for woman ni), and teenagers do not have it easy either. Comparatively, I may even say women have it the easiest in Nigeria compared to other natural groups. That's very debatable though. So what's the solution? If life throws you a lemon, make a lemonade out of it. Whining solves nothing!

And like Raumtedeur said, try being a woman in Saudi Arabia

bukatyne:


A poster quoted one of your previous posts on the subject matter.

This discussion has come up in my office and most people think single ladies shouldn't buy a car or an expensive one.

tyconcepts:
Like damn.....The post took my mind back to 2013 when I had the opportunity and cash to buy a car (was working and earning something reasonable)....If you hear and see the way my mum kicked against it vehemently as though I was planning on buying poison ehennnn.

Kimoni:
Crackhaus, why are you stealing some of my points? gerrraraheremehnn
at least, I was nice about it

Kimoni:


You should have put your foot down!!! Were you working on the Island or Lagos generally? Cuz if you were, it wouldn't be strange. And those babes are not single

I got my first official car and a driver in my mid-twenties. I had the option of monetizing the driver's pay if I wanted to but of course, I did not. say wetin happen I remember one or two family friends expressed their fears (maybe because the driver I got was quite advanced in age) but of course I just laughed it off. There is time for everything in life, there is a time to live by other people's rules and there is a time to take your own decisions and be responsible for the outcome. The time for the latter is now!

@topic - as much as I agree it's not easy to be a woman in Nigeria, I would go further to say it's also not easy being a man in Nigeria (abi is it easy to save for years just to use it to pay dowry for woman ni), and teenagers do not have it easy either. Comparatively, I may even say women have it the easiest in Nigeria compared to other natural groups. That's very debatable though. So what's the solution? If life throws you a lemon, make a lemonade out of it. Whining solves nothing!

And like Raumtedeur said, try being a woman in Saudi Arabia

Stillfire:


Lmao!
Or how to beat up their husbands mistresses. Nigerian women know their rights for that one.