Jabioro:
Your case is simple,you love her and that is what is killing you...and when die or life get damage both physically and spiritually then you realize you have atimes sweet thing leave or you leave as this case .be a man take off every your mind including the past..she is not existing character. I Lean such simple technical from my little girl when her mother left me..and today am enjoy..close your heart and heart bros.in order to be focus in life need be blind.

BTT:
Op, please one quick questionh

Is a woman - another woman - now involved?

Honestly?

Oluwapresley:
Sometimes, ''officially'' ending a relationship doesnt mean ur out of the relationship. Sometimes, u just find out ur more in the relationship and more connected even if ur officially not in a relationship.
Simply put, ma nigga, work that sh*t out cox from what I read, it doesnt look like u guys are tryna work nothing out. U dont care about ur bullshit no more

damola1:
Guys can't seem to stand on their feet when they want to break up. Girls will go ahead to break up most times...

Sweetyie:
op dnt end it na, u guyz shud go 4 a holiday or trip

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

Abbykem:
Chai! 2day is sunday I begggy. HBD

Oliviaarims:
Lalasticlala,Farano,pls,help him with this by pushing it to FP..

Well,well...I feel sad for this story. Looks like a beautiful relationship going down the drain..after how long..3 years? That's something! It's obvious a break up is inevitable,since u've always suggested it. So it's best u get it over and done with ASAP...U've postponed too long. If u guys want this relationship to get somewhere,u'd only realise it being apart.. not as a couple. That's the only time both of u will be able to objectively decide on what u want,find out what went wrong and how to fix it...But the breakup's got to happen. Ur gf ought to understand. At least she can see for herself that the spark's gone...there's no need clinging to a dying flame. U either make a new fire or go out there to find out how to rekindle the dying one..sth that'd keep it burning for a real long time.
Just make her understand all these. Tell her the relationship isn't working anymore.And yes,u'll be hurt...u'll wonder if breaking up was the best solution,but u'll get over it if u decide to. If she still refuses to understand,then perhaps u'd have to take measures to enforce the break up and keep her away.




Mind u,break up only if u think the relationship is never going to be salvaged by sticking together.

dovetark:
I believe in working things out. Take her out more often. U two obviously love urselves, it's the spark u have lost. Spend more time with each other....... remove all distractions. if u start a new relationship today, it will be exciting at first, but it will also become old and get to this stage. Learning how to rekindle dwindling flames is d key. Good luck bro.

deramarks:
Lol I didn't read sha I just glanced through hope u don't expect an advise from me

megawax8:
first, you have to decide if you want to stay or leave, then,


you just leave or stay.


Truth is no matter how long the epistle anyone writes on advicing you to do either, you'd end up doing just that you have resolve to do.

What do you truly want?

mcnepow:
I actually do not have any advice for a grown man that doesn't know how to end a relationship..


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ZuzuMan:
simple !

funkymatics:
ok. see me finish syndrome is disturbing u. you never loved her in the first place you only like her but now situations have opened your eyes to see that she's better off being your friend and not your love. when u love some one its unconditional but when you like someone its cos of what you see in her which you must continue to see, however, nothing last forever.

solution: release the babe by making her know you just liked her. my own opinion.

progresson:
Guy when u wanted to go into this relationship and when her body and package dey sweet u u no bother imforming us. Now u don fall her orange and package finish u wan give excuse Run.. Lie lie no way. No just put asunder to wat u don join 2geda. Relationship is a semi-marriage, hence for better for worse.

gohzieh:
Bro! Yea stuffs happen and you see reasons why you can't continue with her.
Get a new hobby, even if its starting a course, or learn a new trade that will occupy your time that way you will distant yourself from her. I beleieve you spend so much time with that is why your emotions are tied. See her once in a week, once in 2weeks, if she asks tell her you travelled,or your new hobby is not giving you time enough.

grocery:
Maybe the both of you should try and talk things out, then tell her your mind that you are no longer interested in the relationship. Don't know if it will be difficult for you, call her face to face and tell her your mind, allow her to say hers as well, then conclude by telling her you are no longer interested.

Quinnlee:
maybe u shud discover d energy or d impulse dat was alive at d early stage.Complacency happens even in marriage but we don't just give up.Try and rebuild ur relationship since a part of u and part of her wants 2still try.

Adaahjacob:
Just b careful and follow u'r instincts..... Advice from ppl now will do u no good honestly, decide for yourself and finally u gon excel.

Nelgenius4me:
There comes a time when relationship will put a person in a downward curve- but if you are at the Base of your relationship and it is going no where, I strongly advise you kiss goodbye. Sometimes it is better to remain as friend and relish the good memories than being in marriage and suffer trauma. Stop holding long onto relationship that isn't giving you joy.

Lasgidy1:
If I were u, I'll commit murder and commit suicide, in that case, no winner, no vanquished!
Anyways, today's my bday. Me and shalewa go f_ck ourselves until there's nothing left of us

dovetark:


Lol, no matter how serious a situation is, when humor is thrown at me, I can't help but laugh... which I am doing right now. but at the end of the day bro, the problem won't be solved. So you can share an experience on how you ended a relationship with a girl before and I can learn from it. I haven't formally initiated a break up before and that is why I ask.

Same goes to you @Pennah

Drfinn:
OP, obviously your in a fix. You have invested much in this relationship, letting go seem difficult more so due to her refusal to end the affair. Times like this call for sober reflection.

You need to ask yourself what you truly want in life. Keep emotions aside and her insistence on continuing the relationship. This is your life. It's about your happiness. Talk to yourself. You did mention how incompatible it was at the beginning what went wrong? Did any of you cheat? Did the other party genuinely forgave if it happened? Is there some distance or some one in the picture? Can you both despite several attempts salvage the relationship? These and many more you should ask yourself.

You should realize that familiarity has a way of robbing relationships off its thrills and joys. Time test all relationships, this could be one of those times. It's pretty difficult these days finding a compatible partner. However, that doesn't mean you should endure a relationship. It should be enjoyed. You might consider having a heart to heart talk with her. Sometimes you need to be apart from those you love to truly value them. Wish ever decision you take know that you have the right to be happy!

creepsyme:
dnt worry bro the relationship will die a natural death but if u want to fast foward it, start seeing anoda girl and dats it. good luck!