Well, there has to be a mutual undastanding if u must break up with. Take her to a very nice and exotic eatry, there and then, pour out ur intentions, love isn't by force bt by choice. MyThougT ThougH.

why not try and work things out,because sincerely there ain't many good girls and guys out there, the one you have now try and talk things out not like you guys are AS blood type

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When u dey toast n lash her u no Tell us oh, now wey issues don stat u come dey seek advice ...just joking my bro.anyways here is my take on the matter JUST Be DECENT about it..whatever your decision is Be DECENT about it

Before you two break up I will suggest you guys visit a counsellor that will help you two shed some lights on grey areas that might be hidden from the both of you...and if it doesn't help then you two need to meet and discuss it over dinner or lunch on the way forward and what it's best for the both of you..

[quote author=gentlesinna post=40040740]Luk for Monday hammer use it nd hit ur gf for chest,if her chest rip open den u hv successfully broken up wit her.


Congrat in advance bro


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U can never be a counselor... I pity ur principles

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

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dovetark:
Thank you very much, this is very helpful and real.

You're welcome.

In as much as you liked the girl, you obviously need some space. That's why it's so important to let her miss you a little, so as to love you more.

And that is why sometimes when a woman calls you, you do not need to pick her call immediately, allow her call several times before you pick it up.

Take another break....trust me it really works.

You remind me of olabisi, Aderayo..... I love her like ma breakfast,like my lunch and dinner, I can do everytyn to satisfy her. I can't let her go for a while... we had 4years relationship and despite all dose days...she do behaved abnormal but I use to let go because I love her so much..... but when I cannot tolerate her any longer, I pray to GOD and I summoned courage......
You wil find alternative and you make sure that keeps you busy and u stop calling her as u usual do before and whenever you call herself, don't ask ow she feel whether good or bad....as times goes on, u wl Forgt her name self..... @least olabisi has gone since April and dis is Nov, Notyn like I can't do without lagbaja

I feel u, u just have to remove ur mind from her, choose a hobby and make sure that that it keeps u busy, i love myself alot, if i want to remove my mind on something or somebody i will, if i don't luv d girl, buh if i do, i will try to be busy thinking about other aspects of life, or get engage in my favourite activities

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Hummmm I think this guy is hiding some things,
Tell us the truth if u truly need advice.

mykemiley:
D babe dey expect u 2 cum marry her......she don tire 4 d relationship.....

hahaha i admire your sense of humour sweetie...why him go wan marry her after she don allow am service her tire?you see you might not wanna believe me but i've not had s3x for 5yrs year now...Its not because i've not being dating any girl or i'm low in libido but because aside from my respect for womanhood,i've come to realize that having any canal knowledge of her(my girl) will only end up ruining the relationship as she would have lost my respect for her in the process.simply put,premarital s3x ruins relationships either pre or post marriage.

dovetark:
But when I did that, mine said we will work it out

well I didn't tell you I deleted her from every of my social media.... even unfriend her on Facebook....... if you really don't want to have anything to do with her again then you have to delete your memory of her.......

Unitedabby:
hahaha i admire your sense of humour sweetie...why him go wan marry her after she don allow am service her tire?you see you might not wanna believe me but i've not had s3x for 5yrs year now...Its not because i've not being dating any girl or i'm low in libido but because aside from my respect for womanhood,i've come to realize that having any canal knowledge of her(my girl) will only end up ruining the relationship as she would have lost my respect for her in the process.simply put,premarital s3x ruins relationships either pre or post marriage.

You haven't had sex for 5 years now? Lol. Please stop lying. Who knows as you write this, a chick is damn right there beside you.

As far as am concern, you left us confused. No sane person will advice you based on what you ve just told us. Is neither here nor there. Let me recommend over dosage of prayer and fasting. That way God will give u a clearer picture of what is happening to you. Ending a relationship without concrete evidence is insanity

adonbilivit:
tell her u have repented and cant fornicate anymore coz its end time.

That's what my former girl told me , menhhh, I hated myself then but now better

Op, at the end of the day, u just said nothing. U just don't have a reason for this breakup from ur story. U will certainly breakup with the next. I guess you have so much time on your hands.

Wow, I must say I am impressed, there are a lot of people here that are quite detailed in their analysis, and tackle issues with objectivity. Thank you very much, you are the sort of people that make me proud being a NAIRALANDER and I won't fail to seek for advice when I need one.

