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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by darmys(f): 7:37pm On Nov 26, 2015
etankoko:
I have four siblings who are in the high institution and am working and schooling at the same time. My elder sister who graduated from A.b.u Zaria as a pharmacist is doing very well. She is still single and claims to be a devoted Christian but fill less concern about anything that has to do with our mum . My dad is late and we are not finding things easy. The last time i checked my mum she was looking very sick and worried. The little money am making is not enough to carta for the whole family. My school and work are shaking me seriously.

To cut the story short, we have talked to some people to talk to her, both elders and other reliable family members. I don't know how to cope with the situation.

She is in another state. I don't know if she is just waiting for my mum to die so she will come and spend the money on her burial to impress crowd or she is saving the money for another man when she is married

My mum is dieing silently. Please make this front page i need advice cause i don't want to lose her now.


Sorry about that. i feel your pain.
The said thing about family and life is.
You that care and show concern will be depressed by the weight of all this.

Selfish people tend to have life easy But good always win.
God will do a miracle in your life very soon
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by doughziay: 7:38pm On Nov 26, 2015
Av you thought it from the angle I am actually looking at it?...Have you prayed about it?...what if she isn't doing what she's doing in her right senses, say it has got to be something spiritual and someone is turning her against her own family. Depend on no one, and trust ur God.

Like the words of Albert Einstein which says;

I am thankful for all of those who said No to me. It is because of them I am doing it Myself.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by ODUBEZE: 7:38pm On Nov 26, 2015
Its a pity you guys are going through this right now!
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But seriously some family can be a pain in the neck
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I know of a young lady who went through hell while the parents and siblings were all around!
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She could not attend higher institution because she wanted her younger ones to have basic education!
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her elder brothers were working but they kept the money to themselves asking her to urge on that they will never forget her
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Even with her efforts her own biological mother was never pleased, she would say "what have you done that others cannot do!" look at X, Y e.t.c she never gave up!
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It was only her father that appreciate her but then he was very sick.
Even while her mother was working never cared for her
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Could you imagine that even when she first saw her menses her mother could not part with her penny for a pad, asked her to use torn clothe! her own mother!
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She went through alot, her siblings finished basic schooling, some started working.
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It's time to go back to school, at a times she needed little help from them, come and hear excuses! many were like "we know she tried but others sisters have done more for their siblings" she was shocked!
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She would have pulled out of school but for her determination!
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In between she lost her dad who she talks to! U can now imagine her feeling all alone!
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Eventually, she finished and got a work where they are paying her not so much!
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Her mother wants her to be giving her, her whole salary while she in turn give her transport even when the money is barely enough for her
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When she refused, come and hear stories of how her mother train her and she is abandoning her mother!
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Nairalanders, during counseling, you will weep for some people! you will be amazed how some mother could treat their children!
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I don't know if this is applicable to this lady, if it is, I advice you to let her be!
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Gradually, the wound will heal and she will come around!

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by moshino(m): 7:38pm On Nov 26, 2015
boldbabe:
Pray that God touches her heart to help take care of the family. There is nothing that prayers cannot do.


Why ask her to "Pray that God touches her heart to help take care of the family"? She should pray that God will help their family in God's own chosen way and time!

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by absoluteSuccess: 7:38pm On Nov 26, 2015
Stop dwelling on the imaginations of how wealthy your sister has become. your mum is not about to die.

It is such imaginations that often create the resultant problems.

Not everyone is rooted for saving a family from capitulation. Emotions are hardly the same among siblings for the common good of the family.


I have such around me and we keep loving and praying for him to be more greater.

You may have to understand sibling-rivalry, it will help you not to indulge in it.

Do not create a messianic complex around your sister so she can live a life.

You don't want to be a burden bearer for the family, if you choose to, be ready.

Nice guys finish last.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:39pm On Nov 26, 2015
Why is this common with today's female child..I have a friend experiencing something similar
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Remii(m): 7:39pm On Nov 26, 2015
bettercreature:
Most of Nigerians abroad dont know much about our heritage and culture,its an obligation for her to take care of her parents,she is a curse as the OP says no doubt about it,I can feel your pain
very annoying when one will be taking care of aged parent and other siblings will look the other way only to wait for a grand burial for a person they starved to death. smh
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by banio: 7:40pm On Nov 26, 2015
People might appear rich while they are not. Have U seen your sister's pay slip. Anyway let her mother tell her what she expects from her. She should pour out her mind

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by blesoh(f): 7:40pm On Nov 26, 2015
Op there's nothing u can do,prayer house has taken over her.
I knw a lady whose prophet asked her nt to send kobo to her siblings nt even d cousin who is an orphan,infact d prophet arranged another prophet for her to marry,she married widout her family concern lol,dats d type of bondage ur sist is right now,keep praying for her.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by harristo(m): 7:41pm On Nov 26, 2015
One thing that needs to be done is that the rich sister needs to be talked sense into by someone who can. They need to tell her something like how no matter the grudge she has against her mom, it would hunt her for the rest of her life if she doesn't forgive her own mom.

