Oliviaarims:


Taurus.. Nope. They say it's Libra.

naijaboiy:

Look at all these mumu girls that cannot handle rejection.

So for the fact that you give a guy green light then it's now compulsory for him to look your way? For fùcks sake a guy may not also care about your green light because you may also not reach the standard he wants in a lady. You may probably be ugly or shapeless or a drama queen.

Going by that it's not by force for a guy to woo you because you are showing him green light.

So fück you too and your dimming green light!

Oliviaarims:


I'm already here preparing my strings..

Give Olivia back the phone.

49cents:


**takesto his heels**

kinglekan:


Sweetie am just watching out for my homie naijaboiy and just incase he backs out, I need to have annihilated every competition the 007 way.

Oahray:
lol. Women's brains (whatever kind) aren't responsible for the unrest in the Middle East though.

Oliviaarims:
Well well... This has been a thoroughly informative and interesting thread for me. I did discover new things and had some wrong notions set straight, had to view certain things from a different perspective and saw some sense in them.

I believe a lot of others learnt too. I'm actually not so rigid.. I listen to voice of reason.

So, in the absence of of any further controversies which I intend to counter, I might as well strt making moves on a number of these guys here. Lol.

Tosyne2much
Ronald4lif
[size=40pt]Kinglekan [/size]
Wristbangle
BUTCHCASSIDY
Doskie

Pls, permit me to woo YOU

I CONCUR

You are PERMITTED.

I'd have wooed Francizy too, but that one is going about looking for boobs.

This Boy again?

I'll woo naijaboiy in private... And if he misbehaves, all his results will disappear from the notice board!

Adanna28:
I recall having this conversation with my father back at 21 in regards to liking this guy, that I was friends with whom obviously liked me too, but was shy in taking it to the next level of asking me out.

I was waiting n waiting with the same notions of "I'm not asking you out, you are the man, it your job to do it" lol.

I dey vex he was taking his merry time, though dropping signals in his actions that he wanted to be closer than friends.

Said something along the lines to my father " I will never ask a man out, if he wants me he will make it happen".'

My Dad said to me " Ada this is not the year of prince charming riding a horse, nor is it the stone age, it the 21st century, you got to move forward with the times, have some courage to let what you want be known.

He not a mind reader, could save so much time just thinking about it, n actually going for what you want. He just as scared as you are, but even if it doesn't go the way you want, at least you would be satisfied with knowing you tried, and can move on from there".

I was mad at first at what my father said to me lol, but looking at the overall picture, understood his point of view.

I had the courage to make the first move n the guy was more than happy to welcome it, lol. He even said he liked my confidence since he quite shy, didn't want to be rejected by me.

So yeah that my piece on this. It not a crime for a woman to make the first move, after all we won't know what could have been, until we try.

kinglekan:
I CONCUR


This Boy again?

sinizia:
This is a complicated issue especially for the ladies who are naturally not "hunters" that we men are and so are not advised to open up or woo a man.


To be frankly blunt, I'd NEVER advise a lady to make the first move on me or anybody for that matter UNLESS she's 95% sure that :

1. That the guy is into her and she's sure he'd grab the opportunity to date her.

2. That the guy is the mature and serious type, not the youths still in the game of "tasting different soups."

3. And most importantly, that the guy won't take advantage of it to treat her as trash.


If she's not sure of the above, then she shouldn't try it. Look, this is Nigeria and not Yankee. Things don't work like that here. In most cases I've seen where the lady made the first move, 98% of them ended with the guy acting like he's doing the girl a favor. It don't usually end well.

Funny enough, my first relationship, the girl made the first move and I was already madly into her and never disrespected her and loved her greatly. But one thing I noticed was that whenever we had a slight misunderstanding, she'll go; "you are acting like this coz I opened up about my feelings to you" and it irked me coz I saw it as a manipulative strategy to blame me even when I'm not wrong. Ever since then, I prefer to be the "hunter", to make the move and if I get turned down, I feel disappointed and move on. If a girl turn a guy down, it's "normal", no biggie. But if the reverse was the case, some people can use it to mock the girl and it'll be a big deal.


So my advice to any lady is, if you love a guy, like you want to date this guy, show him all the possible "lights" in this world, green, red, yellow abi na white; if after all the "lights", the sweet and romantic talks, the extra care you give to him and he still doesn't want to take it to the next level, move the fúck on!! It's either he's oblivious of the signs, not into you or too egoistic to assume the natural role and ask you out.