DeeTus:
You're welcome.

In as much as you liked the girl, you obviously need some space. That's why it's so important to let her miss you a little, so as to love you more.

And that is why sometimes when a woman calls you, you do not need to pick her call immediately, allow her call several times before you pick it up.

Thank you for seeing it from this angle too...

chukel:
Op, at the end of the day, u just said nothing. U just don't have a reason for this breakup from ur story. U will certainly breakup with the next. I guess you have so much time on your hands.

Thank you very much for seeing it from this angle too...

greggng:
As far as am concern, you left us confused. No sane person will advice you based on what you ve just told us. Is neither here nor there. Let me recommend over dosage of prayer and fasting. That way God will give u a clearer picture of what is happening to you. Ending a relationship without concrete evidence is insanity

DeeTus:
You haven't had sex for 5 years now? Lol. Please stop lying. Who knows as you write this, a chick is damn right there beside you.

see its not every guy that goes into a relationship for s3x purpose and i'm very proud to be among the very few that there is...believe it or not,i've dated 2 very pretty ladies within those years and it might amaze you that all we do is cuddle but i made sure it never get to the real thing...and tell you what?even though it never got to the point of marriage,they still look at me very highly and respectably today and been wanting us to get back together.Infact one of them recently told me how she had regreted ever leaving me and admitted whoever i eventually settles down with should count herself quite lucky...my point is,because you cant keep a s3x-free relationship,doesnt mean someone else can't.

Thank you very much, this was helpful.

cooluc:
Before you two break up I will suggest you guys visit a counsellor that will help you two shed some lights on grey areas that might be hidden from the both of you...and if it doesn't help then you two need to meet and discuss it over dinner or lunch on the way forward and what it's best for the both of you..

I see a Grand piano as your displayed picture, can you play that?

DeeTus:
You're welcome.

In as much as you liked the girl, you obviously need some space. That's why it's so important to let her miss you a little, so as to love you more.

And that is why sometimes when a woman calls you, you do not need to pick her call immediately, allow her call several times before you pick it up.

You really did not give clear reasons as to why you want to end the relationship,
but the fact that you wanted a break and you also suggested being friends means you're no
longer interested in her, at least romantically, and this is fine. The sooner you realize this the better.
You don't need to force yourself to remain in a relationship when you don't want to be in it. She does
not have the right to force you to be with her either, lol. If you know in your heart that she's not the one
for you, then it's best to end it. She doesn't have to agree with the breakup. You're doing it for you and indirectly,
for her too. If you're not meant for each other, then you're wasting each other's time and your potential for meeting
someone else.

dovetark:


Thanks your articulation is amazing... In summary, when I was going through a tough period in my life, I was pretty much self-absorbed and withdrawn, she said she got used to it and her attention and care towards me dropped greatly. For me, detail is important as I am very sensitive and when that is missing, essence is lost. Now she expects me to cope with her new attitude as I made her turn out that way.

Hello dovetark,
I initially wanted to just read and pass. My initial thought was you're not being fair to your lady.

How? you may ask, You stopped caring about her feelings, and all through those period 'she was there for you' ,when she noticed you're turning back to your normal self, she stopped caring. This your quoted post above confirmed my initial thought.

What you should have done.
You should have stayed with her, just as she stood with you. And I bet you, she would have come around.

Action point.
Think about those qualities in her that made you stay with her for 'three long years', has she suddenly changed from the woman you fell in love with?
Think about those things you used to do then. Have you stopped doing them? Start doing them again, and watch the glow in your woman.(by the way, there's great joy in seeing the glow in your woman and knowing its because of you). You once had it, you can have it again. Only if you're willing to work on it, real hard.

It's not easy but someone have to make things work(I've been there, I'm still with my woman, three years down the line and we're still counting.)

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I had a similar case, dated this babe for 3yrs, though initially we agreed DAT it may not lead anywhere, just looking out for each other and to cure our craze..#winks....but at a point I started feeling like settling down with her, then d unimaginable started happening, so tactically I started withdrawing...ist reduce the number of calls per day, text her less frequently, form busy, get option b sharp sharp.. most importantly reduce d banging frequency, cos dats d last image u c before u sleep on daily basis...
e no go easy o,but best of luck man.

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

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