Another thing is to find out someone that has a great influence in your sister's decision, someone like her boyfriend or pastor and make them talk to her - not necessarily scold her O, I know a lot of people myself included that do not respond to scolding. They can instead talk things over with her, reason with her, show that they understand where she is coming from so that they can have a chance at influencing her decision.

Well this is what you asked for - a solution to your sisters attitude.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by bettercreature(m): 7:43pm On Nov 26, 2015
Remii:
very annoying when one will be taking care of aged parent and other siblings will look the other way only to wait for a grand burial for a person they starved to death. smh
Law of karma could be deadly sometimes,her life will summersault several times if that woman curse her
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nerica(m): 7:44pm On Nov 26, 2015
yinkus4u2c:
Because she's a member of the family is not an indication that the family would benefit from her success... Just pray for help from above. It may be a total stranger that would help...
You are intelligent,combination of brain and beauty is not common. Stay blessed

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by harristo(m): 7:46pm On Nov 26, 2015
moshino:



Why ask her to "Pray that God touches her heart to help take care of the family"? She should pray that God will help their family in God's own chosen way and time!

Indeed, it makes it seem like the sister is the God of the family, that without her they can't find help.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by free2ryhme: 7:46pm On Nov 26, 2015
Make una leave her, no send am abeg

Hustle for your end and fight for your survival

As long as there is life there is hope. Prove to her without her help and support your support is not in man.

Truth be told a time will come she will look for you people then, maybe then , it might be too late
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by victorazy(m): 7:47pm On Nov 26, 2015
etankoko:
I have four siblings who are in the high institution and am working and schooling at the same time. My elder sister who graduated from A.b.u Zaria as a pharmacist is doing very well. She is still single and claims to be a devoted Christian but fill less concern about anything that has to do with our mum . My dad is late and we are not finding things easy. The last time i checked my mum she was looking very sick and worried. The little money am making is not enough to carta for the whole family. My school and work are shaking me seriously.

To cut the story short, we have talked to some people to talk to her, both elders and other reliable family members. I don't know how to cope with the situation.

She is in another state. I don't know if she is just waiting for my mum to die so she will come and spend the money on her burial to impress crowd or she is saving the money for another man when she is married

My mum is dieing silently. Please make this front page i need advice cause i don't want to lose her now.

Did she show u her bank account?

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by grandlexuz(m): 7:49pm On Nov 26, 2015
gsalvatore:
Some people are plain wicked and silly...Some even compare Nigerian settings to that of the west/abroad. This is being totally out of touch with reality...

Do you people think the OP doesn't have problems of his own, why you are reading this is because the OP cares for their mother...

Is it not the Parents that paid for her school fees and upkeep till she got to these level or una wan tell me say she be Pharmacist right from birth?

The only thing the OP did wrong was Caring for the Mother.

Remember If everybody decides to stay on their own and do what pleases them...we all know how it will Pan out...

Your sister is a Disgrace....and i believe she will be hail as a generous person in certain angles while his mother rots..

Better talk sense into her...No need sending emissaries to do that...




Thank you my brother. We are Africans and will always be. It is a shame that a few people on this forum who are now based abroad courtesy of the sweat of their parents now think it is archaic to help a sick mother. Most of them would rather help an outsider just to win cheap praises! See most of them condemn people who are bleaching for not being African enough, yet those true values of family solidarity that web us tightly together has been thrown to the dogs.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by fart: 7:50pm On Nov 26, 2015
End time mother
Your mother must have done something to your sister. There is more to your story you are not telling us. End time family

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by AfroKnight: 7:51pm On Nov 26, 2015
Somebody helped to raise her and send her to university. It is not bad to help that person in return.

Only God knows what pastor she has been listening to.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Eberex(m): 7:51pm On Nov 26, 2015
Fortissimo:
OP I'm not sure I understand. How is her success a curse?

Ajuju. Its a curse because she is working and earning well, yet she can't contribute her own quota on the family.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by kingthreat(m): 7:53pm On Nov 26, 2015
I got a sister in the UK like that too. Right now, im wishing she were not blood with me, cos people like that deserve to be forgotten. Don't worry bro, God will make a way for you and your family without her help. Sometimes, strangers are far more reliable than family. Amen.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nerica(m): 7:54pm On Nov 26, 2015
yinkus4u2c:
Because she's a member of the family is not an indication that the family would benefit from her success... Just pray for help from above. It may be a total stranger that would help...
You are intelligent, combination of brain and beauty is not common.Stay blessed
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by 2sex(m): 7:56pm On Nov 26, 2015
menix:
Quit expecting her to sort u guyz nd u will experience open doors but once u keep hoping she will change nd start supporting the family you will be limited by ur thought..

Ask yourself this, if ur wealthy sister is not in the picture won't the family survive.