My 2 cents

Oliviaarims:


Heyyy. Come back. Where u running off to?

Oliviaarims:



Yea, right. Nice words from daddy.

Kachisbarbie:


Then it's safe to say the Nigerian factor is warped and medieval. Of course I know right, but I can only speak for myself and not the 90% of guys that abuse the love of such "bold ladies".
There is no standard on how a relationship should take off, if it works for you_ fine. If it doesn't _ life goes on... we win some, we lose some.

Adanna28:
I recall having this conversation with my father back at 21 in regards to liking this guy, that I was friends with whom obviously liked me too, but was shy in taking it to the next level of asking me out.

I was waiting n waiting with the same notions of "I'm not asking you out, you are the man, it your job to do it" lol.

I dey vex he was taking his merry time, though dropping signals in his actions that he wanted to be closer than friends.

Said something along the lines to my father " I will never ask a man out, if he wants me he will make it happen".'

My Dad said to me " Ada this is not the year of prince charming riding a horse, nor is it the stone age, it the 21st century, you got to move forward with the times, have some courage to let what you want be known.

He not a mind reader, could save so much time just thinking about it, n actually going for what you want. He just as scared as you are, but even if it doesn't go the way you want, at least you would be satisfied with knowing you tried, and can move on from there".

I was mad at first at what my father said to me lol, but looking at the overall picture, understood his point of view.

I had the courage to make the first move n the guy was more than happy to welcome it, lol. He even said he liked my confidence since he quite shy, didn't want to be rejected by me.

So yeah that my piece on this. It not a crime for a woman to make the first move, after all we won't know what could have been, until we try.

Adanna28:


I can always trust my father to keep it real with me lol. In many ways I Thank him, after all who knows better than the first man in a girls life.

Oliviaarims:
Well well... This has been a thoroughly informative and interesting thread for me. I did discover new things and had some wrong notions set straight, had to view certain things from a different perspective and saw some sense in them.

I believe a lot of others learnt too. I'm actually not so rigid.. I listen to voice of reason.

So, in the absence of of any further controversies which I intend to counter, I might as well strt making moves on a number of these guys here. Lol.

Tosyne2much
Ronald4lif
Kinglekan
Wristbangle
BUTCHCASSIDY
Doskie

Pls, permit me to woo u all.
I'd have wooed Francizy too, but that one is going about looking for boobs.

I'll woo naijaboiy in private... And if he misbehaves, all his results will disappear from the notice board!

49cents:

Libra ladies too smartypants....better enjoyed from a distance
**wonders why they fall in love with the wrong ones repeatedly**

Laveda:
Nah... I can't try that shít again..
Imagine being turned down when you've surmoned the courage to talk to him

I dont advice that...keep flashing that green light..if he's too dumb to see it...fùck him .

Oliviaarims:
Well well... This has been a thoroughly informative and interesting thread for me. I did discover new things and had some wrong notions set straight, had to view certain things from a different perspective and saw some sense in them.

I believe a lot of others learnt too. I'm actually not so rigid.. I listen to voice of reason.

So, in the absence of of any further controversies which I intend to counter, I might as well strt making moves on a number of these guys here. Lol.

Tosyne2much
Ronald4lif
Kinglekan
Wristbangle
BUTCHCASSIDY
Doskie

Pls, permit me to woo u all.
I'd have wooed Francizy too, but that one is going about looking for boobs.

I'll woo naijaboiy in private... And if he misbehaves, all his results will disappear from the notice board!

Oliviaarims:



I haven't fallen in love with the wrong one..

wristbangle:

U better send me PM now before its too late. Women plenty for my hub

Nairaland101:
WTF, a woman approaching me, lols _ emasculation tins . . . no b me & u

kinglekan:


I CONCUR

You are PERMITTED.





This Boy again?

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely (especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely (especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

Diddyydiva:
Why should I approach a guy?

Am I mad?


ERM.......

lemme practice ............

Me: hi Ray
Ray: hi dear friend
Me: ( silence). Ray am I still a friend to u?
Ray: Yes you are hun . my very good friend.
Me: hmmmmmmmmm but I ...... I.........
Ray: what's it diddy ?
Me: I want more of you
Ray: ( speechless). Bae na sinach sing am
Me: ( force a hard laugh) You. caught me there



Mtcheeeeeewwww


I can't do it.

There are other ways to go after what you want without being direct.




it works for some people tho but the chances are slim .

Anabaraonyepete:
maybe he is crippled... LOL.