I know of a family their sister is a bank manager in USA, since the day she left nigeria till date she has not visited to say hi to the aged parents, she does not call, talkless send a torn wrapper to the mum..

This is what Jesus saw on the crox nd shouted it's is finished (Uwa Embigo)
Hard truth, bitter pills to swallow... you may sound harshh BUT there is a ton of wisdom in there if the OP will listen.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by salveoP(m): 7:56pm On Nov 26, 2015
LastProphet:
my young friend please forget about your sister cos she must be running mugu right now for a pastor somewhere. pastors main source of income nowadays is to make sure they see visions ONLY for successful members and the theme is mostly about how their family members want to kill them blah blah blah. most mothers are made witches by these prophecies and due to the poor educational system where graduates come out of university believing in Voodoo and superstitions your sister most likely by now should be scared of the rest of you as you must be destiny killers.
just like someone advised you earlier, waiting on her weakens even your spirit which makes you fight less than you should for yourself and your mother. forget about her, kneel down and fast and pray until you are confident your prayers have been heard. then go out and look for what to do to add to your income and you will not be disappointed. I have never seen anyone that fend for his mother fail in life, God is with you and you will see.
Gbam.... u deserve a million likes for dis comment.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by kingthreat(m): 7:56pm On Nov 26, 2015
Sometimes people need to understand that some certain members of a family are blessed rich to assist those around them. Look at what people like Timaya, Tuface, Mikel Obi have changed the destiny of their families forever. While some will use their success to show dominance over their own blood.
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by danduchi(m): 7:58pm On Nov 26, 2015
yinkus4u2c:
Because she's a member of the family is not an indication that the family would benefit from her success... Just pray for help from above. It may be a total stranger that would help...
You're a big fool.... How can a human being be saying this? Thank God ur father is not on nairaland...

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:58pm On Nov 26, 2015
Dear Etankoko,

I'm Sorry to say this, but you can't force people to show you love.

I wish you a successful carrier, so you can do more for your siblings: if not for anything but to get back at your sister's insensitivity angry

Kind Regards

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nerica(m): 7:59pm On Nov 26, 2015
Pearlcon:
@yinkus4u2c imagine what you are saying. Her own mother! God is watching
@pealcom it seems u didn't get @yiinkus point
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 8:00pm On Nov 26, 2015
kingthreat:
I got a sister in the UK like that too. Right now, im wishing she were not blood with me, cos people like that deserve to be forgotten. Don't worry bro, God will make a way for you and your family without her help. Sometimes, strangers are far more reliable than family. Amen.

This kind of reasoning is why we will continue to wallow in poverty. Have you stopped to imagined what the situation would have been if the parents had planned their lives properly before bringing those kids into this world. Rather than follow the herd mentality, children are not under any obligation to raise or assist their parents but parents are required to train their children without expecting anything in return.

If only the young ones will learn and start doing things the right way rather than wishing and hoping for miracle when it is obvious that there is a fault with their plan.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Demainman1: 8:01pm On Nov 26, 2015
@op,
Your sister is a bastard pure and simple.

And to those supporting the sister, may your children abandon you at your time of need even though they have the means to help. Say Amen to that.

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by nkyblast(f): 8:05pm On Nov 26, 2015
Bad daughter,no matter wat ur mother must ve done to her,dre is no replacement for a mother,well wat u sow is wat u reap,dre is no where it is written who to die first,try ur best to mk u mum live and leave ur sister,time will tell,she will come looking for her. God keep her ( mum) alive ur sister go marry,ungrateful daughter
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by favourlove1: 8:06pm On Nov 26, 2015
Fkforyou:
Are you trying to blackmail us to see your sister as a demon? anyway I've not heard your sisters side of the story....who knows, you guys must have beign rude to her in the past with you mum taking your side especially on her so called "Singleness". Maybe she is hurting on the inside, I can't believe someone can be so cold to everyone including his/her mother.
na only you nail this matter. The truth is there is every possibility that these same people made life miserable for their sister n their mum never saw anything bad in it back then. Now the sis decides to keep them at arms length them begin look for sympathy. Its her money n she would give it to whom she pleases. That she is still single does not mean she no get responsibility. N op what makes you think she is saving it for a man she would marry. Nobi her money? Op hussle your own n pray your mum gets well

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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by pinkyruledworld(m): 8:07pm On Nov 26, 2015
I really dont know what to say about your sister and am dissapointed in so many nairalanders supporting her saying "do u know what shes going through?". Seriously I dont gv a Bleep about what ur sis is going tru, because last time I checked the op said the "mother was dying".theres a proverb dat says "we dey fight no b say make I wish u death". no matter how tough and rough ur time is, a mother is surely someone u should never neglet. Evrything is not about money, she can call or show up frequently. if ur mama swear for am walahi all that wealth go crumble. Never under estimate the power of a MOTHER. Well I pray God heals ur mum, bless u and makes ur sis realizes her mistake before its too late. May Allah bless us all. Amen

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